Calorie counting.
I think it all comes down to how I was brought up to eat versus how I've learned to eat.
When I was a kid the meals had to be cheap because we were a family of five on a rather tight budget. My mother didn't really cook much and, while my father liked to cook, his favorite things were the grill and the oven. Roast with potatoes, burgers and brats, lots of gravy, and boxed items.
After my parents were divorced I was the cook. I started cooking healthier meals, but then I found something out. I *really* loved to cook. I loved to make up recipes. I loved butter. I loved baking. This kind of threw healthy out the window for a while. Then came Iron Chef and the introduction of ingredients to me that I'd never had. I started looking for them, cooking them, tasting them, and creating dishes with them. And some were not low fat. I have a distinct liking for a good piece of red meat with heavy marble. And a good piece of pork belly. And skin. And cheek. And...yeah. You get the picture.
Taking some of these things out of my diet would be very hard. Counting calories makes it easy. Nothing is off limits, but I must do it all in moderation. Making a meal with courses at home is a test of my ability to stay on plan. A 3 course meal with starter (generally a salad of some kind), a main dish (which includes a vegetable, a meat, and a starch generally), and a dessert (now more likely to contain fruits and/or yogurt) can be hard to do with an allotment of 600-800 calories for dinner. But I can do it if I plan my main dish well and my dessert is something small.
I think that one of the misconceptions is that you can't eat fattening food and lose weight. You can, but it's harder. The more fattening it is, the higher the calories. The higher the calories that one meal has, the less you have for the rest of your meals.
Being able to go out to my favorite Italian restaurant and ordering the lobster bisque with a side salad or the lobster and shrimp ravioli is one thing that I'd really miss if I wasn't calorie counting. I'd miss pasta a lot. I'd miss a good-sized hunk of rustic French bread dipped in cream soup. I'd certainly miss chocolate. A lot.
The key to any diet is moderation and counting calories really helps with that. I have a target caloric allotment for the day. Going a little under or over is okay as long as it isn't more than 100 calories, and varying by about that much once in a while keeps my weight loss going. I'm happy with what I've done so far and will continue.
