Great update to this story!!
According to new facebook pics, this ex has ballooned up in the last couple months. It looks like he gained about 50 lbs. And he's also dating a new girl. Who is pretty overweight herself. I hate that I'm a little happy about this. But I am. :) |
I don't blame you for being happy about the new fat him, we all deserve a little petty meanness outlet once in a while about the people who have hurt us, it's only human. I kind of feel a little sorry for the new girl though, he is her problem now!
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Less evolved: What a jackass. Hello?? Poor idiotic porn-obsessed loser. Obviously you're better off without him and his shallow, sad fanny is in for a sad, lonely life. More evolved: How unfortunate. You're so much better off without him and you know it. We should pray for/bless/send positive and healing thoughts to him. Today I'm going for #1, the less evolved response. Seriously girl, what a jackass. And, he's totally wrong. You do know that right? Anyone who prefers porn to a person, and who could give up someone as warm and wonderful as you (don't believe me? It comes right through your posting) is simply stupid. My thought? Don't waste another thought on him. He doesn't deserve any of your time or mental energy. Just wish him well and move on. There are a lot bigger and better things out there for you and you know it. :) |
Ok, I will admit I skipped ahead after a couple pages of responses and I do intend to go back and read them all BUT I wanted to share my experience with this as I actually did have this experience and felt much the same way you did. It did a real number on my head and it took a long time to get past it.
I was dating a guy who was 14 years MY SENIOR so was in his 50's at the time (pushing 60 now LOL!) He wasn't overweight but he wasn't skinny and he was rather flabby himself in the face and neck and he had the body of someone who looked to be in their 50's. Nothing bad, nothing revolting and certainly nothing that bothered ME. He also, like your ex, had a thing about porn and exotic dancers etc. Well, I had weightloss surgery 12 years ago and yes, I have loose skin. A LOT of loose skin. I've actually regained some weight which I am now fighting back off so if anything I was smaller, looked better in clothes and admittedly had more loose skin then. This asshat was a journaling type of person and wasn't careful at all where he left it. Admittedly I shouldn't have looked into the journal but I got up super early one morning and it was just laying there. Curiosity got the better of me and I picked it up. BIG MISTAKE!! Almost by fate the book fell open to a page he had written about me and in it he talked about how I had lost a lot of weight and how beautiful I was WITH CLOTHES ON but how he found it very hard to look beyond the baggy, saggy, wrinkly (and every other adjective he could think of) skin as the result of the weightloss. I was crushed. He begged for forgiveness after chiding me for reading his private thoughts and LIKE AN IDIOT I gave him a second chance but I never forgot the remarks and after dealing with his other "issues" for a while I left. Fast forward a bit. I was RUINED for a while after that when it came to being intimate with a man and lost several relationships due to my new found hang-ups. THEN I met an awesome guy who made me feel beautiful. He knew the other guy and when I told him what had happened he told me the guy was an idiot. Things didn't work out with him but we are still friends. I met my now-husband during this time. Actually I didn't meet him, I already knew him and was friends with him but love happened LOL. This man is very good looking and loves me FOR ME and thinks I am beautiful exactly how I am (even with some regain - he doesn't care other than for my health). HE is the one who restored my faith in the opposite sex and in myself. We've been together 6 years and married for 5. The only thing I can say about the jerk who did that to you is a) it's HIS issue and not yours, b) looks like what goes around comes around since he has packed on the weight and c) sometimes you have to deal with the frogs so you will recognize when you are in the presence of a PRINCE!! Congrats on your weightloss. You ARE a rock star! Take care, Kellye |
Kellye summed it up pretty well I think :)
My own experience (in a nutshell) - when I split up with my ex he made a lot of rude remarks about my weight. A bit of a cheek considering he was rather overweight himself. Fast forward 1yr+ and I've found a guy who unlike the ex is seriously fit, but loves me just as I am (saggy skin and all) and frequently tells me so. The ex? Judging by the facebook pics, he's put on more weight and his new gf is bigger than I ever was so I get your feelings of schadenfreude. :) As Kellye said, sometimes you have to deal with frogs before you find a prince :) |
I wanted to say congrats on your amazing weightloss! And piffle to anyone that wants to give you grief about it! I think it is fine and healthy to know what you are and are not attracted to. I think it is rude, mean and ridiculous to say what he did publicly. Here's some silver lining: At least you saw his true colors early and got away from him. I married mine. By the time I got myself untangled from him I felt subhuman for years! I'll spare you the details, but good for you! Hold your head up, march on, and find someone amazing and DESERVING! :)
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Eww! Gross! What a scumbag!!! He's the one with the issues not you, love.
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You deserve the absolute best person who will accept you for the beautiful person you are! I also have loose skin and cannot afford the surgery yet to get rid of it. However, I have learned to accept my body and am very happy to be thin and healthy.
That guy was a jerk and you are better off without him! You have done a wonderful job of making yourself healthy!!!! |
Omg what a douche
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