Star~ eh....last 2 weeks of school I'e got cheer squad try outs, uniform fitting, yearbook distribution, awards assembly, graduation magic mountain grad trip, grades and on top of that the wedding and Europe...truthfully I dont feel what most people consider "stressful" ( that is, Im not pulling my hair our) but my body sure has a way of showing its stressed....my big worry is that the hives combined with scratching is gonna give me a lovely complexion for the wedding photos

Jane: I don't know HOW many times I've gotten tested. The last time the guy said "I told you to raise your hand when you hear the beep." Told him if I had HEARD it I'd have RAISED my hand...So to be a I pushed the button 30 million times. So all the tests came back that I've no hearing loss. What idiots! And they call themselves specialists. Yup, gone to more than one. One wanted to put tubes (again) in my ear. Told him nope, try a new route I've gone that way TOO many times. So he gave up. I'll have to check into getting headphones for the tv. That would be great to NOT have to have it blaring!!

OMG Marie I just remembered something........I have horrible allergies and like I said I get hives once in while...not that bad....but I do have eczema and it mostly happens around my eyes. Well, about 6 weeks before my wedding it got worse.....must have been stress......so I went to the doctor (a woman derm) and she was just like.....well try this for a few weeks and see what happens. She actually told me it was adult acne! I told her I was getting married and she just kind of dismissed it. Well two weeks later I went back and saw another doc in this practice (a guy and the only one I use now) and he took one look at me and said "you have eczema". He gave me an ointment that kind of worked at least enough so I could cover it for the wedding. If I had waited it would have been worse by the time the picture were taken.

I think I told the story before about what happen to my husband two nights before the wedding but I don't think you were around then.............

I went out with the girls for dinner on Wednesday (we were getting married Friday night) DH usually meets a friend for drinks on Wednesday then he had to go pick up his tux. Well...............the first place he went to when they found out he was getting married they gave him a drink....I assume more than one.....then he went to get his tux....thank goodness they don't serve alcohol there......then he went to get some dinner. Waited at the bar for his dinner and when they found out he was getting married they bought him a drink....Again I assume more than one......so he heads home with his dinner and his tux. Proceeds to try and walk up the stairs from the garage with his briefcase in one hand, the tux slung over his shoulder and his dinner in the other hand............well needless to say...............when I got home it wasn't pretty. I came in when he was sound asleep and bent over him to give him a kiss. In the dark I could see this SHINER that you wouldn't believe. I whipped the covers off him and said "WHAT THE **** DOES THE REST OF YOU LOOK LIKE?" He very sheepishly said "I fell going up the stairs" You should have seen him. He had this massive rug burn from hitting the stairs on his forehead, black and blue chin, cuts and bruises all over his arms and legs. I was needless to say not happy!
By the day of the wedding the rug burn had of course scabbed over so it looked even prettier! I covered it the best I could. When the photographer walked in dh said to him "I don't know if you noticed........" the photographer said "Oh I noticed!". The pictures came out fine though...he did a great job hiding it. The End.

OMG Jane, I don't remember hearing that story!!! Hm...wonder if we should have a "wedding disaster thread". 3 weeks before my wedding DH had an accident at work. HIS was a major one though (no hives or things like that)...he cut off 3 fingers and his thumb. They managed to re-attach his pinky. HIS mother wanted us to postpone the wedding but DH figured if I was willing to go through with it he sure wanted to.

OOOOO boy ladies, I came home from work and took a nap!! (actually I left work early even) I am soooo not used to the partying life! hahahaha SP I know you love this, I am just not a bad of a girl as I used to be i guess! hahahaha My head feels perfectly fine it is my TUMMY that is rebeling against everything. I could not answer one more phone call and have to feel like I might have to barf so I just came home. I feel better now after a nap and some chicken. MAAAN I thought I was a bad a** still.....I guess not I am just a boring old mom now! My 20's are lost forever! hahahaha!!!!

Star: Within the last 24 hours, I have enough anger to share with everyone here!

TG: Poor thing! Glad you are feeling better.

Jane: I hadn't heard the "wedding disaster" story, either. That's funny.

Brenda: I could figure out my average loss per week. I'm just afraid I'd be disappointed. Maybe I'll get a few more weeks of losses in there before I figure it. And, OMG! Talk about a disaster! Was it your DH's nerves??

I have no wedding disaster story to share, unless it's how the marriage ended up! The wedding day itself was wonderful, though. I know this is cliche and cheesey, but it really was the best day of my life (Oh, how naive I was!). Everything went wonderfully, and DH and I always talk about how much fun we had on that day. Oh, how things change!

By the way, to the married folks, what age did you get married? I got married at 21. I'm thinking that was too young, at least for me. I'm a much different person now than I was then (I'm 26 now). It's amazing how much more mature I am. At the time, though, I couldn't imagine anything else besides getting married. Live and learn, I guess.

Jina..not sure how to answer your question about DH nerves. I'm way lost on that one. Explain?
I was 21 when I got married. That was 15 (16 in November) years ago. Some days I wonder if ANYONE is EVER happily married. I read in the paper some people divorce after 50 years and I think HUH? I'd like to know the reasons behind some of those. Or I read about people that get divorced after 6 months.

Brenda - I think Jina's asking HOW your DH cut his fingers off. Was he nervous and did something stupid?

Jina - Men just plain suck sometimes! You can always PM or email me if you want to vent

How old when I got married? 21 and 25. First time, I was too young and stupid. Second time, I was older and not quite as stupid.

Here's my philosophy on romantic relationships in general (and I've done an excellent job of pounding it into DH's head): I never need a reason to go, your job is to give me reasons to stay. Of course it goes both ways, but I've found that mindset makes life a lot more pleasant.

Brenda: Yes, that's what I meant. Did he have an accident at work because his nerves were getting to him before the wedding?

Star: Thanks!! I really appreciate that. Not that I like to hear about anyone that's been in a situation like mine, but it is nice to know that other people have been there, too. It seems recently that I've met a lot of younger people that have had a failed first marriage. For the longest time, I thought I was the only one! All of my friends from Kansas are happily married (or appear so) and have one to two kids already. I feel like the loser of the group. I don't know if it has to do with the values in different parts of the country, but I've met a lot of young, separated or divorced people here with no kids. Like I said, I don't wish it on anyone, but it is nice to find people that know what I'm going through.

Oh, I'm so there with you! I dropped the dreaded ex after 18 months, but I knew I'd made a huge mistake after 6. So here I am, on my second marriage, no kids, no hurry to have kids, feeling years younger than I did when I was 21. That's not too bad, is it?

I got married at 40!!!! Top that! I don't like to rush into things

I got the best advise ever from an ex-boss/friend of mine. When DH and I first moved in together I would come into work somedays just at my whits end....either crying or angry. One day I actually was in her office saying "I hate him!" She looked at me and said "Did you actually think you were going to love this guy everyday of your life?" (she has been married for almost 30 years by the way) I kind of cocked my head in curiousity and said "But aren't I?" She just laughed and said.....if you love him one day and hate him the next it is ok as long as the love him days are more than the hate him days.

I can't tell you what a weight that took off my shoulders. I thought I was a horrible person and my relationship was doomed to fail. After that I could hate him with the best of them and not feel guilty. I adore this man..........even though he can be a pain in the @$$ sometimes.

LOL @ the hating thing! There are times that DH will just look at me and go 'you hate me right now, don't you?' and I'll tell him yes. Then he'll ask me if I know why and if I say no, he just shrugs, tells me he loves me, and stays out of my way until I feel better. How great is that?

See it works perfectly! We can't love each other all time. So as long as we allow ourselves to have our "moments" then move on we should be fine.

True! But only with the good ones. There are some men who, quite frankly, just need killing.

You guys are cracking me up. There are times I tell my dh, "I still love you, but right now I don't like you very much."

I got married at 27 - am 33 now. Our 6th anniversary is this weekend on the 30th. My grandparent's 66th anniversary is Friday. They are 87 and 90 next week.... and still argue over points and get frustrated with each other. They had hard times and not so hard times - but through it all they stayed together probably sometimes by sheer will.

I keep telling myself this as I want to throttle dh at times these days - hard times for us. Then I tell myself "no, I made a vow and am keeping it... it's not as if he's cheating or beating me... he's just being an idiot." It makes me feel better. We still need some counseling so I can get some tools on how to deal with his PTSD and he needs to learn how to live with his PTSD, but other than that we're okay.

I don't have too many wedding disaster stories - I think just the fact that UPS lost my wedding dress for over a week during the major California floods... I was sure my dress was floating down a river somewhere. No major catastrophes in health or anything - and nothing happened during the wedding either... it went off without a hitch. Even my parents were nice to each other.

It was only after the wedding that life became a disaster. LOL!!