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Originally Posted by MariaMaria
What's it to you, Maui, if someone labels themselves an attractive label? Does that change what your body looks like?
I'll tell you what it is to me. People can pretend all they want to be what they are not as they choose, or they can start accepting their factual reality and learn to love who they actually are and be much happier. I'm sad and tired of seeing people who feel like they are somehow "less than" because of some stupid, arbitrary label that the media has forced down societies throat. It's ridiculous and very sad that people get drawn in to the idea that unless they are this hair color/this height/that shape/this bust size/that weight they aren't good enough/pretty enough/valuable enough, or that they are somehow "second place" to someone who does meet those standards. Children are suffering because of this stuff. They're learning these flawed and damaging concepts via parents who've bought in to it themselves, and most of the time the parents don't even know they are doing it. For example, if a parent stuffs their bra or buys a big padded push up bra and the kids see that over the years (and they know, kids are very perceptive) they become conditioned to the idea that you must have a bust "that" size or something is wrong with you. Now, you've taught your child (and perpetuated this for another generation...unconsciously, but none the less) to view their body as sub par, in need of fixing. Same thing for body shape. Chances are very good that your children will have the same or similar body shape as you. So if you're a pear, or a brick, or banana or whatever other shape they've decided people are now, and you insist on being called another shape that you aren't, you're teaching the people around you that there is something wrong with being the shape you are. It's not just about kids either, your friends, family/siblings etc are all affected by this subconscious programming. That's why I think it's important for people to be and accept what they are. This board is full of people who say things like they loathe to see themselves in a mirror, or it makes them sad that they'll never look like a runway model or wear a bikini etc. They are hurting. And they hurt because people have allowed themselves to buy in to the garbage that has permeated society that only certain looks are good/right/valued. If people threw that out, and fought against being forced in to that mold, eventually it would go away and people wouldn't have to suffer for one narrow "ideal" concept of beauty. Ghandi said “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. We need not wait to see what others do.” (Usually this is manipulated to be "Be the change you want to see in the world) That is what I am trying to do. Maybe it bothers you, and maybe you'll hate me for my opinion Maria. But there you are, that is what it is to me. It's worth what you paid for it, and it's yours to accept or disregard as you please. Best wishes.