I'm a little sad today. I'm down 17 pounds and not one person has noticed.
I see a large social group of people every night and I have coworkers I see every day.
There is a current weight loss initiative going on at both places and folks compare weekly weight losses and menus/diets and compliment each other - but not once has anyone said anything to me. (I have complimented everyone - even encouraged those who aren't losing but have taken up better eating/exercising habits).
I don't get it - can you just not tell yet? Is it too early for me to expect anyone to notice? Or do I just hang out with a bunch of ill-mannered folks?
Awe hon, congrats on the 17 pounds down so far! Don't let it discourage you. Do you see the loss? Does your signifigant other, mother, or kids notice (asuming those people are around you )
Where are you loosing the weight? I tend to loose it in my butt area first. I'm heavier on the bottom, so that's where it comes off first. If you are loosing it all over, it may not be as noticable.... yet.
Some people are really hesitant to say anything, because they don't want to emply that you even had a weight issue to begin with. I know I can do that sometimes.
Let me tell you a little story that is sort of related:
I was working at Toys-R-Us long ago.. I was about 19. A lady came to my register to check out and had a full belly that was recognizable as being around 9 months. She was thin every where else, so I was non-the-wiser. I asked her when she was due, and she looked at me with glazed over eyes, and said she already had the baby. She moved her cart so I could see that the baby was in the carrier attached to the cart. She said she had the baby about 3 weeks prior, and had not lost anything! She had the exact shape as someone about to give birth, and I tell you I was humiliated!!! 12 years later, I have never forgotten that, and vowed to never repeat that same mistake.
Hesitation can save a lifetime of humiliation. LOL
Well, my hubby says positive things a lot - but all I have to do is tell him I'm on a diet (even if I haven't lost an ounce) and he will tell me that he noticed I dropped some weight.
I have gone down a pant size. I seem to have lost most of it in the belly, although I had a pretty good double chin going that has greatly diminished.
Oh well - just having a bad day - I guess. Thanks for your comments, Falon.
Perhaps because they see your every day? In my experience, when people see me every day or if I see someone who is losing every day, it's not as noticable as when there is a break in seeing them.
Congrats on the 17 pounds! Don't be discouraged! They will notice soon, I'm sure!
I agree with this. AND what a great hubby you have. That's encouraging...and after you take off more, those other people will begin to notice. Like I said, people can be really hesitant in order to avoid any possible embarrasement. You are still doing a fantastic job!! And of course we are all entitled to a bad day, just sorry you are experiencing one today.
Other than immediate family, only ONE person has commented (that I haven't told previous that I was dieting). And that didn't happen until I had lost over 20 pounds. I wondered WHEN someone would say something and they sure took their time.
My hubby is sweet and is always mentioning that I am slimmer, but then he knows how hard I am trying. And the kids mention it too. But for most people I just don't want to tell them. If they can't see it on their own, I'm not going to point it out to them. It is more fun when they do notice.
One thing it tells you though. People aren't nearly as concerned about someone else's appearance as we think. Most people couldn't care less what you weigh or how heavy you are. If they did, then they would probably notice as little as 5 pounds!
So it is comforting in a way. We are "invisible" whether we gain a little or lose a little. No one really cares but we ourselves.
I predict with about 2-3 more lbs gone, they will notice!! When I was your weight, I hovered around 175-180 and when I dropped to 160, everyone started asking if I was loosing weight. Even the ones I worked with all the time. (Who never said boo about anything) They will, some may not want to say anything right now "just in case"...know what I mean?
Morgaine, let me ask you a silly question -- are you wearing clothes that are too big for you?
I went down 32 lbs and no one really noticed until I went out and bought some clothes that were two sizes smaller and actually fit. Then everyone did. I hit sales at Kohl's, Target and Wal-Mart.
One thing it tells you though. People aren't nearly as concerned about someone else's appearance as we think.
Sherry - what a great point! Sometimes I think it's more in our heads... I have caught myself thinking the same way. I mean yeah, it is obvious we are over weight, out of shape, and need to do something about it, but do other people in our lives really care???? At the same time, my monster-in-law is a big women, yet tends to point out how fat everyone else has gotten.. behind their backs of course, but that seems more like a talk-about-other thing to me. Trust me, I don't think it's because she's insecure in herself, but rather because she is a drama queen. LOL
It's sort of like the skinny girls who are insecure about what seems like rediculous, trivial reasons. We tend to scoff at them! I can only rationalize that it's all in their heads.
Clothes have a lot to do with it. But also let me mention what a wonderful weight loss, and hopefully people are just being cautious with their comments. I have lost quite a bit in fat and gained a lot in muscle. My double chin is half the size it was when I started and still nobody has said any thng to me. I keep trying to remember that first of all I have done this so many times before and made a bit of progress and then fell off and gained it all back. I hope peole are being cautions (I also have not changed the clotes that I wear) I do get an occasional comment if I do wear some thng new)
But more inportantly some of the weight that you have lost is water and that is in your feet and ankles and throught your whole body it will not show as much as fat. Say about 7 lbs of fluid lost. so that leaves you with around 10 of fat. (very good progress let me say grap 10 lbs of butter in take a good feel of it and wow.) Now imagine if you took that 10 lbs of butter and rubbed it all over you. it would not put so much on your body. That is what people are seeing.
Someone once said to me if you take a new paper towel roll (one of the big ones) and remove 10 sheets it would hardly show. but as you get near the middle or the end and remove the sheets it really makes a difference. So for a little while just know we realize what a great job you have done, and soon the rest of the world will know. It is dishearteneing for now but like the girls said take a day and get some new clothes. Hit the second had shops they are cheap and you will not need to wear them for long!!
It would take 50 lbs for people to notice it on me.... but then I wear baggy clothes so that could be one reason why it takes so much before they notice.
I agree with what everyone else said. CONGRATULATIONS on your loss so far!
I bet when you start wearing clothing that shows your curves (or lack there-of) then people will say something. I don't think anyone said anything to me until I had lost over 20lbs. I know it's hard for people not to say anything when you feel so GREAT but they'll come around
Falon: People used to ALWAYS ask when I was due, even 10 years after I had her! That's why I neeeeeveeer ask when someone is due, I don't want them to feel like I did when that was asked. It's hard to tell sometimes.
When did people start to notice your weight loss?
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