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Old 06-15-2007, 01:39 PM   #1  
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Hello. I'm Jenny. I'm 32 and I'm fat. I've always been "big" but now I've been fat for 7 years and I've lost 30 pounds twice, but never held. My husband reminds me I need to lose weight but isn't supportive about helping. We haven't had any intimacy in our relationship for a long time and it's because of my weight. It's given me the quick kick to the rear that I've needed to get going but now I'm so down about all of it that I'm blaming everyone other than myself for how I am.

Anyway, I'm here and I'll need support and it looks like this forum is a great way to get it! I have a 2 stage approach to weight loss...lose some weight quickly to get me motivated and then focus on being healthy and eating healthy so I can maintain forever. I have some intestinal trouble that doesn't allow me to eat too many raw veggies or fruits all at once so Weight Watchers did me in a few years ago, but now that I've learned what does bother me, I should be better off.

Looking forward to "meeting" all of you!
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Old 06-15-2007, 02:13 PM   #2  
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Hi Jenni! Welcome to 3FC and 30 Something! First of all, it sounds like you could use a big How about asking DH to help you, support you, be your routing section?! Tell him how much you really want to succeed, but you need support. And come here often, you'll find lots of support!
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Old 06-15-2007, 03:14 PM   #3  
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If you ever need someone to talk to send me a message. We are in the same boat......
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Old 06-15-2007, 05:12 PM   #4  
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When it comes to losing weight and getting healthy we have to do it for ourselves and nobody else. I guesss we all have to decide that we are worth it and that we are not getting any younger! I find once I start to exercise, I start to eat properly. After that I start to feel good about myself again!
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Old 06-16-2007, 10:42 PM   #5  
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Jenny, YOU are worth it, girlie!! YOU deserve to be happy and to love yourself as you are right now!! I say this to you because I, like so many people with weight struggles, have to remind ourselves that we are worthy of being healthy and happy for no other reason than because we are here and God's children!! Your DH may not really know how to best help you and this may be the only way he knows to encourage you. But you can always come here for support! I think that most of us have felt that our DH's need a swift kick in the you know what at some point! Maybe he just needs some direction on what would be most helpful to you? Either way, I applaud you for making that first step and wish you much success
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Old 06-16-2007, 11:26 PM   #6  
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Wink Thank you!

I AM worth it. I know that, I just wish DH was better able to show that he knows it too! We'll get there. we're having some very frank, not very comfortable conversations lately but we're managing to get through them.

As I lose weight I know my confidence will come up too. Watch out world...here I come!!!
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Old 06-20-2007, 08:26 AM   #7  
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Hi Jenny!
We are here for you! I hope your husband is more supportive of you now. How is the weight loss going??
take care!
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Old 06-20-2007, 09:12 AM   #8  
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Smile Thanks everyone!

for the pep talks. Weight loss is going well. I'm down 5 pounds since last week for a total of 15. It's starting to show in my face which made DH start to compliment me yesterday. He's trying to be supportive, but I had to explain that it's still very hard for me to graciously accept any compliments from him since he only ever compliments me when I'm losing weight. All of these suppressed hurt feelings are coming out and I had to explain to him that when you don't get any acknowledgement or appreciation while in "fat" mode, it's very hard to suddenly be overwhelmed by it while in "losing" mode. It makes me question my self-worth and be sad about life in general. I think he finally started to get that. So, we basically ended last night by me telling him to keep the compliments coming and that eventually I'll start to accept them more graciously and to remember that no matter what my weight, I need to feel like he really does appreciate me or things will only get worse.

Another day, another challenge, but we're both getting there!

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Old 06-20-2007, 10:23 AM   #9  
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Jenny. that is really cool that you lost 15 pounds. YOU GO GIRL.... And Im glad that you husband is finally starting to "get it". Men are so clueless. LOL

Anytime you need to talk just email me....
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Old 06-21-2007, 01:30 AM   #10  
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Ji Jennie!

I know exactly how you feel about the talks with the husband and lack of physical attention......I have been teaching myself to saty more possitive and just stay on track no matter what happens at home.......hope your doing well!
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YAY!! 15 pounds! Good for you! I am glad that your dh is being more supportive!!! I am new here too - and it looks like this is a very supportive place to be! Keep up the good work girl!
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Wow Jennie! I am so glad to hear that things are going well for you! 15 pounds is fantastic - you must be so proud of yourself! What have you been doing to lose?
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