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Hi Everyone,
Hope to be able to chat tomorrow. Today is the course I am taking, grading papers for the course I am teaching, and doing household chores I have been neglecting (like paying bills). Lynn |
Good Morning all,
We've got rain coming tonight, and even cooler weather. I guess I'm going to have to get the winter gear out. Yesterday was a lovely day, sunny and just a little cool. Linda, Sorry, I don't have plantar fascitis. I had a broken foot. But I can sure eympathise with foot problems now. Yeah for you for getting into the smaller sizes. Makes you feel like it's totally worthit!!!! Keep those jeans out to try on occasionally. It really helped me to try mine on to see how I had progressed. And time to hit Victoria Secret for new undies! Lynn, You'll get into the swing of things soon, and have more time, busy lady. Bobbi, You too, busy lady! Zo, I can so relate to you! My husband lost his job in the spring. He was the top seniority, top paid, and he was the one let go. It came as a total surprise to all of us. He has had a really hard time adjusiting to not working. I am still trying to adjust too. Like you, I would love just a little time ALONE from time to time. We had talked about retiring soon, but it's different when you are thrown into it! And the nerve of someone throwing out your MW! make it a good day, Freda |
Good Morning Girls...I have more time to gab today. Yesterday afternoon I made DH a carrot cake with cream cheese frosting. Did I eat a piece? Does a bear poop in the woods? The good news is I only ate a 2" piece and figured it into my Fitday. I always have plenty of calories to spare. It used very little oil and some applesauce.
Karen31...cute story of the 3 bears and so true! Isabella...keep the scarf on while naked and surprise hubby when he gets home:rofl: I have a wooly lined vest I keep on the back of my computer chair that I often slip into, in the pocket of knit gloves with the fingers out. I'm always cold when my weight goes down. I'm a sight to see! Quote:
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Freda...you too, you have only missed one day. Fantastic, it sure helps posting our goals. Linda...My plantar fasciitis hasn't bothered me for quite some time but then I baby my feet. If my feet start getting tired, I pull a stool up to the kitchen counter when preparing supper. I don't walk anymore either. I used to wear a pedometer and get my 10,000 steps in, that was pretty easy to do. But it killed my feet, ouch! A few years ago I order from Feather Light a pair of custom fit stainless steel arch supports and that pretty much took care of my feet pain and heel spurs. I still have the spurs but they don't bother me anymore. (My S.S. supports have a indentation in the heel) Maybe you can google them for your hubby. I put them in what ever shoe I'm wearing except my high heels I wear to church. I printed out the fronts only of halloween cards with Grand kids names and pasted them onto small brown paper bags yesterday. Today I'm going to bake some holloween cookies, add some candy and a $10.00 bill with each bag. DD doesn't like them to have a lot of candy and the GKids' like my little 'Tricks or Treats' packages. I best get busy, you all have a great skinny day. Hi to anyone I missed:wave: |
Good morning, All! I've been AWOL for a few days (and did you all miss me?)... the STUPID computer modem went out, and I'm waiting for my replacement from, probably, Pakistan. So annoying. Thank God for good and sharing neighbors! Snowed here a bit yesterday, cold!, nicer today. All is well on the tummy front; I think I'm getting used to this (for today, at least!). I feel good! Hope you're all doing well... stay warm.
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Hi everyone..another rainy day here..my dh planted apple trees 6 yrs ago and we have only gotton one apple :?: it could be the climate or we dont know what we are doing as others have apple trees that produce..lol..i sympathize with all who have retired hubbys for what ever reason..my dh gets under foot alot and sometimes we work around it and others we get on each other nerves..thats when he goes to the cabin.and .i am waiting for a call from the surgons office in anchorage..then after seeing him he will determine if im a good canidate for bariatric surg..then its 6 months and more tests both medical and phycological and to see if my ins will pay..then a surg date if i pass all that..im anxious and excited to get going on this..as in alot of things nothing moves fast tho..bobbie wtg on the sm piece of cake..lynn hope your tests results are good,jess glad u are feeling well,freda congrats on loosing th e boot,linda congrats on the smaller clothes,ella hope u get some alone time your not alone as we all have similar feelings..hope i dont miss anyone and if i did sry :hug:..congrats to all who are loosing.. :wave: rosey
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Thanks all for the compliments on the new pool. I am anxious to be able to use it this summer. I have gone back and looked at the pictures I took as it was being worked on and it is so hard to believe that big ugly hole in the ground is now so pretty! I ended up taking 65 pics from the beginning to the finish.
I am in total agreement with you on having the hubby home all the time! It seems like I am tripping over him more than I do my two poms (and they never leave my side!) It has been a little over two years now and I may just have to go to work to get my alone time!!!LOL!! Actually, I clean my aunt and my brothers house and that gets me out by myself once in awhile. Sometimes though, I can hardly breathe!! Tell me it gets better?????? |
Oops, Freda, I think info got scrambled when I was trying to read all the posts at once. A broken foot is rough, though at least bones usually heal well. The only broken bone I ever had was in my wrist (fell on cruise ship, totally not the way to start a vacation) and that was painful for a while but now it's like it never happened. So great news on losing the boot and good luck on now getting back up to full steam.
Zoe, my first husband was a physician and he always told me that the worst thing that can happen to a woman's health is for her husband to retire. All of a sudden all of the woman's routines are disrupted. She doesn't relax as she used to, or exercise, or eat... she loves him, sure, but she misses the alone time. It's really stressful. He'd tell me lots of time that the woman's health would suddenly plummet and SHE would end up in the hospital. Sooo... the best thing you can do for yourself is make sure you take care of yourself, not him. Not any more than you already take care of him. Set up things so you have some of that time to yourself, doing your things in your way. It takes a while to work out a new pattern, but be sure to claim your piece of the pie. It's hard, too, with so many people losing jobs. Half my family is wondering where the axe will fall next, and hoping their jobs will survive. So far, so good, but so many people are being affected, it's sobering. Glad to hear you're doing well, Jess. Getting used to some diets can take a month or so. After my colon resection, when I suddenly had to start eating more fiber, and lots of it, my gut serenaded me for three weeks with rumbles and gas, but then settled down. Bodies, alas, aren't sports cars and don't turn on a dime. Bobbi, thanks for the tip on the shoes. I'll look into them. Firm believer here in the virtues of a well-made and appropriate shoe. Rosey, all that going for tests and waiting for the results has to be tiring. It sounds like you're holding up well, though! Not sure if anyone here plays Civilization:Revolution, but I just completed winning with every civilization on the Diety level. Patting myself on the back here, as that means I have outperformed my youngest son. Not something every Mom can do at a video game. Anyway, I don't play video games all that much, but this one just hooked me. Linda |
Hello all,
I've had some good days off from work ~ got to see Corbin play baseball, went to the playground with Maddie. Have gotten some little projects done I'd been wanting to do. I was feeling kind of frustrated today. Had gotten a new treadmill ~ starting out slow with it because I am so out of shape ~ doing 1/2 hour in 3 ten minute chunks. I decided yesterday that it had been going pretty well so I would increase ~ do 2 fifteen minute chunks. Well all day yesterday after that and today, my knees were bothering me. I guess maybe I need to go back to the 10 minute chunks. Maybe I need to get some knee braces. I don't know ~ I hope I don't have to give it up, because I don't mind it and I can do it any time that works for me and it doesn't matter whether it is too hot and humid, or cold or rainy. It's always something it seems...... I can identify with you all with the retired husbands. We are able to sort of not get in each others way, but it is just different. Nothing is really ever said, but it makes you feel like you are being watched all the time or judged ~ what you eat and how often, rather you use that treadmill as you said you would. Rather you are keeping busy, or watching TV or talking on the phone more than the other person thinks you should. Rather you stay up too late, or sleep in too long in the morning. I think the biggest thing for me is I am just plain jealous ~ I want to be retired too. Can't wait for my turn to come. Oh well, I keep trying to remind myself that it could be worse...... Back to work tomorrow. Take care |
I'll give you a big AMEN on that one Gayle---- I feel like he is "lurking" all the time....Feels sneaky!
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Hey Karen ~
I don't think mine is lurking on purpose ~ it just feels that way ~ maybe I have a guilty conscience ~ like I should be doing more, eating less ~ whatever. We are so different ~ that is part of the problem. He is super disciplined and doesn't understand how I can mess up with the eating, how I can say I will exercise and then don't do it. I feel bummed sometimes, and that affects the choices I make. He is never bummed (or if he is doesn't admit to it). He is so cheery sometimes I could.......(fill in the blank ~ LOL) It is nice to know others understand :) |
Gosh--it sounds like we could be married to the same man!!! Of course, when he says anything I bow my back and just get more stubborn. I know ---that doesn't help
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Whew. I've got to tell you that it sure feels better to know that I'm not alone in my difficulties with his retirement. Somehow, knowing others experience the same sort of thing helps, doesn't it? I was thinking for a little bit there that it was just me, being selfish or *****y. And I know that I am that way sometimes, but like you, Gayle, I think maybe I am a little jealous, and would like to have all the freedom and flexibility that he has for myself. I don't really want to retire until I'm 66, though - want to collect my full social security along with my retirement from work and my sad little savings. That way, I'll have a little cushion against any unforseen turnabouts. His losing his job two years back was pretty sobering. Like your DH, Freda, he was at the top rung, earning a nice paycheck that enabled us to pretty much do anything we pleased. Now, he brings in less than half of what he used to make, and has no desire to even work at something part-time to make up the difference. He could get consulting work very easily, but doesn't want to even think, he says, about software engineering. <gulp> So, he stays home and I work. I feel resentful that he can't be relied on to do any proper cleaning unless I specifically TELL him to - the house certainly isn't up to MY standards anymore. When he was working (and I was, as well) I kept the house clean along with going to work every day. Now that I work and he doesn't, I don't feel like I should be coming home to clean up after him, and I won't/don't. So, about once every couple of weeks I go on a real tear and sweep through like a hurricane cleaning and scrubbing and dusting and vacuuming, but the rest of the time it mostly just piles up. He cleans up the dishes and such after we eat - and he does more of the cooking than he ever used to before, and he does most all of our laundry - but even so, I feel like I'm pulling an uneven share of the weight around here. And I won't even get into the responsibility on weekends to do something "entertaining" even when I'm really tired and would like to just hang around the house some - because of course, he's been cooped up all week and wants to get out and do something. Grrrr. I can identify with the "lurking" as well. Gawd. I DO realize that I'm seeing things from a very one-sided perspective, and maybe need to try to be a little more understanding....:dizzy:
Well, at least we've been able to cooperate on our diet - he's been good about sticking with my eating plan, and of course we've both lost and are continuing to lose, which is a help. Y'know, Bobbi, I wouldn't even DARE eat a 2" piece of carrot cake because I KNOW I could never stop at one 2" piece! Your willpower is amazing to me! That would actually be reaching the summit for me - reaching the highest priority goal I could ever have - just being able to eat a little tiny bit of something and have it go no further than that. I'd most likely eat half the cake if I allowed myelf that one little taste. Rosey, would your husband have a spare spot in that cabin of his where I could send MY husband for a little getaway??? ;) Welcome back Jess, congrats on the weight loss, Linda, and hope your schedule lightens up soon, Lynn. Have a good day y'all... :hug: Z |
A sad morning for us, another chicken died. It's like losing your pet, only a possum didn't get this one. She starved herself to death. Chickens sometime go into a roosting mood, won't eat or drink. They will just sit on the nest and brood. When we catch them doing it, we have to take the chicken out of the coop and put her in a cage for a couple of days. Since it's been so cold, the chickens haven't been outside so we missed it.
Zoe...I retired at 53 due to plantar fasciitis and heel spurs. I remember at the time my hubby being jealous that I got to be home and he didn't. I think he was just worried that we'd not be able to live the life style our two incomes brought in. It proved that all the money I made went on clothes, shoes, extravagant gifts. When I cut all the nonsense out, we didn't miss the money. I was basically throwing it away, I purchased whatever I felt like. Once you retire and adjust your life style a tad, you won't miss the money either. Our Christmas giving was cut back but my daughter put a stop to all the gifts we bought our grandkids a long time ago. She said they didn't need all those gifts and limits us to ONE ONLY gift to the boys. I cheat and give them one gift with a money check inside the package, :cool: Rosey...can I send my hubby to the cabin too, or lets all us girls go there for a retreat. We can hire handsome Bunny Boys to give us massages on demand, cook for us and then leave. Where do I sign up? Linda...why would you get rid of a Gem 1st husband with this great insight? Quote:
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Good morning girls. You've given me some great insight on my husband's view of me being retired and under his feet. Hahaha. He's a school bus driver and comes home in between runs and always had the house to himself several hours a day before I retired. We've butted heads a few times as I've established my daily routine in retirement.
My MIL's birthday was yesterday and the family gathered after supper for a little party. I am proud to say I never touched the cake, ice cream, chips or pop. As a matter of fact no one had ice cream as I forgot to put it out. I brought a fruit tray with yogurt for dipping and that's what I confined my snacking to. I felt great after coming home. Busy day today doing a bit of baking for the weekend. Catch you later. |
It was a nice, cool morning, so I walked to the drug store for some get-well cards. The neighborhood has all older colonial homes and lovely trees, landscaping, etc., to the walk was really pleasant, a nice change of pace from the swimming I usually do for exercise. My bad knee didn't act up at all, so maybe I start doing more walking again.
Nothing much new except I'm trying a new color in hair dye, something a shade darker, the way my roots have been going lately. I've thought about going "natural" and letting the gray show, but my husband is a decade younger than I am and not quite ready for either a gray-haired wife (I know, I know) or a grandmother. He won't have any say in the latter decision, though. <hehehe> One of my sons is working on that. One thing I think all women of a certain age can identify with is husband-boundaries. All my friends in my age bracket have become quite independent as they've entered their fifties and beyond, and how that dovetails with their relationships is something we've all dealt with, in various ways. Bobbi, my first husband was a wonderful physician. Seriously, I've never met a better diagnostician and in many ways he was brilliant. He was, however, a miserable husband, never home, and liked to have affairs with young nurses, to whom he would compare me, always unfavorably. I wasn't thin enough, or classy enough, or smart enough. Getting out was necessary for my mental health, and his next two wives (pretty young nurses, all of us) ultimately agreed. He's on wife number 4 now. We stay in touch, though, because we were married for 20 years and have three kids to talk about, even if they are adults now. :) I am so totally looking forward to getting my new lasagna pan in the mail. It has three compartments, so I can make one compartment of my diet lasagna (it's soooooo good!) and two of "regular" lasagna for the non-dieting, don't eat spinach or mushrooms family. Have a great weekend, everyone! Linda |
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