You are in the right place. We are all struggling. Most of us have lost weight before. I know what you mean about the "when I lost weight before" thinking. I sometimes berate myself for not being able to do it some days.
Lately, I try to look at myself like a sister or best friend. Sometimes I say things to myself that I would NEVER say to someone else. A little more TLC for me these days. One minute at a time.