Hi midnight girl! Big ol' hugs to you sweetheart!
First, I have to say the other girls really did sum things up! If I repeat anything, sorry!
I have always been a "big" girl myself. FIRST & FOREMOST - You have to take time - pride and interest in yourself! You must learn to like yourself! No matter what............it is your choice, stay heavy and like yourself or lose weight and LOVE yourself.........either way........do it! Do your hair and make-up, take long bath's, use perfume, make yourself feel pretty and then when you look in the mirror, learn to tell yourself you are pretty! Once you open up to yourself, you'll be able to open up to others! Like.......guys!
Stay focused! On whatever you may be doing in life RIGHT NOW. Studies, job, family, pets, volunteer, go to church..........................MEET NEW FRIENDS......men & women! Laugh! If you see someone without a smile, give them yours. Always wear one! Don't let the world see you without one.
I have a 20 year old daughter - she was born in Septembet 1987 - like you! And she is short and overweight! She is beautiful thats for sure. She has never had a boyfriend and though she really really wants one.............she is busy right now!!!!! She is going to Beauty School to be a hair stylist and she works full time as a manager for a little company in our town. She loves her life and though gets down sometimes.........she really is a positive breath of fresh air for all overweight "20" year old girls! Honey, I wish you the best and hope you find yourself soon. Big hugs~!