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Originally Posted by Fat2Skinny
I see your success and that is inspiring.
On some level I can't really believe my success, because in 40 years of dieting, I've only found permanent success within the last seven.
Yeah, it's taken me seven years to lose 101 lbs. The first year I wasn't even trying (because I had sworn of "dieting" forever, because I'd only ever gained weight as a result). My doctors told me I might lose some weight without trying from sleep apnea treatment (I thought they were nuts).
So when I discovered at a check up that I had lost 20 lbs, I was amazed. I was afraid to diet, but I didn't want to regain those 20 lbs, so I decided to make healthy lifestyle changes I was willing to make forever, whether or not any weight loss resulted.
And for two years no weight loss resulted (or rather I maintained the 20 lb loss, but gained and lost the same few pounds over and over again). However, I was getting healthier and stronger.
Then the weight finally starting dripping off - about a pound a month at first. When I complained to my doctor that I should be able to lose at least 2 lbs per week "like a normal person," and my doctor reminded me that "normal" isn't losing 1 lb per month, normal is losing nothing - or gaining, or losing and gaining the same few pounds over and over again.
Losing weight is like running a marathon - just because you see a few thousand people ahead of you, doesn't mean you're in last place. There may be 25,000 people behind you - and then there's all the people who have or will drop out and those who aren't even running.
Just staying in the race, puts you in the lead.
That thought really sustains me, because when I'm tempted to give up, I remind myself I'm in the lead - and that's true even if I never lose another ounce.
When my doctor gave me this pep talk, I had only lost about 25 to 35 lbs (so only 10 to 15 lbs of intentionally trying), and he reminded me that even losing and maintaining a 5 lb loss, puts you in the extraordinary category.
So see, in this "race" there are thousands of people behind you - envying your progress.
As long as you hang in there, you stay in the lead.
For me, that meant celebrating every time I stepped on the scale and didn't see a gain.
When you really, truly can do that - weight loss is a lot easier, because the temptation to give up because you've blown it no longer applies. If I gain a pound, I still can celebrate having lost and maintained 100 lbs. Focusing on my success helps me avoid feeling like a failure who might as well give up.
When I started, I would never have dreamt I could lose over 100 lbs. The closest I had ever come was losing 70 lbs with the assistance of prescription amphetamine-like diet pills - as a teenager. Every diet after that required harder work to yield lesser results, until the calorie level it now takes to maintain my weight or lose a pound a month, once netted me losses of 5 to 8 lbs per week - on a regular basis (not just the first couple weeks - my record for a first week was 11 lbs - which I acheived twice - both before I was 25).
If I had learned to celebrate not-gaining and to try for "just one more pound" I may have succeeded with my first diet (and if I'd also discovered that a whole-food relatively low-carb diet works best for me, and that I need to be on the right birth control meds to control my hormonal hunger - I may never have become morbidly obese at all - or at least not gotten over 300 lbs).
I try to look at weight maintenance/loss like any other self-care (such as dental care). I wouldn't say "darn it, I forgot to brush and floss my teeth today and I've been eating gooey stuff that isn't good for my teeth. Well that proves I'm just a complete failure at dental hygeine. I might as well stop bruishing and flossing for the rest of the year, and I'll eat all the sticky, candy I want and I'll start fresh with the dental hygeine in January).
I wouldn't do it with my teeth, so I'm not going to do it with my body - and a failure here and there doesn't mean I'm "doomed" to anything. There is no starting over, just moving on.
Remember - you are winning at this. And all you have to do to keep winning, is to just keep on, keepin' on. Just staying in the race, puts you in the lead.