I love and adore my husband - he is my biggest supporter and helper in life. But he has his own diet issues and I'm tired of having them get in my way of needing to lose weight. (But he REALLY is a great person
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For the last few months, I've been working on small components of an overall lifestyle diet. I'm really proud of the progress I've made and wanted to step it up further. This past week I had 4 days off and I started working on a food diet component. Today I set a schedule, created some set goals, and a reward for myself at the end of the month for June. I shared those goals with my husband - certain days I'm fasting around 600 calories and on non-fasting days I'm eating 1500 calories. This will create a calorie deficeit of 2-3 pounds a week - I'll tweek it as I go.
Hubby was all fine with the good and the "bad" days and my reward for myself if I meet my challenge. Shared that he would be supportive, as I knew he would be.
Two hours pass and dinner time is rolling around - he wants to go to a great cheeseburger place that has frozen custard for dinner. I asked him if we could just get stuff to make burgers - that would let us save some $$$ and I could easily make a veggie burger/thin sliced bun for myself and control the calories (I could create 3 of those veggie burgers for the calorie intake of 1 cheeseburger). In starts the pissy attitude from him - and the comment "Well you'll just get your way or you'll just pout".
I told him no I wasn't trying to get my way - I'm trying to avoid a situation where I could spend too many calories on food and I know I can't go there right now and control what I order. We went food shopping instead - but I called him out again on the way home about him being angry at me for not wanting to go out.
Hubby said he was angry but he knew it wasn't my fault - he started to change his attitude after that. I know I can call bs on him and his attitude when it makes sense, but I hate hate hate upsetting him.
I know that one of the things that will need to change is me giving him to him about food. It is going to be difficult enough dealing with my own emtional eating and food craves - this third component: handling my husband and his food cravings I think is going to be just as difficult as the other two.
Any suggestions on how to keep working on myself with/without my spouse's support? I know this stems deeper than just about me - he needs to work on himself - but I need some ideas on how to keep myself going through this problem.