We all have bad days- me included. I find that as you persevere and focus on healthy eating that you will be preparing a meal and something in your head will click and you'll be like "I don't need that" or "that's too much" and you will be better able to control bingeing and overeating. It's going to take time, bt I know you'll get there. Take it a day at a time. Good luck.

:queen: Dhani :queen:

I'm feeling down today too. There are a bunch of emotions and thoughts I can't seem to sort out, and all I want is to go and eat and eat and eat! Aargh! Let me know if you figure things out! I need help myself!

You know, dhanicauldwell, i think thats something i never tried was talking to myself and telling myself "thats to much, or i dont need that"...usualy when im scooping food the thoughts that go through my head are "is that going to be enough? mmm, i could totaly eat more then that"...but at the end, im usualy stuffed..sad thing is i usualy go back for 2nds anyway! if theres food left out more then likely i will eat it! sad but true! but i think im going to try those comments and try to kind of do a reverse effect on myself.."thats to much, you dont need all that, put a few spoonfulls back.." ..literaly i feel so greedy when it comes to food. like i killed it myself and im protecting it. i use to get mad when my sister would ask for a bite of my food. i feel so embarassed about that..i mean seriously? i couldnt spare a bite? i should share my food more often then maybe i would eat so much.. all i know is right now i just got to keep reminding myself what it is that i want. I wana look good feel good and be happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! is that to much to ask??

Lily22, dont worry, your not alone! we are in the same boat, and not just us, our boat is full of people like us!!! so full that we are about to sink!! Something that has helped me in the past is like making a "binge day" on a certain day of the week like since today is Wednesday Id say okay i cant binge til Sunday..but by sunday if you havent binged, you probably wont feel like binging on sunday! its just making it that far. or setting a rule where you cant eat after a certain time..like say 8pm?? for me thats to early i need like a piece of fruit or something before i goto bed or else i will not goto sleep i will drive myself insane laying in bed thinking about food til i go out to the kitchen and eat it and normaly if i do that i will binge binge binge! but just remember make small changes, and usualy it all adds up to a big change in the end.

Come join us at The Binge-Free Challenge. The first day is the hardest, at least it was for me. But once you get momentum going it does get better.

Whenever I want to overeat (which used to lead to a crazy binge and self-loathing, but now am 184 days binge-free), I have to actually stop, get away from the food area and ask myself what is really bothering me? It can be any trigger...stress, harsh words from someone, betrayal, hurt, lonliness, boredom, procrastination over something I don't want to do, financial problems, worry, my mother, how I was treated as a child, getting on the scale and seeing that I didn't lose when I worked really hard, feeling sorry for myself for having to diet, etc., etc. Name an emotion and that could be a trigger. LOL Then I go do something nice for myself.

Congrats to you for stopping in the middle of a binge. That's amazing! I know the guilt you felt before and while eating. That's all too familiar, a feeling I hate. I used to hate going into a grocery store with that "I'm going to do something bad feeling", because I knew I was going to buy binge food and feel terrible afterward. And it always happened that whever I bought extra junk food, the grocery store clerk would need a price check or something, while I waited there in guilt. I haven't had the feeling of binge guilt in 6 months now, and it is so liberating.

I'm so glad you don't overfeed your dog. I was truly feeling sad about that, thinking that she had to overeat what you give here and develop some disease. Good to know you take care of her. Labs are so great! I'm happy that you have a good friend nearby.

Congrats on your weight loss so far. I wish you continued success!

Hope to see you at the Binge-Free Challenge thread.

Tyla

Totally off topic.. but IMPORTANT to your dogs health... Spaghetti can be unsafe for dogs. It usually is made with onions or onion powder, both which can be toxic to dogs. (Along with garlic/garlic bred.) It can make the dog anemic and could cause death. Just a side note to others before handing off your meals to your dogs. lol

Onions (in all forms... dried, powdered, raw, cooked), grapes, raisins, chocolate (especially bakers and dark) and macadamia nuts are just a few toxic foods for dogs (and cats).

Sorry.. the vet tech in me couldn't help it. :) Continue... and good luck!

Okay Im not trying to kill my dog. She rarely ever gets table scraps because I love her and I dont want to kill her. Just an fyi because I keep getting comments about it. I guess its safer to shove it down my food pipe.

That's awesome! You can't beat yourself up for slipping every now and again. It's especially hard to stay on track when something stressful like that happens. The most important thing is that you realized that you weren't eating out of hunger and stopped yourself from eating the entire bowl- I think that's a huge achievement.

I do the same thing with my dog sometimes. I call him over to finish off a snack so I don't eat the whole thing. He doesn't seem to mind too much to help me with my diet- what a trooper. :)

Haven't seen you at the Binge-free challenge thread. Does that mean you have things under control? Hope all is well. :hug:

Hug your dog for me.

Tyla
203 days binge-free and in calorie range

It amazes me that I check in here and first click someone puts emotion to exactly what I was feeling last night. Thank you. Thank you for understanding and letting me know that I am not alone, I am not the only one. Yesterday, I had eaten really well, actually, a little under ate, (which I dont believe in) but I had held up the fight and passed by fast food etc. waiting to eat a healthy dinner of fish and spinach. It was great and I had watermelon for dessert. Ok , the water melon was ice cold and sweet and good. Had a second piece (hindsight says here is the point, I should have stopped. One piece was enough, it wasn't going anywhere) And then magically, before I thought it out, recognized it or battled it there was a bowl of strawberry shortcake w/ extra whipped cream in my hand and I am munching away. Also didn't stop when I reached the pause point ( I am learning that there is a natural pause point in the rhythm of the meal when you really don't need more, you just eat more - I am learning how to listen to that pause) or even when I felt full.

Silly, but I am thrilled even if I did over eat. I am becoming more aware and as other voices have said on here, that is half the battle.

Thanks guys!:hug:

Oh I don't think you were trying to kill your dog at all.. I just thought it would be important to mention the onion thing because many people are not aware it is toxic in all forms. Sorry.... vet tech here... couldn't resist. It's vital to know that because onion toxicity may not show itself for several days afterwards, and you wonder, "Why is my dog so sick?!".