quick post..

It is only Monday and you ladies have been chatting up a storm..I LOVE IT!

Had family over and watched the Suns game. :(

QUESTION::: Has anyone ever read or tried THE BIGGEST LOSER BOOKS???
If so what are your thoughts.

I got an appointment for Thursday for the dentist. I am glad I had some left over percasets from my gallbaldder surgery

Kind of a venting post...just lol...more family drama that has had my blood boiling since Saturday. Well...I'm taking my life back! I can't fully do that today, but I can sure as heck take the steps to do that today! Even if it is ONE step..it is still a STEP!

This all started on Saturday when we had a "family" visit with my BF's parents. His Mom was actually nice that day, blah blah. The BF and his Dad are developing a business venture, which I was drafted in to help...which pretty much means I've done everything on the design side and even since the marketing guy I warned against working with didn't work out (yeah surprise surprise, I guess he didn't realize that when you steal content from other web sites in a ploy to prove you've been working on stuff and pass it off as your own that would be taken badly. Especially when you forgot to change certain key phrases and linkage in said content which shockingly came from other peoples hard work. Yeah...that USUALLY doesn't work out stupid marketing guy! Hey it only took six months of hellish working conditions because BF's Dad wouldn't see the truth for the evil one to leave.) :devil:

Sooooo...I've done everything on the design side. I did the logos, the brand identity when the :devil: *evil one* fudged that up with incredibly bad work. Misspelled I might add....I mean who misspells a logo and then PRESENTS it as THE concept??!! This guy did...but anyhow, the design of two web sites, content development (I don't exactly write it in full, but I do add in, layout, blah blah...), coding, back end set ups...mini-workshops geared toward teamwork. Endless hours of trying to get BF and his Dad to friggin' work together well... the list goes on and on. I did get paid for my work, even though I didn't feel comfy with that, but BF needed the money. Whatever...okay so Saturday...

Started out annoying, ended badly when we had "business" discussion. Now I've been putting web sites together for awhile, so one could say I well know what I'm doing. At the very least I have a good head on my shoulders and the entire process, which is a design process that every designer has (though it is customized from designer to designer so I have my own process that I go over in depth with Clients) this man has FOUGHT me the entire way. "I want this" "I want that" "I need this" "I need that" "I need to show the design to 80 people and then they tell me my opinion!" So I'm NO! NO! NO! I always try to please my Clients. I go above and beyond. However, there are some things I do not budge on and that is my design process, which is there for a reason. Even the most stubborn Client I've had, aside from this guy, will follow it. Why? Because they trust me, they trust my point of view, and they know I'm only doing what is best for THEM because at the end of the day that is what it is all about!

So, basically Saturday I got chastised for a few things. One in particular being how he CLAIMED I didn't write up a particular document when I DID, IN DETAIL, WITH NOTES and my BF and I are stunned and we both go "yes the document is there on the project management server, you've even commented on it!" he replies with "NO" and says how displeased he is because it isn't what he asked for....(by the way I informed THEM about this document, not the other way around as I always do and I explained what to expect, as I always do.) This went on and on and got a bit heated with BF and I literally sitting there in shock because this whole thing is insane. So, blah blah blah...I leave with my blood boiling :mad:. I elect to get some advice from a few colleagues and they are very much "yeah yeah, sounds like a difficult client!" and give me advice on how to handle this. RULE WITH AN IRON FIST! STAND YOUR GROUND! If you let the Client rule you it is trouble, which I know, but unclear on how to deal with a completely insane, confused, and controlling person...lol. I needed advice. Sooooo...*nods*

I come back with a firm stand, put some things straight, and vent about some personal feelings as this is "family" after all. I did this in email...ignored. I get a "suggestion" of a "better method" of handling the step of the design process we are on and even though BF doesn't like it, the Dad is pressuring me. My response...NO we are doing it this way. lol. I know this game "do it my way...but I don't know what my way is...oh can you do my way again? that isn't the way, not my way, do it again...no, not good enough, do it again." Yeah...I don't think so. He honestly wanted BF and I to write up content, four different ways, and then vote on it by including a lot of people. Not happening. I know this game as well "do it again, do it again, do it again, ugh I can't decide, do it again, do it again, ugh I can't decide." LOL!

So...upon this I have been reflecting. Yeah I'm taking my life back. Period. Weight....life...job...yeah. Everything. I've done enough putting myself last, I've done enough trying to please takers! Forget it! LOL! I'm D O N E!

I'm glad this happened. It has pushed me into this defiant attitude and I'm not leaving it. Now I just have to really start this journey and I'm already doing it. I got into contact with old friends, colleagues...I might have some work coming in. HELLS BELLS! I'm also saying NO!

I haven't been reading since Saturday morning, the thread I mean, going to catch up later on today. Thinking of you all! :hug::hug::hug::hug:

Going to do more personals later. First, you ladies are right, no one has the right to make me feel bad about myself. I know I allow that, I need to stop doing that. No one has that right and I do deserve better! Thank you ladies! :hug::hug: Yeah I will also post my pottery soon. *HUGS* Lindy so glad you went and did it! :D Pink hang in there... *

I'm going to be reading this thread more in depth, but right now I have to jet off to get some work done. MY OWN WORK! YAY! :D

thought I would drop in and say hello. I am back to losing again finally.Food is going great and so is exercise!! Lots of gardening to do today. I was so sore from working with the hoe and rake I could barely move on sunday.LOL Cant wait to have fresh veggies.

I am back after having days of storms , I don't dare turn the comp on with it's a bad one, had a tornado touch down not far from me. I have a lot of catching up to do , I haven't gained or lost but the two days of Chinese food and then subway hasn't helped either but I am getting back on track as of today. I am glad to see all of you are doing well and will get to personals later.

azcyn- I love my Biggest Loser books. I have the calorie counter book, the cookbook, and the fitness book. Where in Az are you? I'm coming home to AZ for a visit for two months this summer and looking for a workout buddy. I'm going to be going to the Lifetime fitness in Tempe, AZ. Just thought I would throw that out there. Or maybe we could do a weekly accountability meet up or something. I think your progress is amazing!! Congrats so far.

On a side note, hope everyone is doing well today. I hit my 100lb weight loss this past weekend so I took my official 100lbs lost pictures today. I'm not sure I see a huge difference, but I know there is something changing.

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/mini...ml#post3296400

Hope everyone is having a good start to the week!!

Good Morning all,

Pink: It sounds to me that you may need more water hon. Be careful.

Tiffie: Thanks for the suggestion on nutritionist. I will check into the amount of schooling it will take. I think a lot. :)

Cyn: Good luck at the dentist!

Jacquie: Hugs.

Debbie: woo hoo for back to losing! It is so great to see your smiling "virtual" face! Hugs.

Tracy: Glad that you are safe. I have some family in Monett Missouri and I think they had a tornado touch down there.

Shar: Woo hoo! Congrats on the first 100! You look amazing! Hugs.

Hey everyone else that is MIA. Hope you are all safe and sound.

I had a very bad day yesterday and I am planning on doing some fasting with protein drinks today only to maybe spend more time with God today. I am feeling really blah physically and Joel and I got into a big ole argument last night that didn't help much. I think I am having "leftover" argument feelings today :)

I hope everyone has a wonderful day.

Blessings all,
Annie

Lindy – congrats on going to graduation!! That is an awesome achievement!!! One step closer!

Pink – the people who love us know best how to hurt us. If an interviewer doesn’t want to hire you because of your weight, you don’t want that job!!! I know I wouldn’t want to work with/for people like that! And, several small meals!! Not 700 calories over 13 hours! Be careful!

Shar – thank you for the invite for the Biggest Loser Challenge! I joined!

Annie – it is never easy trying to figure out what you want to be when you grow up. When you are limited by external factors, it is even harder. Can you look into becoming a dietician or nutritionist? I like the idea of a WW leader, too.

Million – positive thoughts for you for that little bumped down that will feel SOOO amazing!!!

Amy – my 50 pound reward was a manicure. Maybe I’ll have to do a salon day for 100. ☺ Congrats! And, yes, it is fun to go to the movies with the kids. My daughter and I went to the midnight showing of Harry Potter when the last one opened. That was a blast!

Catherine – no kidding!!! Especially when you miss one for a couple of days. Ouch!

GirlHealThyself – what are kettlebells?

Dink – congrats on getting rid of mil. I love my mil. It is my mother that is the “mil” issue!

Sameen – welcome to the group!

Tiffie – yay for almost summer! I used to teach high school. My husband teaches. Love summer!!!

Neon – I’ve been the same way lately. I think a lot of us come and go as time allows. Sometimes it’s nice to just sit back and watch. I know I have been having issues with the weather. It’s hard to stay energetic when it is 65 degrees in mid-May. And rainy.

Jacquie – this is why they always say that business and family don’t mix. Congrats on reaching the end of your rope and taking a stand!! You can’t control others actions. You can only control your reactions. Good job!!!

Dgramie – there’s nothing like homegrown veggies. Congrats!

Tracy – glad you are safe! Saw those bad storms on the news. It calmed down by the time it got here.

Shan – Congrats on 100 pounds lost!!! That is my next goal. Fantastic!!!

I had a fabulous morning that nicely offset my issue yesterday. Part of my outing yesterday was to buy a new bra. As my old one was getting looser, I felt like the girls were heading for my armpits. So, I bought the only one in my size that Kohl’s had and wore it when I took my son in to school this morning. And was wearing a shirt that I love that I have only recently been able to wear, again. I got so many compliments!!! One teacher even stopped in the office because she was walking by and saw me from behind (!!) and had to congratulate me on how good I looked!! They all know about the surgery and are so supportive! I’m feeling very good and ready to focus on eating right today.

As far as my bad day - I think I was just testing my limits. I have issues with depression and self-doubt (imagine that!) and I think I am really starting to see where food came into that. I am feeling good today and meet with the nutritionist in a bit. Not going to share my episode with her. That’s what my therapist is for!! And, I haven’t been logging, so I’m sure she’ll tell me I need to. Yeah. I probably do. Oh, well.

Greetings my Peeps!

Just a quick note to let you know the dentist visit went well. The edges of my front teeth feel weird being rounded. He filled in the trough I was making by grinding my teeth and the softer marrow on the inside was scooping out. Sounds gross, but it wasn't painful. The drill always freaks me out, but there wasn't any pain and I didn't have to be numbed. yay!

Hugs to all!
Ratkity

Jacquie: I love reading your posts..Seriously!!! No one should question your designs process..heck they asked you for help! Side note: I have big problems with deciding what to do. Meaning..this sat a friend asked me to go out to a drag show..I really dont want to but i dont want to hurt her feelings. BUT how many times have my feelings been ignored or hurt. WHEN you start choosing you it FEELS so good!!!

Shan84: I live in Scottsdale. Close to Tempe. My friend and I are thinking of buying one of the books. I have tried to get from the library first but it is on hold after hold lol.

Today I am going to focus on more water. I did not do so well yesterday

Though No One Can Go Back And Make A Brand New Beginning, Each One Of Us Can Start From Now And Make A Brand New Ending....

Wishing Each One Of You A Joy Filled Journey To A New Ending.

Lindy

In a meeting...phone conference...listening to the KNOW IT ALL talk non-stop, criticize everyone...using terms he doesn't know...

*doodles pictures of canons firing at a guy who talks all the time and knows nothing about anything...draws a target on him*

LOL Jacquie!!!! Please post the doodles lol :)

Hi guys! Hope you're doing okay! My weight is back down today, thank God. I am back to tryint to lose as of this week.

Be back in a bit, I need to clean up this e-coli factory I call my apartment.