Forgive me Alternachicks for I have....


Okay, I lied last night. I never lie and yes it is bothering me. BUT men are such a pain in the A$$! I know "what ifs" and "could haves" do not make a point at all. So I fibbed. Basically I called him twice at work and he never called back. Don't know if he didn't get the message or what. I knew he was going out for a guys poker night after work. Well, he got out of there by 3:30, he never gets out that early for me. I tried the cell and it was either off or down yesterday. It is long distance where he works so the cell is not dependable. Anyways...the longer the night went on the madder I got. Well, he asked me what I needed when I called. I said it didn't matter as I found help another way. I had good news for him, but I was steaming by this time. It was 1:45am. 10+ hours without getting a hold of someone will do it to you every time! Well, he wouldn't stop hounding me. So I lied. Big fat blantant lie. I told him my knee went out and I couldn't get up off the garage floor. A neighbor finally helped me. I have pulled my knee out. Done it before and I am pretty helpless. I didn't mean to say it...just popped out. I was so annoyed with him. A real emergency could have happened. I knew where he was but 40 miles away is far without a phone # or a courtesy phone call. So...he felt bad. He wouldn't have felt bad otherwise. So, will you guys forgive me for my fibbery so I don't have to worry about Karma sneaking back getting me ??? I don't want to feed my face, which I would normally do after a bad night. I just want to get this off my chest and get on with it. By the way, as a mom, everyone in the world would know of 5 differnt ways to get a hold of me within 20 minutes any day or any night! Not fair to be able to be invisable! Although lately I have felt that way! ~flower

I'm sorry flower, but I just had to laugh. That sounds like something I would have done had I been in the same situation. I'm not sure if it's bad or not, but... I think it's totally forgivable.

Do something nice for someone real quick. You know, take a homeless person a sandwich or something. And NEXT time, don't react!

Wife of an absent husband for nearly 20 years. Spent the first 10 of them angry as ****.

Lamorgan

Flower, you silly chick! Of course we will forgive you!

What would Dr. Phil have to say about this are you going to fess up to hubby or no?

I can totally understand your frustration at not being able to get a hold of him for 10 hours, what if there really had been an emergency Sometimes men just don't get it

Heck no! No confessional to him. I will do something else to make amends to my fibbery. I am sure I can do him a favor or two. He has never admitted to his fibs even if I catch him red handed. One won't kill me but it will just make me feel guilty for a very long time! Don't worry, it won't happen again, I couldn't deal with the heavy burden! I am a bit too goody goody for my own good. Dr Phil will just have to deal with my no admittance!

Yes, I know it's not funny, but I had to laugh, too! Everyone fibs once in a while (my husband likes calling it "exaggerating", lol) - you feel bad about it, you know it was wrong... you probably feel worse about it than he does. It was definitely very passive-aggressive of you, but sometimes we all snap. Forgive yourself, chica - none of us matter!

I myself am really bad about calling people back... even my family. It absolutely doesn't mean I don't care about them - just means I'm slack & forgetful, hehe.

Oh Flower... just the fact that you feel badly says something. It's difficult when two people living together have different priorities. My DH is similar. He never used to call to let me know if he was going to be late, and we some major to-do's about it. He just wasn't brought up the way I was...to have respect for other people's time, and to realize that they just might be worrying about you, too!
He's very good about it now that he realizes how important it is to me that he calls. And how little of his time it takes to do something that will please me.
Work on it, sweetie... it's a little thing, but it's IMPORTANT!!

let those of us without fibs cast the first oreo...

Hey, no oreo tossing. I'll catch them and eat them all.

'T wasn't a fib. 'T was an untruth! Eat 15 celery sticks, run on the spot for 20 minutes and go and sin no more.

ruth... isn't that a rough penance? and what kind of penance does HE get for getting flower all flustered and upset??

oh, please, ruth.. come up with something PAINFUL for him!!!

flower - My Goddess, you act just like me! Were you raised Catholic or is all that guilt natural? Not only would I stop worrying about it, but I might even consider bringing it up next time he goes out.

Guilt sometimes works...he bought the groceries today and took Grif and Cameron to the store with him so I could be by myself! He is cooking the dinner too. I got more than half his paycheck too. But...I still don't feel right about lieing...I cleaned up the dog poop for him today. I gave the dog back to my dads. No more doggie for me, not a big one anyways...my house is a mess. Glad their vacation is over! I still have to walk...I am beyond tired today. I am definately an 8 hour a night girl...must get the shut eye!

Flower, do you think he's never fibbed about where he was or what he was doing? Maybe this is his karma going back 'round to him!

And if he's smart, he won't disappear for 10 hours again without checking in. You have children! Maybe you can survive until he shows up, but what if something happened to you and he had to be there for the kids? Sorry, but once you are responsible for a kid, you don't have the luxury of being AWOL.

You are absolved.

YUP!! My DH (pre kids) used to have the same problem. I didn't call HIM once when I stayed out a little too late with some friends. He was REALLY freaked out by the time I got home, and got the point. He is now good about calling when he is going to be late!!!