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Old 04-16-2007, 03:02 AM   #1  
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Unhappy what do you say to someone who fails

Hello chicas,

I have left, and failed, and come back at an even higher weight. I need your help you are all doing so good and I am here getting more and more unhealthy.

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Old 04-16-2007, 06:00 AM   #2  
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Wecome back! All I can say is that if you have come back to try again, then you haven't failed--"trying" is NEVER failing
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Old 04-16-2007, 06:44 AM   #3  
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You haven't failed. Here you are *trying*! That is definitely not failing!

Welcome back!!!
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Old 04-16-2007, 07:08 AM   #4  
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If losing weight was easy we'd all be a size 12!!! It's HARD, the difference is NEVER GIVE UP!!! I'm welcoming you back with open arms. Try not to dwell on what's passed, it'll only drag you down, look forward to each new day as a fresh start. I was a TOTAL PIG yesterday, today I'm TOTALLY OP.
Keep coming on here, it stops you thinking about food, & focus on what you want to lose, not wha you've gained.
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Old 04-16-2007, 07:13 AM   #5  
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Welcome back, Pochita!

I agree with the others, you haven't failed. You know, before I started figuring this out, this time, I gained and lost too...

So, get failure out of your head and let's see if we can help you get back on track.
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Old 04-16-2007, 08:01 PM   #6  
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you haven't "failed" you've just tried a new way that didn't work! Now you have to find a way that does work!
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Old 04-16-2007, 08:21 PM   #7  
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Yup, what everyone said! How can you possibly fail unless you've given up trying? Welcome back!

"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."
- Thomas A. Edison
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Old 04-17-2007, 02:25 AM   #8  
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Have to agree with everyone else here. Welcome back and keep on trying!!!
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Old 04-17-2007, 09:12 AM   #9  
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I say WELCOME BACK! And stop feeling like a failure. The only true failure is to stop trying, which you clearly have not done!!! I hope this time you find what you need here with us!
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Old 04-17-2007, 09:18 AM   #10  
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Pochita!!! Feel good you have not given up! This is a long road and we are all on it!
DOnt despair, strive for progress not perfection!
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Old 04-17-2007, 10:47 AM   #11  
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It would be my guess that trying and failing and trying and failing and trying again describes the vast majority here in the 300+ club. It certainly describes me. I've been on diets dozens of times since at least the age of 13. Those attempts, though ultimately unsuccessful - or at least impermanent - each contributed something to the body of knowledge it will take for me to find ultimate success. Hopefully this time, but maybe next time, or the time after that.

Weight loss that is both signifcant and permanent is a tough, tough nut to crack. The hard truth is that the statistics are not on our side. For this reason, we have to be gentle with ourselves and approach this as a complex puzzle that needs to be solved, and not a failure of our personal strength or character.

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Old 04-17-2007, 08:58 PM   #12  
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BACK!
Keep on truckin dear! You will make it! Just keep on keepin on! One day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at
a time, one step at a time.

We celebrate your return!
Love your new friend in Christ, Gwyn
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Old 04-18-2007, 01:51 AM   #13  
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DITTO!! LOL See the signature below...
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Old 04-19-2007, 11:55 PM   #14  
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Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.-- Denis Waitley
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Old 04-23-2007, 04:40 PM   #15  
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Pochita, I'm in the same position as you. I keep "trying" and not DOING, and then I think, oh, I'll never make it.

But the alternative is to give up. I don't want to do that. So the only thing I know to do is to try again. And this time, to start by figuring out what's keeping me from succeeding.
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