Whew, been a busy weekend for me. Hope everyone is having fun and getting some relaxing in, too.

Had to do some grocery shopping yesterday and I needed to find a new farmers market to get some tomatoes and roasted chilies. I was happy that I stumbled on a new one that is just perfect. The other one I had been going to sold their property and closed down their business. Sad day! But this new one seems to be pretty good and I liked the 76 year old woman who runs it. I admire that! So, today I'll be canning tomatoes and freezing the chiles.

Yesterday was another football game for my son. They are doing so well! They won again, this time 30-14. This team gave them more of a challenge, which will probably help them in the long run. They are undefeated and will play the other undefeated team next week. Should be a good game. They don't play at a regular field, though. They divide a large area of one of our big parks into 4 fields. They are regular sized fields, but you don't have bleachers. Each field is for a different division: 5th grade, 6th grade, lightweight 7th/8th, heavyweight 7th/8th. Many parents bring chairs, but some of us just walk up and down the sidelines. I was getting very ticked off at this one woman who cheered for the other team, standing right behind our players. WHAT??? Do you not understand that your team is on the other side?? Duh??? There was more room on our side, so I understand that why she wanted to be on that side, but show a little sportsmanship. So, I made it my goal to cheer louder than she did. I won! We won! She moved on.

I'm also going dress shopping with my daughter and her friend. They have a dance coming up, so we need to get a dress. The church that I attend is very casual and she normally doesn't like to wear dresses, so she doesn't have one. Should be fun.

Well, better go. Have a good rest of the weekend!

Slash
Have a fun time shopping

dol
glad to see people are taking care of you

vel
You take care of yourself

Happy Sunday everyone
 

Hope everyone is enjoying there weekend.

I just back back from my 45 min power walk and I feel great. We have been having a heat wave in Cali..so if I don't walk early I wont do it cause it is too hot.

yesterday I had lunch with my friend who had a baby well actually she's 3 months now. Reddish blond hair and big blue eyes. What a doll and sucha good baby. I had Japanese food for the first time in a month. Teriyaki salmon, california rolls and green tea or and water. It was yummy. I was hoping the salt would not effect my weight. I am happy to say I am still 197. I would have liked to have lost more by now but at least I am not gaining.

Question, I know you are suppsed to eat 3 meals and two snack aday (feed your body every 3 hrs. a day but sometimes i am just not hungry and have to force myself to eat. Sometimes I feel I am not eating enough. Could that be my stall in weight loss?

Welcome beth4365. I am glad you have joined us and don't worry most people can't post all the time so chime in when you can.

Clayr
Gald i could be of help.

lovnmom
Congrats on maintaining your weight:cheer3::cheer2:

Velveteen

You got the right attitude. And your right it could have been worse so give yourself a pat on the back for not going hogwild. Remember today is a new day and a fresh start.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Karen

Hi dlphinlvr I think you used to be klmetz, right? I'll call you Karen :) Congrats on maintaining your weight! I am right with ya--I have stalled. I have totally kept on points (WW) this past week and didn't even use my extra 35 weekly points I am allowed. Soooo discouraging. During the week I went down to 189 but today is weigh-in day and BUMMER. I have no idea what the prob is and at times I want to say "Forget it!" but what is the alternative? Yah, going back up past 200 which I NEVEREVER NEVER want to see again.

Just pluggin' along I guess! Happy Monday :D

-Susan

dol
Not eating enough can definably stall weight loss. It can also cause you to gain weight so be careful. If the tummy thinks the throat has been slit because it isn't getting enough food. The tummy will want to start turning everything to fat to save up for when it isn't getting the food it needs lol. First, most dietitians/nutritionist tell you not to have 3 meals a day. You are to have 6 meals ( of course this isn't 6 full meals but three meals broken into two meals a day. This might not work for you but it is what I have always done even when I workout outside the home. We have to stop saying we don't have time for this or that and make time. Break your meals into smaller meals. I eat at least 6 times a day. You eat less at a time and you are hungry to eat more often. Get a little workout in before each meal.

I have time to eat all I should eat because I no longer have time to be over weight

I have time to exercise because I no longer have time to be out of shape

Evey thing is a choice, we make the choice to be what we want to be or just talk about being what we want to be.

Happy Monday chickies
 

Okay so I am happy to say I lost a pound over the weekend so maybe my stall is gone. Suenami it's good to hear I wasn't alone on this. It sound weird but I do better on the weekends than I do during the week. I eat three or 4 meals and walk in the morning.

Shy:
When I am at work it's hard to to do 6 meals. It's hard enough to get lunch in at a normal time with my job. I try to do it on the weekend but during the week sometimes I am just not hungry. I have to force myself to eat. I used not to eat breakfast but I make sure I do that now. I wish I could exercise before each meal but again my work does not allow the time to do that. Maybe though I can try that on the weekend. Thanks for the advice.

Velv
May I ask why you don't take a lunch? You need to eat right? Or do you do like me sometimes and eat at your desk. I make myself get away from my desk to eat at least 3 times a week now. Part of this process is taking care of YOU and YOUR needs so force yourself to take a lunch and a short walk. Once you get into the routine, you will look forward to it. it's also good for releiving stress from work. Trust me I know. My job can be very stressful at times and sometimes just getting a way from my desk for 15-20 min or longer if I can relieves it. You can this Velv:carrot::carrot::carrot:

Slashnl
Hope you found a nice dress for your daughter!


sillycat4
How was your weekend in the suite? I am so jealous.

This is for all you chickies :hug:

Diane, Sounds like you had a great weekend. Tonight for us is volleyball, football, and soccer practice...busy and me with nothing in the crock pot!!

Karen, Glad you're past your plateau. Yippee! That's the main reason I do maintenance from time to time. My body will get stuck, I think because it gets tricked into thinking I'm starving, so when I up the calories my metabolism jump starts as well and then bing a loss comes easy when I go back down in claories. It works for me. As for the whole 6 meals a day...that's not for me...I usually eat 3 squares and one small snack in the evening. I break all the rules I guess, but I need to use my own rules when it comes to weightloss, because hey, that's what works for me. You look like you're getting your own rules figured out too. WTG!

Hope everyone's had a great Monday!

Last night was crazy. I felt sorry for my little peanut. Volleyball went from after school until 5pm and then soccer was from 6-7:30pm. So I took her and her best friend sandwiches and pineapple and they just ate at school until it was time for soccer. Then when she got home she had more than an hour's worth of homework too. She got upset with her daddy when he said schoolwork at the table not infront of the tv, but when I suggested dropping a sport to make life easier all whining came to an end and all the work was done at the table. Success for one night!
I got in a 4 mile walk bright and early. It's running in the mid 40's in the morning so I'm tryingto take advantage of the cooler weather.
Hope you all have an awesome OP day!

Lovn: What doesn't kill them will make them stronger, right? ha! I don't know how you handle more than one sport per kid. That would be really tough. Right now with both kids having one sport, I'm pulling out my hair. So, I admire your strength! I think that as long as the grades stay where they should be, I'm ok with whatever activity they want to do.

My daughter had "duct tape" day today. Homecoming is this weekend, so the schools are having a spirit week. She went to school with duct tape on her jeans and shirt. Funny stuff!

Better go... I'm at work right now.

Hi everyone. I have been very absent from the 40's chatter of late and I'm not sure why. Well, that's not true. The past couple of weeks have been rather hectic, in some good ways and some so-so ways.

On the good side, DS is doing pretty well with the transition to middle school. I went to Open House last week and was very impressed with his teachers. They are lively, intelligent, motivated, and really into their work and the kids. Plus, the school is beautiful...relatively new and state of the art. It was great to see that after only 2 weeks, so many people are so invested in my son, and doing all they can to help him succeed. And for a challenged, special needs child, what more could I ask for?

On the somewhat negative side, my parents stayed with us over Labor day weekend. I do not have a good relationship with my mother. To be blunt, I don't like her or the person that she is. I don't like being around her and try to limit my interaction as much as I can without causing a total civil war within our family. Anyway, as usual, she tried to make me feel bad about my weight and it worked. That, in turn, made me ticked off at myself because I should know better than to let her get to me! Sometimes I can successfully block her out but not always. I'm still stewing about it all this time after the fact and that's just not productive.

I haven't been able to exercise much either, for a variety of reasons I won't bore anyone with. That certainly hasn't helped either.

This weekend is my cousin's daughter's bat mitzvah. It's a HUGE family event, and I am already dreading it. I truly, truly thought I'd look better by this point and truth be told, I am embarrassed. I did get myself a pretty new outfit but...I'll be the fattest family member there.

Thus, I feel very low these days and although I've been lurking here and reading the posts, I kinda feel like I didn't deserve to "say" anything. I have no victories to report!

Sorry to be such a wet blanket. I'll be more positive next time, I swear!!

Diane, Oh I wish I had saved an e-mail I received not long ago. I would have pm'd it to you....it was something like "A Fashionable Use for Colored Duct Tape" and the picture was a guy squatted down and a huge piece of color coordinated duct tape covering his plumbers crack. Ha ha funny stuff!!! Luckily soccer only lasts 6 weeks with minimal practices.

LetsGoMets, #1 I have the same type of relationship with my mother and I avoid her whenever I can, but am very civil and do what a "good" daughter is to do most of the time ;)...I just usually end up drinking a lot of wine. Starting 3 fourths of the way through her visit and ending an hour or so after she's left!!! She's not allowed at my children's sporting events, because no one needs to hear that much negativity...my kids could be all stars on tv and she'd see how some other player was better etc.....#2 I don't think 3FC was set up so people could just report their success!!!! I think we're all signed on to help each other through the rough spots. That said, you are still in the game. You haven't thrown in the weightloss towel have you? Well then, you are doing great. This weekend you put on that pretty new outfit. Who gives a hoot what size your body is? Just make sure you have the biggest smile in the room and make them all wish they had whatever it is you have! Good luck to you dear. Family get togethers : love 'em or hate 'em, but make the best of 'em!!

Lovn, thanks for the awesome words of encouragement. I am profoundly ashamed of my last post because it's just a litany of whining, which really is not helpful or interesting to anyone. I think I wrote it in the midst of self-centered hissy fit! All the way driving home from work, I thought, "What right did I have to thrust my negativity on everyone in the 40's thread??"

That said, I know that I'll get myself out of this valley. The family thing this weekend will actually be pretty interesting. I do enjoy seeing most of my family members, my mother not withstanding. Plus, the reception after the bat mitzvah itself is being held at one of Donald Trump's country clubs! Woo hoo! Fancy shmancy! Should be quite interesting, to say the least.

OK, onward and upward, right?

wow - Andrea - don't be so hard on yourself
 

that is what we are all here for - sometimes we just need a place to vent. Hang in there sweetie - and don't ever try to force a relationship where there isn't one. With family we have to put up with them but it is A-OK to tell them politely that they have crossed a line and how would they like it if we pointed out ... their "shortcomigns" besides you are working on your weight and that is all any of us can do.

Take care sweetie - this too will pass and we all go onward and upward sometimes with brief stays at the pitty palace.

So don't be hard on yourself :hug:

Hi everyone. We made it through another day.

Andrea
You don't know me yet but you will cause i plan on sticking around here for a long time. Dont' be sorry for having a "down" moment here. We are here for you through the ups and the downs. It helps me when I see other people letting out their feelings. It makes it easier for me to share. Glad you got through the family thing and you are still with us:)

By the way I love the Mets as I do the Giants. I grew up in New York not too far from Shey Stadium. I used to ride my bike there and listen to the game from the park. I grew to love the Giants since I have been in Cali but if the Mets are playing other teams I still cheer for them.

DD is 15 today. Oh my gosh, how did that happen????

Lots of work for me today and then confirmation class...which I haven't prepared yet. Whoops!!

Hope everyone has a terrific day!

Happy Hump Day
 

i everyone just checking in and trying out my new signature. I think I have been here long enough now. It let me create one and no message that I had to weight So cross yur fingers. So you have to cut and paste this everytime you post or am I doing something wrong. There has got to be an easier way.

http://www.3fatchicks.net/img/bar060...5/155/196/.png

Karen you can just put the link in your permanent sig file and then when you want to update your ticker go to the ticker site. There's better instructions in the help forum :)

-Susan, still waiting to be trusted with a siggie ;)

Thanks Suenami
 

Why didn't I think to look there.

Suenami when did you join. I joined on the 18th of August aand I know you were close by. You should check again. I did not get an email or anything. I just tried it again and this time is worked. I believe you only have to be here 20 days.

Karen

dol
We all do what we have to do. Sometimes it isn't easy. A meal can be no more than an apple or a serving of crackers. Think about it that way. Heck we can eat a serving of crackers on the way to the rest room lol. NIce sig.

lovn
Don't you feel for kids and all they have going on sometimes. Sure glad I am not that age again when I was going to school full time and then had a full time job. My daughter worked 8 hours after school the other day. I felt bad for her lol. She then had to come home and do her chores, take care of her animals and do homework before she could go to bed. Over a 4 hour shift is not something I generally let her do because she just doesn't have enough time to do all the things she needs to do and then get 8 hours sleep. She was always wanting for me to let her work more hours. The next morning after that shift ( someones grandmother died so she worked her shift and picked up their shift too so they could go to the funeral ) she said she never wants to do that again lol.

lets
Isn't it terrible as we get older we have nothing to do with our parents. I have nothing to do with mine. She was a terrible mother and an even worse grandmother. I could forgive how she treated me but not how she treated my children. I am a very forgiving person and help anyone I can but I found out things like, when she was suppose to be sitting them before and after school ( which I had to pay her to do )when I had to work. She was sleeping on the couch and letting my 8 year old go out to the bus stop by herself. That was the reason I was paying her because I didn't want my children at the bus stop by themselfs. When they would get home from school ( 1 hour before I got home from the one job I worked ) she would call them nasty names all the time. This was the reason, at a time in my life when I had to work, I ended up finding a job working 10 hours at night so they didn't even know I was gone. While she lived in the same state I did I all that a " good daughter " should do because she is my mother. That all stop little by little once I was hearing things from my children. Once she moved out of state I don't even talk to her if she doesn't call. We have to take control of our life. One of the things we have to do is get rid of people that make us unhealthy. Doesn't matter what the rest of the family thinks. If they care about us they will be ok with the decisions we make. If they aren't happy with our decisions then they don't care about us and it is time for them to go too. We don't just talk about weight here. We talk about life because it isn't just food that effects our weight. Life effects how we eat. We are here for each other. Sometimes life is hard and we need each other to lean on. You have a lot of shoulders here for the tough times. Don't forget to use them.

Hi Karen, I started August 17. Maybe they don't like my Oh Yeah av but I think he's cute ;) I imagine him filled with veggie juice, not kool-aid.

-Susan

Susan, I know you have to be here for 30 days, so you just have to hang in there for a few more days. Have patience!!

Lovn: So, did you have a birthday celebration for your daughter? Mine will turn 15 next April, so I know how you feel about how did they get to this point so fast!

I have to see if I can take off early today so I can get my son to football practice and get to my daughter's volleyball game. Busy day!

Rennie, DD didn't have a very Happy Birthday. She's really feeling the sting of having parents who "ask too many questions." Earlier in the week she was invited to "party" with a friend after the football game this coming Friday night. Niavely my daughter assumed they would be going to the girl's home with the mother driving them so DD came right home and told me about being invited etc....well yesterday the girl filled her in on the plans. The plans include transportation by senior boys to a neighboring town and staying at someone elses home all together. DD, knowing that I would call the mom for party details, told her friend she wouldn't be able to go. Retelling the story DD had tears in her eyes. I'm proud of her because she didn't get mad at me. She just accepted it. I know I've destined my children to be left out of a lot, but things happened to me when I was young. I plan to keep my children as safe as possible. Thanks for listening.

Diane, Sadly I had no real time to give for her b-day. I sent fun stuff and treats to school, but it was all about football and volleyball practice for my other DD and my DS and getting those two to confirmation on time. We are going to a hotel this weekend in the Dells. It's an annual trip we take with my SIL and her family every year. It's become a habit or tradition for "the ladies" to go to Damon's and celebrate DD's b-day. 15 is just a rough age. She's "too cool" to be driven by dear old mom, but too young to drive herself and so far we haven't approached the subject of her riding in cars with other kids. Most kids who have their license are 11th graders and she doesn't really know any or if she does I don't know it...blah. I'll be glad when she gets her license. She's always been responsible and with her license she can go where she chooses and will hopefully make good choices and be home by curfew! Tonight I'm driving 80 miles for DD's volleyball game and DH is travelling about 20 miles for DS's football game. Younger son is going to a friends after school so he can make it to soccer practice and I think oldest DD will go watch FB unless she has too much homework...crazybusy as my niece would say.
Have a great day all!

Good morning to all. Her we are, September 11th once again. For those of us in and near NYC, this is a very weird day. I still remember it so vividly. But I don't want to dwell on that here, I am sure we will all note the day in our own individual ways.

Anyway, many thanks to Rennie for sharing her experiences with her mother, and for the kind words of support. They are deeply appreciated. It's interesting in a way, I know many other women who are SO CLOSE to their mothers - practically cannot live without them - and I look at them with wonderment and confusion because I am so not there. I'm not jealous at all...I just observe, like an anthropologist, because those types of relationships are so totally foreign to me.

And speaking of mothers, Lovn, I stand up and applaud you...you are giving your daughter the most amazing foundation to stand on, so that she'll go out into the world as a young adult, able to make the right decisions and take care of herself. That really is my big picture...to push the baby bird out of the nest, knowing that I've given him as many tools and resources as I could for him to DO THE RIGHT THING.

On a lighter note...tomorrow night is our high school football team's opening game, at home. Can't wait! It's such a social, lively event and should be quite exciting.

Mets are 3.5 games ahead of the Phillies. By hook or by crook, they're hanging on!

Lets
I do understand what you mean when you see other womans relationships with their mothers. I have always wished I had that kind of relationship.

I have made sure my daughters whole life ( she will be 18 in a couple of weeks ) that she knows how very special and loved she is. Of course we fight, well I yell and she does what she is told as long as I can see her when it comes to chores most of the time lol. That is how it is suppose to be.

I always told myself my daughter was going to be the best parts of me and not the worst. She has been taught and shown from birth she is strong, she is important, she can be anything she wants to be.

Yet, we really can't make choices for our daughters. She is lovely girl that you either really like or don't like at all. She is very opinionated and has no problem with speaking her mind. This is a good thing EXCEPT she has no diplomacy at all lol.

She has had a crush on this boy ( now a young man ) since she was 12. Now at 18 she is going to date him. I don't want the boy anywhere around and time and time again he has shown he is not a good person ( do you know who he reminds me, of Eddie Haskel on Leave it to Beaver ). I only hope A. I am wrong or B she will find this out for herself. It is so strange she turns into a different person when he is around him or even when she talks to him on the phone. My daughter, who is very sure of herself and what she wants out of life apologizes all the time if she upsets him in the slightest way. This is very scary to me.

Here is my lastest hook rug, not including the christmas stuff I am doing. Will have the christmas pics put on in december.

Very nice hook rug! Does the doggie come with it? :D

Deb
That dog is my beloved Bella. Isn't she just the cutest little thing :)

I can see why she is so beloved, she is adorable!

Deb
She is the sweetest little dog and just loves me to death. Doesn't want to be away from me for a second. I really feel bad for the lady who had to get rid of her.

Deb
She is the sweetest little dog and just loves me to death. Doesn't want to be away from me for a second. I really feel bad for the lady who had to get rid of her. You can see my old ratty desk chair lol. I love that chair and have no desire to ever get rid of it :)

Loving the hooked rug, Shy Moment! Sweet doggie too :)

I HAVE A SIG, EVERYONE! Looks like all my whining and complaining really paid off. :D

Love the hook rug, Rennie. Sweet little dog, too.

You all have no idea how hard that rug was to do. No, it wasn't working on the rug itself that was hard. It was keeping Bella from dragging the yarn all over the place because she didn't want me to work on the rug, she wanted me to play. She is such a little scamp. Thank you. I enjoy doing them and if the hands are busy they aren't putting food into the mouth lol.

You said it, Shy Moment, I find that when I am crafting I'm not thinking about food. Probably.

Hi Ladies,

This is a tuff week for me. My period started and ended. I have Post Menstral Syndrome. So, I'm emotional, hungry and tired. I am keeping track of my WW points, but all I really want to do is eat eat eat. I have been keeping within my points and only using a few of my flex points each day, but I still seem to be hungry. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing, and I meant NOTHING, that is going to stop me from reaching my goal. I just do not like feeling hungry and having the temptation. Any ideas would be much appreciated.

It's overcast and rainy today. This week isnt supposed to get much better once the remnants of Ike reach us here in Missouri. The weather isnt helping my motivation either.

On an up note. I went to my morning Parent Aide meeting, but the gal I am counseling had to work this morning. Her MIL was there and we chatted for a few minutes. She had this cute little black kitten in the car. I said it was odd that a kitten likes riding in a car. She was taking him to a shelter, because she had hopped in her car the other day and she didnt know it until she got home several hours later...LOL. The kitten looks like my sons cat that he lost to feline luekemia back in March. I called and asked him if he wanted the kitten and it was a go. So he is coming (and bringing my cute little granddaughter with him) to pick up the kitty on sunday. :yay:

Well, thanks for listening/reading. Hope to get to know all of you better soon.

Julie =)

Julie, sounds like you need a :hug: Yay about the kitty! Sounds like it was meant to be.

luvin
Maybe you can spread out what you are eating more. Make what you eat several little meals. Might help with the wanting to eat all the time a bit. Oh we are getting rain here too. Rain, rain, rain. Going to be down poring for the net 3 days I guess. No camping this weekend. How sweet about the kitten. Nice that the little girl found a great home.

Sue
lol didn't say I didn't think about food sometimes just that with everything on my lap and all around me I don't have anywhere to put food lol.

Sad week for me
 

Just found out that a dear friend who started her breast cancer battle at the same time as me passed away. She had been fighting a recurrence since March 2006 and lost the battle - she fought hard though - her poor body just not up to it - she did not reach her 40th birthday and is survived by 2 young children.

In addition, my mom wants to put my Dad's ashes now into a funeral home, which I suppose is her right, just makes my sister and I sad - but I think we will have a memorial just the 3 of us and do this with mom. He has been gone 3 years now but there are times it feels like yesterday. Now is one of those times.

Anyway - enough of my pitty party - neither Robyn or my Dad would want me sitting around feeling sorry for myself.

Lovin2lose - I think that Shy might have a point. Spread the points out during the day and load up with low point high fiber & protien foods - those stay with you longer than carbs & the like.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend - C.

Sillycat4 :(

:hug: to you.

silly
I am sorry to hear of your loss. It is very hard to lose tose close to us. Prayers are out for you that things in your life will turn out great.