voodoo just ignore them they must be jealous or something!

good morning Ammi i see i am chasing you again on the exercise thread!

Thanks, Patti, though what they are jealous of I don't know, lol. Certainly not my figure or looks!
xxxsharon

Just a quick HEY! Gotta go back to the car shop and pay the guy for his mornings work on my brakes. I forgot my Cash Card earlier.

AMMI - Your success leaves me speachless... which is quite a trick! AWESOME on those inches lost!!!!!

Hello my Beautiful Ladies!


I never thought I'd be so happy to NOT see the number 4! :lol: It has definitely been a while since I had a decent loss…I've been so up and down for so many months…not that I've been trying hard to lose, but still, nice to see it happening after all this time.:D

Now – I just have to keep it off. Easier said than done considering all the stuff I have to do in the next week. Friday night we leave to go to an SCA event northeast of Kansas City. So we'll be camping until Sunday, and that means camping food! In addition, if we don't take our own food they'll sell food, but that means usually hamburgers and sausages, that sort of thing and there's a potluck dinner on Saturday…I still don't know what to take to that! I do terribly on eating in social situations. :no: I'm really going to have to work to keep my eye on the ball.

Sharon: Just because you are paranoid doesn't mean that people aren't out to get you. :rofl: Sorry – I saw a t-shirt that said that once. Seriously, that would make me crazy if I noticed something like that. However, I'm usually so oblivious to the people around me that I'm not dealing with at that moment that they could be wearing "Down with Lilion" across their foreheads and I probably wouldn't notice. Do you speak to them and get ignored? I think I'd probably kill them with kindness and see what happens there. Thank you for the nice comment on the photo. I agree, I think I look younger too. The other day my MIL commented that I look younger with longer hair – Rapunzel here I come!

Robwen: I love your avatar too. Hope your poopy-ness resolves itself soon!

Kenya: I see you are down 4 more lbs! :bravo:

Halloweengirl: That's how you do it – right back on track the next day!

Chrissy: I don't see the difference between my 2005 "during" pic and the new ones, but thanks! I was going back over the boards and saw back when you were getting the dress. You've done quite well! I'd hang onto that dress – It'll be fun to see how big it'll get on you! Nice to have that male attention! You GO!

Vicky: :welcome: You've done well so far! This is a wonderful place for support.

Ayanna: You said "For as long as I can remember I have been fat but did not feel fat." That was me too! I've really never felt fat and that was always a stumbling block in my ability to lose weight. You've come to the right spot to share. Welcome out of lurk mode!

Heather – WTG on those hose! I can't remember the last time I was in a queen in stead of a 3X – I wear a 4X now, but I probably could drop down a size…I hadn't really thought about it. I went into a 4X so many years ago I never even thought about how much I weighed at the time.

Katt: Hope everyone at your house is feeling better!

Ammi: You know, I never bothered checking out total inches. I don't know if I could find any of my old inches from dressmaking…I'll have to see! :bravo: - quite the accomplishment.

Thanks everyone for putting up with all my photos lately. When they posted that red dress photo I was just so horrified! I showed them to my DH last night – I still can't believe I looked like that! I thought that dress was flattering! :lol: I think I may have to print that and keep it where I can see it – maybe on the refrigerator!

Must run…Hello to every one I missed! :wave:

way to go Lilion!

Ugh – more BF money drama.

So two weeks ago we went through this major wrangling because my BF wanted to spend $300 on a chest freezer so that he can make lager beer. I was not happy about this. I wouldn’t normally have a problem with him spending this, except for the fact that he has a LOT of credit card debt. To me, this type of purchase falls squarely into the want category (when comparing to need) and I was really against it. He whined and fussed and complained about how brewing is his one hobby right now and how he had been really wanting this for months and how it will save in power bills because he won’t have to turn down the AC to brew (this argument I totally shot down). Anyway, the long and short of it was I was annoyed, but he had to make his own decision, and he decided to go and buy it.

Well last night on ebay he saw this computer rack ($200) that he absolutely HAS to have. It is the one he has always wanted, it would save money in the long run because he wouldn’t have to buy x and y and blah, blah etc. My response was no – you made your choice and you bought the freezer. He whined and talked about how much of a once in a lifetime opportunity this is. I was so angry I could barely talk about it. I had just started to think that maybe – just maybe – I could come to terms with him on financial issues, and now I feel like we are back to ground zero. He already has a rack, he doesn’t need this as much as he wants it, and he just does not get the concept that he can’t have everything he wants if he can’t afford it. I really think I need to take his credit cards away and if he doesn’t have the cash then he can’t spend it, but that is taking more responsibility for his stuff then I really want to commit to at this point.

Is there any hope that he will ever change or am I just being delusional? I just don’t know if I can build a life with someone who can’t distinguish want from need financially.


Here’s just a few personals because I have been so naughty in this area recently –

Lilion – Your pictures are great! There is such a huge difference.

Chrissy – Wow on the pics too. That is so great that you have such a good comparison. I would definitely keep the dress and keep doing progress pics in it – at least until they become totally indecent!

Ammi – Way to go on the inches! That is amazing. You may not be able to see it, but we sure can from the pics you have posted. Have you had any updates from your mum?

Sharon – I would say kill them with kindness. Ignore their rude behavior and just start talking like they should accept you. Who knows why they stopped. Maybe they are friends and they were talking about something personal that they would have stopped talking about no matter who walked up.
Halloweengirl – I figure any step in the right direction is a good one. As you said, your Chinese meal was lighter then you ever had before. The important part is making increasingly better choices, not becoming perfect overnight.

Vicky - :welcome2: I think Kim is on Nutrisystem too. No matter what plan you are on the need for support doesn’t change and that is where 3FC comes in.

Heather – Congrats on fitting into queen hose! Of course I would be happy if I never had to wear panty hose again in my whole life, but I am sure at some point I will put another pair on. I do know that the heavier I got the more uncomfortable they became. I can’t remember the last time I wore them.

Lilion -- Congrats on that loss -- maybe the scale will keep moving DOWN!

Nancy -- My husband has had a lot of the same issues in the past as your BF. It HAS gotten better for him, though I will say that we still have a LOT of conversations about what we need vs what he wants. We are now in a much better situation financially. I will say, however, that he acknowledges this is a problem for him and wants to work on it (at least theoretically). The desire for change came from him.

Nancy,

you can't change him. if you want to stay with him you need to keep ALL your finances seperate at all times.

Lillion - Congratulations that is awesome :) I really want to break into the 250s myself.

Nancy - it sounds like your BF has no motivation to not spend money. He wants instant gratification. I used to be a spender too but then I looked at my situation. Did I always want to be in credit card debt? How much extra money would I have if I didn't have to pay interest rates (even though my interest rates are really low)? How much more money could I put towards retirement if I didn't overspend? One day, he could find motivation to change his ways but it doesn't sound like he is going to. And you are only noticing the bigger expenses, smaller expenses add up. How much is that brewing "hobby" of his costing him? Find a cheaper hobby is what I'd say and be lucky you have a computer is what I'd say.

ohhhh that would have made me mad!!! Sure sign folks are talkin about ya!!! How rude! Next time walk by them and call them trifflin bit**es hehe. Okay thats not nice, you can always say poopy bit**es lol

Oh crap i posted after i was told not too. Ill get ready for my spanking!!