I don’t have an issue with kids, I do with my family-to them it’s a big deal to say no to food, esp my father because they didn’t have much to eat growing up. Kids might seem very hurt over these types of things, but kids cry over so many things that they learn aren't that big of a deal, so even if its heartwrenching for a moment to them, they'll probably forget about it, wheras our food choices stick in our minds.
I tell myself that I will reassure them that I am thankful for the offer, I don’t say that I don’t want that particular food, just that I am not hungry. I tell myself that even if they get upset, as long as I do this in a nice way, I can’t control what they get upset over, at the end of the day, I have to take care of me and my wants-because it doesn’t actually “hurt” them that I don’t eat that food-eating it might make them feel happy, but it only leaves me feeling regret and a really deep sadness because its not simply food, its doing something against my best interest out of the fear of offending someone.
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