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My dad always called me fat when I was growing up, especially when he was angry, so I know how hurtful that is, but you're not fat!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm around your height and weight and its healthy. I think he just said that because he knows you're insecure about it. How lame. The other advice is great though.

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Originally Posted by slimmingsi (Post 2578668)

fighting fair is not an option for me. i have to win, regardless of the consequences i have to win and will do anything to win. i often get carried away and say the most hurtful things i can think of and why? because when you upset someone they can't think properly and they make mistakes in their arguments for me to exploit.

however what really annoys the gf is that after the argument i forget it. its just gone from my mind where as she dwells on it thinking i meant it when actually i didn't mean it i was just using it to exploit and oppertunity to win the argument.

just let it go in one ear and out the other.

Wow. No other qualities you have could possibly make that worth it to me, to be honest. None whatsoever.

Gosh, I just can't believe he called you that. Girl, you deserve better than that. This person chose you & loves you, yet he thinks it's ok to kick you when you're down? I'm sorry - that is just so unkind.

I do agree with these girls - I would get the Fighting Fair book. I have read things in the past (I used to like to yell to fight), and it helped me not get so angry & talk things out rationally.

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Originally Posted by slimmingsi (Post 2578668)

i often get carried away and say the most hurtful things i can think of and why?

My teacher recently explained to me that when the adrenalin get's pumping, the thing in our brain that helps us make logical decisions get's turned off (or is impaired) and like clockwork out instinct to survive takes over. He said it all has to do with how our brain hasn't yet evolved enough from the old days when man's brain would have to do that in order to survive with all the animals in the wild... Or something.

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Originally Posted by JulieJ08 (Post 2579221)

Wow. No other qualities you have could possibly make that worth it to me, to be honest. None whatsoever.

I agree. Grow up.

Just because you get "carried away" doesn't make it healthy to personally attack your loved one in an argument. That's why you need to have the maturity and insight to step away from the situation BEFORE it escalates and you start saying crap like that.

~CGH~