I'm probably doing this wrong, dont know if I shoul dbe starting anew thread or carrying on with the old one! I thought I would try a forum as I just cant talk to anyone face to face about my weight issues - terrible I know! I thought a forum might be ideal support.
I have thrown my scales away and gone and weighed myself at the chemist this morning, on past failed attempts I have found myself stupidly weighing myself after each meal etc so thought this was a positive step. I didn't think I would be able to get on the scales in a packed Boots but I did and was quite proud of myself. Again on passed failed attempts I exist on next to nothing for a three days then give in, so I feel I have down well today with homemade soup for lunch, lots of fruit,a brisk walk (in the snow!) and 20 minutes of an exercise video after work. Desperate to make it work this time! I would be so grateful for any help and support people could give and am more than happy to do what I can to support others.

Nice to meet you shashasha! I would love to be diet buddies. I have been here for a while and had some success in the past, but I am starting fresh and this is Day 1 of my journey so I also need all the help and support that I can get.


Are you counting calories or following an eating program?

Thank you for the support, it would be great of we could help each other along as we both seem to have a similar amount of weight we want to lose. I am not following a plan or counting calories - I have done all those things and never got anywhere. I am going to just try my hardest to eat a lot less, eat more fruit and veg, stop as soon as I am full and exercise (gently!) as much as I can. I think one of the key things missing in the past has been someone to talk to, as although I have plenty of people in my life I just cant ever bring myself to discuss my weight with people which is why I hoped a forum might really help me. I am hoping that this approach will work better for me! Do you have a plan?

Hi shashasha and jess;

I am starting out once again (grrr) and around the same as you both.

So far I have been just trying to stop the junk and drinking my water, and walking a bit. I'm not sure whether to follow a plan (and which one) or whether to just eat properly and exercise. I know what to do .. I've just had trouble staying focused to do it!

shashasha, it sounds like you are getting off to a good start with ditching the scale and walking. That's great you have more guts than I do, to go and weigh yourself in a packed store. Congrats!

I would love to hear about both your plans and progresses.

Good luck!

Hey y'all. I need buddies too! I am active on some other forums, but I need some people to hang w/ that are in this for the LONNNGGG haul. Sometimes (like today) I feel like it's going to be 100 years before I get this weight off.

I am so sick of this body. It is making me tired & feel old before my time. I'm only 33, but feel 80.

I'm following Weight Watchers, which I have done before w/ small success. I always lose weight & then give up. I don't know why, it's probably something mental.

Thanks Christina, I was just praying the scales didn't annouce my weight to the whole store!! I feel the same as you, I know what I need to do it's just about actually doing it. Your photo is gorgeous by the way!

Good to hear from you Jill, it does feel like a loooong haul but I'm sure we can do it if we all keep each other motivated through the journey!

Hi Jill;
I have tried and stopped so many times, but the important thing is for us to not give up and keep going. I keep thinking that sooner or later I have to get it right! Hang in there. If we stick together and help each other out along the way, we can do this.

Oooohh thank you sha .. It's amazing what a black high-neck top and a good camera angle can do LOL

Hi Ladies! It's great to hear from so many people that share the same goals. Although I appreciate support from anywhere I can get it, I can't help myself from hanging around the 300+ and 100lb forums the most. I remember what it was like at lower weights and it was a struggle, but it's nothing like what we face at 250 and up. This is the highest my weight has ever been and I notice a HUGE difference just in the last 20 pounds.

Maybe we could start our own little weight loss group!


I wrote in my diet blog for the first time in months today and it was very therapeutic. I recommend it to anyone that is looking for that extra bit of self-support.

As far as my current plan, I'm not following a specific program. I've done Fat Smash in the past and that was quite difficult. Very regimented. I'm basically just cutting out the junk foods, watching the calories/fat/sugar.
Maybe after I get to a more comfortable weight I will start a program. The key to maintaining your goal body is to make a life change and that is what I need to gradually learn to do.

Hey ladies;

I totally agree with you Jess about what you said about it being more difficult. Gosh, I remember when I had 15 lbs to lose, and thought it was the end of the world!

I have been hanging out around the same forums as well. Everyone here is wonderful and supportive, no matter what size or goal they have, but I definitely find it easier to talk to people that are around the same weight range as me, and have a bigger amount of weight to lose.

I have tried so many diets .. the last one being Crack the Fat Loss Code. After 3 weeks, I realized it is not something I can do for the rest of my life, and I know that this has to be a lifelong change for me. I can limit bad fattening foods, but let me have some fruit and yogurt!!

I think for now I am just trying to make little changes and see where it takes me. I don't drink enough water or exercise enough (who knew!) so that is top on my list.

Jess, any kind of journalling is good. It is very therapeutic, helps clear the cobwebs out of the head, and I also find it's a good reminder for me on occasional bad days. A little nudge that there are good days too, and to hang in there and keep going.

We can do this girls!

We should start own our weight loss group!! I am totally new to the whole forum thing but feel better talking to people who are about the same size as me. I started my blog yesterday and although it was hard to actually write down what I felt, I too found it really therepeutic and have done it again tonight. Throughout the day I did keep thinking I would be able to write positve things in my blog if I stuck to the plan. Hope you all had good days!!

I would be happy to buddy up with you ladies...I just started in the past two weeks...and I am new here. I understand what you mean about not wanting to talk about your weight with anyone in person...it helps knowing that the people here understand!!

I also need diet buddies! Especially ones who know how it feels to have so much weight to lose. It sometimes feels hopeless, but there are enough success stories on 3fc to prove it can be done... we just need to become those stories!

I tend to be disorganized when it comes to eating, so my plan is just that: a plan. Over the Christmas holiday I made a menu for all of January. 3 meals and 2 snacks per day and I don't have to decide what to eat, I just look at the plan and make sure I have the ingredients. So far, here's what I noticed: I have to force myself to have a morning snack. I'm never hungry before lunch, but if I do have that a.m. snack I don't overeat at lunch. The other thing I noticed is how wasteful (in money and food, but also time) my old way was. I bought food impulsively and then figured out how to make it into a meal. So for me the key is planning. I'm going to work journaling in later, but right now I'm just getting used to being organized when it comes to eating.

Hello again!

I've done it all....Jenny Craig, Atkins, LA Weight Loss, Weight Watchers, Calorie Counting, Fat Gram Counting, Personal Trainers.....geez that's a lot of failed efforts & a TON of $$!!

So what's different for me this time around? Last January I did LAWL for the 1st time. It was hard core! For the 1st 30 days they really limit your food to whole, natural foods. I learned to eat veggies I've never eaten, really learned how to cook healthy for myself, etc. And I stuck to it for the entire month. Not only did I lose 30 pounds that month, but I felt freakin' awesome. That energy level is what I strive for now.

But I couldn't stick to it long term, it is a very restrictive diet. Basically a list of what you can have & nothing else. So I figured if I take the good stuff I learned in LAWL & apply it to a more flexible plan like WW, I should do well.

So far so good & I'm on Week 3. I feel much more clear headed & in control. My struggle right now is that I seem to be abusing the flexiblity of WW. But I've been really sick so the fact that I've stayed on plan at all is amazing, even if my choices could've been better.

I've been eating alot of processed junk & need to get back to the natural whole foods that make me feel so good.

Helloooo

I was just thinking about how I feel about my scale lol...I remember when I first got on the scale and actually looked at my weight. I was so embarrassed and devastated actually. Then I started my weight loss journey and found out my scale was faulty. Buying a new scale and seeing that I didn't weigh what i thought was equally as depressing lol. I guess when you're faced with the "truth" it makes you feel like you can't hide or run away from it. You can't say "well I think I'm around.." because you ARE this or that weight.

I remember the day I stepped out of my shell and said outloud what I weighed and what I used to weigh, at the time I had lost some weight. Saying I weighed around 340 pounds when I started my journey was hard because I was telling my man this lol. I don't know what i thought would happen, but I was shaking and feeling very vulnerable in those moments. The thing is, my man just was happy I was being more open about things and that was basically it. Now I tell people what I weigh, talk openly about my weight loss, and love being open. There are things I do still keep to myself in regards to my health, but I'll get over those eventually. This forum has helped me become more open as well and I think it is a great and wonderful supportive system to help people get out of their shells.

As for my plan, merging into raw food/vegan, calorie counting chickadee... That is about it...lol.