300+ Weekly Thread #1124
 

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Hi All,

I don’t know what’s up with me today. I just don’t have any energy. I made myself do half an hour on the bike which felt more like 10 hours, and after breakfast I did half an hour of a WATP DVD, but for once I couldn’t wait for the DVD to finish. Then I went upstairs, showered and fell into bed. Hubby just made lunch, which I normally do, and even eating it seemed to wear me out. I hope it’s just a side effect of some meds I am on rather than that I am coming down with something.

I weighed this morning and I am at the same weight I was when I weighed on Wednesday. I meant to weigh on the Monday but I forgot. So I know I am two days early and maybe I will lose by Wednesday but I won’t be getting on the scales to find out. I am happy just knowing that with all the exercise I’ve been doing even if the lbs don’t come off I am getting fit and toned and that means a lot.

Xena - I am glad you are settling into school nicely and I am sure you will do well again. I am sorry that you’ve had some bad times with your eating, but at least you’ve been able to understand why you’ve not stuck OP. I am a big emotional eater and sometimes as much as we know it really isn’t helping, it’s the only thing that DOES seem to make you feel better.

I love your idea of a 3FC meet up, but of course as the majority of you are in the US and Canada it will be pretty hard for me to participate. I kind of have a verbal agreement with hubby though that when I get to goal, as my reward, finances permitting of course, we can have a trip to the US and I can meet up with my 3FC friends. I can’t think of a better reward. So even if I can’t join you all as a group, one day I will meet up with many of you :D

Nancy - wow I was surprised to hear that you went out to dinner with your ex. It really was an amicable split wasn’t it :D Good for you for getting up and dancing! I was only thinking about how we tend to worry too much about what we look like and what people will think of us the other day. My daughter Beth is overweight and she’s going on holiday to Spain with her dad next week. She’s worried about being seen in her swimming costume and I just felt sad that she’s got to worry like that which I know from experience has stopped me from enjoying swimming. I really want to be able to set a good example to her by going out there and doing exactly what I want, when I want and not let my fat or people’s attitudes to it stop me. Easier said than done though.

On a lighter note, I can’t believe that Skinny Cow which was in your neck of the woods first I believe, isn’t available in all the flavours we have here. In the tubs we have Mint, Raspberry, Cookies and Cream, and the Toffee one.

Donna - was hubby a big baby when it came to post op pain :lol: I can just imagine your 6’5 guy on the sofa with big sad eyes because he was in so much agony in the manhood area. I can imagine it because I am sure that is what my hubby would be like if he had the snip. He’s a little shorter though at 6’3. He has offered to have it done, but knowing our luck with all things medical, anything that can go wrong would go wrong. So I’ll just stick with my Implanon for now, and maybe when I have my tummy tuck, and my ostomy resited, they could do a tube tie for me while they are at it :rofl:

45 seems young to be menopausal, was your mum young when she went through the ‘change’? My mum was an early starter and a late finisher. I was a late starter so who knows, maybe I’ll be an early finisher. Us women don’t have it easy do we :dizzy:

Catherine - I see we have that in common about the thousands of kids :lol: Good job you didn’t have to spend time out the front dealing with them face to face.

As you described yourself as a server, perhaps telling people how much fat is in the food they are ordering and how unhealthy it is for them, that is how I would be if I were a bar maid. I don’t know much in detail, but I know how alcohol is such a waste of points/cals :rofl: and I also wouldn’t want to serve people when I think they’ve had too much to drink. So I’d never make a good bar maid :no:

I’m really sorry that your mum took it so bad when you moved to Canada. You’d think by now she’d have calmed down a bit and realised that at least speaking to you on the phone, or keeping in touch by mail would be better than not having any contact at all :hug:

Debbie - thanks for telling me about that other LS walking DVD. She sure has a lot out there doesn’t she. I am glad I am not the only one that is worried about arm flab. It’s funny because when I was at my fattest I didn’t even realise my arms were big. I wore a sleeveless top to the shops one day and a big woman came up to me and pretty much congratulated me on having the guts to wear a top that showed my arms. She said she’d love to do the same especially as it was so hot, but she just couldn’t bear her arms. When I got home I looked in the mirror and though :yikes: maybe she’s right, I should keep these things covered. I didn’t bother though, but I was more self conscious about them after that. So now although they aren’t full of fat, I have the flabby hanging bit to worry about. Oh well, where are my weights :rofl:

John - I loved reading how us gals needn’t worry about writing TMI etc. That gave me a real laugh. My hubby and kids are all afraid of spiders too. I’m the chief bug/creepy crawly catcher in this house. I’d offer my services to you, but sorry, you live a bit far away :rofl:

BattleAx - you have the perfect attitude, that tomorrow is another day. When we have a bit of an eating fest it sometimes is too easy to say we’ve blown it and then not bother. Many of my diets have failed that way. You KNOW though that a bad day or two isn’t the end of the world and the important thing is not to give up and to get back on track. I hope you will get back OP today without any trouble.

The Toffee and Honeycomb ice cream is Skinny Cow, not WW, so you never know, it might be in your shops. I have to admit I do prefer SC to WW ice cream.

RK - good for you for being two days perfectly OP. I managed a full week, thought the scales wouldn’t lead you to believe so :crazy:

Time to make a move, a big :wave: to everybody. I hope you all have great WIs this week. Bye for now,

Hugs,

Ammi :chicken:

Good Morning all!
Well, I did it again. I made excuses all weekend on why I could misbehave. Oh, and I did!! Eating for 2 days was awful! Not really overeating, just eating garbeage. Today I am paying for it. I feel like crap, my hands and ankles are huge with swelling from over-doing the sodium. Grrr. The crappiest part is I only have ME to blame!!!!

So I am back OP once again. I cant seem to hold it together for the weekend anymore. Back to having my cottage cheese berry shoke for breakfast and chicken salad for lunch along with another chicken salad for supper! Oh and of course about 5 litres of water to go along with it. Its OK though. Its MY fault!

ok, done with my little pity party rant. :)

I feel better now. Off to clean for a few before I head to work. We'll chat later...

good morning everybody.. i am back from tx and just plodding along this morning!
Ammi feel better soon at least you did do exercise anyways!
brenda i can totally relate! those dang ole weekends do me in.. but i am determined(again) to stay strong.. .i go back to my cancer dr. on OCT1 SO THAT SHOULD KEEP ME ON THE STRAIGHT AND NARROW .. LOL GOT TO HATE THE DR SCALES LOL!

Good morning!

I am weighing in this morning and I am not sure where the scale will be at all. I am really looking forward to getting out of the 300's, even if it's just down to 299!

I procrastinated all weekend and didn't do the homework I needed to do. I did a few things for myself that made me feel better (got a leg wax, the first in 8 years and a massage, the first in months!) and that's good.

I am anxious about catching up on work and I am vowing to do my best to not eat due to anxiety!

Have a great day everyone!

Okay, I'm writing down here, in front of God and everyone, that I am NOT going to take the shuttle from the parking lot and I am going to walk because it is definitely not too hot today.

I figured if I posted it, it would give me some accountability.

I'm on my way out the door now, I'll do personals later when I get home from school hopefully.

Have a great OP day everyone!

I'm not going to do a long post today, because I have a lot to do that I'm avoiding. If I do a long post, I may be tempted to "not get around to it" again. I just need to be kicked in the butt.

G'morning all!

BigJohn, you are so funny. I'll make sure the spider webs are hidden, as well as all my plastic creepy crawlies that I bring out on halloween. hehe.

Ammi, I *know* you are the bug/creepy catcher! That wasp you caught fell right off of you! hehe. Oh .. The Bug Whisperer!!!! hahahaha.

Catherine, you are so funny about the undies. I spend more time trying to unwedge stuff, I certainly don't want anything there designed to be there. I saw some of the "undies" my little sis wears. Bah. Tailend floss. I think I've seen thicker tampon strings.

Lindsey, yay for walking!

Soul, good luck on your WI.

TooFFU and GTLose200, hang in there! You guys cheered me on when I was down, it's my turn to give it back all that positive to you!

Luv an Hugs to all,
Ratkity

Catherine, here's your kick!!

*throws a shoe at Catherine's tailend* That's so I can get a headstart from you and Himself hehehe.

*runs*

Hugs and Luv,
Rat

Ammi - The other day you asked me if I made it to the gym on Friday morning - I didn't. :o But I did this morning! Unfortunately the yoga teacher was late so I did cardio instead.

I had a good time shopping yesterday and I got new workout pants at Wal-Mart in a size XL (16/18)! They are pretty darn snug and not suitable for non-gym use, but it is still cool to be at the bottom of the plus sizes in something. I also ordered new tank tops online (I wear them underneath my workout shirts to prevent unwanted flashing) and also new workout bras. I got the same version as before only smaller. It was also interesting to see that I got the smallest size that JMS sells these in - 38. That one was pulling it tight (in regard to my measurements), so I hope they fit when they arrive. Finally, I splurged on a really pretty yoga mat since I am trying to get myself up and out the door in the morning to go. I hope that will help be some incentive to get my butt out of bed in the morning!

hi!

I am back from my weekend. I had a fabulous time hanging out with friends, eating, talking talking talking... I didn't really get any exercise and ate too much, but I am back on track today!

Sounds like things have been good here!

see creepy crawlies done't bother me, snakes, rodents, bugs of shapes and sizes no problem. I can stand in human waste up to my knees and have no problems. I can clean grease traps by hand no problem.

But put in a room with and spider and I will destory it even if I got to wreck the room to do it! I don't care if its smaller then my finger nail its got to go.

I think it comes camping as a boy scout and the fear they drove into us about wolf spiders which are the deadliest spiders we have in MD. An our tents always had them. An them SOB are huge.

Hi everyone,

I'm back on track and doing well. It is a relief to know that I can jump right back on plan after a bad day. I had planned to go off plan on Saturday night, but I went a little too far, and Sunday wasn't good. It's ok, I have these days, and as long as I'm moving in the right direction, I am happy.

Hi all!!

Just checking in. No time to write much. Still OP. Hope everyone is getting back on track today. I think that as long as we all keep trying to get back on track after a little "too much" its all good. As long as we keep on trying!! :hug:

Had a call from my older brother who lives in GA. When I answered the phone (my cell) he asked where I was since i am often away at a show, etc. I said that I was at home and we chatted a bit. We hung up and 5 mins later he is standing at my door!! LOL! He got a big HUG and kiss! It was great to see him! He flew home to go to the Pats game with two of my other brothers. I haven't seen him since the Summer of 2005!! Classic guy....didn't even notice or comment on my weight loss...Thanks alot Bro!! :dizzy::dizzy: Its OK...I love him just the same and the whole family is coming up to MA in December for Christmas. I can't wait!!

Gotta fly........will check in again tommorrow!! :hug::hug:

Hello Everyone and Happy Monday! :dz:

Had a good day food-wise, although I didn't get in as much water as I should, but I did make myself get out there and exercise tonight. I walked 2 miles, and plan to do that every night this week. :crossed:

The book sale was pretty dismal - mostly paperback romances and uninteresting-sounding library discards. I did find a copy of 'Everything is Illuminated' by Jonathan Safran Foer which I got for $1 so it wasn't a total loss. I love going to book sales and there's a big one in Atlanta coming up next week - I can't wait!

Mojo's eye is looking better. One of the drops (the one for pain) made his pupil dilate so it looked like he only had one eye the whole weekend - pretty freaky looking. But it's definitely looking better today so I'm relieved that it doesn't appear to have been major. Now I just hope they can learn to play nice. :rolleyes:

Sue, sounds like you have found a wonderful place - what a blessing!

Catherine, are there still Cotton Ginny's in Canada? That's where I used to shop, kind of similar to Lane Bryant's clothes, with a bit more emphasis on the casual. That's terrible that the economy boom has had that sort of effect on the housing situation. I like to think Canadians are more enlightened than that but I know the reality is that we're pretty much the same.

Donna, yeah, the reason I couldn't resist bringing Jack home was that he looked and acted so much like Mojo. Really the only difference once Jack gets bigger will be the color of his eyes - Mojo's are a copper color while Jack's are greenish. Jack has learned he can now jump on top of the kitchen counters - not that I want him to! - but he is growing fast. Oh dear ... I forgot all about the Christmas tree! :yikes:

Battle, :congrat: on losing 10%! That's awesome! I know what you mean about being able to shop in regular stores - what a good feeling, huh? At least you didn't let your off-plan weekend extend into this week - good for you for getting back on track.

John, wow - dead bodies in the trunk?! That beats any 'bad neighborhood' stories I could come up with, for sure. And hey, at least you're down, not up, on the scales, so :bravo:

Lindsey, big, big :congrats: and a :woohoo: for making it to Two-Town! That's awesome! It's definitely a huge milestone to go from seeing the number start with a 2 instead of a 3. You'll be reaching that 100lb milestone soon!

Peggy, good for you for dividing up your meal from the start - that's clever and I've never thought of it before, but I'll have to remember that! It's finally cooling down here in Georgia, too. Those 100+ degree days seem so far away already! I can't wait til it gets cold enough to use our fireplace. :)

Rat, Mina, my older cat, definitely did not like Mojo coming into the house. She and Khayman had pretty much grown up together, and they were really close. She grieved terribly - even stopped eating - when he died, and I don't think she's ever done much more than tolerate Mojo. Now that Jack's here, they both ignore her for the most part and that seems to be how she likes it.

Ammi, I just finished reading a book that takes place in a village in Wales - Hay-on-Wye - called Sixpence House. Have you heard of it? That Skinny Cow icecream sounds so yummy! We'd like to have a dog but Mike's really allergic so it's cats for us. I hope you just needed a rest and aren't coming down with something!

Xena, :hug: as it sounds as though you're trying hard not to get stressed out over everything you've got going on and coming up. I know what you mean about self-sabotage - I tend to do that myself, and actually am just getting over the hump of a 3 month long episode. I like the idea of meeting 3FC folks in real life, but I don't think anyone here in the 300+ room is from my area. What about you?

Nancy, I don't know about too many, but at last count I have over 600, and since I periodically purge my bookshelves, I actually have more unread than read books now - it's one of my goals this year to read more from my shelves and limit the amount of new books I bring in. Which is easier said than done! That Morrocan restaurant sounds so cool - and good for you for getting out there and dancing! :bravo: And great NSV with the 16/18 pants!

Brenda, at least you nipped the misbehaving in the bud and stopped it after two days! You can do this, you know you can. :hug:

SoulBliss, I hope the scale was kind to you today!

Heather, glad to hear you had a great weekend!

Debbie, :congrat: on the awesome medical NSVs! You - and your doctor - must be so pleased!
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OK, I'm off to bed - hope everyone has a good day tomorrow! :wave:

Creeping back out of lurk mode for some personals...

Ammi - I agree it could just be a sign you need the rest even people who train seriously sometimes take at least a few days off every few months. I wouldn't force yourself... take a few days and see what happens?

Going - I just noticed your location... I was in PEI for some work business for a few weeks a few years ago in the dead of winter. Good luck with getting back on track. What else is in that berry shake BTW?

Soul - Good luck in getting the numbers to tick over to the 200s... that's always so exciting those huge benchmarks!

Cheat - The workout pants I've been getting are XL now too. Some fit perfectly and other are snug depending on who makes them. Does Walmart have a good selection? I used to get mine at Target but looks like the brand I used to get isn't making the workout stuff anymore. Boo Hoo.

Torister - what a great surprise!

Debbie - congrats on the great doc visit. I'm going Thursday myself and I'm hoping for equally good improvements.

As for me... nothing too new. Finally broke into the 50's a week ago and I couldn't be happier about it. Getting really close to losing more then I ever have in the past. Still working out a lot. Today I did Kimberly Spreen's Kickbox Bootcamp which is a killer! Other then that I've been working on my artwork/bookbinding for my fall art shows. Oh! And It seems I've worked my way down to size 20 pants several which are on the loose side already! Oh my! Hope everyone is doing Great!

-muse

Hello everyone!

Peggy, I'm so excited that the weather is starting to get cooler here (if only for a few days). You're right, it's a lot easier and more socially acceptable to put more clothes on than it is to take them off. :lol: Congrats on being able to tuck in your shirt and not feel self conscious! That's awesome! And what a great surprise to have your brother come to see you like that! Don't worry about your brother not noticing your weight loss... my friend Lisa told me that she was commenting to her boyfriend (a mutual friend) about how much weight I've lost and he said that he couldn't see that I looked any different... Ah, men.

Ratkity, great job on making all of your daily goals for 2 days in a row! Mostly I'm worried about being hot at RenFest. I was planning on going in costume, which involves the bodice, skirt, and long sleeved chemise. Hopefully I'll be okay...

Ammi, infected zits? That sounds painful. I hope they clear up soon! It seems I'm having one of those days where I feel drained too, but maybe it came from staring at a computer screen working on calculus for over 5 hours. Anyway, great job on exercising today even though you were feeling tired!

Xena, I think it'd be great to meet everyone here! If only there was some way that it would be convenient for everyone...

Nancy, no, I've never ordered anything from alight.com, although I have been tempted several times. If you order anything from them, let me know how it goes. That Moroccan restaurant sounds like fun! I went to the one in the World Showcase at Epcot in Disney World when they had a bellydancer. She got all of the little kids to come up and dance with her... it was too cute.

Catherine, I just cannot imagine someone being so creepy... maybe I'm just sheltered... haha. I don't know what I would have done if I saw someone grab something of mine and started smelling it, much less something that had been in close proximity to my feet. That gives me the heebie jeebies just thinking about it.

Debbie, sounds like you had a good doctor visit today for the most part! And in my book, if you lose a lb, then it's not a plateau... you're doing fabulously! Although doing weight training exercises is good in general... I need to make some sort of effort to do those, though I haven't any clue as to when I'd be able to with all of this homework I've been getting!

BattleAx, I'm a sucker for homemade mac-n-cheese as well, along with most casserole type dishes (sweet potato, hash brown, broccoli cheese rice, you name it). I'm just happy that I'll be able to avoid the big eating fest most people have to deal with during Thanksgiving and Christmas. Whenever it's just my immediate family, we usually just cook a nice meal that doesn't produce the kind of volume that a traditional holiday dinner does, thank goodness. Great job on getting back OP!!

Brenda, great job on getting back OP. I think that's half the battle after coming off of a few bad days of eating.

SoulBliss, hey, I'm currently at 299.8 and I'm still counting it as being under 300 lbs! Haha I've always wanted to go get a massage, but unfortunately I'm self-conscious about it. I'm worried that it wouldn't do any good anyway and that they'd just be kneading my fat around... O.o Haha.

Wyllenn, great to have you back!

John, I am with you on destroying all spiders. I don't care if they're tiny or huge... it's all the same to me. They freak me out. When I lived in The Netherlands they had a lot of spiders, and one time I woke up just to find one crawling on my pillow about 2 inches from my face. I shot out of bed and let out a blood curdling scream and demanded that my bed be changed (I think I was 10).

Lesley, great job on exercising tonight! I'm glad that Mojo's eye is doing better! Sounds like with the dilated eye he might have looked more than a little psychotic.. haha.

Muse, sounds like you're doing great OP with all of the exercising and fitting into those size 20 pants!!

Everyone else, :wave:

Man, I am absolutely beat. I'm still not sure how I'm managing to stay awake right now considering how I've been feeling all day.

Normal school classes today were fine, but after school I had to work on my calculus lab with my study group and that's when things went downhill. It took us FOREVER and we're still not finished. We worked on it for 5 hours, so I didn't get home until 8:30 and we only stopped because we were so tired that nothing made sense anymore and we were basically staring blankly at the computer screen. I'm sure that all of you have been there at some point for one reason or another.

Because of this, once again, my eating got thrown WAY off. I didn't eat badly or anything, but my schedule was all over the place. I ate breakfast at my usual time for my MWF classes at 10:30, but then didn't eat lunch/dinner combo until around 9. By that time, I basically had to stuff myself to the gills just to meet my daily calorie requirement. Next time I need to just bring a lunch with me...

That'll be a lot easier when my new insulated lunch box comes in. I started looking around online for one and started reading all of these horrible things about high levels of lead being found in the vinyl ones (all of them have a little lead because the vinyl needs it as a stabilizer, but these were beyond that). I'm glad I didn't just run to Walmart and buy one. Instead I opted for an acrylic alternative that is absolutely lead free.

I really don't know how I'm going to manage my time this semester and remain sane. Tonight I worked my butt off for Calculus, but ended up not having time to get my English reading done. We're supposed to have read half of The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton by tomorrow, but we're not discussing it until Thursday... so that buys me a little time.

Oh, and I did walk from the parking lot today to campus! I was going to do it after my lab as well, but we didn't finish before dark and I wanted to play it safe, considering walking back to the lot isn't very well lit.

Okay, I've jabbered on for long enough... see you chickies later!

Can I join you guys?

I signed up here a couple of months ago, then faded away. But I'm back and really want to give it a go this time! But I really need some support. I never, ever imagined I'd be this big and I really want to get a grip on things before I get any bigger!

As you all know, no one knows what it's like to be this big unless they've been there. And you seem like a really nice group of people.

So if there's room for one more, I'd like to join you!

Thanks!

Hi Kari, :welcome: to a great bunch of women and man. I've been coming here for a few months now and have gotten such great support. Just start posting away, we're all here for ya.

Lindsay, you just wear me out!! :rofl:

Muse, :congrat: for getting into the 50's!!

LitChick, I looooooooove to read too. I got rid of 2 garbage bags full of books not too long ago and have a new pile already. I read all different kinds. Glad to hear Mojo's eye is better.

Well, I'm off to watch some tv.
Debbie

Hello All,

I don’t know about the rest of you but I get so fed up of coming here and saying how I had a bad day, and how I’m back on track etc. Yesterday turned out to be a bad day for me, I used my not feeling well as an excuse to not worry about what I ate. I ate way over my points, in fact I stopped counting them after a while. I have old diet journals and at the front of them I keep a list of my WI’s and my weight loss as the weeks progress. Every one up until last year showed a good start, and then a + week, another + week, some - weeks, more + weeks, some 0 weeks and so on until I just had more + weeks and eventually just stopped. It’s quite depressing to look at. Last year when I started this diet I lost nearly 100 lbs from April to December. Looking at the list of the WI’s was wonderful, even on the weeks when I did lose 0. Now though I’ve had 9 months of the old kind of journal, lots of gains, a few losses, and very little real weight loss. I get SO angry at myself, and like I said, so fed up of ‘trying again’. Sometimes I just want to stop coming here at all til I can either come and say, hey I’m 500 lbs now, or, much better to come and say, hey I did it, I’m at goal. I know we are all in the same boat, I know I need to come here for support, and heck, sometimes to even give it. But today it is just all really getting to me. I WANT to give up but I CAN’T give up on myself and yet it’s so hard not to. How stupid is that! Oh well sorry for the rant, I just wanted to get it off my chest. I’ll be back later hopefully in a better frame of mind. Until then I hope everybody is having a better day than me.

Hugs,

Ammi :chicken:

Ammi- 1st :hug: 2nd you leave it will force me to get a passport and come find you you and drag you kicking and screaming back here to 3fc.:D 3rd I think you and most here get to be to hard on yourselves. Think about how you used to eat and how you eat now. Think about what you couldn't do 110 pounds ago vs what you can do now. Weight loss is like the stock market if you watch it every day your going to jump off a bridge. But in the long term your coming out a head. I used to stress about hitting my points every day. Now as long as I'm close either over or under I count it as a good day(close is within 300 cals). Now if I'm off by 600+ cals then thats a bad day and i think over the day to see what happened. Stressing for perfection leads to burn out and disappointment.

Perhaps you should take a few days to just simply relax destress and refocus. Or do what I did hit the pub for a few( in my case 6 plus rum and coke) pints and 20oz bacon cheese burger. I feel totally relaxed and unwound from form the stress of the past week and I'm ready to get back at it.

You're doing great you can do this and your really doing fine.

Good Morning!:coffee:

Ammi: We must be on the same page because I feel EXACTLY the same way. :hug: Unfortunately for me, I have never had the joy of losing 100lbs...only gaining it! :eek: I seem to get to the same place and then figure the heck with it. It is sooooooooooo frustrating!! But I am the queen of denial. I didn't even look in a full length mirror for years and years. Only the bathroom one. I figured if my face and hair looked good, no one would look at the rest of me. Yeah, sure.
I know if I just exercise or eat more veggies instead of carbs I would do better. I love being on WW because it is so flexable, but I think that in the back of my mind I feel I can eat anything and not have consequences for it. I have never lost more than 50lbs (on PhenPhen pills)...and I was so pissed when they found out the combo was bad for your heart. I have never lost more than 20lbs on a "real" diet either. I know this has to be a lifestyle change...and I see how easily I can fall back into old habits due to laziness. That's another part I want to change...but until this foot is healed, I don't see that happening. I just know I want to be around for my family, and when the oppertunity at work for WW came around, I figured I really would be stupid not to do it. Boy, talk about the shock of seeing the scale at 380!!! It scared the crap out of me!! And I wish I could find that feeling again so I could be more commited to what I have to do. So I DO understand, and it is a amazing thing that this group is here, but alas, in the long run it really comes down to our own willpower. I just wish it could be a little easier...
So, my friend, you are not alone in your feelings, and I am sure many others feel the same. So here is extra :dust: and a big smooch, and just live one day at a time because that's all we really can do. (Steps off:soap:)


Kari::welcome3: This place is the best for finding friends, encouragement, and support!!


Lindsey: The weather here has been amazing...70 during the day...I love this time of year. If I could have it like this all the time I would be a happy girl!! School sounds hard...especially Calculus:faint:! I did go back for a little while, but I got pregnant with my daughter and had to stop. I was planning on becomming a nurse, but now being older, I would never be able to do it. I give people alot of credit who do.


Lesley: I am glad Mojo's eye will be ok. I love kitty eyes, especially when they are all big...although I would have been a little freaked out by one big and one small eye. He must have looked hilarious. I am a big reader too. We have shelves at work and it's sorta like a book swap. I just keep bringing in my old stuff and even when I finish another one, I still put it back so I have more space at home.

Debbie: :yay: Sounds like you had a great Dr visit!! You are doing so well and the numbers prove it!!

Peggy: That was such a nice surprise!! Sometimes a man has to be :frypan: to see what's in front of them!!:rofl:

Well I gotta run and hit the shower...Mom Taxi to the Rescue!!! :moped:Beep, Beep!

Have a Great OP Day!:cheer2:

Ammi i know how you feel but that is dangerous thinking. stay with us and keep helping me plug on along ok?

WAHAY!!!! At last I'm back AGAIN, nearly EIGHT weeks without the internet, our USELESS provider FINALLy got it sorted out!
I just read this wek's thread & a bit of last week's so forgive my personal comments, or lack thereof.
Annie, you had the op? Am I right? Hope you are doing well & healing up etc.BIG HUGSXXXXXXX
Ammi, I KNOW how you feel, Cd is really hard & every night I end up eating. Today I had a truly horrific migraine, sickness, disturbed vision, headpain & feling weird & spaced out, another excuse to eat, helps the sicness I tell myself as I eat ANOTHER ginger snap!! Yeah, right! lol
Well I'm off to cook dinner, I WILL BE BACK, ISP permitting, on a regular basis & will reply to everyone.
xxxxhugs, sharon
ps I missed you guys SO MUCH. Wyllen, you look GORGEOUS & YOUNG in your new pic!!

Ammi-How do you think I feel? I never seem to lose more than a pound, and then gain ten, and take another month or two to lose that plus another pound. I take one step forward and ten steps back each time. All I know is that it was worse when I didn’t come here. I watch everyone lose, and yes, I know I’ve come a long way already, but I just feel so stuck sometimes. I have a bad day, and yesterday was a really bad one, and I retreat into chocolate or something else worse. I feel like a fraud and a failure. I keep coming back because it is my only hope, my last hope. I have to keep trying. Seeing others struggle sometimes makes it easier. If it was easy for everyone else, as hard as I struggle at times, I really would give up all hope. The best description I ever heard of baseball is that the hard is what makes it great. If it was easy, everyone would do it. If this was easy, we wouldn’t need each other to do it. I need you here. We are stronger with you than without you.

Hello my Sweet Peeps!

LitChickie, I love book sales too. I did purged all my books except for the ones that I re-read. It was hard, but the house I live in in smmmmmall! hehe.

Yay for the NSV in the pants, Ideal!

Lindsey, ugh, men.. I hear you and Tori's frustration. They live in their own little obvious world (BigJohn.. you are excluded). I'm referring to the ones who don't notice weight loss or who show up at the front door unexpectedly! Oh, and YAY for walking.. good call about riding back in the dark. Safety first.

Welcome Kari! Just hop right in :)

VoodooSharon, wow! Welcome back. Sorry your ISP is being such a ditz. I have a backup broadband card I use in my laptop.

Ammi, Donna, TTForU, Catherine.. I'm with BigJohn; focusing on the daily grind will drive you nuts! You ladies lift me up when I'm in that mental space. Today it's my turn to help you. You all have come so far!! You are here and being accountable, whether it's for one bad day or a string of bad ones. Without accountability, those bad ones could last weeks or months. Today, one bad day might mean 10 steps back, but you are shorting yourself on how many steps forward you've made. You share your stress with us, your successes with us and your NSVs. How many of those would you be eating over without being able to share with folks who understand?

I hear ya on the frustration, fraud and failure feelings!! ACK the 4Fs!!! I would like to turn this around and ask if you would be able to feel those nasty feelings if sedated by copious amounts of food? I am convinced these feelings are part of the journey.

I know you can get through these feelings to the other side. I'm here with you.

Luv and Hugs, :hug:
Ratkitten

Welcome back, Sharon!!!!!

thanks for the inspiration ratkitten!
welcome back voodoo!
annie how are you doing/

WONDERFUL POST RK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Those that are struggling...PLEASE don't give up!!! We need you ALL here!! Even though some lose steadily does not mean that it is NOT HARD!!! I personally struggle daily. Can I make it through today without binging? Some days I answer NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! I try not to and sometimes I succeed, but I am always teetering there. I have had 40 ++ years of bad eating habits and it is hard to shake those suckers!! Yesterday was a day that I felt lousy...like my thyroid meds were off or something. I wanted to eat everything and anything. Thankfully I did NOT....but its one day at a time for me...sometimes an hour at a time. I understand!!

Sharon...lovely to see you back!! Hope all is well with you.

Annie! Time to check in sweetie....how are you doing?

Ammi, you seem to have reached a point where the same old same old is no longer working for you. You've come a tremendously long way, and I think it might be worth considering that it's not you failing the diet, but the diet failing you at this point. White knuckling and exercising will power over food is difficult to sustain over the long run, and perhaps you need a new approach for a time.

Have you ever considered intuitive eating? It can really help eliminate the roller coaster of 'good' and 'bad' days, and the sense of failure that goes with that. There is no longer a need to shove in loads of food X on Wednesday because you're going back on plan on Thursday. There are no foods that are off limits. If nothing else, it might allow you to relieve the pressure right now without feeling like you're abandoning your efforts all together.

Nancy - I hope your foot is better...it's one of my huge fears that something will happen to me along those lines and my efforts will be derailed. I had a knee injury once that signaled the end to the first decent bout of weight loss I'd had in a while. As I've gotten older and my joints more stressed by decades of too much weight I feel fragile in a way I haven't in the past. Wishing you a speedy recovery. :)

Sometime this weekend, if all goes well, I will fulfill a dream I've had for almost 13 years. I will go ice skating with my son rather than staying on the sidelines. I was going to wait until I lost another 30 pounds, but I decided that was a bit of an artificial limitation so I went out and bought the most outrageously cute skates I could find:

http://www.canadiantire.ca/browse/pr...romSearch=true

I'm really worried about injuring my knees in particular, but I'll take every precaution I can and just go out and live my new life with fingers and toes crossed. I've purchased knee pads, and will look into a knee wrap as well. And - sigh - I suppose I should get a helmet, although I usually look geeky in any kind of head gear.

I work downtown, and was totally excited to discover that our main arena (also located downtown) is open for public skating from noon to 2:00 pm two weekdays. I'll be able to skate on my lunch twice a week!

This all assumes I don't kill myself on the ice this weekend of course. It will be the first time I'm on skates for 25 years. Gah!

:)

Ammi, please keep coming here and posting. We are here for the ups and the downs. Give yourself credit for all you have done, for all the good days, and for all the times you chose to eat or not eat in support of your health.

You had several days of being on plan. You can begin again. All of us here begin again on a regular basis. I am not even that far into my journey, and have had numerous days when I went off plan. As Peggy says, we have had years of bingeing and habits that are ingrained. Be gentle on yourself.

Again, keep coming, and keep posting, no matter how many posts are like the other. It's not about having new things to say, it's about being accountable, and letting us all support each other.

Ammi: Hugs sweetie. Sometimes it is nice to look over journals etc. It may be more beneficial to you to not look into the past year from December to April when you lost 100 pounds. Tomorrow is another day. A brand new day. You haven’t eaten off your plan for tomorrow yet. So, look forward not back hun. Maybe it is time to change things up a bit? Another type of diet or perhaps a break without thinking about loosing weight. Just live! You give more encouragement and support than you know. Please don’t stop coming here even if you are “ready to try again” every single day. Huge, Huge hugs to you.

Debbie: LOL about your cats and dog working together. Kitties are cute and think that all things “flingable” are fun. Lol Of coarse Marilyn sounds like my dog Pepper. She is like a goat and will eat pretty much anything. Super great NSV’s! So happy for you.

Sue: I am glad that you found a nice place to move. Sorry you have to though. I hate moving. Lol. So very glad to see you back here though. I was getting worried. How is your step Dad? I hope okay.

Lindsey: I don’t have an Avenue around here anymore. I moved here from Southern Idaho that doesn’t have one either. I used to live in Folsom CA and there were Avenue stores everywhere in Sacramento area. I loved going there and yep, I loved their underwear too. I like the ones that are made out of Microfiber fabric. They wear well for me and are comfy. Sorry your friend did that to you. My friend that I went shopping with is just so negative about everything. I used to walk with her every day but it got to be too much for me to try to cheer her up every day. Plus she would cancel on me constantly too. Congrats on your 100% test score! Congrats getting under the 300 mark! You are rokin it.

Catherine: They don’t take it out here or in CA where my sister in law had her surgery unless it is necessary. She wasn’t put on any meds to help her Gall bladder and she had to have hers removed about a year after her surgery. I am hoping my Gall bladder is a good girl and behaves while I am loosing so rapidly. I hope you are enjoying working at the games etc. I’m glad you are getting something out of it not just sore feet. I know you are doing it for charity work but, please take care of yourself and your tootsies. Hugs Catherine. I know your pain about not having a mom to talk about things to. I wish I was there to give you a hug.

Ratkiten: Hugs. You just have to take it as you can with what other people think and do. I haven’t been seen as a person yet so I really am not going through what you are. I am trying to think of myself as a person again now so It really is a huge mind trip. I think just be yourself and try not to notice what other people are gonna say or think. Hugs again.

Nancy: So sorry that your feet are hurting. Hugs.

Vicki: Glad you are doing okay. Sorry that you are in some pain. I am hopefully going to have the same operation next year. Lol. I know that is a long way off but, I am thinking about it and hoping I can afford to have it done. Hang in there. I am not missing Lindsey too much now. Time heals all. Lol. Hugs to you sweetie.

Donna: Hi girl.

Battle: Congrats on being down another 3 pounds. You are doing so great. Nice that you can go to Mervyns now too. You are really doing well.

John: Congrats on being right no target for you weight loss/Birthday goal. Keep up the great work. LOL about the spider thing. My hubby feels that same way about snakes and my big ole dad feels like that about mice. Lol.

Peggy: I am so happy for you getting to a point where you can “tuck” GO girl. Aww. Nice to see your brothers. How sweet and what a great surprise. I can tell that they love you just like you are/were that is why no comment on your weight loss. Hugs.

Xena: Hugs to you hun. I know you can do this. Anyone who is tenacious enough to do all the schooling that you do can do it. Hang in there. I am totally up for some kind of reunion thingy. Count me in. If it is in the future far enough away so I can save some money to go! I would love to meet you all.

Nancy: I am grinning from ear to ear at your dancing. I am so proud of you. It is amazing to me to be able to be so proud of someone and have genuine happy feelings for their accomplishments yet, I’ve never actually met you in person. I am so happy for you to dance. I can’t wait until I am brave enough to join in!

Brenda: Come on You can do it. Get it together. I know you can. I think that maybe instead of trying to loose more just maintain right now. Hopefully that will be okay until you get to feeling like continuing on the loosing. Hugs.

Patty: Glad you are back. Hugs.

Heather: Welcome Back. Glad you had a great time.

Ideal: hi there.

Kari: Glad to see you back of coarse you can join in.

Sharon: Yipeee! So happy to see you back here. You have been missed. Glad that your ISP is back up and running. Yep, I had my operation 3 weeks ago tomorrow. I will be seeing the Dr. on Thursday morning to see how I am doing, I feel great by the way, and see what my official weight loss is. I have been weighing at home and am too nervous to count it as my official weight loss until I see that the scale at the Dr.’s office is the same. So glad to have you back with us.

Meta: Have fun skating. Hugs

I am doing well. I actually got ill today and that scared me because I know I am not supposed to vomit until I am healed. I called the Dr. all in a panic and everything is okay as long as I am not in pain. After I got sick I was fine. No pain involved just queezy feeling. lol. NO more Optifast shakes ever for me. lol.

I am sorry that a few of you are struggling so much right now. I do know how you feel, I too re-read my journals recently and it made me sad how many years I would pretty much write the same thing over and over again about loosing weight and getting healthy. It is so important for me to just let all that go. Realize I can not relive the past. I can only try my very best to live right for as long as I am here on earth. I truly don't want to come here and have weight loss goals and be loosing weight while some of my dear friends are having such a struggle. Maybe I should just check in once in a while to say hello and see how you are all doing?

Blessings to you all,
Annie

ANNIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't you DARE not come here and post because you are reaching your goals and some of us are struggling!! We love you and rejoice in the fact that you ARE reaching those goals you felt were just out of reach a few short months ago. As my husband says jokingly..."You don't want to piss my wife off" :o:o

Soooooooooo........

:hug::hug::hug::hug:

You better keep posting girlfriend....you inspire me!!!!!!! :)

Peace!

No way, Annie, you aren't gonna be let go THAT easily!! None of this checking in once in a while! I wanna know details and how you are doing. RNY is just a tool. After the honeymoon period, I don't want you to be alone (even though I know you have support groups thru the docs).

Yah! You don't wanna piss off Torister!

Luv and Hugs,
Rat

OMG!!! Annie...don't you dare go away!!! If I said anything to make you feel that way...PLEASE...disreguard it and I apologise!! I love hearing from you and your fantastic journey!! I am so happy you are getting healthy and am one of your biggest cheerleaders!! Your posts warm my heart, and I look foward to reading them. That also goes for both Ammi and Catherine!! You have welcomed me with open arms and I feel that this group has the only people who could possibly understand how I feel. My feelings just came pouring out and I didn't think anyone would feel bad. I am so sorry!!!

I want to say to all of you that being here has changed my life. This time my weight loss journey is different, and a good part of that is because of your support and your willingness to share your victories, challenges, struggles, and insights. I come here way too often, but it helps immeasurably to read about each of you and what you are facing.

On many occasions your words have brought tears to my eyes and lifted me up. None of you are frauds or failures. You are humans facing a very big challenge.

This is the hardest thing most of us will ever do in life. The success stories help me believe it is possible to lose a large amount of weight. The daily struggles help me see that we all have our ups and downs, and that overcoming our weight problems (more like, in most cases, managing) is rarely done in a straight line. The majority zig zag their way to health, and spend the rest of their lives working at it.

I want to send hugs to all of you who are struggling today, and cheers to all who have gone through today according to plan.

Annie – Don’t you dare go away!!!! One of the things that keeps me going when I am struggling is knowing that one of my “sisters” is making it. It is a beacon of hope that keeps me going in hard times. Do you know how many times I have thought about not exercising and then I think of you and it gets me up and moving? You are a star! We need your light! Keep on shining!

Ammi - :hug: I am sorry you are having such rough time, but please stay with us. I know how grueling it can feel sometimes. It is so hard knowing that I have lost so much already and yet I am still so overweight. I think this deadline you have set for yourself going to the theme park is part of your mental troubles. I know for myself that when I feel like I might fail it makes it that much harder. The thing is, I think you will do just fine as you are today going to that park, so please let that stop being a pressure for you.

Sharon – Welcome back!!! I have missed you and have wondered how you are doing. I hope your ISP starts behaving themselves.

Deb – You mentioned a bit ago about live meet ups. That would be so cool! I would really try to be there if we had something, although I know it is so difficult with us being all over the place.

Muse – At least here, Target seems to have cut back on a lot of their plus sized stuff. I couldn’t find anything I liked there. The ones I got are like this: http://www.danskin.com/womens-cotton...pant-8424.html, but slightly different. Also they were only $12 at Wal-Mart.

Meta – I tried the link you gave, but it wants me to tell them I live in Canada (postal code) so I couldn’t see the skates. However, that is so fantastic that you will be skating again with your son. I would love to ice skate again. I did it when I was little, but never got very good at it.

Kari – Welcome back! Please jump right in!


Well, I am off to watch The Biggest Loser in just a few minutes. I DVR it and so I start later into it. I like to skip over the really dramatic stuff (like the vote offs) and of course the commercials. My parents are visiting on Saturday and we are going to the Bronx Zoo. It should be fun!

Hello Everyone :wave:

Well, today started off really good - I weighed in and am down another 4lbs, which meant I was able to add another :yay: to my signature. Tonight hubby brought home a bag of baked lays and I ended up eating almost half the bag. *sigh* Even as I was eating, I'm thinking, why? So I guess on the upside I didn't let myself just sit there and finish the whole bag, which would be my usual MO. I did go walking this evening before supper, so that's two days in a row of exercise - baby steps, baby steps.

Muse, hurray for being in the 250s and fitting into those size 20s! Sounds like you'll be in the teens soon!

Lindsey, I hadn't heard about lead in those cooler bags! :yikes: Between that and finding out today about the carcinogens leaching from water bottles, Big Macs and Cokes aren't sounding that bad! Just kidding, of course. :p Is this your first year of college?

Kari, :welcome2: back! You've come back to a great place for support, whether it's a :hug: or a :kickbutt: that you need. :)

Ammi, sorry to hear you're feeling down. I think we can all say we've been there, and will doubtless revisit it again in the future. I take great comfort and support in reading yours and everyone else's comments, whether you're celebrating a day of being on plan or being disappointed by not losing at weigh-in, or whatever. So please, keep coming here and posting, and know that you will get out of this slump and get back on the path to wellness. :hug:

John, your response to Ammi was so very true, and something we all need reminding of from time to time. Thanks for posting that.

Donna, sounds like you're in need of a :hug: too. Take strength and comfort in the fact that you are doing something to change yourself for the better, and take it day by day. I think a lot of us have denial issues when it comes to our weight, or we wouldn't be where we're at.

Sharon, :wave: so great to see you back! I just came back myself after a few weeks in hiding. :cool: Sorry you're not feeling well, but glad you've got internet back!

Catherine, your journey and your struggles are a source of inspiration for me. I read your posts and think heck, if she's not giving up, how can I? I only hope that I do the same for someone else.

Meta, those are some nifty skates! Gone are the days of just white/girls, black/boys, huh? It's been years since I've gone skating (grew up in Canada) but I'd love to do it again. :bravo: to you!

Annie, Please don't stay away, or censor what you say when you post. I think we all take great joy, pride, and inspiration in your journey. Sorry to hear you weren't feeling well but that it wasn't anything major. Good luck at the doctor's! I'll be curious to see your 'official' weight. :hug:

Nancy, I've only tried clothes shopping in Target a couple times, and walked away frustrated and empty-handed. Seems like their plus-size inventory could fit on one rack. Last year I was getting some really nice shirts at Walmart but this summer it was the opposite - the only thing decent things I could find were pants - then again, I was just thankful that I could finally fit into their pants! Oh, and if you enter B4C 3L3 (my old postal code, haha), you can see Meta's skates - they look like a pair of skater shoes, very cool!
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OK, I'm off to relax a bit before bed. Night, all!

Re workout clothes: I went to KMart and found a fair amount of workout clothes to choose from. Some were in the plus size section, and some were in the workout clothes section. I bought a pair of 2x pants for $10 on sale.