Will a sugar cookie ever just be a sugar cookie instead of an overeating trigger?!?
 

I am really trying to take this one day at a time this time and realize that I will have to battle my feelings regarding food all my life. I already have for the past 20 years. But in a negative way.

I am trying to now be positive and reasonable in my approach and realize that eating five of the sugar cookies that I was supposed to be making for church does not mean that I need to eat them all. I am focusing on how full I feel, not totally uncomfortable which I would be if I kept eating. Instead of pitching it all in and calling it a day by eating fries etc tomorrow, I choose not to do that. I plan to have a good day.

But it still leaves me with the question of why can't a sugar cookie just not affect me? I should have just bought a pre-packaged dessert. But my daughter has been asking to make cookies so I thought that I could do it. And in a way I guess I did, it could have been worse. My logical brain says: you ate more cookies than you should have but tomorrow is another day. My emotional overeater brain says: you messed up, keep eating tomorrow, it's easy and feels good in the moment.

Anyone else relate? Thanks. :)

I hear Ya
 

Today I ate donuts....AND I DONT EVEN LIKE DONUTS :?: I ate 12 points worth of donuts... it really hurt to count those points but i did... every last one of them:^:

I think this is the all or nothing thinking I asked about on the Weight Loss Support section. I seen someone else asking about cravings and when do you give into the cravings, and a couple responded they have a piece of chocolate or 2 and it satisfies that craving. jeeze... I know if I allow myself to have 1 piece of chocolate, cookie, chips...I won't stop till they are all gone, or almost gone.

I'm doing calorie counting and thinking maybe if I can work in a small treat, like a couple of cookies or a piece of chocolate I can make this more realistic to stick to for the rest of my life and eat normal portions... I guess it's a habit formed and we have to break it, just like an alcoholic or smoker might have trouble stopping after a couple of drinks or cigarettes and over do it.

It took me forever to figure out how to manage my cravings. After about 8 months of dieting I finally figured out what works for me. At first I would attempt (key word-attempt!) to eat one bite, then throw it away. Ha!!! This more often than not crippled me. So a couple of weeks ago a woman at work brought in donuts for breakfast. You know the women that eat like a 5 yr old but will weigh 130 the rest of their life? Yea, it was one of them.... Well I was like omg duh!! It FinAlly hit me that i need to cut my bite off first, get rid of the rest and then I can eat it once there is no other chance of me being able to turn it into a bad situation. IT WORKS!!!!!!! If I resist I binge like a mad woman the rest of the day. I love food, food loves me. We have a love-hate relationship and I am glad I can finally manage it!

I'm impressed that you managed to get the cookies in the oven! I have a very serious problem that has led me to swear off baking altogether. My problem is that at least half the batter doesn't even make it into the oven in the first place, then when they come out another 1/4 more is gone, it's lucky if there's a few measly cookies leftover after I've had at them. I wish I could find a way to manage that as well, but the only way I've found so far is to just not bake.

I've managed to keep icecream in the freezer without indulging but I don't think I could manage baking. Nope, no, not a hope. The smell, the process, the sheer sugary goodness is just one trigger after another for me. Maybe one day when I am further along I could do it. I sure hope so!

MN.

I was hopeless when I was into baking. Just a drop would send me over the edge...I'd be mixing brownies, get a bit on a finger, lick it off... and that was it for day, half of it would be gone (baked or not) by the end of the night.

M&Ms, thinking I'm having 10 or so as a treat... then it turns into half the bag an hour later.

Even those 100 calories packs don't work for me, usually having just 1 leaves me more hungry and I can wind up eating a few of those 100 calorie packs, they can be evil! Not sure what's in them but they don't satisfy a craving like the real thing, I think they make it worse actually.

I also can not stop once I start.It tastes too good.I will eat the whole bag, box, package.I cant even start, I wish i could eat candy, cookies, cakes, donuts, fast food in moderation.But I CANT.I try to fool myself into thinking I can but for me it does not work.

i also have delusions of grandeur, that i will be able to bake, or buy cookies and just have a normal portion. then i act shocked when i over do it. then i remember that i tell myself not to keep it in the house or do things that have such a potential for binge moments for me. you have to limit your binge triggers and for everyone those are different. i would have just bought dessert and told my daughter that my back hurt and i couldn't bake?

but good for you for stopping though!!! i liked the "i plan to have a good day" we need to do things that help us on that plan. if that means no more baking so be it...

btw, i had to throw out the bday cake my mom mailed me b/c i knew i would eat the whole thing. i just can't keep stuff around unless i have others around. it sucks sometimes and i think can't it just be one. maybe one day it will but you gotta just stay in the now and what works now...overall, i saw good job

I have finally got the nerve to post here. I read posts daily and can relate very often to others, but after reading todayistheday's post I just have to say it sounds sooooo much like me! Why can't I have one of something and not feel like 'oh well, I've messed up, I might as well just eat everything I want now' ??!!!???

I definitely have a hard time with moderation. I guess I keep hoping that somehow someday I'll learn to have "just a little," but for now my best bet is to keep them out of my diet altogether. (I miss Oreos like you'd miss a dead loved one, let me tell you!)

Good for you for being able to stop, though! You should be proud of yourself. Okay, you weren't perfect, but instead of getting into the same old negative pattern, you were able to stop it. I think that's pretty impressive.

its so funny that we spend so much of our time and energy thinking about food our weight our bodies...on paper it seems so simple...why is it so freaking hard and why cant we take control ???

Have you tried baking at different times during the day. I love to bake, but try to limit it to the morning because I'm not tempted then, whereas if I bake in the afternoon or evening, look out!

i was off work for 2 weeks...in the mornings i take care of my father in law with dementia...im back at work but im afraid to get on the scale...wayyy too much sitting around

does anyone have any foods that make them feel sick but you eat them anyway???mine is chinese food...thats also 1 food that ill eat until its all gone...same with meatloaf

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It does seem simple. Just eat moderately. Maybe it can be simple, if I stop overthinking. I have an easier time when I give up sugar. All of my cravings for food are gone. I haven't lasted past 3 weeks. I think 'oh I've been doing so well that maybe I can have dessert'. then, the cravings come back with a vengance.

wendy 3 weeks at a time is great...youve just gotta forgive yoursel and get back on the path before too much damage...i cant even do 1 week

What I find the most challenging is that even after I have two cookies, or some chocolate, or whatever it is and I'm full, I just keep going. And going and going.

It's not even that I can't satisfy the craving. I can, I know I have and I keep eating!

Ugh. Can I ever relate to that feeling. I am baking at this moment now and the batter turned out awfully so I reasoned that since they were awful and not fit for human consumption, I might as well eat up all that dough so it wouldn't go to waste... Logical, right? :rolleyes:

Sometimes it's just mind boggling how stupid I can behave...

I'm guilty of doing that... I read a quote from someone else on another site, "would you rather have it go to waste or go to your waist?"

sometimes my recipes fail, but I still eat it even though it taste bad. and I try to eat more of it to hurry up and get rid of it. I stopped baking and playing around with too many recipes I'm not too sure about so I don't do that again.

chickiegirl, I'm guilty of that one too. one or 2 cookies or handful of chips can satisfy the craving, but it's almost addictive and makes you keep eating more. Jillian Michael's said on her radio show some foods really do have addictive ingredients to make you keep eating.

i had been trying to avoid sugar and flour and grains in general. however, it is passover (which is a jewish holidy which, hold your breath, can be VERY food centered). freaking nightmare for a binger but what am i to do? ignore my family. so i decided OK its only a few days. fine. totally ate more than i wanted but also it was more foods that i haven't eaten in a while, sugar, matza (big *** cracker really). and i found that it really made me hungrier. for some people sugar and flour just set them off. i am one of those people apparently. and since a lot of us overthink this, once the sugar hits, the brain feels a high, even though physically you are full, you still want more.

i will blather more tomorrow but i wish i had not gone off plan and just stuck with what was working. i felt like total garbage after eating a more western diet. a 10 minute walk wiped me out. sugar is crazy !!!

I thought I could have one cookie yesterday afternoon. Yeah, I had one, and then a few more. And since I had already messed up and gone off my MRC program, I figured I might as well mess up again at dinner. Today, I went off program at breakfast, so I did it again at lunch, and again at dinner. These past two days have left me feeling like such a failure, and a cheater. It all started with one cookie, which I knew better than to even look at because cookies are my number one weakness. A cookie is never just a cookie for me.

I've been thinking about this a lot, and I really want the answer to be yes. There's a lady here who's naturally thin, and I've seen her open a small bag of potato chips (single serving) in the morning and put it next to her keyboard. At the end of the day, it'll still have some chips in it, and she'll just fold over the top with a binder clip, and stick it in a drawer. She just doesn't feel the same ... pull? of the chips. I've seen her do this more than once.

I think maybe someday I might be able to eat some of my more noxious triggers, but I will have to build up some habits before then, like removing the remainder before I start to eat, and learning to eat completely mindfully - such as sitting down with it, and engaging all senses into the single serving. I don't think I'm ever going to magically become the person who can eat the single sugar cookie over the course of hours, a nibble at a time. Best I can do is pretend to be that person. What's the saying ... fake it til you make it?

My boyfriend is the same way. He can eat a normal portion size of anything, but I won't walk away until the box/bag/container is empty. How do they do it? Bags of candy, cake, cookies last for weeks in his house. If I open a container of anything, I will throw the empty container away after just one sitting. I hate that about me. It feels so gluttonous. It's painful and embarrassing. Sometimes I take empty containers home with me because I'm too ashamed to throw it away in his garbage- that he might find it and know I ate the whole thing. argh!

If I see something I just HAVE to have, I will eat a few bites of it and REALLY savor the flavor. I actually register it in my head and that's how a cookie is just a cookie now when it used to be a whole bag of cookies! :carrot:

You all have no idea how comforting it is to see how many other people are in the same boat as me. I'm just getting started here, but I know I've got to cut the sugar because like mdl said, it triggers a high and just makes me want more and more and more!
But I have such a sweet tooth, so I know it won't be easy... a step at a time, I guess.