Ok, my turn. In addition to everything you've all said already, I'm sick of turning on my tv and seeing freakishly thin women everywhere. Oh, and the funny fat guy is never married to a funny fat woman, NO he's married to an 80 pounder who's like a brain surgeon or something.

Oh, and having people ask you when you're "due"! I hate that.

Yea, cheez that is so true. How do these freaky guys get the absolutely gorgous women? It doesn't matter if the are overweight, dorky, ugly, stupid they always get the thin women.

morningglory

Ooooooo, great thread!

Well, what sucks most about being fat is looking at old pictures of yourself when you were considerably thinner, but thought you were absolutely HUGE.

I obsessed about my weight all through my teens and early twenties. I was always on the dance team and was always the "fattest" girl, so this probably had something to do with it.
Imagine having all of your teammates at least 10 pounds lighter than you, or taller than you and having to stare at your collective reflection in the mirror all the time ... grrrrr! I was like the "J Lo" on a team full of Kate Moss's!

ANYWAY, looking back at some photos from that period in my life, I realize now that I HAD NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF! I was NOT EVEN CLOSE TO BEING FAT!

What a silly girl I was.

S.

Yeah, I remember being curvier than the other prepubescent stick girls in junior high and thinking there was something wrong with me. I weighed 113 pounds and had real breasts and hips and a curvy butt. The other girls all looked like boys with little breasts.

When I weighed 118 in high school I thought I was fat and hated my body and I tried to starve myself. When I weighed 130 in college I thought I was really fat and hated my body and experimented with bulimia. When I weighed 145 when I was first married I thought I was extremely fat and hated my body and tried weight loss drugs. Later I continued to gain weight up to 198 and thought I was unbelievably fat and really, really hated my body. There seems to be a pattern here. Even when I lose weight I still think I look horrible. This just isn't right.

We've ALL been there!!! Wish I had appreciated what I had when I had it!!!
Actually, in that vein, I am trying to appreciate myself NOW and work towards being the best me I can be. I hated myself for too many years. TIME TO FEEL GOOD!!!!

Ok, I'll go next.

I want to go into a store and actually have a selection of clothes I would wear in public. No polyester, or acrylics (what the **** is that about?)

I want to be able to meet new people without wondering are they thinking I have a huge ***?

I want to be able to strut across a room, and not feel my but jiggling so hard it measures on the richter scale.

Yeah that space between the thighs thing sounds really groovy.

I want to be able to dance, and not feel like I'm wearing a 100lbs anvil on my neck!

I want to be able to run like I used to with no pain, and be able to breathe afterwards.

I want to look sexy in lingerie.

I want to see what I'll look like thin.

I agree with the idea that I never realized I use to not be fat until I got fat. But you know what my mom and dad contributed to that, I looked huge compare to my 5'2 and 5'5 little sisters, with petite bone structures. So there is another thing that sucks about being fat, other people judging you.

Other things that suck:
Getting the girl at Old Navy/GAP/whatever to take you seriously even though you are Christmas shopping.

That the Godiva manager waves to me when I walk in the mall.(EWW I probably did that one to myself )

That you have a 50/50 chance on any boots that go over your calf fitting. I have freakishly small legs, but I have heard other women complain. I wonder about Starr Jones and her payless commercial, could she wear their knee high boots?

Being fat sucks cause people associate it with being jolly or comic relief. I think we all laugh more cause we are smarter and know the absurdity of the cocktail dress

Miss Chris

Hi everyone - I just posted on the Meet and Greet thread, and I couldn't resist joining in here.

I have a friend who is a size 4 who complains about feeling bloated when she puts on 3 lbs (I am not sure where she puts them on, I didn't notice anything!) and about how she is a 6 at the Gap (like I should have such a terrible problem, I think at my thinnest I was maybe an 8, for about a minute) - and this just makes me feel even more blobby and out of shape. I mean, if she thinks she is bloated what in the world does she think I look like? But then she compares herself to her other friend who is a size 2.

A relative of mine showed me a photo of myself and said, about a year ago (in sad tones) "Oh, someday you'll look like this again!" (i.e., thin). The only problem was it was a photo of me in my 3rd trimester (I am kneeling, and you can't really see my stomach under the navy top - but still!!!)!! That was not the best moment I've ever had! What am I supposed to say, gee, thanks? or, oh OK, I'll try to look as thin as I did when I was 7 months pregnant!

The same relative showed me, another time, photos of me at age 15 (at about 120 lbs) and said the same thing. I don't think THAT is going to happen again either! Maybe 140 if I am very determined but...not 120.

I would like to tuck in my shirt and have my pants still feel loose, and flat down the front. I would like to not need elastic in the waist of pants too. I would like to see my jawline again! I think there may be an oval face in here somewhere, and collarbones!

I would like to not panic when someone takes out a camera or video camera.

Lidian

Thanks for posting all of these stories......they make me feel so not alone.


I remember an interesting, but sad, chapter in my life.

When I was in my mid twenties, I applied for a flight attendant job.

Their weight cut -off for five feet five inches was 137 lbs.

At that time, I fluctuated between 134 and 145 (and thought I was HUGE!)

I starved myself for days to make sure I could get under 137. The day I weighed in to start the job I weighed 138 and a half

They cut me right then. I immediately went home and dove into a large bowl of popcorn and laid around eating for days.

Ugh!


Terri

Terri, that's ridiculous! You know, some of those flight attendants are pretty darned *itchy. They're probably hungry.

Hi Lidian! Welcome!

I used to be to able to walk into a clothing store, see something I'd like, pick it out in my size, and take it home without bothering to try it on. It always fit (and I HATE trying clothes on).
That's what I want again.

Oh, what I also want... I've got a walk-in closet full of great clothes. Tons of classics plus some cool stuff. I hate it when people say to me, "You should throw that stuff out if it doesn't fit you!" Well, it's GOING to fit me!! Am I going to throw out thousands of dollars worth of great clothes because they're too tight?! uh uh... I can't WAIT to get into them. It'll be like a shopping trip!

And I'd like to see some hollow under my cheekbones.

I want to meet my DH's co-workers and not feel embarrassed.

I agree Ellis!!! Meeting DH's co-workers is a drag. I have to go to a Holiday party, and DH keeps on telling me about new people who want to meet me. I keep on thinking they are going to be looking at me thinking, "WHAT does he see in HER!" I've always thought that I should say, "I'm double jointed."

Hey Lidian,

I found myself nodding my head as I read your post:

>>>I have a friend who is a size 4 who complains about feeling bloated when she puts on 3 lbs (I am not sure where she puts them on, I didn't notice anything!) and about how she is a 6 at the Gap (like I should have such a terrible problem, I think at my thinnest I was maybe an 8, for about a minute) - and this just makes me feel even more blobby and out of shape. I mean, if she thinks she is bloated what in the world does she think I look like? But then she compares herself to her other friend who is a size 2."

I have this SAME ISSUE with a friend of mine. She is an adorable petite girl and compains if her size 2's start to feel tight. She works at Nike World Headquarters, and is always comparing herself to all of the "perfect women" in the locker room. I keep
telling her that she is one of them, but she beats herself up for
not running faster, longer, etc. to stay in "better shape".

I too wonder what a person who is "huge" at size 4 thinks of
my size 10/12 ***? I must be a freakin' elephant!

Hmmmm ...

S.

Den, NOBODY would think that about you! You are so cute and you have such a beautiful, magnetic personality. But yes... it's a drag. I would DEFINITELY tell them you're double-jointed.
I get some weird looks when I tell them that I don't shake hands...
You know, the thin ones aren't that interesting. (of course, we won't say that when WE'RE thin!)

I know this sounds really weird, but I can't wait until I can see "IT" again! You know, down there! It has been a long while and I forget what it looks like.
Virginia

Virginia, get one of those 5 foot long mirrors, lay it on the floor...