To the extememly helpful man who did the dishes last night:
Darling,
it was so sweet of you to do the dishes. I really appreciate it when you clean up after meals even though I always have to go behind you and shine up the counters, sweep the floor and scrub the stove top.
I thought of you with great affection this morning when I went to make my smoothie. I plopped my four strawberries, my banana and my fat-free plain yogurt into the blender container and then measured out my half cup of skim milk. I remarked to myself how really nice it is to have the kitchen clean and the blender ready as I poured the milk into the container...
... and watched it all come streaming out the bottom, across the counter and onto the floor.
Maybe next time you could make sure you afix the blade and rubber ring to the container before you set it into its base? Just a thought...
How did you get your husband to clean the kitchen? just make sure next time he cleans you ask him to make your smoothie. then he has to clean up the mess he created. LOL!
Just kidding, my husband does clean, he just waits for me to ask him to do it.
I work days and he works evenings, no daycare and a house that never stops. we never come home to clean house. Well o.k. you can usually tell that we tried. them kids follow behind us like 3 catagory 5 tornados. haha
40poundsago, I don't have ask him, and I'll tell you my secret...
... second marriage. :-)
Seriously, though, I just got lucky. On the never-have-to-ask list: cooking, dishes, taking out all the garbage, cleaning the cat litter tray and doing ALL the laundry. On the willing-but-needs-to-be-reminded list: making the bed (I just do it because my way is prettier than his way), cleaning the bathroom, sweeping the floors, putting away stuff-that-accumulates-and-is-mostly his.
I figure I got a pretty good deal-- especially on the laundry situation. We live in a 6th floor walk-up and have no washing machine, so it means hauling the bags up and down five flights and around the corner. :-)
idest, the sad part is, this is my second marraige, my first husband did everything, but I worked all the time. My husband now, get's to be a kid all day with our little ones, (3 and 1). I am so jealous of him! they play, go to the zoo, run errands and take naps. I sit behind a desk and get stressed out. then I go home and get torked off because the toys and clothes tossed everywhere. It really isn't that bad, it takes maybe 15 minutes to clean it all up everynight, then we eat and I do a load of laundry. but by then it is time for the girls to take a bath and go to bed.
Last night I told the house to go to ****, and we went for a bike ride instead, all I have to say is don't go up to many hills while pulling 50+ pounds behind you in a cart. Well maybe I should have tried them hills with out the tag along first, I would have known better. please keep in mind the whole time on the ride my 9 year old is at the top of the hills going " you are so slow mom! hurry up".
The sad part of that story is, my husband takes them for rides a couple times a week on the same route I took plus more. he may be 240 pounds but his big legs are muscle! he stores all his fat in what he calls a keg. LOL!
My husband used to be more helpful around the house, he just knows now that it is more fun to play all day. I suppose before the girls came along there wasn't so much to do either. o-well! I still love him!
idest, the sad part is, this is my second marraige, my first husband did everything, but I worked all the time. My husband now, get's to be a kid all day with our little ones, (3 and 1). I am so jealous of him! they play, go to the zoo, run errands and take naps. I sit behind a desk and get stressed out. then I go home and get torked off because the toys and clothes tossed everywhere. It really isn't that bad, it takes maybe 15 minutes to clean it all up everynight, then we eat and I do a load of laundry. but by then it is time for the girls to take a bath and go to bed.
Last night I told the house to go to ****, and we went for a bike ride instead, all I have to say is don't go up to many hills while pulling 50+ pounds behind you in a cart. Well maybe I should have tried them hills with out the tag along first, I would have known better. please keep in mind the whole time on the ride my 9 year old is at the top of the hills going " you are so slow mom! hurry up".
The sad part of that story is, my husband takes them for rides a couple times a week on the same route I took plus more. he may be 240 pounds but his big legs are muscle! he stores all his fat in what he calls a keg. LOL!
My husband used to be more helpful around the house, he just knows now that it is more fun to play all day. I suppose before the girls came along there wasn't so much to do either. o-well! I still love him!
Well the upside of your story is that it sounds like your husband is a great father, maybe not such a great housekeeper, but your girls will sure treasure the time he spent with them more than they will a clean house.
And... I'd point out that one of my kids is up and out and on his own and the other two are nearly grown (both in high school) and pretty much take care of themselves. They don't need to be schlepped around, they don't really need (or even want) to be entertained or played with, and they get themselves up, dressed and out in the mornings. All they really want and need at this stage is a listening ear, support, and money for clothes. :-) And they want that from ME, not their step-dad. From him, they want homework help and to share music (he's very up on the current scene). Given their ages, I pretty much take care of all discipline (we avoid the inevitable "you're not my father!" reaction this way).
So there isn't much in the way of parenting needed from him and he has the TIME to be helpful around the house. :-)
Very true my husband is the best father, if I could work less to be with them more I would, but the shop him and I own, he works there in the evenings, isn't doing to hot because of road construction so we need every penny I get from my full time job.
Summer is here so hopefully we can get out and do some camnping and I can get some real time with them soon
To the extememly helpful man who did the dishes last night:
