Hello all,

This week has been really really tough. I have been battling a really bad pity party!
For one I'm feeling really alone. My parents are in Asia visiting my sisters, my fiance is out of town again and it seems all my friends are busy with their own lives.

But the major thing that happened was when my fiances mom, sis, daughter and grandson stayed overnight at my place (Dr appt for the grandson). Everything was fine until I thought I heard them say that it looked like I lost weight. So I said yes I have lost 30lbs! Then they said, "I said the dogs look like they lost weight". I felt like absolute crud! I was embarrassed and humiliated to think they would compliment the dogs (btw, they have gained a bit not lost!) and not me! Argh! I know it shouldn't bother me but it really did.

The last thing is that I'm trying to quit smoking! I'm trying to cut down gradually. So far I'm doing ok with it. I just feel that I wanna eat more. Mix the cravings with loneliness, not a combination!

I have been doing ok with my eating. Basically staying op.

I guess I just needed to vent and get it off my chest.

Thank you guys for listening!

Aw, I hate how one comment can make me feel like crap! But you're doing fantastic! Just keep on keepin' on! And I can totally sympathize with the lonely feeling, but you could use the alone time to your advantage! Do something for yourself and just yourself. I always indulge in some kind of embarrassing behavior when I'm all by my onesie, like listen to cheesy music or watch an old B-list horror movie! Just don't give up!

Oh geez. You know, that sounds like exactly something that would happen to me! It's like everyone involved needs to open mouth and insert foot! I bet they were a little embarrassed too. Hopefully next time they'll be a little more observant and realize just who's taking off the pounds.

Also kudos on the trying to quit smoking. I quit smoking around the same time I started my weight loss and it really was worth it. Over the years I have started and stopped a half a dozen times, and every time I quit it gave me the licence to eat what ever I wanted, I would gain 30+ pounds every time, and then would start up smoking again when I would try to lose the weight. (Which would only help for maybe the first 3 pounds). I decided this time I wasn't going there...MY POOR FAMILY! They have dealt with a lot over the last 18 months...

I'm thinking they probably was talking about u(since the dog has gained weight) but to be catty they said they were talking about the dogs. I have catty in laws, can u tell?!?!

My #1 tip with quitting smoking is Put the down. Having that first one in the morning just makes the cravings even worse.
#2 Sugar free gum, u must have gum to keep all other food out!!!!!
#3 Good Luck, U can do this!!!!!!

Betty Grrl ~ What an unpleasant moment... Don't let it deter you from the fact that you are doing a great job! I can sympathize with the smoking... I've been mulling over it for days now... I need to quit. I think I'm going to throw away the cigs I have left at the end of the night and start in the morning.

Hope this week is a GREAT one for you!

That's so mean! But don't feel too bad- most of the people I work with haven't said a word even though I've lost over 20 lbs and gone down a size in pants and two sizes in shirts!

At least you know you have lost the weight

If they really were commenting on the dogs I'm sure they felt very stupid and humiliated for not noticing (if they really didn't notice) or not commenting. That said I have inlaws who like to comment on everyone elses weight loss instead of mine (especially if everyone else hasn't lost weight) so just put it down to an inlaw thing. Keep going - losing 30lb is a very big achievement. Keep going and when you've lost another 30lb they won't be able to help but notice it

I've lost about 50lb since I last saw my inlaws so actually looking forward to hearing what they will say about it when I next see them I expect they will say how much weight their son has lost (about 5lb) and ignore me - but then again my weight loss should be too obvious by then for them to ignore

Thanks guys!

Its actually comforting knowing that others have felt the same way I have! I will let it go and move on. By Christmas they will sure see a huge difference!

As for the smoking I have decided to try the nicotine inhaler. I tried the patch but it would give me shooting pains up my arm. But I am gonna quit no matter what! At $300 a month for cigarettes its just not worth it. Plus, my fiance quit last week so total we will be saving $600 a month! And with Christmas just around the corner that money will come in handy (I mean the pugs do need more toys you know lmao).

Thanks again ladies! You all are truly wonderful and amazing! Keep up the great work chickies!

I started out at a similar weight to you, and it took 60 lbs before anyone noticed...then several told me later they'd noticed earlier but were hesitant to say anything. You never know what people are thinking. Remember, you're doing great! And people WILL notice, believe me.

I agree with DCHound, that most people don't notice until we've lost a lot of weight - but don't let that bumm you out 30lb IS AWESOME! I will be so proud when I have lost that much - you should be too! and PS if the dogs are getting fat - why not take them on a walk? win/win for everyone!

*hugs*

Your weight loss is awesome! Keep it up!

Oh, man .. when they do notice you're losing, rub it in their faces.
Flaunt it!

That's my plan w/ certain people.

Sounds cruel when I type it out. lol

Just be proud of what you have accomplished and don't let catty in-laws bring you down. Remember you are doing this weight loss for yourself...30 lbs is awesome, just keep up the good work!