[Leenie]

Thanks Mrs Jim and Dip

22 Reasons You Might Be Fat Forever

1. You are still looking for a quick and easy solution to weight loss.

2. You think that diet and exercise are the only essential factors involved in weight loss.

3. You have not identified the psychological reasons that drive your eating patterns.

4. You have not learned to manage or heal the psychological reasons that drive your eating patterns.

5. You have a fear of or resistance to growing up and becoming a full adult.

6. You use food as a reward or a treat after any or all stressful events.

7. You think you can lose weight without making exercise a regular part of your day, every day.

8. You think you can lose weight by doing it “your way.”

9. You expect to lose weight without making significant lifestyle changes.

10. You refuse to learn to become a good receiver as well as a good giver.

11. You have never learned to be effectively and appropriately assertive.

12. You have not learned to express your anger in a healthy, honest fashion.

13. You have not learned to be self-nurturing except with food.

14. You are excessively self-critical.

15. You refuse to take responsibility for your life.

16. You resist learning to love yourself.

17. You resist learning to love your body before it is thin.

18. You have not faced your inner fears of being thin.

19. You are certain that spirituality (a connection to a force greater than you) is irrelevant to weight loss.

20. You think you can lose significant weight without the support of others.

21. You have deep emotional wounds that you refuse to explore and heal.

22. You are not prepared to have weight be an issue that you will have to face each and every day for the rest of your life.

OK, now you have some incredibly important information about yourself and the things that are blocking your weight loss. You now have a choice. You can get depressed and go into avoidance or denial, or you can choose to make a renewed and informed commitment to your growth and well-being. The decision you make could change your life and your body for good!

Matthew Anderson, D. Min., is a counselor, organizational consultant, seminar leader and the author of books and tapes that can help you overcome your obstacles to well-being.

[lady_adnerb]

OH!!! I'm a good one for #7.
I don't think I suffer from #12

Hmm..fear of being thin? That's a new one.

[Leenie]

Brenda, actually there is a fear of being thin. People fear being noticed and treated differently, they can actually find comfort in a larger body.

I have almost all of the above OY

[Trazzie]

Yeah, I have to say a couple of those points hit home for me. Learn something new everyday huh.

[Cinnymamma]

Without getting into numbers I can say quite a bit of that hit home for me too.

I agree about the "fear of being thin". A lot of people think that if they are fat and someone doesn't like them, or something doesn't go right in their life, they can blame it on their weight. If they are thin, they have to actually face the reality that the problem might have something to do with THEM as a person.

Sometimes I feel that by being fat, I can always say "well, I know I can look better" or "those people don't know the real me". If I was thin then there would be no excuse. There would be nothing to hide behind. A sort of " here I am, take it or leave it" attitude has to come into play and I imagine myself, my REAL self, not being enough and everyone "leaving it".

That's my 2 cents on it.

[StarPrincess]

Wow - excellent list!

[goddessholly]

Hmm...