I am so disgusted with myself. I tried on multiple outfits today and decided to just not go to class. I knew this day would come, but I was hoping it would be a day I could afford to miss. I NEVER miss class, but I can't stand to look at myself, I don't know how anyone else could either. I hope I'm not the only chick that's ever felt this way. It's a very gross feeling, and now I have to explain to my husband why I'm sitting at home and not at the University. I'm thinking using stomach problems as my excuse.....a fat stomach is a problem, so techinically, I won't be lying??? Blegh...whatever.
I have days of not wanting to be seen like when I get a huge zit... I don't get pimple often but when they happen they are gigantic! Don't fret it will pass.
OMG seriously? From your profile picture, you look beautiful, no matter what size you are!!
I want to give you something to think about, and please don't take this the wrong way. I am bald, against my will, and I have horrible scars all over my head, yet I muster up the courage to leave my house every day. I know people stare at me, and it has bothered me in the past, but now I figure it's their problem, not mine.
You are a beautiful woman. You have to move past this or it could become a very bad habit.
You are super beautiful. and Everyone has those days. Look at how much weight You've lost. You've lost a small child. or two! I think you should also not lie to your husband about it. If you can afford to miss ONE day of school be honest. Everyone Has a fat day. and it will pass. You will wake up and feel way better tomorrow if you are honest and let yourself realize you are beautiful, you've come a LONG way, and there are people who would KILL To look like you. (me for example )
I would gently suggest you look into body dysmorphia. You're at a healthy BMI, from your picture you do NOT look fat AT ALL. And, honestly? You live in a country where 66% of the population is overweight/obese. Even if you were to carry all your weight in your stomach there is no way in **** that you'd have on average a fatter stomach than average (shoot you'd still be in the low average range).
I'm not saying you're not allowed to have body image issues because you're thin. But the reality is that you're quite a bit smaller than average so worrying about your stomach being too fat is just not realistic because it's not.
I'm guessing that most likely you probably ate something that disagreed with you and you had some bloat or TOM is coming and you had water retention. These things happen to everybody. Also, why would you stay home because of it? Do you notice other people in such detail? I'm pretty sure nobody in your class would even think twice about your stomach.
I skipped out on my senior photos in high school because of this very reason. I felt so disappointed in myself, I didn't want to be seen. I went down in my basement and cried because I didn't want to go... It cant be a very traumatic experience.
It us so unfortunate that sometimes how we feel we want to hide at home. I have felt the same way. However, with that being said you are completely gorgeous and your weight is low end for your height. dont allow feelings of inadequacy ruin your day. You have so much to contribute and are so valuable beyond what the scale says.
It is sad that we live in a world where young beautiful ladies have such a bad view of themselves when in fact they are beautiful. I run into this alot as my daughter in law could be on the cover of a magazine with no photoshop and yet she struggle with how she looks.
We all have feelings we need to vent are your feelings are completly valid, I think it is just part of being a female and all the wonderful things that come with that! and yes there was alot of sarcasm in that last comment!
damascho I totally get it. I'm really fat now, but back when I wasn't, even when I was weighing in the 120's, there were just days I didn't want people looking at me and like you said, you just feel gross on those days. Call it what you like, but I don't think you are abnormal or suffering any mental problems for feeling that way, lol... this too shall pass. Tell your husband and if he's any good, he will remind you that you are beautiful because you really are!
It us so unfortunate that sometimes how we feel we want to hide at home. I have felt the same way. However, with that being said you are completely gorgeous and your weight is low end for your height. dont allow feelings of inadequacy ruin your day. You have so much to contribute and are so valuable beyond what the scale says.
It is sad that we live in a world where young beautiful ladies have such a bad view of themselves when in fact they are beautiful. I run into this alot as my daughter in law could be on the cover of a magazine with no photoshop and yet she struggle with how she looks.
We all have feelings we need to vent are your feelings are completly valid, I think it is just part of being a female and all the wonderful things that come with that! and yes there was alot of sarcasm in that last comment!
This. And just to add that things like photoshop are evil. Seriously, I hate how society has a perfect image of beauty that absolutely does not exist.
OP, I wasn't saying you were vain. i think body image issues are very, very common (I'd be lying if I said I didn't have my own). I was just concerned because of your choice to stay home from class. We all have our bad days but it's important to accept that and go on with your life. If you let it affect your life to the point that you don't even leave your house then you're giving way too much weight to an idea of perfection that doesn't even exist (yes, I can guarantee you even celebrities have their fat days). Mostly I just hate that there are these imaginary ideas of perfection that we're supposed to live up to.
Last edited by runningfromfat; 10-06-2011 at 06:17 PM.
OP, I wasn't saying you were vain. i think body image issues are very, very common [....] I was just concerned because of your choice to stay home from class. We all have our bad days but it's important to accept that and go on with your life. If you let it affect your life to the point that you don't even leave your house then you're giving way too much weight to an idea of perfection that doesn't even exist (yes, I can guarantee you even celebrities have their fat days). Mostly I just hate that there are these imaginary ideas of perfection that we're supposed to live up to.
This. You're not obligated to look attractive for anybody. And even if you were actually ugly, would depriving yourself of an education and allowing the perceived thoughts or actions of shallow twits to determine how you live your life actually be something you want to do? If this sort of thinking is a problem for you, you really should look into counseling.
Oh hun, we ALL have those days. Part of this oh so magical thing called womanhood....*note sarcasm* I usually feel like that if Ive skipped out on a few workouts to study and have been guzzling coffee and all sorts of other crap they peddle to students, to stay awake. Best thing you can do is put on your comfiest shorts, a looser fitting t-shirt and a baseball cap. Voila! Functionality and averted emotional meltdown. Just keep your chin up hun b/c your face is way too gorgeous to have a frown on it!
Last edited by misspear2012; 10-06-2011 at 09:56 PM.
I agree with the ladies that say it could be a problem. Everyone has bad days where they feel totally ugly and stuff, but if it affects you to the point of not wanting to go outside it's a problem. Counseling is definitely something you should consider.
I agree that if you feel this way again, you may want to look into counseling. We all have our bad days, our days where we feel fat and don't want to leave the house and can't find a darn outfit we feel good in. We've definitely all been there! And there's nothing wrong with taking a mental health day every once in a while. But if it comes up again, you will want to look into help because it doesn't matter what size you are, if you aren't leaving the house you're not happy, and you deserve to be happy.
But just remember, you used to leave the house and go about life at 183 pounds, and no matter what you feel like today or any other day at 142 you should feel proud of how good you look compared to before.
Also remember that you are AWESOME and what makes you great has nothing to do with the size of your body or the clothes you put on it. You're getting an education, you have a husband who loves you, and both of those are things to be proud of and say much more about you than how you look!
I don't know how to private message you, so I'm sorry if I offend anyone. I have a degree in psychology and really, you don't need to obtain a counselor because you felt depressed over your body and skipped class one day. This is really not something that would warrant a treatment plan. Most people have moments like that for various reasons, but can pull themselves out of it (often with support of friends and family) and continue to function normally. It is not something to worry about unless it gets to the point of doing it regularly or excessively (or enough to actually hinder ability to finish school or keep a job, etc), feeling suicidal, wanting to leave the husband so he doesn't have to look at you, neglecting kids, or something drastic like that. By the way, are you doing better now? I hope so and wish you the best in reaching your goals and accepting yourself any way you may be.
I knew this day would come :(
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Seriously, I hate how society has a perfect image of beauty that absolutely does not exist. 
