We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.
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Motivational Monday
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Nancy: That is good advice you are giving to yourself. I think it can appy to all of us. We need to remember that we are all different sizes and weights with different circumstances and especially different matabolisms. We will loose it at different speeds! Great advice. I needed to hear that one too.
Teahoney: You talking early about cleaning out the frig. gave me the idea. Thank you. I am now done cleaning my frig, kitchen, dining room and livingroom plus I worked in the garage a bit. Productive day for me.
Toofatforu: There are a lot of good sugar free items around. I just had a sugar free ice cream bar. It was really good and it hit the spot for me because I am a sugar freak.
i found some good sugar free cookies the other day but when i got them home on the package it said not for weight control? there are sugar free and you can have 4 for about 140 caolries? any way i still will watch it about eating them .
ARGH! SAME HERE! Our issue was that I "caught" him doing something he shouldn't have been doing (come to find out, it wasn't nearly as bad as I'd thought, but it seemed pretty bleak at the time). Anyway, part of his argument was, "Well, you were never meant to see that, so I don't know why you're so upset." WHAT?! Whether I was MEANT to see it or not, I DID, and this is how I feel about it, so we need to talk! How do they NOT understand that?! But, like Ammi said, it's men are from Mars, women are from Venus thing--and it will never change
You know what, THAT is the problem with my ex. She is more a man than a woman when it comes to feelings and communication. I am used to dating women. And I cannot speak for ALL women, but the ones I've dated talk feelings out, understand that feelings don't have to be justified, etc. So relationships don't work out for one reason or another, but the communication in my relationships has ALWAYS been good. And then *bam* CULTURE CLASH. I'm dating a straight man trapped in a woman's body - and she behaves EXACTLY like my father!!! Talk about a nightmare form the depths of Hades!.
I tell you, I am NEVER doing it again. From now on, if they don't know how to communicate, I don't care what's between their legs!
Nancy~ No bake cookies? I have a recipe for them and they are SB friendly.. if you have any questions concerning the program give a yell to me,,,, You are losing weight my dear,, and I am just waiting for mine to stall.. it is going to at some point,, You take care ,,and I am sending good vibes your way...
Last edited by MsCrockett; 05-01-2006 at 08:12 PM.
Sorry for being scarce all...and I missed about FOUR threads, so I just don't think I'm going to be able to do individuals...but I did wanna congratulate Ammi!!! Way to go on that -6! Your hard work and determination is starting to pay off! Keep it up, girl!
As for me, it's been crazy these last few days...(I've been saying that a lot lately, haven't I?) Friday, I went to Andrew's house, and on Saturday morning, we went over to a gym that offers a cheap day pass...I did 30 mins on the treadmill, and decided to go ahead and give the elliptical a whirl. I managed to do 10 minutes!! (I'd never done one before, and MAN, it kicks your @$$!) We were going to go mini golfing, but of course, the weather turned icky, so we decided to go up to visit my friend, where we promptly got tanked... Lol...on Sunday, we came back down here, and I came on home...and went to bed early, cuz I was so worn out. Today, is where it became crazy. I had a job interview at 11:30am, then one at 1:30pm, then my Psych study session at 3:00pm, a meeting with my advisor at 4:30pm, then ANOTHER interview at 6:30pm...whew...The meeting with the advisor was awesome, and they think I'll be able to test out of 2, maybe even THREE classes, which means I'll finish college a semester early, which would make me VERY happy...now I'll tell you about the interviews...oh boy.
#1@11:30am: This place called something Imports...the ad classified it as an entry-level marketing job, and they said that they were looking for a secretary, so I thought I'd give it a shot. It's NOT what they said it was...there was NO secretarial job even OPEN. What they want to do is send me out to companies and SELL stuff to them. Oi. I told them thanks, but no thanks, and left.
#2@1:30: At the gas station...the interview went well until she goes, "why did people hate you at Walmart?", and I'm thinking, WTF? And she goes, "when you worked there, I saw you talking to some other girls, and you were complaining about your work schedule and using profanity, and the other girls said that they hated you when you walked away"...I got to thinking, and she must have seen me on my VERY last day of employment. I usually don't swear all THAT much, but on that day, I was very sick of all the bullcrap, and was fed up...and of COURSE, she had to see me on THAT day...so who knows? Maybe I'll get the job, maybe I won't. *sigh*
#3@6:30: They want me to sell KNIVES door to door. Another thanks but no thanks...not for ME. Especially not when I have to buy a $200 kit to go with it...no thanks.
And to top it all off, this morning, I went to go print out copies of my resume, and the disk kept getting caught, and it got stuck in the hard drive at school! They pried it out, and I got copies, but the disk is ruined. Just my freakin' luck....ugh.
This week is only going to get crazier....
Tomorrow, I have my English final, and then Wednesday, I have Health final & the last test in my Criminal Justice class. Then, Thursday, is the dreaded Psych exam, and book buyback...and for the rest of the week, I'll be searching and searching for the alusive job.
Well, to all who were wondering, yes I did call my friend last night. We had a nice long chat and some laughs with no suggestion of getting together..well, not immediately anyway. He said next time business brought him to my part of town (we live about an hour apart) he would take me to dinner. Now, if I can just figure out how to lose 100 pounds before he is ever this way again I will be just fine!
Actually one of my friends had told me not to worry because, for all I knew, he had gained weight too. I didn't think that was very possible because he is one of those long, lanky types (6'6"). For the longest time he was around 215 which was thin for his height. Last time I saw him I did notice he had filled out but definitely was not fat. Anyway, what my friend suggested (that maybe he had gained weight) couldn't have been further from the truth. He mentioned we was going to be going skydiving with a friend and to do tandem you have to be 220 or less so he told me he had lost 20 since I saw him last. Sheesh! I girl can't win!!! Anyway, I am glad we talked and relieved there will be no get togethers in the immediate future.
MariaLucia - I am glad you enjoyed your dance class so much. I really admire you! And, hey, we are close to the same age. I turned 36 in November. Closing in on 40 now!
wyllen - Great idea on the 100K challenge. I just did my part with a 20 minute workout. Not much, but better than nothing! Thanks for organizing our monthly challenges for us!
michelle - I don't believe I have "met" you, so...Nice to meet you!
SueMarie - What's a 2x2 Challenge?
dogpal - Thanks for your kind words. That's what I love about this board....others who understand! I am so glad to hear you are enjoying your Curves workouts. I think that is great for you!
Ammi - WOOHOO!!!! Congratulations to you on losing 6 pounds. That's a great big step in the right direction, isn't it? Good for you!!!
Nancy - I am glad you didn't take my words too harshly. I worried later than I may have hurt your feelings. My nickname isn't "Xena" for nothing. I can be a bit tough at times. Anyway, I do think if you and BF can come to some terms you both can live with, it's doable. I know in me and my hubby's case I suffered from the delusion that it wasn't that bad or the tried-and-true "he will change when we get married." Yeah, what a dope I was! As for your food "weirdnesses", boy can I relate. And the word you used to describe it: "feral". I've never heard it described better. I am glad you are more in control. I hope to be there soon.
teahoney - Your fridge story made me laugh. If I had my money back for all the "mystery" items I have found in my fridge and freezer I think I could retire! It also reminded me of a time my dad came to my house for dinner. I have a WW recipe for Jalepeno Chicken which is basically a marinade made with jalepenos, cilantro, honey, soy sauce, and a few other things blended up and pureed. So, it's a very UGLY marinade. Like green slush. Anyway, my dad had gotten to my house before I got home and he called me at work and goes, "You REALLY need to clean this fridge out, you've got an entire head of lettuce liquified in here." I said, "Dad, that is not a liquified head of lettuce, that is your dinner!" I could barely contain myself laughing. Anyway, he was doubtful but in the end he liked the Jalepeno Chicken.
kayley - Congratulations on potentially being able to test out of several classes! Sorry the job interviews didn't go as you had hoped today. Keep trying!
Well, that is it for me. Tomorrow's my appt. with my therapist. If I can only be brave enough to ask about being on meds again. I don't know why, I just can't ask for what I want. It's an issue.
Oh, and for you calorie counters out there....how many calories do you eat per day? I am trying to decide whether to continue with WW or to switch to calorie counting on my own. Thanks!
Kayley -- I'm glad you said no to those disguised sales jobs... I don't think they're designed for success!
Xena -- I calorie count and eat on avg 1800-1900 cals/day. When I started calorie counting I weighed about 280 and ate about 2000/day on average. I really love my eating lifestyle -- it's very comfortable to me! You can wander over the calorie counters forum and poke around: http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=172
Glad you like the new exercise challenge!!!
I actually gained a pound this week, but I'm not recording it or worried about it. I know I didn't eat badly, so I'm sure it will leave again soon. Just some reshuffling of some sort...
Well I just finished with Laundry, Dishes, Garbage set out. hung my new "not as fat" clothes up and cleaned out my dressers and put the "was so fat" clothes away.. shewwwwwww.. Now I am checkin in on you all and then off to study for my Final in Billing and Coding tomorrow.. Class is not untill 4pm.. so If I dont get to study hard tonight , I have all day tomorrow.. Went and bought a Jeep today, Actually I saw it in the Trade paper and sent my dad for it.. I have 1000.00 invested and dad has 600.. so we will see how it goes ,, I want it for Mudding purposes only.. however, knowing my dad, in about a month he will have "forgotten" that I am the primary owner of it , and trade it or wreck it or something,, his selective memory is so aggrivating, but I still jumped in the deal with him... so why *****,,,,, Made bbq chicken, green beans and spaghetti for the week,, just cooked it today, while I was doin all my other chores.. . Oh I got into a pair of Pants that I have not worn since 2002,, the 2002 clothes are slowly fitting,, and these are Girls Levis.. I tend to wear mens clothing when I get weighty.. just more comfy,, but the girl clothes are comin out.. YIP YIP
Kayley.. Sorry bout the interviews.. did the girl know you.. or just remembers you from Wal Mart,, and if she took that as an impression.. I think she may not be a very good boss... ya know?.....good luck with tests, interviews, and all the OP things you do
Brenda~ oh Brenda~ uh,,, Brenda~ where are you at?
xena~~ Been soooooooo there with not wanting to meet up with old friends.. but I just end up getting over it.. It is me! love me or not.. IT IS ME,, but I do understand you.. Make sure and report about the therapist and meds..tomorrow
Dogpal~ um,, ummm,, Does your hubby have a singe brother or a friend like him?>>????????????????????????????????
Last edited by MsCrockett; 05-01-2006 at 09:58 PM.
Thanks, Xena, Wyllenn, and Crock. I have yet another 11 jobs I'm going to call about tomorrow, and on Thursday, I'm going to interview at a place...taking down "the man"...haha. We'll see what it REALLY is.
How is it 10:41 already?!?!! GAH! English final in the morning...going to be EASY, but I still freak out!
Well, I have failed at doing the personals...and I am just going to quit trying cuz I don't think I'm going to make it. SORRY everyone. I am certainly thinking about y'all and following your victories and your trials.
I had an emotionally hard day today and I could not stop myself from eating. I ate healthy food, but we all know that for me, that's not the point. L and I got into a fight yesterday. This time it was my fault...and I feel awful about it. She walked around work today like a puppy with her tail between her legs. Did I mention I feel awful?
I love her so much, but we are so freaking incompatible it's not even funny. I want emotional closeness and that makes her freak out and pull far, far away which only makes my wanting closeness even more pressing. It's a horrible pattern and I'm just tired of hurting me, and her, by repeating it.
I need to get some distance from her soon. If not, I am afraid that we won't have a friendship after this breakup is over.
I worked on my job hunting today for a couple of hours. It was hard because I really don't want to go. But not wanting to go is like not wanting to stop myself from eating MacDonalds. Neither this relationship nor MacDonalds are good for me.
Still, I miss her terribly. And, I feel incredibly lonely. All I want to do is lie on the couch with her and cuddle, with soft music playing in the background. It's pathetic, really, me feeling like this.
Sorry to dump all this on you. I just feel so emotionally hungry and empty and I'm not sure what to do about any of this.
Well I'm back, sorry you are feeling bad Maria, can't you leave the job or your partner leave?
Ammi, WOW!!!!!! I am so pleased that the weight is coming off AND the meds are agreeing with you.
Nancy, at least your guy seems ok with you losing weight, about money matters, I don't know what to say. I dumped an ex for being silly and getting into debt, Steve & I are in agreement about spending, we never buy anything, other than food without consulting the other, even though I'm a mum at home & bring in no money at all.
Crock, great about taking out all your old clothes & bringing in all those smaller ones. You should be so proud of yourself,
Kayleigh, hope the job hunting goes well & someone gives you the job you deserve, its so ******* when the job advertised is nothing like the reality, why lie to people? They should be done for mis-representation!
The holiday was pretty good, my parents didn't moan!!!!! But TOM was awful & I had a bad tummy ache but I walked MILES & MILES for hours every day.
On a night out Steve disappeared when I looked he was talking to two guys & a woman, she made a point of hugging him & smirking at me, if I hadn't felt so weak & faint I would have gone over and asked what the **** she was doing! It turns out they all work together. Nice of him to introduce us, but he didn't AND wondered why I was angry!! Why can some women be so *****y? and for no reason? I looked at her, unwashed hair and no make up, I AM FAT but at least I make the effort AND I'm not bad looking when I make the effort. SHE WAS A DOG!!!!! even if she was normal sized.
Well *****ing over, I will try & catch up properly later,
bye,
xxsharon
PS Zelma, you look fantastic with your hair done & in the two legs in one leg shotxxxx
Maria - You aren't pathetic! You are going through a hard time, and letting go of the person that you love, so I'd be surprised if you DIDNT feel this way. I hope you get to feeling less lonely soon.
Sharon - The ONLY reason I can see for lying, is that the job is so horrible that they HAVE to lie in order to get people to come in, and then they try to lure you in, or trick you into working for them. OMG!!! I don't think I would have been able to keep my cool if something like that happened with me & Andrew!
I've got my English final in about an hour....ugh. NOT looking forward to this. The madness of this week begins....NOW. Hope you all have a great and OP day.
300+ And Ready To Try Again...#895
Lol...on Sunday, we came back down here, and I came on home...and went to bed early, cuz I was so worn out. Today, is where it became crazy. I had a job interview at 11:30am, then one at 1:30pm, then my Psych study session at 3:00pm, a meeting with my advisor at 4:30pm, then ANOTHER interview at 6:30pm...whew...The meeting with the advisor was awesome, and they think I'll be able to test out of 2, maybe even THREE classes, which means I'll finish college a semester early, which would make me VERY happy...now I'll tell you about the interviews...oh boy.
Anyway, I am glad we talked and relieved there will be no get togethers in the immediate future.
