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aarrg!! im so frustrated! i seriously dont know what to do here
my best friend of literally my entire life. (ive known her since she was born) has told me that she doesnt want to come to my graduation because i have invited her exboyfriend, whom im good friends with, and was before they dated. they dated over 6 years ago and although there was a LOT of drama (no one is disputing hes a jerk) hes still my friend. this is supposed to be an exciting day for me. its the only graduation im going to have, and she cant put bull crap drama from a lifetime ago away for one day. im so hurt right now. i shouldnt have to choose, and i think im not asking too much for her to just suck it up. im inviting 60 people for gods sake. there is a WHOLE football stadium for them to sit in. and she just cant handle it. i just dont know what to do. he has offered to not come, but i dont want that. i shouldnt have to choose. and she has offered to come to the afterparty if i uninvite him, which im not doing. to top it all off shes driving down and taking a weeks vacation to do this whole thing. shes visiting other people too, as shes coming from Montana. i basically told her that if she cant be a grownup then she should save the gas money and not come. in the same breath she said that she didnt want to make this about her, but doesnt care that shes being selfish because she doesnt want to be around him. its not like they have to be anywhere NEAR each other. AAARRRG!!!! i realize that there is a painful history, but she has a TOTALLY different life now. she has a boyfriend (whom shes bringing), a new car, a totally new everything. im not asking her to deal with anything. im not asking her to talk to him or be friends, i just want her there. is that too much to ask? |
Johnnie, just let me know when you want the cool weather sent down your way!
The new clothes are a great NSV! I'm so glad that you got some that make you feel so good and ones that fit so you can see how much smaller you've gotten. Keep up the good work!! Anne, yes we did have snow! It melted pretty fast so it's just wet now. The sun IS shining though. I got out there and did some yardwork too and I didn't get far because my arms gave out. I definitely have to get my weights out and build up some muscle. I'm sucha weakling. I really admire you for all the weight training you've been doing. Debi, it's great that your daughter got to be with your DH while at the doctor. It must be hard for both of you to have to go thru these trying times. I tend to go to bed when I'm hungry too, just so I won't eat. I hope you get your allergies under control. Take care. Luan, I'm hoping that she will think about it for a while and realize that she's ruining your day and come around and show up at your graduation. At least that is what I'm keeping my fingers crossed for. Working in the flower beds is really hard, especially this one. I had planted English Daisies and they spread out ALOT and I didn't know that they would do that. So they more or less have taken over the whole bed. I have to dig way down to get the roots and they are so compact that I have to take so much dirt with them, and just throw them away. They have tons of little roots that go everywhere. I am keeping some of them though, to plant out back by one of the big trees. The wind will blow the seeds back so they won't land in the grass anymore. They are so unruly!!!! We're going to have to bring in dirt just to fill the one flower bed back up. So needless to say, my arms are worn out from having the tug of war with those roots. I still have 1/2 a bed to go with those little devils. I don't know if I mentioned here that I ordered some clothes that were in clearance so they were super cheap. I ordered them in large, hoping that I would be in that size for next winter. Well they got here today and the sweater and the long sleeved tunic already fit me. They are a bit tight, but not really that bad. I don't want to send them back because I really like them and they don't have them in the smaller sizes so I guess I will just keep them. I thought the tunic came with the flannel pants but they didn't so I had to order them and I ordered them in a 16. I KNOW it will be a while before I can fit into those!! Hope everyone is having a great night Debbie |
Hi ya'll!!! i'm sooooo behind that I have just decided to start here. LOL
things have been going good. last week i was up 4 lbs but that is from not making the BEST choices at the events i was at last week. i'm struggling to get back into the groove of things. i think DH has fallen out of it too and probably won't go to WI with me this week.. I think i'm going to try counting calories instead of exchanges and see how i do with that. i find it easier than trying to figure out the exchange for everything you eat. Debi - so the quakes woke you guys up too? i didn't feel the 4.5 on Friday morning or the one the other night around 12:40. i was working during the first one and dead asleep on the last one. however i did think our house was going to be ripped off of the foundation during the 5.2. i thought it was a tornado and Zack thought it was the rapture. i'm really glad that there wasn't very much damage. that's always a blessing well i'm off to bed nite! |
Johnnie :carrot:WTG:carrot: I was smiling so much as I read your post, just think a few months ago you were struggling to unpack shopping SITTING DOWN!!! Look at you now! Getting new clothes in smaller sizes is SUCH a treat enjoy it, you deserve it! xxxxxx
Debbie, glad it's not just me suffering!;)lolxxxxx Zelma, you lucky thing, getting to meet some of our US 'friends', how long are the flights?xxxxxxx Catherine, thanks for the PM I'll ty & sort something out soon, at the moment money is really tight but the second I get a few quid together I'll look into the postage costs & exchange rates (would a Visa payment be accepted? I've only bought things from abroad using my visa before, never cheques) Hope it warms up for you soonxxxxx Luan, great to see you again, I'm sorry your friend is being immature, though I have no advice to offer. If the guy is willing to not go to help you and she isn't willing to give an inch it shows you who is the REAL friend who has YOUR interests at heart. Enjoy your graduation, what is it in, something to do with stage/drama/make-up?xxxxxxx Ratkitty, ooh why is it guy's bottoms are SO small,;) no matter how big the rest of them are??lol At least they got back to you & are sorting you out though they really ought to throw in a 'free gift' or something for your trouble!xxxxxx Gotta go & catch up on housework...sigh... the house is a tip :oand I don't feel like cleaning, hoovering & dusting lol. I'll have a smoothie & then get on with it! xxxxsharon |
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I have been around 3FC for a long time, but was out of the loop for the last while. I am back, and ready to try this yet again. I now find myself weighing even more than I ever have in my life (305) and much more than I ever thought I would have allowed myself to get to. I've been reading a lot of the posts, and I know that of anyone in the world that could possibly understand, it's all of you. Today I feel more encouraged and more hopeful than I have in a while, and I can't wait to read your stories, and maybe share some of my own. Christina :) |
Christina-Welcome, I certainly understand that feeling of disbelief that I couldn't possibly weigh that much. I was in the hospital with a kidney infection once, and they brought this huge scale on a dolly into my room to weigh me. It said 535, and I just freaked. I completely lost it. I wanted to jump up and down on it, just to break it. I couldn't accept it for a long time, and basically gave up even attempting to watch what I was eating. That lead me to almost eat myself to death. My next visit to the hospital was even worse. I finally decided I wanted to live. I'm glad. Living is much more fun.
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LUAN: I think your friend shold go and get over it! It is your day not hers :)
Heather_DW: WTG on the getting out and walking!!! As for me...well I am doing ok. Making pretty decent food choices I think. Except yesterday I ate a muffin at work that must have had something in it my body did not like..(I have food allergies BAD) and I woke up at 1230pm wheezing and swollen and my hands and feet were itching so bad!! I had it comming out "both ends" I quickly popped in 2 benadryl and delt with it for 2 hours. I think it was the walnuts in the muffin...everytime I eat something with walnuts it messes with me. Lesson learned..I didn't need the muffin!! The older I get my food allergies change without notice. It is just one day I cant eat something I have been eating all my life. It really sucks!! Well all work is calling, and although I am sleepy and still not feeling up to speed I gotta go!!! Have a great day yall!! |
Since I've started walking outside.. the last 5-7 days or so.. the scale hasn't moved. What's up with that?
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Catherine: Please pm me with the information on how to purchase your book. I would love to read it.
Rat: Sorry about the bike seat. Hope the new one comes quickly. heatherdw: I think if you want to continue to walk to see your hubby at work, don't let ANY of those ladies and their remarks stop you. Poo to them. Yes, walking or any change in your exercise could cause your body to retain water. Don't stress. You are doing everything right sometimes our bodies just have to take a break and maybe you are loosing inches right now. Hugs. Debbie: Going to the group therapy helps me to see things in a different light. I also learn lots of things about this surgery that I didn't know before. One of the things that comes out of going is I find myself so greatful and thankful often that I do not have the same relationship with food as I used to have. I now feel like I can say no to anything that I previously was faced with and wanted to eat. I see lots of people in the group struggling with food addiction still and It makes me very thankful that I had to be on the liquid diet for so many months. I feel like it really helped me to break that connection with food being my best friend. Now I am able to pretty much look at food as fuel and choose food that is best for my body. I don't always make the right choices but probably 95% of the time at least I do. Woohoo to new clothes and to have them fit! That is so great Deb. I'm so happy for you. It still amazes me every time something fits me and doesn't look tight. I can honestly spend so much time in the dressing room just being in awe that a 22 fits me perfectly fine and sometimes too big. I'm so happy for you. Battle: Stay strong my friend. You can get yourself right back on track. Hugs. Zelma: Your trip sounds so lovely. I'm sure whatever you decide to do you will enjoy it so much. Johnnie: Woo hoo on the new size 24's. You are doing fantastic. Anne: Glad that your knee doesn't seem to be hurting you too much. I hope you are right that I have more than one offer to go over. Although last time I had more than one offer I stupidly turned down the county job for the one I was working. lol. debimitch: Hoping and praying your DH starts to feel better very soon. Hugs. Luan: I think you need to not worry about your friend and just enjoy your day. Congrats by the way on your graduation. I am hoping to fly to Long Beach on June 12 - June 18th. I have one niece graduating from Cal Poly, San Luis Obisbo and another niece graduating from High school in Cypress. I really want to be there and see them do it. Don't let anyone ruin your day! Lauren: Hugs to you on being up 4. You will take it off in no time. Christina: Welcome. I hope that you find all the encouragement and support that you need here. I can't say enough about how wonderful these ladies have been to me and how they have gotten me through so many tough times. Cyn: Yikes. You should be very careful with food allergies sweetie. Hugs. Carol: Where are you? I miss your smiling face. Sharon: How is the house cleaning going? I need to do that sometime today too. lol. Well, I am so excited. I am down 4 pounds since Friday and have met my next goal and passed it actually by one pound. I am waiting to do my ticker until my official weigh in day on Friday. Yesterday I went to Curves for a free workout. I get to work out for free there for the whole month of May for a study they are doing on weight loss. I am so excited because I can fit into all of the machines now and when I went there last time I certainly couldn't fit into them all. I am hoping to get the get up and go to go to the gym this morning and then come home and get ready for my interview at the College. Wish me luck everyone. Blessings to you all, Annie |
Catherine, thank you for the welcome :)
And ... WOW on your story and your weight loss to date. That is awesome how far you have come and it's inspiring to anyone that thinks they are stuck in a rut and can't get out. Thank you ! How did you get started? Any ideas or suggestions? It's strange, because I have battled my weight up and down for so many years, and I know all the do's and don'ts, but yet I feel kind of lost as to how to get started this time (even though I'm ready and want to) because of having so much to lose this time. Actually, I would love to hear how all of you got started and what you're doing, and what you've found that works for you. Thanks ! |
WARNING: Nobody wave a red flag. I might charge.:devil: Older male neighbour in elevator saw the book title that I am reading Tightwad Gazzette. He says "Oh if your looking to save money you should just eat less." I wanted to respond well I wont always be fat but you'll always be ugly. But I dont stoop to the level of rudeness. SO I will vent here.
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:o ((hugs)) People always say the younger generation is so much ruder these days but I've run into quite a few older people who are way worse. I guess some think they're old enough where they are entitled to be rude. Also, it seems some people just think they are being practical and don't even realize it's rude. :dizzy: |
Julia-Where I come from, women are allowed to have proper hissy fits when someone is that rude. Isn't that why God invented marble rolling pins and cast iron skillets?
Ruby-I got started pretty easy. The cardiologist that came to see me in the ER told me that my "character was too flawed" for him to help me, and that he just wanted to medicate me enough to stabilize me to send me home to die. The worst part was that since I thought I was having a heart attack, I couldn't get really mad and throw something at him. Turns out it was "just" angina, and he's lucky that I never saw him again. The best advice I can give you is to take baby steps. Don't put any kind of time table on yourself. It takes 6 weeks to 6 months to change a habit. I did one thing at a time. I'm on step 38 of 1209. I hope to finish with this step (learning to live in a new country, and be married) some time before my 50th birthday. I have been doing this since 2001. It has taken me 6.5 years to get to this point. Some people can lose 100 pounds in that many months. I know because I did that before. I didn't keep it off obviously. This time, I am in it for the long haul, and the only way I can fail, is to quit trying. My knees are scarred for the number of times I have stumbled, but gotten back up and started again. Just hang in there, and be gentle with yourself. Sharon-I asked the publisher last night about Visa, and he got this look on his face like a dog does when you make a funny noise. So I'm thinking that is a no. It's a very small publisher, I wanted Oregon Catholic Press to publish it, but was talked into this instead. Golden Meteorite normally publishes political science and history texts and reference books that only schools or libraries, mostly law libraries buy, so I don't think it has come up before. If I could figure out how to use paypal for something other than buying things, I'm good at that end, maybe we could arrange something that way. Annie-You're going to do great in your interview, and they are nuts if they hire you on the spot. Isn't it great to fit onto machines again. I was thinking the other day about how nice it was for the people at the hospital to not ask how much I weighed before putting me on the X-ray table. I'm kind of freaked out right now. A courier brought the first copy of my book this morning. I got to hold it in shaking hands for about 30 minutes, and then himself took off with it. He's showing it off or around or something. We're having lunch with someone at 2:30. I'm not sure who because I was too freaked out to even pay attention to what he was telling me. So I get to slog through the snow, but at least it is warmer. We may get above freezing today, Yeah! I spent an hour yesterday trying to help a neighbor dig out his car in the parking lot. It was covered in a drift. Beyond bizarre. |
Annie - I'm here - last night I was exhausted for some reason - I will catch up tonight.
Hi everybody - see you later!!! Hugs, Carol |
Christina WELCOME!!! I just recently started my weight loss journey.....Feb 2nd as a matter of fact! I have lost to date 35lbs.....I am calorie counting along with avoiding red meat for now.....and anything fried for the most part.....which were two kinds of foods that our family ate wayyyyyyyyy tooooooo much of.......DH & I are both doing this together.....helps alot....however he will reach his goal sooner than I will since he has less weight to take off.....but he calls this our "LIVE-it" instead of diet.....since we are doing this to LIVE not die from the way we were eating......
since starting my 16yr old daughter(just turned 16! my baby)....decided to join us and count calories....she has lost 15lbs in about 4 weeks..... Hope to get to know you more as time goes on. Bernice |
Hi everyone,
Every time I go off plan for a couple of days or more, and then begin to eat OP again, my body goes through a detox period. I've been going through the detox--the last 2 nights I couldn't sleep, I had a headache, and I constantly had to pee (sorry for TMI, this is how my body works). Despite the fact that my body is ridding itself of the icky stuff and is ready to continue receiving nutritious foods in reasonable portions, my mind is lagging. I have been having a lot of trouble with eating thoughts. I hate when my mind goes to the place that a huge binge on cookies or fried chicken is ok..not that bad...just this one time, etc. Thank goodness for this board. I made myself come here to read, and now I am back to my center. Thank you all for being here. Today I am making good choices. |
Lauren, sorry to hear you've had a hard time staying OP last week, but it's great your back on track again. I count calories and have since I started this journey. I never did points so I don't know what thats all about but even calorie counting can get tedious. But I really like it so yes, I can recommend it. If you have any questions you can PM me anytime!
Christina, Welcome!!! It's great to have you here. Just post any ol time so we can get to know you. There's lots of great tips and ladies here. I read in one of your post that you wanted to know about our stories. Mine is still developing, but this is my beginning. I started April 30, 2007. I had high blood pressure, diabetes, and hypothroidism. I hurt, just from walking. So I decided if I wanted to stay in this world, that I better get my act together. The main reason I wanted to lose weight, is because of all the pills I had to take to keep things in check, and I hate taking pills!! So I choose to try calorie counting and it seems to have worked for me. It's still hard to not eat everything in sight, but it gets better with time. I'm down 70lbs now and feels SO much better and can't believe the things I can do now that I couldn't do last year at this time. I know that you'll do well because you've taken the first step to get yourself going. And please come and post no matter if your having a bad day, ate too much or when you're doing so well you just want to share because it helps so much to have so many people understand what you're going thru and how you're feeling Cyn, o those terrible food allergies! I hope you're feeling better now. heather dw, yep, it's probably the muscles screaming for that water retention. You'll see a drop soon. Annie, that's so great that you DO have that different relationship with food. It's so hard to overcome that. But you've proved to yourself and all of us that it can be done. I find I still slip into eating junk just because it's there, and it's a habit. Last night I wanted to eat. I asked myself now am I really hungry or is it just because I'm bored....it was boredom....so I didn't eat. Six months ago, heck, a couple of months ago, I would of just eaten. So I sorta know what you're going thru on learning things about yourself. Good luck on your interview!! Julia, How dare he say something like that to you!!!! O man!!! I can't believe some people and they claim to be adults??? I'd be pretty upset too. I think I would of made the comment though that you held back...so bravo to you for that!! Catherine, that doctor should of been shot for giving up on you like that. I'm glad you never had to see him again! How did it feel to hold your book? I think I would of fought himself for it. :rofl: Carol, Ratkity, Story, Luan, Nancy, and all :wave: Bernice, now that I see your story, WoW!! You're doing great!!! And so is the rest of the family. So many times I look at clothes now that I can fit into smaller cuter clothes, that I don't know how to dress for my age. I see so many things that I want to get, but then I think, would that be ok for someone my age? So I've had a hard time picking the right things. I want pretty things, but then sometimes I think I don't deserve them because I'm so big still. Most of the time I'm in jeans and just a plain top. I'd love to get those jeans with the embroidered things on them but then think I'm still too big to wear them and have them look nice. So that's my dilemma right now. \ Another dreary day so I'm just staying inside and relaxing. Have a good day Debbie |
Battle, you must of been posting at the same time I was, so I missed ya!!
I'm glad your back on track. It IS so hard when those little voices keep telling us to eat things we shouldn't or when those cookies are screaming our names. Just be strong and you can get thru it. Good to hear your having a better eating day Debbie |
I'm here I'm here!!
1) Passover bites. I need some carbs back in my life. 2) Catherine...please PM me your info...I am looking forward to reading your book very much. 3) ZELMA!!! What are your dates? I would love to meet up, make suggestions, etc. In SD..absolutely go to the GasLamp District. It is a regentrified area with a lot of clubs and restaurants and lots to do. It's also right by the water and you can go along the Harbor as well. The SD Zoo is outstanding. So much to do in LA...glad you're going to Disney. Try to go there on a weekday. 4) Luan...not fair. Not fair to you at all. Sorry :( 5) Julia...whatever!!! Who the **** is he to judge? My FIL was making all sorts of comments the other night about people's weight...he claims he is the same weight as he as when he left HS...which may be true...but it's redistributed itself so it's all under his shirt. UGH. 5) Annie...you're also coming to So/Central CA? Coming through LA at all? Long Beach is kind of a long way from CP-SLO....it's south of LAX...did you get a better fare flying into there? We made our reservations for Vegas in June...so excited. Then we took DH' car to the shop today...knowing it needed SOME work...we were not prepared to be told the car needs a new radiator...oh well....it is what it is. Thankfully we can afford it now. Happy Days... |
Julia: Hugs. What an a## for making a comment like that. I just want to smack that man.
Catherine: Thank you for the information on your book. I will mail them my check asap. Carol: Hi there. Thanks for saying you are okay. Battle: So glad you are getting back on track and had a good op day today. Debbie: You deserve everything beautiful and wear whatever jeans you want to wear! Julee: I am flying into Long Beach because two of my sisters live in Cypress and they will be picking me up from the airport and I will be staying with one of them. The older sister who's daughter is graduating from Cal Poly San Luis and I will drive up to SLO on Friday to see her graduate on Saturday then back down to Cypress on Sunday and my other niece will be graduating from High School on Monday. Whew. I hope that between the graduations and probably a trip to Disneyland I will spend some time floating in the pool. lol. I actually grew up in SLO County. Born and raised there so it will be cool to go "Home" again. Well, the interview went well and as I expected they had hundreds of applicants. Time will tell. I did get to meet the dean though which was nice. She was very nice. I called on the job at Salvation Army to see if they have made any decisions yet or anything and she told me that they have hundreds of applications and will be making choices for interviews next week sometime. So, just waiting until the next interview on Monday for the County job. Blessings all, Annie |
Hiya Peeps - you are one busy group of lades - I am gonna come out to play and catch up a little bit. Things are good here for the most part - I've fallen back in to my little act of too few calories - yesterday only 1133 calories - gotta do something about that. I've never had a problem getting my water in but since I've started working outside in the yard I'm drinking more water and seems to really reduce my appetite.
Last night I came home from my workout - told hubby I had a sports injury - in his most serious voice, unable to hide his grin - "that's what happens to athletes" - he was very proud and then showed his concern - simply a nasty blister on the bottom of my toe. Bernice - welcome back - we missed you - hope things settle down for you a bit and we'll see you more. Vicki - Hey - welcome back - I've wondered about you - Enjoy Florida - sounds wonderful. Battle - glad to hear you are starting to feel better. Detox is a blessing/curse at the same time for me. I think the hardest part is the adjustment to portion control. That sometimes is enough to keep me OP. How was the holiday? Debbie - if you go see the tulips can we get some pics??? WTG on the new clothes. I am ready to change my style too and am struggling a bit with age appropriate attire. I so hear you on the invasive daisies - several years ago my brother brought me some kind of plant from Oregon - it thinks it owns my beds now. Heather_DW - great NSV on the walking. Be sure you drink plenty of water to take care of those muscles you're working. Prof - glad you had a nice time. Wonderful to reconnect and unwind at the same time. We tried to behave but it was hard. Debi - how long until you notice a difference in meds for DH? How was sleep last night? Annie - how was the interview today? Which job do you really want? It does sound like you are enjoying your time off even though the financial stress is elevated. Catherine - sorry about the snow - we finally got a little warmth and now it's April showers. I need you back in the pool so you can give me some new exercises - maybe you can tell himself you just have to go for me - LOL. Hope you're feeling stronger every day. Julia - what a great way to handle the cocoa. I don't tell many people I'm changing my eating either - too many questions - proof is in the results for me. As for the neighbor - he obviously hasn't saved energy not running his mouth. Rudeness has no place. Sharon - get your blood tested to see if it's really peri-menopause. I was so fortunate, for once as my doctor put it, no symptoms other than no more TOM. Although he had advised me it would be early and easier since I was not able to have children. I think I was all done by 45, if not before. Gotta say don't miss TOM at all but I don't like the wild white hairs on my chin - LOL - never happy. When I turned 50 I realized how lucky I was to have flown right on by so quickly as I watch friends start to deal with menopause. Once again, please get your blood work done to see if that's really it. Rat - you are so right - what 3FC can do when something happens to one of our own could be downright brutal. Is BikerChick behaving better now? BTW thanks for the bike info. Zelma - what a wonderful trip you have planned. We are in the midwest - wish you were heading here - maybe next time??? It always brings a smile to my face to see you post - thank you. I second Catherine's Tijuana comments - we were in San Diego in December - we were advised not to cross the border at that time - apparently the holidays are the worst. Actually the entire time we were on the cruise ship within 3 miles of Mexican land we were surrounded by Mexican Navy with many guns - apparently it was a red terror alert. Johnnie - how cool is that about the clothes - maybe time for a new pic girlfriend??? Thanks for sending more gulf moisture our way - NOT. enjoy your walks. Anne - what kind of berry bushes are you moving? How's the pool? We are still in the cleaning stages - too cool still anyway since we don't have a heater - it is nice to see the cover off though. Luan - hey to you! Celebrate your achievements - those who love you will be there. Lauren - hi - hope to see you posting again regularly. Missed ya. Christina - welcome - I look forward to getting to know you - keep posting. For me it's about making choices. The choices I make are healthy eating and more exercise - which I have come to love. I have evolved somewhat into a calorie counter - to see what I really was eating. I use The Daily Plate to log my intake. I began this journey in September. I don't lose quickly - sometimes I get discouraged when I see others losing fast but this is about me. I have found so much support here - this group is fantastic. Cyn - so glad to see you - sorry about the food allergy. Julee - Vegas sounds like fun - how many days? Sorry to hear about the car. I think I'm mostly caught up. Now, guess what, time to eat. Hugs, Carol |
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Annie! i can see the long beach airport from my house! we should totally meet (and have a salad) while youre here!!
thanks everyone for the comments. thats pretty much how i feel, but if she wants to miss out, its her loss. some best friend. |
Battle-I have freaking food/eating dreams. Not nice. I also have to detox. Seems like all the time. Think I’d learn.
Debbie-To be honest, my hands were shaking so bad, that I dropped the stupid thing. I think the reason I let him take it with him, was that I was afraid I’d sit down and read straight through, and find a bunch of stuff I wanted to change or add. It is really hard to put it down, and say, finis. By the way, I refuse to dress my age. I still put bright yellow shoe laces in my hiking boots, and just got a Hogwarts golf shirt yesterday. People don’t like it, and I’ve got something really big they can kiss. My dad once told me that the minute you grow up you grow old. Annie-I’m keeping my fingers crossed. I hope you get the one that pays the most. Carol-I went walking at the mall today. The sidewalks are still a mess, but we went to the mall across from where the rec center is, so he could see I could get myself there. I’m pretty tired, but stronger than yesterday. Luan-I’m just the opposite, I tried to duck out on every one of my graduations. My mom didn’t let me get out of them. When I graduated from law school, they had two, one in the morning at the school, and then the big one in the afternoon for the entire university. I hated law school so much, I basically neglected to tell her about the morning one, and got to ditch. They funniest part is that I was supposed to get a national award and the dean was going to give it to me. They didn’t know I had ditched, and he called my name apparently, and just stood up there looking around. That was just the last volley in what had been a 3 year battle with me. I think he was so relieved to see me leave. I still haven’t stopped shaking. It seems so strange to see my name on a book cover. It’s not the big weight loss book. I know a lot of people wanted me to even do it in two parts, but I just couldn’t finish it, because the story isn’t finished yet. This story includes some of the weight loss, obviously, but it’s more about the things that led up to the injury and the eventual recovery from it. It is intense, very personal, and I’m told kind of scary. So far everyone who has read it has cried, except me. I still don’t have an emotional response to it. I’m sure that by the end of my CBT therapy for PTSD, I probably will have emotional responses to it all over the place. God help my husband. |
Thank you ladies for the support. I'm doing well on calorie counting. I've had two big lunches the past days so i've really had to back off on dinner, but isn't it better to eat bigger lunches? well i'm going to bed. i hope you all had a wonderful day!
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Good evening all,
Not much going on here today. Just the usual working the gardening and swimming around the exercising. Did get the second berry patch cleaned up today and will fill in gaps tomorrow. Have two neighbours lined up to take the leftover plants so that's good. Oh, and I finished up my haircut today. Yep, yesterday I cut it myself. I was going to look for a new stylist (the one I was using is in the town I was working in - 30 min drive) although I've gone back to colouring it myself as it's cheaper. It was getting just a touch too long to colour well so yesterday I did what I've done in the past - gathered up the ponytail and chopped it off. It sounds much worse than it looks. I made my mother tidy up the back a little today. I've got enough natural curl that I'll get away with it for a while. Besides, in the summer I wear it up about 99% of the time anyway. I'll probably break down and go find someone to give it a real cut. Debi - so sorry that hubby is still struggling with his meds. I really do find that hunger early in the day is the toughest to deal with. I've been trying to throw a lot of protein in earlier in the day. It does seem to help. Luan - it is your day and you shouldn't have to choose. I hope you and your friend resolve this. Debbie - I really enjoy the weight training. I'm stronger than I thought, with still a ways to go. Today I finished off one of my sets (8 reps) with 27-1/2 pound (ea) dumbbell shoulder presses. If you had asked me could I do this 6 weeks ago I'd have said no way. And next week I'll try that last set with 30 pounds. (yikes) And after pulling out berry bushes, I agree, gardening can be hard. Lauren - I find calorie counting quite easy, but then I eat almost all my meals at home. Any plan can be tough when eating out though. Having said all that, I like the flexibility of calorie counting. If I really want something I find a way to work it into my daily count. Although often I treat it like a budget - ie. do I want to spend that many calories on a single item. Ruby2sday - Welcome. I originally got started with a low-fat vegetarian diet, followed by a couple of different attempts. It worked well, but because of illness I got off track, and even now am still losing weight I lost last time (only 30 more to go until I'm on new ground). This time I've been more successful following simple calorie counting. And recently adding lots of exercise (because I have the time) and more calories to go with that. Small steps and finding a way of living that you can do long term are really important. Cyn - sorry you had such a bad reaction from the muffin, however, this would be a great way to avoid the next treat someone has handy... it could have walnuts in it! :) Heather_dw - you answered your own question in an earlier post. Quote:
Annie - we all seem to make those kinds of errors when it comes to jobs. I did that myself on my last move. I'd been interviewed by both plants and ended up picking the one I didn't like. I thought I'd be bored at the other plant and it turned out that they ended up with lots of new business. The only thing we hope is that the next time we make a better choice. Good luck! Julia - some people just don't think before they speak. I'd have probably said something back, but probably keeping the moral high ground was a better choice. It's sad to say, but fat-bashing is really the only prejudice that seems to still be acceptable to do in public. Catherine - the weather channel had pictures of Edmonton on today. I knew you had snow, but I didn't realise that it had drifted so badly. I really do hope you get some spring weather soon. And congrats on seeing your name on the cover. I think you're right about the weight loss book though, it's not really a story until the journey is complete. BattleAx - the last time I went way off plan I was actually sick. Upset stomach for days. I suspect that's what has kept me on plan since. I always feel so much better when I'm eating well. I'm glad you're making good choices today. Carol - the bushes are boysenberry. It's like a big blackberry, but with a little tartness too it. There are raspberry bushes that we need to add to (but we'll have to buy in May). I'm also hoping when we get rid of the last boysenberry bushes in the corner (neighbours will take them) that the gooseberry bush will recover. Well, I did manage to get everything done in time. I've planned my meals for tomorrow, updated my blog and only have my protein shake to drink before bed. Hope everyone has a good day tomorrow. |
Good Morning,
My day was nuts yesterday!!Hubby was still pretty wild...it will take a few days to a week to level him back out somewhat. THE little ones napped at different times...so no break for me. Then youngest daughter came in from school and started throwing up. She was so sick!! Its going around really bad here. So I spent the rest of the night cleaning up after her and washing bedding and towels. We lifted again last night and then had unexpected company who stayed even though I would never stay in a house where someone is throwing up. He stayed till about 10. Im to far behind to try to catch up on personals. HOpe everyone has a great OP day. debi |
Howdy, everyone!
I have survived...whether my sanity did is another question altogether :) I got the astronomical project in -- I can't believe how crazy I was when I planned the schedule for it. I must have been on crack! It was awful! An average of 13.5 hours/day in addition to my regular work. Oof. So I took most of yesterday off and am finishing up more projects today. After today, just one more to go, and then it's time for a rest! And more outdoor activities :) Tonight is yoga again! I'm so excited! It's really, really hard to get my husband to exercise (with or without me), so I'm thrilled that he likes yoga so much. I also really want to get walking again and am ready to start pushing myself. The other day, I walked up and down two flights of stairs twice (in addition to my regular movements). I paid for it that night, but boy was it nice to move around. I'm tired of babying the leg! We'll see what the PT says tomorrow morning -- I have been trying to do the exercises, but I have not been icing it :( I'll try to be better! Not a great week, calorie-wise, but I'm ready to start doing better -- beginning with having lunch today! Happy weekends to all! |
Julee, good to see you again. Thankfully the car only needed the radiator. Seems whenever we take ours, it ends up being a bazillion things wrong with it.
Annie, so glad the interview went well for you. I'll keep my fingers crossed that you will get called back. You're so right! I should wear whatever the heck I want to.....within limits...:rofl: Carol, Ed is so sweet. What a guy! You can tell he IS so proud of you. Yep, I'll take my digital with me and take some pics. But first this rain has got to stop!! They say we're suppose to be warming up this weekend. I sure hope so. Catherine, you just make me smile. I love reading your posts. They're so interesting and down to earth. Thank you for that! Debi, Hope your DH and DD get well soon. Walrus, it's great that you can move around more. Going up and down the stairs twice is really good! Have a good dr's appt. Yesterday was my son's 26th birthday. My dil took him to California for one day, for him to go deepsea fishing with his Dad. It was a total surprise to him and he sounded so happy. He and his father hadn't talked in over 5 years, so it was nice that they are communicating again. I guess they are even having him here in Washington for the weekend. I'm still at 281, no loss so far this week but my official WI is tomorrow so hopefully maybe I'll get one pound off. I'd be happy with that. I don't think I will make it to 275 this month though. I was hoping I would since that is my next mini goal. hope everyone is having a good OP, water drinking day Debbie |
Anne-We planted Saskatoon berries last summer, but I haven’t gotten to see how they came back this year. They’re still covered in snow. We also have raspberries that grow wild all over the grounds. We got about a butter dish a day last summer, and that’s with having to share with all the neighbors. We planted some apple trees out front last year, but I doubt they will fruit for a couple of years anyway. We’ve been thinking about asking a group of urban sharecroppers put a garden across the whole front lawn of the condo. They are hippies/yuppies, that plant gardens in people’s yards, and take care of them for 2/3 of the crop. Most of them give their share to the homeless shelter. Less lawn to mow too.
Debi- I hope things let up for you soon. Walrus-All it took to get my husband to come to the pool with me was to tell him very cattily that I wondered if there was going to be any cute guys in the class with me. So he stands right behind me in the pool to keep his eye on me, poor deluded fool. Debbie-That’s great that your son is spending time with his dad. Guys just need that, and it is bound to have some good effect in the long run with your relationship with him as well. I’m supposed to be going for blood work today, but don’t know if the doctor is even open yet. So I’m going to putter around the house instead. We’ve got new furniture coming next week, and I need to rearrange some stuff to get ready for it. I always feel so good, and almost lighter when I clean and organize. Went to the grocery store this week, and went down the dog food aisle. I looked at 8 25lb bags in amazement. I couldn’t even lift them all at the same time. When I reach my goal weight, I’m going to have a picture taken of myself along side 16 of those babies, or better yet, I’ll climb on top of them. My Mount Everest. |
Debbie,...it wasn't JUST the radiator...it was the radiator on top of everything else. It's a switch for the A/C because the fans aren't both turning, a belt, a tune up and all that entails, 6 type-specicifc spark plugs and an oil leak that was going to require having the entire underside of the car washed off to find the leak...but when he opened the radiator cap it was filled with goop...so the radiator will be new and the engine will be flushed. Ta-Da. With labor we're looking at probably $1600 for everything. But this guy comes very highly recommended. He fixed my friend's car and when I looked at her labor cost it was low...because his attitude is...if I have the engine out, I can do everything that needs doing...so why stop and start over again. Hopefully we'll have the car back on Saturday...but he is closed today. There is a very large Armenian community in LA and today is Armenian Genocide Day. Not closing your business if you are Armenian is a bad thing.
Ah well. Didn't WI last night. I went to pay a condolence call and it was the only night and time I could go. Such is life. I just need to stay focused and not get into the habit of missing meetings. |
Carol: Your hubby sounds so sweet. Sorry about your injury to your foot. The interview went well but the testing for this one, well, I froze and forgot things I know that I know. Such is life. lol. The job I want is the one that I will be happiest in. So, who knows which one that is. lol. Well, I know God knows and praying He helps me to keep my yapper shut and just let things be. I have another interview on Monday for the County. The pay is about $2.00 less but maybe the stress is less too.
Luan: Yes, I would love to meet up with you for a salad, iced tea, a hug, heck anything. I will be without a car though so you may have to come get me in Cypress or meet me someplace that that I can walk. I'm sure my niece will give me a ride. I'm her favorite. lol. So, pm me or something and let me have your email address or phone number or some way to get ahold of you. Catherine: I am so proud of you. Hang in there girl. Things are going to be great for you. I can just feel it. Take a deep breath and be proud of all that you have gone through and made it. You have come so far. I think that is an awesome idea to have your picture taken with the weight you have lost. That is one thing I think Oprah was so lucky when she had access to all that fat that she pulled out in a wheel barrow when she lost all that weight one time. That would be really cool to have an actual visual like that. Maybe I'll use your idea and pile up the dog food bags myself. lol. Anne: I bet your hair cut looks nice. Sometimes the simplest things work the best. Debimitch: Hugs. Walrus: great job getting all of your projects complete. Debbie: Hi girl. Glad things seem to be no the up with your son. Julee: Sorry about your loss whomever it was. Hugs. Well, time to go and exercise. I ended up doing 70 minutes yesterday. I set my goal at 2000 for April. I hope I make it. I have about 750 more minutes to go to reach it before the end of the month. I need to step it up a bunch if I'm going to make it. Too many days off. Blessings all, Annie |
Catherine and Annie - the dog food idea is great - I have trouble hefting the 50 lb bag down the steps each time - we could have quite a dog "pile".
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Hi peeps,
Still really busy but want to pop in and say I'm doing well today. I feel good and pretty much back to myself. The bags of feed, potatoes, etc. as a representation of lost pounds is really eye-opening. Any time it's hard to understand or give ourselves credit for the work we've done, it's a good idea to try and lift a bag of something like that. |
Julee-You have reminded me why I don't miss having a car. There was an episode of Designing Women once where they talked about car repair bills, and she said she just walks in, and hands over her check book balance and asks if it can be fixed for that.
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Wow...I am having a hard time keeping up with personals when the weather is so beautiful. We are outside! WI today and the TOM/PMS weight is gone thank goodness!. Now back to 309 and have to spend the next 3 weeks working hard. I don't like having a week of weight loss messed up due to this cycle. That means 12 weeks per year and 24 lbs per year AVERAGES to mess up a good routine!
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I was expecting "TOM" in the past few days...still no sign of him. Very unusual for me. Thank God I had a tubal or I might be worried.LOL
Things with hubby are a little calmer but he didnt sleep last night ...but who did!! Katie is better this afternoon...just a little weak from being so sick. She will be back to her bouncy self by tommorow Im sure!! I spend most of the day outside with the boys who have jsut leaned to really run..i let them run around the whole block today and i was able to walk at a good fast pace. I may try it agian tommorow and maybe it will wear them down for a good long nap. I am so ready for the weekend!! carol_ thanks for sending us a nasty storm a little while ago. I jsut came in from chasing my trash cans down the alley. My plants have really spouted. I am excited. I had done everything according to the package and kept them out of direct sunlight. I dont think they were getting enough light. When i put them on the porch sunday just a few had sprouted. Now almost all of them have.Im hoping to plant after this next cool spell. well i think im going to go be lazy for a little while ... take care all |
Catherine, when I go to the store tomorrow I'm going to put 70lbs worth of dog food out in the aisle just to see what it looks like. Good way to look at it. Thanks for the idea.
I wish that my ex and I were on speaking terms, but he doesn't want to talk to me. He still hasn't forgiven me for leaving him, but I couldn't take it with an alcholic after 19 years. He just doesn't get it. But I'm glad DS is talking to him now after 5 years. Julee, OOOOOOOo ok. Here I thought you were gettin' off easy, but I guess not. With cars, I guess it's never just one thing. Julia, I hear ya on how much TOM can mess up a month of weight loss. Debi, do you have a bunch to plant or just a few? Did you make a patch outside for them? I can't wait to get our garden ready outside but it's still raining. UGh! Is it ever going to quit? Sounds like you have a good routine to wear out the boys while exercising and it can all be done outside, which is great. I was craving chocolate soooooooo bad tonight so I went in and was going to make brownies, but instead had a slimfast. Haven't craved chocolate since. Worked past that craving and it feels pretty good! have a great evening! Debbie |
hey ladies, i don't have much time but wanted to update you after my WI tonight. i'm down 7!!!! yay!!!! that makes a total of 11.5 and 3 over the gain from last week. ok, i'm off to bed. hope you all have a WONDERFUL FRIDAY!!!!!!!!!
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The car thing would normally have me completely in a tail spin but we are very fortunate that circumstances are what they are right now....I expected his car to need a fair amount of work...so it's not too shocking. Sadly we cannot get by on one car...so it has to be done.
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