I stumbled into this thread last night and downloaded the book after reading the first page of comments. I'm about half way through the book now and there is a lot of things that resonate with me, such as feeling that there isn't an underlying emotional problem to fix. I don't identify with the author, as I've never been skinny or athletic. Although, now, I do take 3 exercise classes a week. This is to help me get fit and healthy more than for weight control.
I've read through the rest of the pages on this thread and see that there are difficulties with this approach, and it has been useful for me to file these away as pitfalls to be aware of. Mostly it seems that its going to take a significant amount of time to retrain my 'animal brain' to keep its voice down to a dull roar.
I have just started seeing a therapist for my BED and i think my approach to conquering it is going to be have several tools in my arsenal, and ignoring the animal brain is going to be just one of them but i am going to be clear with my therapist that i do not have underlying emotional issues that need fixing. I do not have self esteem issues, so can we look at other ways.
I still have the rest of the book to read, but hopefully it will be as helpful as the first half has been. I don't expect it to be a 'cure-all' or to fix everything, but if it can help stave off the urges even just once in a while, that is a step forward.
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Originally Posted by ARunningPrincess
Mottainai, I went through something similar. I read the book, felt very enlightened, yet binged anyway. Looking back at what went wrong, I know that part of the reason why I binged was because I gave the thoughts coming from my animal brain significance. I argued with those thoughts, rather than recognizing them as junk and moving on. Because I gave urges to binge attention and significance, I easily found excuses to binge.
Hope that all makes sense and helps! Good luck!
BiB really resonates with me. I think that is what I have decided. If i don't engage with those thoughts, they'll shut up. Once i engage with them, on any level, i've lost the battle.
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Originally Posted by bingefree2013
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I think you need to look at all ideas supporting ANY binge eating, as junk, and not you. Right now it sounds like you are spending time debating with your urges when you need to be detaching from them. Look at it another way: Imagine that your urges are a toddler throwing a tantrum because they want a chocolate bar, and you as the parent are saying no. If you listen to that tantrum, give it attention, start reasoning with it, eventually you'll give in just to get the child to be quiet. They'll have gotten what they wanted (the chocolate bar) but you will have failed as a parent, and the pattern will continue on. Same with the urges. You lower brain is throwing a tantrum. You need to pay it no mind. Without you, it is weak and can do nothing by itself. It needs YOU to walk to the refrigerator. Let the urges pass enough; don't engage, and they will go away, and you will feel better in the long term.
I also think reading Rational Recovery will be a good idea for you.
This is a brilliant way of thinking about it, and as i have a small child, I'm going to employ the same techniques with my animal brain as i do with the littleun.
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Originally Posted by bingefree2013
Tip: Whenever an urge comes on, replace "I" with "It".
"I want to binge." becomes, "It wants to binge."
This can help you keep the separation going and shut it down.
/RR
Great technique, and one I'm going to acquire
