Yep. I've had a very similar experience. Sadly it took me 3yrs and half a bottle of wine to give him the push.
He wasn't evil, but I guess I gave him an inch and he took a mile. He'd see other women and I'd allow him to still sleep with me etc in a deluded bid to make him see that I was the one for him. Still I was only 18 at the time and he was quite a few of my 'firsts'.
I graduated from university, I got home, and back to my family and oldest friends. Who made me see that I had a problem with food. I started to lose weight and as my weight went down my confidence went up. I finally got the courage to tell him to get out of my life as I didn't deserve to be treated like someones bit on the side. He denied that he'd ever treated me as more than a friend...and I couldn't help it, I laughed in his face. I felt liberated and finally able to move on from him. He wasn't holding me back or making me feel bad about myself.
Then I met my current boyfriend. Who is amazing. I trust him completely, he makes me feel beautiful, he's supportive and wants me to be happy, which is why he's volunteered to do my healthy eating plan with me.
I have no doubt you'll find someone amazing who truly deserves you. Well done for being so strong, I know how hard it must have been! Keep up the good work, he'll regret losing you.
Last edited by IsobelRose22; 04-04-2012 at 02:21 AM.
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