what i would say about this is, you stay out of his problem w/ his gf. Don't mention or even talk about this. I know you consider him a good friend (or even more) so u want him to see clearly things, but it's hard, especially when it comes to love stuff, and girlfriend stuff. So u probably just let him do w/e he thinks is right (even if u think it's not).
And u go and find another guy - yah.

i try too but she always bringing me up that he shouldnt be friends with me tho so even if i dont say anything. she is bringing me up n that is causing fights between them.

We always got along super great so he knew our personalities worked well together. I believe he realized I was the one when he kept B******* about all these other girls and something must have clicked in his boy brain that I possessed all the qualities he wished all these other bimbos had! I think sometimes boys get so wrapped up in being friends they forget you're even an option! I was just relentless, I acted like the perfect friend and never gave up on him when he would blow me off or act like a moron. And 5 years later, we are still together :)

Talk to him though, find out why you could only be friends.

he just says that he doesnt see me like that, but if willing to make me a faux gf y cant i be a real 1

ya that doesn't make much sense. he could just be one of those rare guys who really doesn't want to risk losing a friendship. I remember my current bf telling me he waited so long to be with me because he didn't wanna screw it up. He was afraid if we dated right after his other long term ex, I would be a rebound. So I suppose guys do think about those things sometime.

10 years is a long time. I only put up with that for a year. My guess is he doesn't wanna screw up a friendship, or maybe he is even afraid he isn't good enough for you. You are everything his other gf's aren't, maybe he knows hes not the worlds best bf and he's not gonna put you through that.

i see how he treats his gf's and he puts them on a pedistool, i would make a list of what i want in a guy n he would have everything n vice verse. my best friend got married n i was maid of honor and he told my parents that i looked really pretty and that he wanted to ask me to dance but he was afraid that i would laugh in his face. and honestly if he would have said that n asked me i would have dropped to the floor n passed out. lol the next day i confronted him about it n he was totally denying he ever said that but hes face was like 50 shades and smiling away lol

i see how he treats his gf's and he puts them on a pedistool, i would make a list of what i want in a guy n he would have everything n vice verse. my best friend got married n i was maid of honor and he told my parents that i looked really pretty and that he wanted to ask me to dance but he was afraid that i would laugh in his face. and honestly if he would have said that n asked me i would have dropped to the floor n passed out. lol the next day i confronted him about it n he was totally denying he ever said that but hes face was like 50 shades and smiling away lol

Isn't it funny how that all works? I'm currently sort of experiencing the same sort of thing. Definitely not 10 years worth, and probably slightly different circumstances.

Long story short...now I've found someone new, and he's decided that he likes me. Sure, I question it...and part of me would like to give it a try, but after knowing him as long as I have I know that the guy I am currently with is definitely a better option for the long haul. ...or do I? It's an odd place to be at.

did u ever think maybe u should lie to him n tell them that u guys broke up and see if he still likes u n wants to be with u? or the fact that he wants what he cant have?

Wouldn't that make him unable to believe anything you say in the future? Always wondering if you're putting him through some test again?

I read this funny story awhile ago and I just want to post here - you probably can relate:

"A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired."

that is too funny and so true!

Julie- if u don't want to do it that way u can ask him flat out if i wasn't seeing him would u still want to date me? or what changed ur mind, is it cuz i have some1?

Cutie - Have you or has anyone seen that movie "The Holiday" with Kate Winslet and Cameron Diaz? I love when the old man says to Kate Winslet's character in the restaurant, "I don't know why you're acting like the best friend, when you deserve and are so obviously meant to be a leading lady!" (it's something like that...) Anyway, IMHO you should cut it off. You sound like a smart lady. Why are you settling for being the second fiddle in this relationship, waiting for this man who is OBVIOUSLY so unworthy of your love, time and attention? You could be the light of someone's world. I waited around for a guy like yours for a while, then I let go, and low and behold the most wonderful, smart, funny, and caring man walked right through that window that was left open after I shut the door. They say you gotta date a lotta frogs before you find your prince. When he's your prince, you'll know ;)
As for the lying, usually a bad idea. Who wants a relationship founded on a lie anyway?

Sad and cute at the same time.