I have no idea what is going on! I was doing so good. I got out of my routine for the gym and it all went downhill from there. I cant seem to get back to what i was doing. i was contimplating (sp?) weight loss surgery like lap band, but its not covered under my insurance and i dont have $10,000 to spare. so guess its the good old fashioned way and for the rest of my life. Not happy i know weight loss is a journey but im unhappy and dont know how to go about it.

It's all about changing your mindset.
When I first started this journey, I had severe postpartum depression and the only thing I wanted to do all day was lay in bed, eating junk.
Eating healthy and getting my butt off the couch to the gym was the last thing I ever wanted to do. I kept telling myself that I was a mother now. That I was working full time and therefore, did not have time to do anything about my weight.
But I realized, I was getting more and more depressed because of the way I looked. It wasn't because I was tired of going back to work or taking care of an infant. It was getting worse due to my low self esteem and my self loathing. I HATED the way I looked. Absolutely hated it.
So, I slowly began changing how I looked at things. I kept telling myself, I rather be happy about myself than be happy I am chowing down a cheeseburger and fries.
Nothing tastes as good as healthy does

You can do it.

I would start with a plan for eating.

Maybe if you tell us what you were doing, we can help figure out the problems and help you brainstorm about what to do next.

Someone said something to me on this messageboard that forever changed my mindset about weight loss. We have to have self esteem and self worth for this to EVER have a lasting lifetime effect. If in our heads we don't find ourselves worthy, it won't last.

Figure out what it is you love about yourself, focus on that. Focus on where you could be a YEAR from now and how proud of yourself you'll be. Commit. Commit. Commit to LOVING YOURSELF. And go back to the gym! Going to the gym TRULY does help you make better decisions throughout the day.

You have come SO far, do NOT back track now!

Not to sound harsh, but if you can't handle the dedication and commitment for "the old fashioned way", there's no way you could handle WLS. If you can't handle lifestyle changes, well, WLS is basically one giant, extreme, forced lifestyle change. With "the old fashioned way", if you mess up, you might feel a little ill for eating junk food and maybe gain a pound, but ultimately it's no big deal. With WLS, you might have hours or days of misery, potential complications or issues resulting from it.

Focus on little changes first. If going to the gym isn't appealing, how about taking a walk around the block? You can say "that 20 calories burned is nothing", but at the end of the day, it's a lot better than nothing! Maybe try to cut back a portion here or there rather than eliminate foods entirely. Figure out a healthy 1800-2000 calories/day meal plan and stick to it for a week. That's plenty of wiggle room for high-calories foods, and it's not going to produce a ton of loss, but it'll get you back into the swing of watching what you eat and helping you get healthier.

Thanks everyone. Sometimes u just need to hear these things from other people even though u know them yourself. I haven't given up just slowly trying to get my diet mojo back lol. Thanks for the advice.

And expunge your right. I didn't think of that. I just thought of fast results which aren't good. I didn't take it harsh. I'd rather no sugar coating on my weight loss just on my candy. Totally kidding.

You have to want the change, you to have the determination to do them. To be honest weight loss is harder to deal with then having the one you love walk out on you and spit on you...I seem to think anyways. My journey started after my break up and the cause of everyone around me telling me how big I was and they couldn't believe it. I knew it, and I knew i had to change because I felt like crap and by my feeling that way the world around me was crap. I was unhealthy mentally and physically and it sucked. I'm not at my goal yet, I still have tones of weight to loose and sometimes when you loose track of things you forget why you are doing this.

In the end you should be doing this for yourself. Finding a quick fit or an easy way out just opts for failure in my opinion. I don't know much about WLS the only thing I ever think of getting is a boob job and a botox and maybe reconstruct my whole face...lol) But from what I've read from other people it's all a journey in it's self everything in life is a journey. As Kriz says find something in yourself that you love, and just remember why you are doing this in the first place. Good luck!

You're not alone, honestly. Tons of people here, myself included, have gotten complacent/lazy/out of routine, whatever you want to call it. But what makes you successful is that you catch yourself while you're slipping-before you hit the ground with a splat. It sounds like you're catching yourself pretty early in your slip-slide which is a good thing!

Keep going, even if it's slowly.

You are not alone! Everyone struggles from time to time during the journey. It is hard...but sometimes the hardest things in life are worth it! And speaking from experience, THIS IS WORTH IT.
Losing weight and keeping it off is a lifestyle...not just an item on a check off list. It will not stay gone if you do not change your life in many ways.

Hang in there. Keep in mind why you want to lose the weight and if you want to be thin and healthy for life, or for a short period of time. If you want to always feel amazing, or if you want to yo yo for the rest of your life.

Good Luck, I hope you find your inspiration again soon!