So sorry to hear about this, but like others have said, you can't blame yourself. I think you did as well as could be expected with your eating and exercise during your difficult week too!

So I've been back on track and trying to focus on my exercise as much as possible- it's so easy during tough times like this to just say "f it- I'm too tired and I don't have the energy" but it's helped clear my head SO much to just get on the eliptical for 30-60 mins and just listen to my upbeat music- instead of family chatter.

I'm taking my god daughter out to get her nails done today and just spend some time with my other nieces My sister's kiddos are a light

It's been a rough last week- and I know it's not over yet, but I'm trying to take it one hour at a time

Thanks again so much for the support- it's nice to have somewhere to talk about everything- outside of the family drama- with their own agendas about the situation

So here is how yesterday went.
We arrived, MIL- looks a mess- hair all over the place, eyes red. SIL in not there yet. There are over 100 people there.
Ex-girlfriend arrives- SITS in the area designated for FAMILY! Right behind MIL and SIL. My husband and I sit with my wonderful Father-in-Law and my hubby’s step Mom.
My MIL asks my husband if I’m pregnant- something she does, every single time we see her, because she knows comments about my weight bother me- a lot. Usually it goes “Angie are you pregnant?” and I go, “Nope, still working out though, thanks for asking” But this time, my husband steps in and says, “That’s actually rude to ask and I thought we discussed this already, if we’re pregnant, we’ll tell you- you don’t need to ask her every time we see you.” MIL- shocked and doesn’t have a response- actually speechless.
Ex girlfriend sits at the family reception table, plays with the kids, talks with grandparents and gets introduced as my husband’s previous girlfriend!!!!
Ex stays- the ENTIRE time. My husband and I left before she did- and there was just immediate family left. She went to hug him goodbye as we were saying our goodbyes to the family and my wonderful husband put his hand up like a stop sign, looked at her like “Are you serious?” and turned around
He was very sweet.
The funeral was very nice- the baby’s father had a lovely speech and it made me tear up to hear him speak about his lost daughter- very very sad.
Thanks again for the support- it was an EXTREMELY awkward day and I’m glad it’s over.
I’ve been OP today and I worked out this weekend so I didn’t feel like sludge

Good for your husband!! Right on!! Good for you for working out, too...that's probably the best thing you could've done for yourself to deal with all of this. I know that took a lot to do and you did it!!

I read this thread because I have a wedding to go to in June and my husband's ex will be there too. She is actually the bride's sister who is marrying my husband's cousin. So she is, unfortunately part of the family, sort of. Since her family and my husband's family are close, I always wonder if they wished that they had lasted together. Anyways, I'm nervous and that is helping to fuel me to try to lose more weight. Shallow, I know, but it will make me feel better if I look better! Anyways, I hope nothing awkward happens and that my husband will be as great as yours!!