I'm not big on the whole "buy me something to show you love me" aspect of V-day.

My biggest problem with it is that it's my birthday. Try having a party on V-day - everyone's got plans with their SO. My SO's often freak out because it's both V-day and my birthday. One year I got a really awesome combined present - a surround system and a blu-ray player. (My ex worked for a high-end audio installer) But most years I don't get too much.

LOL wow. Some guys just know what they are "suppose" to buy and don't even take the girl into consideration which is CRAZY!

When I was in college I dated a guy who was not romantic at all. He thought Valentine's Day was stupid and if you liked it at all you were an idiot. I told him a month ahead of time that it was important to me that he do something, even if it was a stuffed animal from the dollar store, because the entire rest of the year he wouldn't hug me in public, hold my hand ever, or tell me that he loves me (He told me he'd only say he loves me if he wanted to marry me but he was positive he felt the same way about me that I did about him... right). So I told him it was important to show me that he actually cares about me on Valentine's because I felt like I was just convenient for him to have around. I gave him a few reminders about it because he was terrible with dates. Come 10PM on Valentine's Day, I hadn't said a word about it to him.. mostly hoping that he was playing a game and would do something for me at night. But he never did. I got so angry that I yelled at him. Then he ripped a piece of paper out of a notebook, folded it in half, and wrote "Happy v-day" on it and gave it to me. I was super insulted. Took me awhile to stop being mad about that lol.

This year, I'm actually really excited! My boyfriend tells me he's planning "the most romantic and sappy thing ever" and I'm "absolutely going to love it." I'm really, really excited to see what it is. The craziest thing is I had to sign a form that he wouldn't let me look at because it would ruin the surprise (If I can't trust him I can't trust anyone) and the line I signed said signature of owner. Wtf?! Soo curious. Secretly hoping it's a ring but am not getting my hopes up and don't know what a form would have to do with that

I think the general idea is that Valentine's day means a lot of things to a lot of people. If it's a day that makes you exhausted or angry or mad at the over commercialization then that is just fine and you're absolutely entitled to feel that way. But if it's important to you then I think that that's something your partner should respect. I think everyone agrees that showing your love should be a daily occurance. But why not take a day to do something extra special? I don't see anything wrong with that, whether or not it makes card companies and flower shops a ton of money. Because sometimes we like to feel that we're worth that extra effort, that bouquet of flowers, that slow, sweet 'I love you' that we might be quick to dismiss doing on another day. Even if it costs no money at all, it's great to have a day where you either plan something nice or have something planned for you.

I think in the end it's a holiday just like any other. Some people celebrate it and some don't. If you want your partner to make it a special day then you should let them know, and then maybe take the initiative and do something special for them first.

And lastly, if you don't have that a sig. other then who cares? Show love to the family and friends you have in your life. I've certainly spent valentines day without a boyfriend. But it doesn't get me down because I know that I have a lot of great people in my life. So I do something for them.

sontaikle & Mitz - Video games are the best Valentine's presents ever! I got Mass Effect 2 last year, I ended up playing it constantly even when I went to visit him shortly after Valentine's Day. He even got sick and I was playing it and he'd be like "Heeey, can you get me some waaaattterrr" and I'd be like "yeahinaminute" and then 10 would pass and he'd say "Heeeey!!" So now he jokes that one day I might love him enough to stop playing Mass Effect 2 =p

call me material if you want to but ... my bf has serious financial problems and we've decided to cut out the presents (didn't get me anything for our anniversary either and i got us a whole-day spa pampering) and i know ahead that i'll miss getting something, at least a plain chocolate. :dizzy: i know it's dumb to think like that :o i did bargain him taking the day off for valentines day, tho, so i'm really excited about that! :)

Well, our anniversary falls two days prior so we tend to do something Valentine related as there is no way to avoid it. Helps beat the rush.

Sure, there is a part of me that feels it is an overrated Hallmark day. However, when I stop and think about it, there is too much of life going on. It would be overwhelming not to celebrate on the given day & having the pressure of it being expected at random.

My advice to you is set your own Valentines day with him. Express your need for romanticism and intimacy. Some guys just don't get it. Others blindly think it's the only way to a woman's heart. All in all, just be honest with him about your desires.

That game looks pretty cool! I'm actually addicted to Fallout 3. I have New vegas, but I find three harder and I enjoy the storyline more. I have one where I play the "good" girl and another account where I play the bad *** and kill whoever I want. lol I haven't beaten it because I keep restarting the games. hehe. So if you haven't played fallout 3 you should! :carrot:

I'm sorry your ex-boyfriend was a D-bag. :hug:

I enjoy Valentine's Day, personally. My hubby and I have been together for almost 9 years and married for 5.5. We are so busy with kids, work obligations, etc. that although we show our love and appreciation for one another year-round, it's nice to have a day (along with our anniversary) where we both make extra effort to take time for ourselves/each other. We don't usually do gifts or cards, we just make a special dinner at home to avoid fighting the crowds.

This year we'll be apart (the babies and I are moving cross-country the day before, and he has to stay and work in our current home for an extra week before coming down).

I have always always loved Valentine's Day! Even when I was single, even as a child I loved it. It is a day to celebrate love! And if anything should be celebrated it is love! Not just romantic love but love between a parent and child, love between sisters and brothers, love between friends!

It isn't about roses and candlelit dinners and expensive jewellery! It is about appreciation and spending time together. I find that instead of expecting special gifts and gesture I give love to others and that makes my experience richer.

My parents always gave us little Valentine's and chocolates and I always gave out cards to all my friends. I still make sure that I send a Facebook message or text to my friends and sisters to let them know I love them on Valentine's Day. My husband and I have been together for 9 years and we don't necessarily do anything extremely special on V-day but we acknowledge it by spending some time together and reflecting on our love.

Sure it has been commercialized but so has every other holiday! But you can decide whether or not you want to make it commercialized or not. And yes you should treat each other well everyday of the year but in our busy lives we sometimes get wrapped up in other things and take our loved ones for granted. Valentine's day reminds us to stop and think of those that we love and realize how lucky we are to have them!

Stay positive, give love and avoid cynicism!

I've always loved valentines day! I see where everyone comes from though that it's a "forced" holiday because it's a day where you have to do something nice, but it can still be unique for each couple (or a group of friends!)...you have to think outside the box on how to make it special! So I guess I like it for that potential element of surprise.

My dad has also done a ritual since I was little where he sends me flowers every valentines day, and that's very meaningful to me. But valentines isn't just for couples. You can always do something special with your friends!

The only thing I wouldn't like is if my boyfriend proposed to me on valentines day...that just seems too cliche.

Isn't that what anniversaries are for?

I love Valentine's Day (and most other holidays) and always go all out, regardless of my relationship status. I make little gift bags for all my friends and for my professors and neighbors and the staff at my apartment complex. I fill them with cookies I bake and decorate and candy and I tie the with ribbon and put one of those cheesy valentine cards that we gave to all our classmates in grade school on the outside. It really, really makes people happy and goofy and makes the day a lot of fun for me. Sometimes I have a boyfriend, and I always try to get him something special, sometimes I don't. I always love the day. Any excuse to give little presents is a good one in my book.

That only works if you remember them

Just so you know, if we were mates I would totally go to your birthday party if it was on Valentine's day! Chicks before d!cks I say ;p.

Also, you look freakin' awesome in your avatar.

LOL! I can totally relate.... my husband asks me every single year what our anniversary is (the one where we started dating). I'm like "Really? It's been 8 years babe."

We eloped feb 2nd last year, and i mentioned how i wanted to do something for it and he asked "When was that again? It's really been a year?" And I'm like "Um really?" All I want to do is go out to dinner, ain't nothing more. and the guy can't even remember Valentines day either.

It's gonna be a long 50 or so years, :lol: