The other day my husband and I were talking about how I am working to lose weight and get healthy. I told him that I really want to get back down to what I weighed when we met 10 years ago. (Actually I want to lose more than that but I would be okay with only getting that far.) His response was "Well, you haven't gained that much."
The thing is though, when we met I was a size 7-8 and got up to a snug 18 at my highest. We had also been looking at some photos of me when I was a size 5 and I mentioned how much I wished I still looked like that. He looked at the photo again and said that even though I was pretty, I am much more beautiful now.
My husband has never cared about my weight except as it affected my health. He has always been pretty thin. He's 5'7" and about 135 pounds. That used to make me feel so self-concious. (Now it only does a little bit.) Even at my heaviest though, he's never told me I should lose weight. When I found out I had borderline hypertension was the first time he really pushed me to exercise. He told me he didn't care if lost weight, he just wanted me to get my blood pressure down so I would be around for a long time. Any time I got dressed he would come in the room for a peek. Even though I didn't want him to see me, it made me feel better that he still WANTED to see me.
Even though I am far from my goal I feel so much better about myself. I don't turn the lights off everytime I get dressed anymore. I even went out and bought a few sexy little outfits. I haven't worn those for a few years.
Sorry to ramble on so much, I just had to put into words how much his support means to me.
Kristi - I feel the same way about my DH, and agree we're very blessed. He just never sees me as I truly am, but with love in his eyes, instead. You didn't ramble, hon, and thanks for sharing.
wow krisi, good for you! it's hard to come up with that self esteem, but when we have that someone who loves us no matter what, it really helps.
i had that too and was very fortunate. sadly, my dear husband died and my self esteem is at a negative 100 right now, but you are lucky to have your husband there for support. cherish it! go have more sex, it burns the cals!
gabrielbeth
I have a great hubby too. He has always told me how beautiful I am! I generally have good self-esteem, but when I am getting low he always knows the right thing to say.
Kristi, Jane, Gabriel Beth, Gina & Jcatron243: You don't know how fortunate you are to have such outstanding mates. My ex husband made me feel bad most of the time and he made me believe that I was a worthless human being. (I get a lump in my throat just thinking about how I felt). He left me for a younger, thinner woman after 23 years of marriage. That was the best thing that ever happened to me, though I didn't think so at that time. Suicide was the only thing I wanted, but I was a coward. Today I'm remarried and have been for 14 beautiful years. He's fuffly like me and we are doing this together. I make a point to tell him how great he is and I try to make him feel as special as he make me feel. Hug your men. They are far and few between.
Norma
norma, so sorry you had to endure such a horrible relationship for so long. you are beautiful no matter what anyone says! and so glad you now have a loving husband at last to shower you with love. you are lucky too!
i wish i could hug my husband, i wish it every second. there is nothing in the world i would want more. i would give anything, short of my kids. don't mean to be depressing.
Oh gabrielbeth: I am deeply, deeply sorry. How could I be so insensitive. I didn't even look at your link, I just remembered your name in the conversation. I hope you will forgive me. I would never, in a million years, intentionally say anything to hurt anyone. Being a religious person I believe in an afterlife and your husband is waiting for you with open arms.
Most ashamedly, Norma
There are a couple of marital difficulties happening in our extended families and I'll tell ya ... we do feel blessed to have each other .... 27 years today
I'm not married, but I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 and 1/2 years now (been living together for almost a year). In all that time, he has never once mentioned my weight. He met me at about 260 pounds, I got all the way up to 310 pounds, then back down to 270, then back up, and now to 285 Never a single word. I'm the only one who's ever brought it up, and that's only because of certain situations where I feel most self-conscious and he can tell I'm acting strange and asks why. When I explain, he always follows up with a hug and an explanation of how he doesn't care about how much I weigh because he "loves the Jill."
I know I'm lucky to have him. I've read plenty of horror stories of the exact opposite of supportive partners. I can't say if we'll get married or be together forever or even still be together in a year (although I hope so, don't get me wrong), but he sure has helped me with a few self esteem issues.
I too am excited to share in the fact that I have a great hubby too.
I married my highschool sweetheart, I have probally put on at least 100lbs since we were in school and he has never said a word about my weight. He always tells me how beautiful I am. Things have gotten kinda crazy at home. Now that I have lost almost 30 pounds he can't keep his hands off me.
Happy Anniversary Susan! Hubby and I celebrate 11 years tomorrow.
I'm so lucky to have my husband
I haven't worn those for a few years. 
He just never sees me as I truly am, but with love in his eyes, instead. You didn't ramble, hon, and thanks for sharing.
Never a single word. I'm the only one who's ever brought it up, and that's only because of certain situations where I feel most self-conscious and he can tell I'm acting strange and asks why. When I explain, he always follows up with a hug and an explanation of how he doesn't care about how much I weigh because he "loves the Jill." 
