heh, no, I'm not a moderator--just sometimes an overzealous member :p

I know it's been mentioned that we change the threads every 30(ish) posts because it makes it faster for the pages to load. With everyone's colored text and crazy signatures, it gets hard on those without super internet connections (plus I'm sure it slows the server to have everyone have to load a million posts instead of 30 :dizzy: ).

Maybe we can change it and just do a new thread every week? Or if that's still too much, maybe just a new thread every day so we're not flying through 2-3 threads a day? It seems it might make it a bit easier to keep up with everyone. I know if I scrolled through a week's worth of posts, I would be more likely to NOTICE that someone was missing, whereas jumping from thread to thread so quickly makes it more difficult. Or not--maybe we should just keep doing what we've been doing since it's worked for so long.

Hi everyone :wave:

I haven't been able to really post here for almost 2 weeks I think. :( No disrespect is intended if I don't reply to people, but there's just so much going on and like Tracey--once a thread closes I pretty much don't go back to read it. I can't because I would be here for HOURS catching up.:dizzy: I do try to tell you all how much you mean to me though--and it's true. Jilly, Julee--I notice when you two don't post--I like reading your stories :)--so don't get sad and discouraged. After all, if you haven't been able to go back and re-read the previous posts you probably missed someone asking for you. :hug: Anyway--that's how I feel about it. I know that no disrespect is intended and I certainly don't mean to disrespect anyone myself. 'Nuff said.;)

I'm doing okay--I guess. My personal life SUCKS right now, but at least I've gone to the gym for the past 3 days. I started going again at 8:00 a.m. because if I go at 10:00 a.m. then I start doing other things and (conveniently) "forget" to go. :mad: At least I figured this out and my friend agrees with me--she works 3rd shift and finds it hard to go at 10 too. So HOPEFULLY I'll be back on track for the April exercise thread since I've also totally NOT made my exercise goal for March. :p Well--I've got to go. My bf thinks I'm on-line too much so I have to go play nice. Men--you can't live with them and you can't shoot them. *sigh*;) Have a good one ladies.

:grouphug: Vicki

Hi all! Well, I managed to drop to 244.4 today for WI. The result of nothing but breakfast and 2 cups of coffee by 11 a.m. I'm sure if I'd had water to drink it would be higher! :lol: But I'll take maintaining over gaining...no matter how I managed it!

Julee: I quit posting here for a while too and only was over on the Old Hen's thread. I don't think anyone here noticed. But I've mentioned before I'm incredibly thick-skinned and oblivious about such things. You and I began posting here a the same time and I'm sure I'd miss you - I tend to look for your posts. I mentioned Tasha because she basically said goodby - so I assumed she wasn't planning on coming back. If people just don't post for a while I just figure life got in the way and they'll be back.

Girls, I think we ALL feel slighted some times and that we ALL probably have inadvertantly made someone feel slighted some times. Maybe we ALL just need to try to be more forgiving or more considerate as the occasion calls for!

I intend to try to be.

This is pretty much my own issue as well. If I did skip over anyone, please don't think I do it intentionally. Usually when I am reading, there is a LOT to digest as it is--you all are a chatty bunch (and I mean that in a GOOD way :D ) and it's hard to keep up with all these good topics. BUT if someone needs anything from some information I can either offer or look up and bring it back here via either the board or PM all the way to a :hug: , I will give my best effort to do just that.

I have been this way too and I am seeing from the discussions that maybe I should say something.


Vicki - Recently my BF told me he felt neglected because I was spending my evenings at the gym. It is OK if I am in school or I work late, but being at the gym got him upset. I told him I would try and go earlier, but wouldn't stop going. I hope your BF gives you some room on the computer thing.

Lillion - The SCA sounds perfect for me. I think I will wait awhile until I have lost some more weight so that I can participate physically. I want to learn how to use a sword and sheild, wear armor, the whole works! Maybe I won't like it as much as I think I will, but I can't wait to give it a try. It will be yet another motivating factor for me. I have always loved that kind of thing - more from the fantasy side than reality.

LAnne: Didn't I see you say you'd lost 5 lbs this week??? I meant to comment on that! :bravo: And hope those tests go okay...I've never had anything invasive on my heart, but anything else you can imagine, I've had done. Nerve wracking, no doubt.

Nancy: Don't wait! You can find an SCA group where you live for sure. I assure you, most of our members are hardly delicate flowers, at least not here in the mid-west! :lol: And I assure you, either heavy weapons or fencing is GREAT exercise. Lots of ladies our size dance too...also excellent exercise. (Of course, I do none of the above! :p )

Ammi: Good to see you!

Just to clarify....

I'm not trying to get pity or be a whiner. It's just that there were days that people commented on so-and so and such and such being missing...and I felt slighted by that. I know that are all busy and can only do so much, and no this won't drive me away. I wanted to post about this last week but I chickened out for this very reason. Nancy's post just gave me the segue I needed to say what I felt.

Lilion...for sure I notice when you're not posting...because as we have discussed so many times, I feel like you're my kindred spirit!

Thanks for responding...I'm all better now. From time to time I just need to unload what I'm honestly feeling or I take it out on the wrong people for the wrong reasons.

*big hug for everyone*

honestly ladies, there has never been a feeling here that anyone was unwelcome or not needed, or even not missed when they are gone. things fly by here so fast that sometimes we miss it, be it a post, or an absence. a lot of times people leave here when they are having a hard time. sometimes its just sheer busy-ness. either way. you are all VALUABLE members of this thread. you are all amazing, inspirational, beautiful women. please dont be hurt over things that are so inconsequential. there are so many more important things going on here. im not trying to minimlaize yoru feelings, but its important for us all to remember that we are here for a reason. to support each other, to be a friend when we need one, and to look damn good in lingere.

Julee - what is your show? when is it? where is it? do you need help with anything? im a theatre kid myself and have done many stage shows.

ammi - good to see you arround

amy - any time you want me to come do your makeup, just send me a plane ticket :)

Kayley - i LOVE it. i did the college thing. it just wasnt for me.

ok so heres my real issue today. im STUCK. ive been plateau'd for 5 weeks now. ive been teetering at 288.? and its driving me insane. does anyone have any pointers for getting over a plateau? ive gone to the gym, ive watched my points, ive eaten the right things. its driving me insane.

also, any favorite WW recipes? i just got a new oven and im dying to cook stuff.

Hello all
I had my weekly weigh in yesterday and I am happy to report that I did not gain anything. But sad also, because i started to excerise last week. It must be turning all into muscle already ha ha.
Your right these threads go by fast. I am still trying to learn how to use this area.
kids want dinner, time to make a good choice of what to eat.

Yeah, and the scary part is I didn't even try that hard..especially when I had some lemon pie one day that my neighbor had given me..I LOVE lemon pie and it was hard to say no! But still, I guess it was all the walking I had been doing that made up for the "damage" of sorts.

Since my first surgical attempt last September when it turned out they couldn't do the gastric bypass, but had to end up untwisting a part of my small intestine, taking out some scar tissue and removing my appendix (which, as part of my rare medical condition of the digestive system they discovered, was also on the wrong side of my body), I had found that I can only eat so much before I have to stop; otherwise I get sick. I guess in a way, that can be a good thing, especially since I picked up the habit not to drink anything during a meal, but AFTER it. That way, it also helps me not get so full too fast.

Hi all!

OK... freaking out a bit about WI tomorrow... but trying to prepare myself to take it like the mature, calm adult that I am. WAAAAAAAHHH :fr: :faint: :headache: :rollpin:

:dizzy:

OK... I admit it.... I feel just a tad whiney inside when I don't get a response to something I sad... or if I'm gone and no one mentions that they noticed. BUT.... I am taking an oath right now to work on that silliness of taking it personally. I realized I need to do that when I realized that there have been several times when someone has responded to someone else about something HUGE and... I never saw the huge thing said at all inthe first place.. SO..... an A HA moment there... if I can miss other people's posts, they can certainly miss mine. WHen there is a lot to read and we skim... another easy way to miss.
So.... as long as a popular word is DIET around here :) let's all go on a LOW DRAMA DIET as I tell my staff ...
I vow not to make assumptions... and
I vow that, when I'm feeling bad or ignored, I will speak up appropriately (like Zelma :) ) and keep it simple... and
I vow
I vow to be patient and caring when others need a little reassurance too.
(are ya'll picturing me with my right hand held in the air?? :) )

Ahhhh..... freedom from my little annoying voice that likes to pout and whine.;)

OK... I can't find who said it.... but whoever said to Kayley --- "if she doesn't curve the grade, maybe she should go to Curves and work it out" (ok paraphrase).. made me LAUGH OUT LOUD! FOr some reason, that really cracked me up.

we all need lots of fun and laughter in our lives... yeah for fun and laughter.:D

Kayley - T-Tapp is kinda different. It is sorta like exercise but there is more emphasis on little stuff like which way your thumb is facing before you raise your arms and stuff like that. It reminds me of Callanetics only weirder. I dont really know anything about it. Someone on one of these threads mentioned doing T-Tapp and I asked about it and did an Ebay search and got a tape to check it out. It did make my shoulder feel better which is good (hurts like **** right now though). The tape I got is a sitting and exercising tape so maybe the regular ones are different, i dont know. But she was all about the position of the shoulders and making sure your hands were turned out the right way and stuff like that.

I hope you enjoy your visit with your friend! I would be nervous too.

OH GOOD LUCK ON YOUR MIDTERM!!

Julee - Thank you! I expect I can just put the apple in the gadget instead of a pyrex bowl and follow your instructions. Dont know about diet soda though, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth. The gadget is cute it is a big white plastic apple that is split in two to make a top and a bottom.

Julee I have been missing so much and backreading that I dont notice who else has been gone. I have not been able to do the daily thing in a while. Maybe it is a complement that people did not automatically think you had fallen off the wagon. I am sure all just thought you were tied up with your show, wedding, fiance', and work...you certainly have enough irons in the fire!

Jill - I hope you do decide to take advantage of an early -morning workout. It should get your day started off in a good way. Not to mention helping you get back into losing mode.

Valerie - You sound so upbeat, it is great! I am glad you got to do the killer exercise class! You would think, with the national obesity crisis we keep hearing about that the Girl Scouts would come up with a healthier fundraiser.

My mom bought some cookies but Ive only seen one box and it is on the couch. I take it she bought it for my brother but those evil cookies stare at me the whole time I am downstairs.

Jill - I totally sympathize with you on the weight thing. But while I see some people with much, much less to lose than I have, I also check the stats and see so many people who have lost so very much and that encourages me. I know I am enormous to me but to some people I may be at one of their mini goal weights. We just gotta stick together and remember everyone's goals seem so impossible at times no matter how much or how little they weigh. We are each on our own journey.

Nancy - yeah, what you said.
I am with you on the Liver, yuck! I can still remember what it tastes like from childhood when I had to eat it. double yuck!

Zelma - I just read your post and would like to smack you for allowing your self esteem to go so low. But I do the same thing so I would have to smack myself to and it would just be a bad scene.

You are a veteran of the diet wars! First you are an excellent example of what can be done for all of us! Second, you have been making a relationship with all these women for so long (I presume) that I would think they would find it insulting for you to suggest that we think that way of you.

You seem like a very nice person and you are always ready to offer advice based on your experience (which we all need) and you are always very supportive (again, we all need that). I could understand if you felt like you did not need us anymore because you are so close to your goal and may be ready to move on to something else. But to think that we no longer value your presence here is just wrong, in my opinion. FWIW.

Amy - I went to Richard's website and asked them about it and they said they could not find the instructions because it was such an old item. I got it free because someone messed up my order of something else R.S.

Lilion - do you really think Tashabella is not coming back over that one misinterpreted comment? That is so sad!

LAnne - Sounds like you are right on top of your health situation. That is very good! I hope it all goes fantastically for you and you are up and around ASAP.

CONGRATS ON THE 5 POUND LOSS!

Melanie - I'm with you. I did not realize that Tasha got her feelings hurt twice, maybe she is a bit overly sensitive in her interpretations of what is being said.

Wyllenn - I bet you are a great teacher. What is the difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist? I know one can prescribe but there must be other differences.

Amber - I live in Sugar Land just outside of Houston. How have you enjoyed the unseasonable weather? Our fig and grapefruit trees are already setting fruit.

brandnewme - I agree, timewise it is ofter VERY difficult to do individual replies or comments. If you are on dial up you have my condolences!

Luan - good luck with the eyelashes...I used to use them on halloween and some other times but never got the hand of it. They would glue on diagonally or have a bunch of glue on one place and none in another...I finally gave up. I had a girlfriend who always wore them, i would find the darn things everywhere, little centipede spidery lookin things in the oddest places.

You might try cycling your calories. You know eat 1800 one day then 1200 the next day and so on but keeping a regular weekly average. Maybe that would kickstart you again?!

Tracey - I agree, this is wearing me out and making my shoulder hurt. But since zelma said what she did, I thought I would do personals. I was behind on threads and this is taking me a couple of hours to do and I participate in 4 topics here at 3fc. That is why I have not been doing personals, the time and effort and the pain in the shoulder, not to mention the damn mouse which I have to wait to replace next month due to money.

Kaylee - about your overweight instructor practicing what she preaches. Perhaps she used to be much bigger and maybe she is in the process of losing weight so it is #1 thing on her mind to exercise and eat healthy??? Anything's possible.

ms. crocket - SB cookies???do tell, please.

Catherine - very interesting food for thought! My mom joked with me that when the four of us are in the car I should sit on the driver's side back seat when she sits on the passenger side front seat for the car to be more level. I guess it really isnt a joke, huh?!

Sharon voodoo- Dont take it on yourself about Tashabella. You made an innocent comment and it was misread. Some times people personalize generalities because of their own issues like self-esteem issues and I think that may be what happened with Tasha. She took your general comment and applied it only to herself. It is sad that it happened but there is just so much you can do in this situation to try and make her understand it just was not about her or directed to her at all. I think by pming her and the other responses in the older threads that everything that can be done has been done.

vicki - good for you for figuring out your exercise situation and taking care of it for yourself!

Ammi - good for you for setting up a drs appointment! Take care of yourself!

Sherry - Congrats on not gaining!!

This post is riduculously long due to my attempts at personals. and my shoulder is screaming at me. I tried to say something to everyone if I missed you please accept my apologies. I think after this I will stop trying to send a word to EVERYONE and just make comments where I feel they are appropriate.....like if I have a question of a certain person or whatever. Missing a day or two around here is a killer and I dont need the stress of worrying about if I said hi to each individual each time i post. I dont always have the time, I am in pain, and believe it or not, sometimes I just dont have anything to say. Each of you are valuable to me as part of my support network and as individuals. Although I have not been here long enough to really feel i know most of you. If I was a great conversationalist with a warm word for all I meet, I might have more than one in-person friend. As it is I have a lot of my own problems (as we all do) including depression which means I shut down and just dont function at times. Sometimes I am doing good just to post a hello Im here or to just read if that much. I am NOT looking for sympathy, I have no need of that. I am just offering an example of why I disappear sometimes or have little to write.

We need to remember that we all have our problems and our obligations and this site is a tool to help us with our weight loss and for some, to build relationships with others. I totally expect the people who have been here longer than me to have more of a relationship with each other than they have with me. Some of you chat outside of this thread and may even exchange emails and phone numbers and such. It goes without saying that some of us are closer to each other. That is not meant to slight anyone else, it is just a relationship that has blossomed into more of a real friendship. I mean we are all friendly, but we are not all friends with each other, more like aquaintances with something in common...if it builds into friendship great, I am happy for those who achieve that relationship. But the rest of us need to remember that some people have connected moreso than have we. Some people have known each other longer than we. It is not realistic to expect each person to be equally treated by each other person. Well if you are friends with one of us you must be friends with all of us and take the same care in addressing each of us all the time. not realistic. Expecting someone to miss you when you dont post and post something about it is setting yourself up for disappointment and so is expecting an individual word from each of us daily or whatever. I agree that if you say something to someone in particular you would expect a reply; however, as we have seen not everyone reads all the posts everyday, so it is entirely possible that your comment/question was never seen by the person you addressed.

We need to remember this is about losing weight and getting healthy and one way to be healthy is to not put expectations out on other people.

I feel terrible that anyone felt left out or no longer wanted but where did the feelings come from....did anyone say to you anything to make you feel unwanted or rejected or did it come from that evil little voice inside you that always tries to make you feel inadequate and unwanted???

This is not a popularity contest, no need to see who responds to whom and how often or who is missed when they are gone...be here for yourself, be genuine in your postings and by that YES, I am saying it was totally right to speak out about how you are/were feeling about the postings to you or not, and feeling unwanted and invisible and all that. Definitely post the truth, always. But dont be too surprised if the answer to your question comes from inside yourself rather than from us. Because we all support everyone of us and welcome everyone who choses to participate here. But I know that if I decide to stop posting here, the threads will go on without me. I doubt it would even cause a ripple of thought for everyone. There is just so many people coming and going and posting and all that it is too easy to be overlooked.

So if you dont want to be overlooked, post. If you post something you expect a comment on from someone, I suggest you PM them directly so you are more sure to get a response.

And remember we are all here for each other. Each of us with our quirks and personalities (good and bad <me>) and our shortcomings.

I hope I have not offended anyone. I just started typing and it all came out.
Peace