I just need a lot of hugs. My current boyfriend is starting to treat me like my childhood abusive childhood(teenage?) boyfriend and its just making me feel terrible, trying to starve myself and of course as I used to I end up binging.
Have you thought about taking a break from your boyfriend if he's really that awful to you? You're in a point in your life and journey where you need support, not abuse. You really do deserve better. Big hugs.
I had a boyfriend who always showed me where my fat was evident: he pinched my belly, showed me where I had cellulite... and finally left me for a skinny woman (who left him in turn). Tell him he is making you feel bad, and if he goes on doing it, just walk away. In the meantime, look after your health and lose weight slowly and with a healthy, sane program. Good luck!
If you're feeling abused then it's not a healthy relationship. You can try sitting him down and explaining to him how you feel and see if he can understand wants to change. Or you could try to convince him to go to counseling with you. Or you could get out. But you seem miserable the way that you are which means that something needs to change. And as I'm sure you know, starving/bingeing is never a good answer. Lots of Hugs to you. You'll figure it out. Good Luck.
I've been there, done that and I think you should leave if he isn't treating you with respect. It's much easier to leave than we make it out to be, and in the long run, we save time and energy not dealing with people like that.
Ugh, why is this so hard?
