Well, Im not sure if anyone would remember me, but Im back. I have been a total flake with this website over the years. I guess it kinda mirrors my weight loss attitude. I have been on and off this website for the past couple years. I always seem to do better when I use the site, but like my diet, I never seem to stick to it long enough to change my lifestyle.

I want that to change. I want this to be that last time I start again. I haven't come back in a while because I feared having to admit failure. I am a perfectionist in every other aspect of my life. Maybe that is why I am over weight, because it is the one part of my life that I allow myself to not be in control. (gosh. I hate thinking about why I let myself be over weight. I always come up with different reasons and never do they make me feel any better. ugh.)

In any case, I finally convinced myself that you all would wecome me back without judgement and would rather I come back than not, so here I am. I truely need the support to stick with it.

If anyone is interested, I started a blog this time to try to express my thoughts and feeling this time around. I hope it helps. It can be found here. I don't know if it will help you understand me, but I am hoping it atleast helps me understand me. lol.

I guress this is me saying, "Hi, again. I can't do this alone."

Hello and Welcome! It's called the journey to a healthy lifestyle for a reason. No shame, no guilt, just doing the work. You will get there. =)

I love your writing style and look forward to seeing you around more often!

Hi there! Welcome back I agree with Krizstyling, you do have a beautiful writing style. And I completely understand where you're coming from with being a perfectionist in every other area - I hadn't quite realized that about myself until DH and I were sitting in the backyard one day last fall and I started lamenting about my weight (again), and he said "You know, you're such an amazingly strong person in every other avenue, and you know what you want and don't let go until you get it - your weight is really the only battle you let yourself get defeated by." And that really got me thinking - although I was admittedly upset and depressed at first when he pointed that out to me lol. And I finally realized that he was right, and I really needed to work on my emotional issues first and BELIEVE that my weight isn't this big bad monster in the closet that will never go away - and that I could overcome it.

And you know what? You're here, and you're going to take those first baby steps again, and make one good decision after another, and I don't think anybody can truly make this journey alone without some kind of support - be it 3FC or real life family/friends. So, welcome! I'd love to be friends if you need someone to make the journey with

Welcome back! I'm in the same boat as you (and I've been debating posting a similar message for the past few days). 3FC is an amazing group of women (and men!), and they're incredibly supportive. We're here for you!

Welcome back! I recently came back too after gaining back 20 pounds. I'm a bit of a perfectionist also, and over the years, as disappointment in myself has accumulated, I've just had to tell myself to let go of the mistakes and concentrate on the "now". Alot easier said than done, but if you go into this thing with the weight of all your past failures on your shoulders, you're never going to truly be able to convince yourself you're really going to be able to do it this time.

As cheesey as it sounds: You've got this girl. Glad to have you back.

Haha - if you look at my profile, you can see that I joined this site in April of 2007, almost four years ago

I go back and forth, though. Sometimes I'm really focused on weight loss, and other times (like all of last year), I'm not. However, when it is a priority for me, this board is a must for me. So much great information, and so much support for the challenges we face while trying to lose.

Welcome back!

This is my third time here. The first time was during 2007, when I lost my initial chunk of weight.

Welcome back. Now it's time to stop looking backward and focus onward!

Welcome back! Don't ever let your fear of judgement hold you back from anything . I've been off and on this site since 07 and still weigh the same as when I started. I feel failure too, everyone does. . . That's exactly why we all need to stick together and fight! Good luck! Were always hear you talk to or rant at. Feel free to pm me if you ever need