Anyone have tips on how to deal with a mother who tells you one thing, but her actions state the opposite?
Case: Due to my weight gain these past couple of years, I am now the size of my mother. My mother is 25 years older than me and uses the excuse of not needing to be "as serious" as me about losing weight since she is already married and an old lady.
Both of my parents are harping on me to lose the weight. Okay, fine. I agree that I need and want to lose the weight. But what bothers me is when I'm not hungry and my mom asks me if I want to eat anything that she has made for the rest of my family. I politely say "No, I just ate." Then she pushes a little bit and says "Are you sure? It tastes really good." ARGH!!! WTF? If I give in, then they harp on me about not having any willpower yet when I don't give in, then her feelings get hurt (fyi...she expresses her love through cooking....so if you reject her food, then she feels like you are rejected her love).
How would you handle this situation? Btw, I'm temporarily staying with my family due to giving emotional support while my father is recovering at home from major surgery. I can't wait to move back to my own place so that I don't have to deal with my mom's tempting food and all the junk food around their house.