Fat boi here...
 

Been lookin' through this forum trying to find the "queers" on here cuz we all know "we're out there".

*jumpin' right in*

I'd say genderqueer is the label I prefer. Can't help but be "out". I currently live in San Francisco (surprise, surprise!) with my grrl and our 2 mutt babies...

Good to see some queer/lesbian presence on here. ;)

Peace.
Chubmeister

Welcome Chubmeister! In my experience, this has been a fabulous supportive board -- and not just Alternachicks. I must admit that I need to drop in here at Alternachicks just to remind myself that there are people here other than mainstream bible following PTA soccer moms, but I have NEVER experienced anything except kindness and a warm welcome from the people in the other areas of 3FC.

We are all in this together! Welcome.

I consider my self bisexual and very fluid in my sexuality.. I have been in lt relationships with both females and males. Right now I am working on a 4 year relationship with my bf.. We are engaged. I have never had a three some because of my jelousy and control issues (hey least I am honest.) But in high school I mostly dated girls. I love when people are open minded instead of being intolerant.. I had to really get on to some people in my human sexuality class because they were saying stuff like" I dont hate homosexuals I just do not agree with their lifestyle." I told them that is the same thing.. Just more pansy...

Hello,
I'm not a lesbian, but I am a gay guy :)
<3
Mike

To all...
:devil: Devils...
:angel: Angels...
:flame: Flamers...
:queen: Queens...
:wizard: Fairies...
:drill: Butches...
:cheer: Femmes...
:strong: Tough Guys...

:welcome: !!!

Of course, all the above are endearments! :) I mean, darlin', I spent Pride 2000 in SAN FRANCISCO! ;)

I've never really considered myself Bi as I think everyone is inherently, some are just more open to it than others. I have dated and slept with males and females.

*waving*

Hi :D
I'm a lesbian in a mixed-orientation marriage. I ID'd as bi, virtually all my life. Being involved with both men and women...

Well...to make a long story short...things have changed.
And boy is it interesting now.
Anyway...just saw the thread and thought I'd introduce myself.

Hi ya'll! :wave:

I'm just a good ole' fashioned lesbian...:rofl: I was married (to a man) :rolleyes: when I was in my early 20's but after that ended, I knew I was a lesbian and have been happily out since that time. I've done all those horrible, desperate, depressing relationships since then :rollpin:. One of those lasted 7 years :crazy:. I then took 2 years off to recover and have since met Ms. Right. Michele and I met through Match.com. She lived in Austin, I'm in Houston and about 2 months ago she moved here for moi. Life is wonderful. :cloud9:

I'm considering weight loss surgery and will most likely have the lap band procedure done in Mexico. I am finally safe enough to let go of the extra weight, just need an extra tool (the band) to help me along.

Glad ya'll are all here! :grouphug:

I consider myself straight, but I kiss girls. Kinda like the chick who says she's a lesbian from the waist up.. I love chick kisses and boobs. I say that I know where my preference lies, it's the standing up stuff that's up for discussion.
I've had 2 ffm3somes (once as the spouse *1st marriage* and once as the "guest star") and I have to say that I prefer keeping it fun, and playful to it being a sex thing. My hubby gets the occasional tripple kiss, and he knows that's all it's going to be. He thinks of himself as the luckiest guy on earth!
I love this part of being a woman...we can play and be whoever we are without judging each other!
Hugs to all!
Erin

I'll take the whole enchilada! :devil:

Sorry, couldn't resist! :lol3:

Bumping this thread to the top for those that requested! :D

I'm a lesbian who has been with my partner for 5 and a half years - and as my bonus motivation for getting fit...we're planning a wedding in May 2007.

On that note - anyone have wedding planning tips? Its sort of a quagmire out there for the GLBT community...

hello everyone in here
 

Thought i'd say hello on this thread too... i am a bi-girlie-girl, living in bliss with my girlfriend... uhh... boifriend... uh, whatever... She's a He in my mind and hers (his) <-- gosh is THAT confusing!! Anyways... We've been together almost 4 years and I've known her for 8... She was once my x-girlfriends girlfriend and my x-girlfriend was my best friend. <--- another confusing statement, I know.
Well... who knew that true love had been just waiting for me to notice! She's seen me at my thickest, my thinnest, my ugliest, my most sad... and she still loves me. She even saw me go through some really tough bi-polar times! LOL
Anyways-- I've always thought of a handfasting ceremony.

Hey all,

It's surprising that this topic hasn't come up before, or at least that I know of...I'm straight, but would be open to experimentation ( is the word bi-curious?) I don't think it's a fluke that some of the most entertaining people on this site are g/l/b/t...with my gay / bi friends, I find that they are so much more open minded. I would venture to say it's because they may know what it's like to be judged more than I would, since my life style is more conventional.

What a wierd compliment, huh? I give mad props to anyone who is out. I can't imagine how hard that has to be...I had enough problems telling my mom that I was going to be living in sin w/ my husband...

The poly lifestyle is one that I don't understand, but more so that I don't think it's for me. Too many jealousy issues and other things, but if someone can find someone or someone(s) else, a soft place to fall, a constant champion in thier corner, I say good for them.

Thought I'd jump in. I'm bi but married to a wonderful man and have 3 great kids. We check out women together and laugh about it and we watch porn together and stuff, but he doesn't want me to be with anybody else (even if it is another female). I've brought up the idea of 3some to him and he says ok one time, maybe another, and no way another so I guess you could say he's wishy washy on the issue. It gets frustrating because he knows this is a part of who I am, but it seems like it's a part he doesn't really want me to show. I have been with women in the past and been in love with a woman in the past it just didn't work out. He has told me in the past that he's worried that if I get with a woman and fall for her that he'll lose me because a woman can give me something he can't. THere's no way for him to compete with a woman. A man he could compete with but not a woman. Sooo anyway that's my story.

Just needed to vent. Looking for wedding sites - there is one I like, but its in a fairly conservative area. Just had to write a "I'd really like to get married here but there are two brides" email, because i don't want to get there for a tour and figure out they aren't cool with it. But UGH, I'm freaking out. I feel so exposed and open to rejection. And I LOVE the location, its SOOO gorgeous, and I really want to get married there.

Its giving me fits.

Hi all!!

I haven't been on this site in a VERY long time. I am a lesbian who's not in a relationship right now but I have a potential one in sight!!!

I claimed Bi for years but now I know that I wasn't being true to myself. :)

I gained back ALL the weight I lost and am starting from scratch! Granted it was only 30 pounds but that's alot to me.

I weigh 315 lbs right now. I'm 6 feet tall...well pretty close to it!!

I am looking to weigh about 150lbs. So .....165lbs to lose. Here I go.........

I hope you can take the risk and ask. You might be surprised. I did the same thing back in 1994 and had a great wedding -- at a time when same gender weddings were not as common as they are now. It was funny, at first I felt as though the hotel was put off by the fact that we were two women. However, once we paid the deposit and they knew we were serious, they were FABULOUS. They just wanted to be sure we weren't "just looking" at the location.

Good luck and keep us posted.

Me, too.
 

Lesbian. Queer. Homosexual. Gay. Call it what you want, but that's me! I came out at 18 and before that I didn't consider myself to be anything. Being from a small town, I didn't even know I had the option to like women. I had never even kissed anyone up until that point because I had no interest in guys, so I didn't bother with them EVER. Well, I've dated women the last 5-6 years, moved to Columbus, OH a few years ago (a pretty accepting place for our community), and I'm as out as I can possibly be! My family is accepting, except for my (ex)grandparents who have disowned me for the past 5 years (haven't talked to them for that long). I met my wonderful gf two years ago through a friend and I'm planning on keeping her around. It was hard at first, but now I have the whole "take me or leave me" perspective. It has really worked out well for me. Anyway, just thought I'd share.

~Tara

i'm in / at the tail-end (?) of a poly relationship (mff) that is going through a major transition. i started seeing a couple that had been together for 3 or 4 years-- we all 'dated' for about 2yrs and i started becoming less and less interested in maintaining a sexual relationship with the girl (guess i'm not as 'bi' as i thought:dizzy: !) which was fine for a while and then started getting awkward-- that was about 6mos ago and we're all still trying to get things figured out. they're in the process of getting separate apartments and so their relationship is undergoing a lot of change too-- i'm not really sure how the relationship(s) will be impacted. it can get pretty confusing trying to keep the dynamic straight sometimes! part of me really embraces the unconventionality of the relationship but another part of me sometimes wishes i could just have a 'normal' relationship with my boyfriend (whatever normal is).

-- anyone have any advice/strategies for interacting with families??? i sometimes feel like i have a 'secret' boyfriend since i'm sort of uneasy talking to my parents and certain friends about it-- the folks were introduced to him before we all started seeing each other and is thusly known as 'ms. x's boyfriend'-- likewise with his (and her-- though that's less of an issue considering how things are changing) family.

it's really nice to see so many people responding to this thread-- makes me feel less alone in the crazy world that is a poly relationship.

Hey
Im new to 3FC, and im 18 and a lesbian.

Not currently in a relationship, but looking (lol). I called myself bi for a long time, (from about 13- 17) but realised that it wasnt the case when I was with my first girlfriend- the difference was unbelievable.

anyway... im rambling now, so i'll shut up! :)

I have been with my lover for 20yrs now.
:)

Well. I am so happy I found you guys. I was being to think I was the only lesbian on this site! Everything the girls here and I talk about ends up being about a DH or DS or DD. Don't get me wrong, so far I have not run into any bible thumpers. So I have been in a realationship with my girlfriend for about 6yrs. I say about, because its not like we just met and that was that. We have two children, yes I am the birth mom. The birth dad is a jerk. He and I got together in High School, well before meeting my girlfriend and I thought we had an agreement. Funny how the agreement dissapated when I was doing better with girls then he was doing with guys. Anyhow, thats an old story. I was always overweight, and after having my DD I said enough is enough. Along with coming out with my sexuality, I came out with my need to be fit. Six years ago, I weighed 220, today I weigh 175. My lowest weight was 155, me being tall, it was not the best look for me. I have been accused of having an ED, maybe I do, maybe I don't. I do Weight Watchers and I do weigh myself everyday. I do fall off on the weekends, and I eat too much when I drink. Yesterday I popped two laxatives ( i did say i may have an ed!) and now the belly rumblings got me up early this morning. Anyway, I was 178 last night, and now the proud owner of 175. I try to journal, but sometimes I am too busy so I keep a running count in my head. I have a problem now. The problem is my sex life. My girlfriend was smaller than me when we met, now she is way larger, seemed as I lost, she gained. We almost never have sex, for a billion different reasons. I see one of the problems is her weight, she tires easily and gets frustrated. It bothers me alot. The other day, after workig on my tan, I showered, shaved, and lotioned and put on a white lacy top and strolled out the bathroom in all my glory. I said I have a surprise for you and she said, IS IT FOOD!? I dryly replied, why yes, did you think it would be sex?? Thing is, she broke up with me sometime ago and after I picked up my heart from the floor, I ended up with this amazing, artistic, pot smoking, dreaded woman, who DID ME IN WAYS THAT NO WOMAN OR MAN has EVER. Our relationship was mostly sexual so when my girl wanted back in, I had to let her go. God I miss the loving.

Wow. Long post!! If anyone wants to chat let me know. I promise I won't bore you with my undersexed, overeating, overexercising, life!!!

Just wanted to say I am a straight ally for the GLBT community....some of my best friends are bent! (as in not straight--LOL)

I guess I'm straight. I don't know, I don't label myself. I've been with a man for 16 years, but I've also been with a woman (yes, sexually) and my first kiss ever was from a girl. That and I have gay friends, two of my best friends are a gay couple, Brian and Josh. Great guys that love each other deeply and we have the best talks.

I don't really like to classify people, though. I mean... what's normal? Normal is in the eye of the beholder. Why put a label on yourself? If two people can love each other and/or make each other feel good, what difference does it make what sex they are? ;)

I agree with your mom, whatever makes you happy. We only go around this crazy life one time, hon. As far as I know, anyway, lol.

I think that's really cool, if you guys can make it work. My friend Josh sometimes gets really down on himself because we'll sit and talk and he'll say, "Linda, I'll never be a father."

And it really hurts him. He loves kids and wants to be a daddy, but feels he never will be. And it's so trippy you posted about this because Josh will sometimes kid with me (although I don't think he's kidding entirely) and say, "Hey, you're my best friend and I love you, have my kids for me."

I love him and I would if I could, but there are just so many things to consider in a situation like that. He knows I could never do it because I have a man and a child of my own. But the thoughts have been there for him, so I can relate to how you feel as well.

I wish you all the best of luck :)

I'm also glad to see that this thread is still going. Lovegoddess, although I am biased, I must say that Southern California is a great place to be for those of us who don't fit into the mainstream mold! It is a little bit tougher in the inland counties . . . I just saw a guy at a public mall with a very scary homophobic t-shirt. It really jolted me as I am not used to that in the LA area.

I've been with my partner for almost 13 years (just celebrated 12 year committment ceremony anniversary). No kids though, never had the "mommy gene" even when I was dating men. We do have a houseful of animals -- just adopted an abandoned puppy bringing the total to two dogs, a cat, 3 parrots and a tank of tropical fish.

Gotta run...let's keep this thread alive!

People are afraid of what they don't understand, sweetie. Rather than try and understand it, they bash it.

I live in Ohio too :)

where in ohio are you from?? I live in Youngstown

Exciting Columbus, lol.

I hate it :mad:

I am a lesbian. My gf and I have been together for just about (Sept 19th) 2 years. It's been and LDR because she is in Enlgand. We've been going back and forth visiting, but that will soon be over. In 3 months my daughter and I will be moving to England (because they are sssoooo much more accepting of same sex relationships in every legal sense of the term) to join gf! I actually joined 3fc I think around Jan 06, but have been away for a long time planning the move. I need to come back and get on track though because due to stress I've gained pretty much any weight I lost lol.

I have to say it's great to see other Lesibans, and so many GLBT friendly people on this board. I think it's wonderful.

So are we starting a GLBT site on AlternataChicks?? I'm out and have been for a bout 7 years now. Was married for 20 years, met a wonderful woman online...husband found out and we split up. I have 2 children...26 yr. old daughter and a 19 year old son. Also I have 3 grand children ages 7, 4 & 1. Looks like I'm kind of busy huh?

I'm glad there are other lesbians out here...I have seen a couple around but no one seems out. I talk about my partner in my posts but some ppl get it some don't. Doesn't really matter to me...

It is good to find "family" here though...if we are starting a thread for us that's cool too!!!

happy to meet you also......i have been with my girlfriend for 6yrs, we have 2 kids, 9yo boy and 6yo girl.

interesting stories everyone!

Hi Mike ;)