I'm bisexual and also married to a man. My husband loves it. :)

maybe i spoke too soon. I still like girls more, but I met an amazing guy recently. So easy and nice to be around him. I easily spend hours with him. The longest was probably 24, lol. He only left because he needed to tattoo someone at work.

Add another bi/pansexual to the list..

:cofdate:

Originally Posted by FatGirlTale:
Bi.

You can marry a man and still be bi. I hate when people make assumptions.

DH teases me but in a very loving way. We sit and talk about hot chicks. We have very similar taste in women.

No open relationship, though. I haven't kissed another person since the first time I kissed my husband (before he was even my boyfriend).

My husband and I also have the same taste in women. Makes choosing naughty movies a lot easier. ;-)

He just knows that instead of winning out over other men, he won me over everyone!

bi and poly, married to a man - he's cool with it

I'm bi and poly as well! I thought I was going to be all alone...

I'm a gay chick :)

Woohoo!
 

:celebrate:

I just want to say I'm glad you all are here :)

Okay, so random question for all you LGBT chicks... I'm no longer overweight and look more... normal, I guess? I've always been overweight and didn't have all that much self-confidence, so I NEVER got hit on, not once in my life (or at least, not overtly enough for me to notice!) But now that I'm at a normal BMI and thinner and more confident, I've noticed there's this one guy that is acting like he likes me. I'm not sure, but I just get that feeling.
Now, I'm a lesbian. But since I never had anyone showing interest in me before then, I never had to worry about these kinds of things, so I'm not at all prepared with how to deal with these kinds of situations. He's a really nice guy and fun to talk to, and you know, I can even fall for guys emotionally! It seems like I could do that with him, even. But I'm just not physically attracted to them, you know? A relationship wouldn't last long without any kind of physical chemistry, obviously! But since I CAN get emotionally attached to either gender, now I feel like I don't want to hurt him, but I don't want to lead him on, either.
So how do you chickies deal with guys showing interest in you? Especially really sweet guys. >_< I just don't want to hurt him, but I'm just not attracted to guys, you know?
Ugh.
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Originally Posted by megwini:
Okay, so random question for all you LGBT chicks... I'm no longer overweight and look more... normal, I guess? I've always been overweight and didn't have all that much self-confidence, so I NEVER got hit on, not once in my life (or at least, not overtly enough for me to notice!) But now that I'm at a normal BMI and thinner and more confident, I've noticed there's this one guy that is acting like he likes me. I'm not sure, but I just get that feeling.
Now, I'm a lesbian. But since I never had anyone showing interest in me before then, I never had to worry about these kinds of things, so I'm not at all prepared with how to deal with these kinds of situations. He's a really nice guy and fun to talk to, and you know, I can even fall for guys emotionally! It seems like I could do that with him, even. But I'm just not physically attracted to them, you know? A relationship wouldn't last long without any kind of physical chemistry, obviously! But since I CAN get emotionally attached to either gender, now I feel like I don't want to hurt him, but I don't want to lead him on, either.
So how do you chickies deal with guys showing interest in you? Especially really sweet guys. >_< I just don't want to hurt him, but I'm just not attracted to guys, you know?
Ugh.
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Hmmm, welll maybe you should point out that you like women. It would be hard for him to take that personally since it is no error or shortcoming on his part. I've had that problem before and i know how icky it can be. If you aren't out, maybe just tell him that you aren't really interested in a relationship. Before I was out, I just kind of ignored the issue or told them I wasn't ready for it . Felt guilty but hey, what can ya do. Good luck, though.

I would just be honest with him. Include the fact that you can be emotionally attracted to him, just not physically. If you guys can have an open honest discussion about it then you can see where it goes from there.

Another lezbo here!!!

I'm attracted to people, not a specifici gender. I guess you would call that bi. I've had girlfiends and boyfriends.

Right now I have a boyfriend of over two years :)

Originally Posted by StephanieMuirhead:
I'm attracted to people, not a specifici gender.

I hate it when people say this; it suggests that those of us who are hard-wired for one gender or another are somehow superficial or narrow-minded or not "attracted to people". I'm not saying you personally feel that way, Stephanie; but I am asking that you be aware of the implications of your language when you refer to yourself this way.

Sexually, I like women. Not *all* women, obviously - who the woman is as a person matters just as much to me as to you. But the fact remains that only women get me going. Even if a man is the most wonderful human being in the world, I'm just not going to be sexually attracted to him. I know this all too well, from painful personal experience. All the love in the world is not enough to change my hard-wired sexual orientation.

This doesn't make me shallow, and it doesn't mean I'm just attracted by gender and not by what's inside the person. It just makes me a lesbian.

I guess that's my introduction to this forum. Hi, folks.

Carter, I feel the same way, and I'm bi. My hubby ran across someone who had said that recently and his reaction was "and what, I'm attracted to mongeese?" No offense Stephanie, I'm sure you did not mean it that way.

I'm bi, married to a man. I'm glad to see there are others sometimes I feel like I'm the only women in the world that is happy with her man, but still finds women attractive. Most everyone I know in real life just doesn't understand. In fact I have a friend that it makes her so uncomfortable if I even mention that I think a women is pretty, so I don't. It's kinda sad when I type it out.

Dyke, single mom by choice
 

:) Glad to see this thread. I agree with poster who said, "lesbian just doesn't roll off the tongue." lol

I wore only men's clothes for 10 years. Then, 4 months pregnant, I walked into the Big & Tall Casual Male and had a major culture shock when I realized that they had no maternity clothing. I may never live that moment down with friends who were with me for the shopping trip. lol :o

Daughter is 4 yo now. :cool: Finally found the resources I need to heal my body and obtain the health I so richly deserve. Making progress toward my goals, planning to return to college to become a doctor next Fall. In the mean time, I'm ready to start dating again. Have actually gone out a few times but have run into folk that I couldn't keep up with and those that found my daughter and I more active than they were comfortable with dating.

Has anyone had this problem while losing a lot of weight, that dating got more complicated temporarily? :?:

Hi all! I am engaged to a wonderful woman! Not legal in Wisconsin YET...but I am sure that someday it will be!

If there is anyone from Wisconsin (or midwest) looking for support this winter, let me know!

GLAD to see this post here :)

Sorry, I'm in the PNW, near Seattle. Welcome to 3FC, Alternachicks & LGBT Chicks. I only recently joined but folks seem friendly and helpful.

IWantToLive - your avatar totally cracks me up ... I want it on a t-shirt!

I describe myself as "serially monogamous." If I weren't married (at the moment), I'd probably need to say bi if I were to be honest about it.

Yep, there are some of us here. :) I'm bi, I'm married to a man, he is well aware of my sexuality, we have a relationship with some openness and lots of communication, and it is all good. :-D

~Kat

Originally Posted by lizziep:
also bi. but i'm married. to a man. so does it still count? :D

Of course it counts!! When you are single and not having any contact with either gender, does that make you asexual? No. So, even if you aren't with the same sex, that doesn't change your sexuality. :)

bi here- happily married and monogamous to a bi man. ♥

Hey there. :) Bi, married and polyamorous with a wonderful girlfriend (and boyfriend, her husband.)

I'm bisexual, but I prefer women over men.

Hi! :)

lesbian/gay/whatever here. lesbian doesn't roll off the tongue as well as gay does. plus gay is only one syllable, must be why :)

I'm anthro/pan-sexual ^_^ And currently single
Glad to see this thread :)

Originally Posted by Leontina:
I'm anthro/pan-sexual ^_^ And currently single
Glad to see this thread :)

Pardon my ignorance... I know what pansexual is, but is anthrosexual the same thing? Whenever I hear anthro, all I can think about is anthropology! :lol:

Originally Posted by megwini:
Pardon my ignorance... I know what pansexual is, but is anthrosexual the same thing? Whenever I hear anthro, all I can think about is anthropology! :lol:

anthropansexual is the same thing as pansexual

Yeah, they pretty much are the same thing. Except anthro = human, pan = all. Anthrosexual seems a better word but pansexual rolls off the tongue easier :P

There is a posting on general chatter forum today asking how long you were with your "DH" before you got married. Have to admit I'm almost offended. My partner of 20 years and I can't get married in the U.S (and have it recognized in our state). I would like to join in the conversation but am obviously excluded by the hetero nature of the thread. Can't decide if I want to invade it or just ignore it. I'm getting tired of being excluded...

Originally Posted by Sskar:
There is a posting on general chatter forum today asking how long you were with your "DH" before you got married... I would like to join in the conversation but am obviously excluded by the hetero nature of the thread.

I would just comment in it with my DP or DG - or you could say DW and explain why that's not unfortunately not yet the case. I say go for it!

ETA: But it looks like the thread says, in a gender-neutral way, "For those that are married... How long were you together before you got married?" If you mean the one here, that is.

Just because the majority of the responders are hetero, I wouldn't let that hold you back.

due to the nature of the site and the support we all give each other - i say go for it. *we* are everywhere. encountering a LGBT person is a norm for most people in the US at one time or another. this is not to say all will like it. point being, i believe if someone replies with a snarky remark, there are plenty of folks who have your back. do it do it!

Good for you for posting, Sskar! :D I hope to see in my lifetime that the US states that banned gay marriage roll back their bigotry.

I *always* respond to those threads. Just preface it with "DW" or whatever. Never once has anyone told me I didn't belong or shouldn't post. I figure that it both reminds people that not everyone falls into a heteronormative description of a "couple", and makes discussion of other forms of couples a less-strange occurrence and more normal.

I'm lesbian, and my partner and I will be celebrating our 24th anniversary this year! We started off as two young, thin and beautiful women and grown into two mature, heavy and still beautiful crones! I'm dieting -- she's not. But she's very supportive and I have a feeling she'll lose as well since I do most of the cooking <G>

By the way ... I'm of the generation that still has bad associations with the words "queer" and "dyke" so I usually avoid them. I'm use either gay or lesbian. Then again, I'm too old to use "grrls" or words like that! Well, not too old ... just too set in my ways.

Also, what the heck is a DH? I tried googling it and the Urban Dictionary was the number one hit and it said "Di*khead" -- I can't believe that's what everyone here means by that.

Originally Posted by bbigham:
Also, what the heck is a DH? I tried googling it and the Urban Dictionary was the number one hit and it said "Di*khead" -- I can't believe that's what everyone here means by that.

Heh! It means Dear Husband usually. Or on iffy days, Dang (ahem) Husband.

Thanks for the encouragement! Although my posting seems to have been a thread killer LOL

Hello. My partner and I have been together for 6 years. I'm the chubbier one of the bunch. She loves me for who I am, and enjoys that I'm a bigger girl but she has no problems with me if I said I'd like to change and lose some weight. She's in the normal range and I hate her for it, haha.