just for fun...???????????
 

what are some of the most outrageous things people have said to you? Here's some of mine:
1) at grocery store, in 'diet' isle, tiny daughter picks up box of slimfast bars...mom rushes to her and says (looking directly at me) "Oh no honey, those are not for US...we are HEALTHY...those are for (pause for effect, still staring at me) UNHEALTHY people"
2) upon arrivig at my parents home in my new Miata..."damn, girl, they almost didn't make that car big enough for you" (thanks Dad)

EFF 'EM!!!!!

I remember being told (at a trendy resale shop) "I think we have something that will fit you..." IF I WANTED SOMETHING THAT WOULD "FIT ME" I'D DRAPE A SHEET AROUND ME!!!!! I WANT A NICE LOOKING/NICE FITTING OUTFIT!!!!

Hmmm.....

"If you'd show a little willpower." I've almost slugged someone for that one.

YUP!! I've gotten that one too!!

My dad yelled and cried on the phone, hung up on me several times when I protested mildly, and read me a letter I wrote him when I was a kid about his weight, only at that time HE was about 80 lbs more than I was when he read it to me, so it felt like he was equating us weight-wise. That really added to my week/month/year, I'm telling you!

Lidian

wow, Lidian, that is pretty deep...that must have been hard to hear. I'm not sure if I would be more amazed about the letter of the fact that he kept it all these years.

I do love the looks on those size 0 sales help in those trendy shops when I walk in. All I can do is remember the scene from "Pretty Woman" when Julia roberts goes back to the shop and says..."big mistake!"

Last week I was shopping for a dress for a special wedding. I went into one of those shops hoping against hope there would be something there. I was feeling pretty good about myself, considering I had just lost 85 lbs and could finally shop in a store like that. After a few minutes I was informed they didn't have anything 'IN MY SIZE" (A 14!!!) and slunk away feeling not quite good enough again.
when I returned to the car, my hubby noticed I was pretty bummed and asked what happened. I told him how I felt and we sat in silence in the mall parking lot for a few minutes. Then he announced he had to find a bathroom. He was gone for a while..(nothing unusual for him) and when he returned he had a open bottle of coke.
He turned to me and said..."you know, you shouldn't shake up your pop bottle if you are planning on opening it in a fancy dress shop, they get really mad!"

HAHAHAHAHA!!!!! That is GREAT!! Showed hubby, and he loved it too!! Your hubby is DEFINITELY a "keeper"!!!!!

Ginya, your DH sounds terrific! What a great thing to do!:)

I wasn't surprised he had the letter - it is like Linear B back at his place, and it was a nice letter I guess...I just don't like hearing that stuff read out loud. I wrote and spoke VERY carefully as a kid (usual dysfunctional tension made this necessary) and all I can hear, when I hear my old words, is how careful and not-me they were. But of course, I can't SAY that (since we have come to sort of agree to disagree about how things were when I was growing up - I'm sure lots of us experience this!)

See, these awful sales clerks who are size 0 are part of the reason why I LOVE to shop secondhand - no one to bother me and I can take my time finding stuff and there are always LOTS of real-life sizes (and good stuff too, if you search it out)!

Lidian:)

I love, love, love second hand places...I just spend hours there. and have all the 'good ones' scoped out. I have so many cool things from second places. In fact, unless absolutly necessary, I always buy second hand. (undied excluded)

hubby is is totally a keeper. I am truely blessed.

coming from disfunction~junction, I totally understand. My parents, sibs and extended family are all is this wierd waltz of denial and passive/agressive manipulation. I just moved away and wish them some time of peace and harmony as best they can understand it. I reject guilt and ignore the back handed cmpliments...visit them on my terms and avoid any confrontation. I will be the one who breaks the cycle of anger one way or another. Usually by enjoying a good life...living well IS my best revenge.

man, that got deep, sorry!

A few years back before I had any children and was unmarried...I thought I had a weight problem weighing 160 at 5'7" and was a size 13. I got down to a size 8 through diet and exercise and looked really good.
I worked in an office that had "brother/sister offices" that I had to travel to now and then. I went to another office and the office manager there (who was overweight and sloppy-I loved him to death and he had a great sense of humor and we teased each other a lot-so I wasn't REALLY offended) said to me-"Wow! You really look great-when I first met you you were a little chunkball!"
Everyone looked in my direction awaiting the impending slaughtering...I just looked at him cooly and said..."Hey, you're STILL a chunkball."
:devil:
Aphil
Boy-after two kids and a highest every weight of 211 last year...I'd love to be that little "chunkball" again. :lol:

Aphil-I can relate!! I always thought I was fat when i was just a little zaftig. Now I AM fat, and I wish I could have enjoyed what I had when I HAD it!!!

Ginya-GREAT attitude. I am trying to move in that direction, and wish i could get my 13 year old to start thinking more that way too.

Lidian-NOONE can hurt you like your parents.....

Okay, the first one that comes to my mind would be when I was at work and waiting on this woman who had a little kid in her cart. Behind her was a woman who was 400lbs or more, and in front of her was me. Her kid says "mommy, look at the fat lady" and the woman looks at the one lady, then at me and looking at me says "Which one?" I was so furious. What kind of parent doesn't smack their kid when they say something like that and act embarassed? I mean, even if it was insincere she could have acted sorry. Arg.

Another one was when I was just starting to get fat - I was at a party and my boyfriend had this old yearbook he was passing around. This guy came to my picture (when i was anorexic) and said - "wow, that was you? You used to be cute."
Up yours buddy!

And then there were the horrors of wedding dress shopping. I was met with mostly rude people, a couple of "plus size" dresses (a size 12 or 14 at the biggest grrr. i'm a 22 dammit!) and I think the best moment was when they lady made me put on a pair of gloves and kept the curtian open when i was trying on the dress - to make sure i didn't get any of the food i was obviously storing in my UNDERWEAR on it i guess.

I think though one of the best ones on the positive side is this one - i walked into this sort of hippy trendy clothes store and wandered around a while - the salesgirl asked if she could help me so i asked if there was any plus sized clothes in the store and she smiled at me and said "We have <normal> sized clothes all through out, yes. " I t was great. I wanted to hug her. It almost made up for all the times I cried at the mall.

Oh, Lizzi... that's a sweet story!

I've had the, "Gee, you used to be cute!" comment, too.

And my sister (whom I love dearly) used to be fat while I was thin, but she's thin and fit now. She'll say to me, "I've GOT to get rid of this 5 pounds!" Which makes me want to strangle her.

I forgot about the dear little children. One little girl was enamoured with me (I had bright purple hair, so the children ALWAYS loved me), and she followed me around a store and I talked with her for awhile and she finally said:
"Are you gonna have a baby?"

I could have strangled her.

The first time I walked into Torrid (plus-size Hot Topics) I missed the sign that said "Plus size." The salesclerk asked he if I had any questions and I said, "Yeah, do you carry any plus size clothes?" She laughed and said, "Oh no, none of those." (She thought I was being sarcastic). I pouted around the store until she came over and said, "Wait a minute, were you serious?" Then, she told me that the entire store was plus sized and I gave her a big hug and yelled, "Woo hoo!" :)

My Nana (grandma) was talking to me one day after I had lost 30 lbs and she said "You look really good now that you've lost some weight, you were always fairly small as a child we never expected you to balloon up and get so big."
I was walking through the halls in my Junior High one day, and I was the only one in the hall except for this one other boy who shouted "Hey fat girl, what's your name?"
I'm sure there's more, but these are the first that come to mind.

of course, i mentioned it before, but i have a sis-in-law from ****, who is a teenager and says things to me like "gee, i feel so sorry for fat people" and then holds up the hugest clothes in the entire store and says "geez, i don't even know if these will fit you!"

stupid *****. :(

oh, well if we are going back to the good old school days...
once in high school a girl said to me:
if I looked like you I would kill myself...

now that was a stupid *****!

and just this weekend at a family reunion I met a cuz who said...
yeah, there were 2 types a people in our family, the beautiful ones and then your type. WTF????????

(Aphil is busily sewing up some voodoo dolls for that SIL and cousin...)

is there a way to poke the doll just right so that they gain a lot of weight really quickly and not only are fat but have loads of stretchmarks as well?? oh please please...

*LOL*

Nah, just get Aphil to add some extra stuffing in once a week until the voodoo dolls look like the sta-puff marshmallow man -:lol:

oh, I don't know...I know a lot of women who were poked just once and gained a lot of weight and ended up with stretch marks...

My ex-husband, trying to convince me not to move out of the house said " I even loved you when you gained weight". Gee, thanks.

Not sure about this thread
 

I have laughed and cried with almost every story here. And feel like I completely understand. Here are some favorites from MY PARENTS;

After I lost 100 lbs;
"Good thing you lost that weight, we were getting really worried about you"

When I was 12 (140 lbs at 5'8) my dad
"When you lose some of that baby fat the boys will be chasing you up and down the street" (They were already chasing and would become his nightmare!)

Another from my dad after my yearly check up
"Your blood pressure is 110/60 thats like a runner or an athlete." (Um dad I workout 6 days a week and work at an industrial sized plant. No my weight is in direct proportion to my laziness, WHATEVER).

My mother in our Feb. visit
"The only way your going to lose that tummy is liposuction and a tuck"

Don't ask why these things stand out, but they really bite. Aren't you Mom and Dad suppose to think your a wonderful beautiful person even if I weighed 600 lbs?
Miss Chris

I have a girl in my office who is always saying she is fat and she looks at me and says " I am just waiting for you to lose the weight and I have a whole bunch of clothes that are too big for me that will fit you great" and then goes on to say "man I need to work out I almost fit into the clothes I have saved for you when you lose the weight" I wanna a voodoo doll to sew her mouth shut and make flare up like the sta-puff marchmellow man so I can offer her some of my clothes now and mentioned I can take them out if they don't fit right.

Yikes! Ro: no one can hit your hot buttons like your parents. Not sure why, but we are all wired that way. I think it is because they think they can say things to you that they wouldn't say to a stranger, yet we as children are taught not to talk back. How many times have we all just stood and took it when we really wanted to say...F'~off!!!!!!

And how wonderful that people will think of us when they cast off clothes...Tri- are you suppose to be grateful?, and they when you wear them, will little miss dip-sh&% announce to everyone that those were her 'fat clothes'. Sounds pretty passive/agressive to me.

We all carry these comments with us, but I can never remember a time when my parents said that I looked nice. That is, unless it was a back handed compliment or another attempt to make me understand I was fat. Example: You have nice shaped legs, they are huge, but nicely shaped...

oh, and the baby fat comment...I think we all have heard that. It must be in the parent to child communication handbook. 1960 edition.

How about, "You have such a beautiful face, if only....." or this one from the son of a friend of mine, "If you ate less maybe you would lose some weight." (I had less food than anyone else, and his mother didn't say anything to him about his bad manners)

Thanks Ginya, sound like both our parents went to the same child rearing classes. Where does it come from?

My dear grandmother that I love more than anything in the world
"That shirt is nice fit for you, you can't tell that you have a big belly at all"

And Den that "SUCH A PRETTY FACE" comment makes me want to send people to the moon. I think any smart mouth punk would have said something like that to me would have gotten the otherside of my toungue, "I didn't know butts could talk, because that comment sure came out of an ***"

Miss Chris

YUP! Family sure can hurt you!! My Grandmother and the woman who looked after her until she died BOTH told me that I should lose some weight or my husband would leave me. And he was such a good man that I don't want to lose him. YES, he IS a good man, and that is why he loves me for WHO I AM!!!

Chris-FUNNY!!! I think I'll use that next time!!! I'm sick of being nice to people who hurt my feelings .

Ginya, that's sad what your cousin said. Trips me out a little though because my mother's family's annual reunion is in 2 weeks and I've been really pushing myself working out the last 2 weeks to see how much I can lose before the reunion. I'm curious to see what comments I'll get. Most of the people there have seen me at my highest weight and some have never seen me at all. I guess the good thing is all of them are from deep east Texas and about 98% of them have weight problems because of all the darn fried food they eat and the family gatherings, man, they are forever having fish fryings there.

As far as my most memorable 'torment' moment from high school:

I got so many rude weight comments said about me in the cafeteria at lunch during my junior year that I used to skip lunch and hide out in the bathroom. As soon as the bell would ring and everyone was coming back to class, I would be the first one in line at the class door waiting for the teacher to get back and some of the smart@$$ jock guys in the class would pretend to run into the lockers across the hall and say something about my 'fat' was taking up too much room.

All I can say now is that my 10 year HS reunion is in 5 years and if this diet and stuff that I continue to do stays with me til then, man, will I be able to piss them all off or what? Maybe they'll all be in the same shoes I was in my junior year and I can tell them to kiss my @$$ when they try to hit on me because I'm such a hottie. :lol:

CREEPS!! I used to get people asking me if i was pregnant, which you REALLY don't appreciate when you are 12 or 13!!!

ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! people! In the immortal words of the man of my dreams, Michael (see below) "People, they're no damn good!"

I went to my 10 year reunion...many many moons ago...I was looking pretty hot, lost weight, maried well, great vintage dress with rhinestones~ the whole 9 yards. After seeing all the guys I thought were 'it on a stick' with the beer guts and bald spots I felt pretty good, till one of the morons came up and said...
damn! you have a head transplant?
I also got: Didn't you use to be taller??? (1975 6inch platform shoes)
I did get a bit of revenge, a girl called me to remind me of the reunion and when i answered the phone she said, "hey, this is so and so, do you recognize my voice?" at that point I said, Why the **** should I, you never talked to me in shcool.

needless to say, go to the reunion, do what you need to do to feel your best, act like you are doing these folks a favor by sharing your precious time with them and leave em' wondering what your secret is.

Gee Ginya...obviously some of your class mates may have grown old but did not grow up :rolleyes:

I totally agree mavaisroux. There's a girl that lives across the street from me that I graduated with and everytime her parents are out of town, she comes home and has house parties and I can always see who's driving up because they park in front of MY house:mad: They're all the same people I graduated with that were snot-nosed brats. Sad thing is, exactly as you said, they're older now but they haven't grown up at all. I've grown up alot since HS but I was always the shy, quiet, never-get-into-trouble type anyway, so I never really had any problems other than depression. *oh well*

OMG, Ginya, I had to bust out laughing. I laughed and laughed until I almost peed. That is the memorable quote of the year. I want to see that dress, sounds hot hot hot.

My 10 year HS reunion is next summer. I can't wait. I haven't lost any weight (I've gained a 100 pounds since high school), I haven't climbed everest or made a movie but I've certainly loved my life. And I know there a bunch of ex-losers, ex-geeks, ex-nerds who grew up to be amazing people and darn it, I'm rooting for them!

I called my cousin (who was miss popularity in high school) to find out when the reunion was, she said, "Reunion? I'd rather pull my led hairs out with tweezers."

I wish I could understand why we feel the need to live up to some crazy standard for people we never see and didn't like in the first place. I totally did that, and when nebody really cared, then I said screw it, and have never been back to a reunion. But, if I were, I would go and be 'all that'. People are going to say whatever they are gonna say, and nothing you can do can change that. Are you happy? Do you have goals in life? Are you true to the spirit within you? then who cares what some ex-cheerleader with droopy boobs thinks now. We are "ALTERNACHICKS" Women of courage, strength and abundance! Earth mothers, one and all! Supporting and encouraging, *****es (being in total control happily encouraging strength) and proud of it!

interesting topic of conversation...considering my 10 year reunion is next weekend...I will have to tell you all how it goes!
I found a great top...a gypsy looking one with flowing sleeves that covers my butt and has gorgeous flowing sleeves...it has a fitted bodice and laces up the front...showcases my chest nicely-and covers up the rest. :s: I plan on going-being totally unenthused by the "former cool people" who want to finally talk to me now because I am now cooler than they...and I also plan on bringing my photo album of my coolness...my gorgeous children, bellydancing photos, and some of the cool costuming and sci-fi work that I have done-because I KNOW there will be someone there who won't believe that I do/have done these things...so I will have proof to back myself up.
The top is in neutrals and mauves...I am thinking some sexy earthy colored strappy sandal with a wedge heel...my husband says the top looks like something Stevie Nicks would wear...I took that as a compliment. :D
Aphil

I love the whole gypsy, hippy thing happining now, and the colors shound perfect. And Stevie Knicks is a goddess to me, so its ALL GOOD! Give em' ****! and let us know how it turns out. You got any of those pics on a web site? I use to be a Trekie (not treker, so much) but never could find anyone to go to a convention with. My friend in England goes to Disc world conventions and has invited me, and I may just go! Just cant decide who I want to be...

Go Aphil! :queen: Knock em dead by being yourself!

You said it Ginya! :D I loved your answer for that girl :lol:

When someone asked me if I was going to my reunion I said "what for? There is no one I want to be reunited with and the people I did like I am still friends with and can see anytime!"

When the 10 year one came up a couple of weeks ago I thought about it then said to myself - if I was that interested in those people and they with me we would have kept in touch and those people who didn't know me or never talked to me aren't going to care anyway - so why bother. I don't need to be validated by others - I am happy with myself :)

I always thought the kids in the "in crowd" were vain, shallow, boring and mean to other people - I never wanted to be friends with them in any way shape or form and basically ignored them until they started trying to pick on me and then I verbally kicked their asses and they usually got freaked out by the quiet bookworm telling them exactly what I thought of them in a controlled-straight faced-matter of fact - intellectual-way.

I am one of those types who gets really calm and polite when I am really mad- lips thin out, face gets whiter with controlled rage kind of thing- this usually scares people who are expecting an outburst- it throws them off guard and they usually never bother me again afterwards.

I usually ended up defending other people they picked on too :rolleyes: I have a thing about standing up for the injustices of the world-still do- and couldn't stand seeing them gang up on people.

Looking back now I realise that those in the "in crowd" were probably acting the way they did out of their own insecurities.

On a lighter note - if you want a good laugh you should watch Romy and Michele's High School Reunion- you will probably recognize most of the characters from your high school -:lol:

Aphil, I want to go to your reunion just to see those pictures!!

Well, you can sort of see some pictures...you can see my Queen Amidala and my husband's Imperial Officer uniform at:
www.afansview.com/2002/starwars/sw05a0013.html
We are in the top two pics...it is a terrible picture-the flash washed out all of the detail/fabric pattern/embroidery/beading on my costume...
Right now we are getting our Imperial costumes ready to join up with the 501st division of stormtroopers...I am making my husband's stormtrooper armor/costume-which is about 3 weeks from being finished...I have only been working on it for almost a year between other costumes...and I am making an Imperial officer costume for myself-when money allows, I will be getting armored as well...you can see the quality of the costumes we do and some of the current members at www.501st.com
After Halloween I can email you pics of my kid's costumes I am working on...Dorothy and a Lollipop Guild munchkin...The Dorothy just got finished, and the Lollipop is in the works...
I have a few VERY good friends that I want to catch up with that I went to school with...we keep contact through phone and email-but because of where we live we don't get to hang out but maybe once a year...so we plan on going together and getting our revenge on the former "cool and popular." The girl voted most popular in our class was a cheerleader and worked at Arby's our senior year...she married a "cool guy" from our class, and they divorced, and she STILL works at the SAME Arby's store that she did 10+ years ago...and she DOESN'T own the place. :lol: Oh, sweet revenge...
Aphil
ps-Mauvais...funny you talking about your anger...I am one of those people that once you are on my :censored: list, you are there to stay. I hold grudges like I don't know what...kind of like that guy in Billy Madison who was lying in his house putting on the lipstick and had the "people to kill" list. :lol: I am one of the quiet ones when I get mad too...I will take it, and take it, and take it from people...until I finally snap...and then I feel sorry for the person who is "giving it" when I do...my husband says my temper is "borderline criminal." :lol: