Does he normally like those kinda rides. Probably not anymore. :barf: :lol:
Poor thing.

Hope next week goes better for you.

YaY!!!
 

newmyers....Congratulations on your 2 lb. loss!!! That's wonderful ;) Can you tell me what AF is?

KarenK, sorry about the SixFlags incident. What a bummer :barf: I hope that your little one is better now. I'm thinking i might have to use the "visual aide" suggestion for my dh ;) ....

LBH, way to go with the potty training!! My daughters weren't potty trained until 3. What a relief to have no more diapers in the house ;)

Momadance, thinking of you today, as I believe today is the BIG day...book-signing, right? Let us know how it went, K?

~~sending you a big hug right now - it sounds as though you are going through a really hard time right now. How would it be if you made the weight loss something for you, not DH? This is probably none of my business, but have you 2 been to counselling? I tend to deal with emotional eating by not having binge foods in the house so I have to actually go and get them if I want them! Also if I do 'give in' I try and minime the damage, like buying lower-fat oven fries or making wedges instead of getting chips from the shop, or a Turkish delight instead of a mars bar. Anyway good luck and keep posting - there's lots of support here~~

Thanks for the hug. I am trying to make it just for me, with no expectations from him but even when I am doing well with it and feel good I still want him to notice and be interested. Haven't been to counselling, he won't go.
I have some of those same tactics, I try not to have the things I LOVE here. I typically will have some hershey's kisses here for the chocolate. (are you in England?-the reason I ask is because of the foods you mention)
Rhonda

DH/encouragement
 

~~I have been there to the point you are now. Only when I tried losing weight for me my ex accused me of having an affair. (At least your's isn't doing that.) You are going to hit those times when (for whatever reason) the weight doesn't move. Have you tried a new exersize routine? Sometimes our muscles get used to doing a routine and we have to change it up. Maybe you could ask what your DH what he thinks of your newer look and explain to him that you need encouragement that is positive, like "you look nice" or "that outfit looks great" Sometimes men just don't get it. - until you have a heart to heart.~~

Actually my husband has eluded to that already. His mom cheated on his dad after loosing weight and going to the tanning bed...which is what I am doing now. He called me by my MILs name. (Big NO NO) I don't think he honestly believes that, we were discussing my unhappiness with our sex life at the time.
I am really hoping it gets nice outside here real soon, so we can play soccer more often in the yard with the kids. I am trying to get inspired to do the work outs more often and vary them.
I have asked him at times, but I get half hearted answers that end up making me feel worse. First of all if I have to ask him what he thinks then it must not be a very noticable change. Secondly when I get answers like "you look better than you have for a long time" to me that is very conditional and his way of not hurting my feelings. I understand that he doesn't want to hurt my feelings but I also know that I am looking GOOD right now...not just BETTER than I have in a long time. I am not sure what he is hoping for with this weight loss, I am not going to look like a swimsuit model...my body AC(after Children) just isn't the same. I feel like he has unrealistic expectations.
I have talked to him about a lot of this already. I haven't really felt up to talking to him about it recently. I have been feeling a bit down and feel like if we start talking about all of this it will make it worse and I will become very emotional during the conversation. (something I would rather not do, again)
Rhonda

decreased libido
 

~~I'm so sorry that you are having difficulites with DH. Maybe he needs to get a physical and make sure everything is in A OK working order. A decreased libido can be a symptom of physical maladies. If everything checks out, I'd say purchase some "visual aides" if your into that and set the scene with candles and no kids! But, YOU GO GIRL!! You are doing great with the weight loss. ~~

My husband has ALWAYS had a low libido. (nothing new) He has had physicals and had his testosterone levels checked. (they are low but still in the normal range) Everything is in working order. We went the visual aides route once before, didn't work out well for me, it seemed like a good idea at the time and even during, but after when I stopped to think about it and it was the most he's been into sex (EVER) I felt worse. I CAN'T look like those women...not with out a lot of plastic surgery. I really just want to feel sexually disired by my DH. Even when I was 18, 120 lbs and tone he still wasn't into sex. I don't know why this weight loss and all is making me hope for more interest from him...I guess I have to try something or I will go nuts.
Rhonda

Rhonda, join us on the new week's thread (May 1st!)