[lizabj]

I just joined recently to look for some help and support. I have had a really rough 2.5 years and have gained a lot of weight during that period. In 2015 i was right at 300lbs and got pregnant. My daughter was born with a lot of complex medical issues that caused us to live away from home and stay at the hospital for 4 months. During that time we ate out almost every meal and never went anywhere else. When we were finally able to get home it was hard on us, adapting to a new baby with medical needs, pets, work, etc. We kept eating out and I started being more and more depressed. I got let go at my job and ended up in an extremely toxic work environment in January 2017. That took it's toll on my health too. I became incredibly stressed and started to get sick. We weren't going out to eat a lot but i never exercised and worked 50+ hours a week. Right near the end of that job i was having a lot of pain in my right side and found out i have a fatty liver and gallstones. The doctor told me i should consider WLS but i can't think of anything more scary to me. So i cut out most fats and continued trying to eat better. In August I quit the horrible job and got a new wonderful job and it's very flexible. I'm virtually stress free and just about as happy as i have been in the last few years. Last week i started getting heart palpitations that have been pretty constant so i went to the dr to see if something was wrong. Multiple members of my family have them so I'm not super worried. Well the dr did blood work and is sending me to the cardiologist next month but the blood work came back less than satisfactory. I'm not prediabetic, but close, and I'm scared I've already hit the point of no return. I want to lose weight and be healthy but i don't know where to begin. Another problem i have is that my husband loves me like this, all 364 lbs, and doesn't really want me to change. I don't know what to do because i don't want our relationship to change because i do. I'm sad. I hate myself for letting things get out of control. I don't know where to begin or what to do. Any advise or similar situations or stories would be helpful
Thanks to anyone who posts.

[somedaysunny]

I was 333 and I started feeling heat palpitations. I'm only 23 so it really scared me and no family history of anything but high blood pressure that I know of. Well I did some googling and apparently caffeine can cause palpitations so I quit cold turkey. 1 month later I went to my Dr and mentioned it to her but she didn't care, the nurse felt it skip a beat while she was doing my pulse and that was the end of it. Im now 3 monthish out from no pop and I'm not having palpitations but I do have chest pain. But that scare is what motivated me to lose weight. I have lost almost 40 pounds now since August. To start off all I am doing is counting calories. I was eating roughly 3,000-3,300 calories a day. I dropped to 2,500, then 2,000, then 1,800, and now I'm at 1,600. My weigh loss has slowed a little since I went to 1,600 so I might go up to 1,700. Just about a month ago I started walking at the gym. I still eat the same bad junk food just a whole lot less. So you could probably do the same and see results.

I would track my calories for a few days and see how much you eat on average and cut down from that. I know it's not technically the best but later on when my weight loss slows down a lot I will start worrying about macros then. I'm not married and never been but the way I see it, your daughter NEEDS you to be around for a long time and I'm sure you want to be there. Don't think of it like your being selfish, your doing this for you and your daughter, your husband, her dad, should understand that.

[lizabj]

I appreciate you letting me know what you are doing and some similar things. I am doing my best to loe weight now despite my feelings about what may change between my husband and I. There won't be anything but sadness for him if im not around anymore so this is much better. I have been walking a mile or more most days and continuing eating my healthy diet. For the most part we do really well, it is just getting past over eating and eating fast food at lunch. Luckily my new job encourages people to lead healthy lives so it makes it a lot easier. I was really down in the dumps emotionally about it all when i posted before because i didnt realize how bad things had gotten. Im even slightly considering weight loss surgery to aid me because there is so much to lose. I will just keep trying and hopefully results will start to happen. I want to be healthy and around for my family for many years to come.