I would kick her ACE out. You should all like gang up on her and kick her out or something. Thats would I would do, but then again I'm a beetch. :D
I don't know much else to say because I don't have roomies, mostly because people annoy me. Or you should all sit down with her and tell her exactly how you feel. Best of luck! :hug: NOW GO PACK WOMAN!.

Marching orders are due.

* Advertise for a new housemate immediately

* Give her whatever notice you feel it takes to find a new housemate (I would personally give somewhere between 4 - 8 weeks) IN WRITING

* Move her stuff OUT if she stops paying rent - and move the stuff out of the second room she is occupying regardless (you are technically making extra from the "extra" person...use this if necessary to make her shortfall in the short term)

* Be pro-active and TELL the landlord you have an extra person for a couple of months only - this will take away her leverage over you (having been a property manager we appreciate being told these things much more than having a tenant be sneaky about it anyway...as do Landlords)

* Let her complain to her parents. If she wants to play adult and live out of home let her make her own mistakes. Her parents are nothing to do with you or the living arrangement.

She sounds like an arrogant and lazy little so and so who is used to having mum and dad clean her messes (obviously if she lives like a pig :P) and is taking clear advantage of your good natures.

I have been a Property Manager for several years and was the "Manager" of my own sharehouse situation. I have had to deal with my fair share of intolerable housemates.

The last one left owing money ...

... so I sold his furniture to make good.

I don't bluff

hmm that sucks, nothing worse than nasty people. Well maybe those who are nasty and dumb enough not to notice! I would put it out of your mind for now... you have a big trip ahead of you- don't let it get you down too much!! Ohhh and have a safe flight!!

This is why I HATE having roommates. People can get so nasty mean when it comes to living situations. And yes I agree, she CAN'T cancel her checks. She is TRIPPIN if she thinks she can. And I can't believe she is so rude to suggest that in the first place!! I would say make HER pay the extra rent since she has two rooms!

Important question - are you on separate leases? If you are sharing a lease - then what legal stance do you have to kick her our? IF you're on separate lease- then let her fall behind of payments, and she'll get herself kicked out.

It's easy to say "i'll kick her out" but doing it is a really hard thing to do. I say - move her stuff into ONE of her rooms one day, clean up the other room - and let the other person move in. Tell your landlord that you're having an extra person stay for 3 months - say it's a friend visiting from a different state who is trying to get a job there.

If your landlord says - no can do, no extra person - then ask for his/her advice about what to do.


Also, scour your lease- there may be something in there about shared spaces, one person not paying, having guests.... etc. etc. See if you can find any loop holes.

I have also had ****ty roommates, I've learned to put up a wall - deflect what they have to throw at me, and let them wallow in their own problems. I don't have time to let that crap get me down.

If she's messy - put all her crap in her room, repeatedly - including dirty dishes. That's what I've always done with messy roommate, they usually don't say anything cuz they know they're slobs.

Also do the math for her - calculate out how much you are all paying total, and divide it by 6 rooms. Add two of those rooms together - and let her know that if she wants to keep using that 2nd room - she has to start paying for it, present her with a price. Ultimately - that would make your rent cheaper! woo hoo! In which case - if she wants half the girls rent THEN after having to pay a different rent for 2 rooms, say ok - since it'll just be normal rent... Does that make sense?

How old is she? Let us know what happens!

LOL garstar about putting the dirty dishes in the roommate's room...I never thought of that but that is a GREAT idea!

Lol, done it. She baked a cake (no icing) and left it on the counter for three days. I put it in her room on the floor.
It sat there for five weeks. *makes a face* She didn't even move it, just stepped around it.
Another time, I cleaned the kitchen, and all her dirty dishes filled a full-sized garbage bag. I left it in front of her door, and she moved it a foot the left, and walked around it for a week and a half until our other housemate had her boyfriend coming over and was embarrassed, so she opened her door and stuck the bag in her room.
It stayed there for another two weeks.

And Gar, she's 19 I think. Maybe 20? A few years younger than the rest of us.

I LOVE YOU ALL FOR YOUR SUPPORT AND ADVICE!!!

I've calmed down, lol. My sister in law came home from work, and we sat down, talked about it privately, cracked jokes about the ridiculousness of the situation, then sobered up and got her to come down and have a "house meeting."
We talked it through and my sister in law is going to call her parents and talk to them. It seems genuinely like her parents have an issue (tho they only would if she spun it so that the story was somehow totally warped! What issue could they possibly have?? We're ALL paying $400 a month for one room, she has two (P.S., she doesn't HAVE anything in the other room. We've been living here 8 months, with 4 left on the lease. There's three paintbrushes, a box with some old curtains in it, and a picture frame in the empty room.) (Thus why it's the empty room.) and they're saying she should pay less or get more money if we rent out the empty room that she never uses??

So anyhow, my sister in law is our house "manager" so she's gonna call the difficult housemate's father and talk to him herself. Which... I think is FAR beyond her realm of duty... deal with your own parents. Why even bring them into it in the first place??

If it somehow is an END OF THE WORLD situation to her parents still (Again. ???????), my sister I.L. who lives in the basement is gonna move up here, switch rooms to placate them, because she doesn't care where her **** is, and we'd all be happier with the trade-up anyhow, lol. I'd love to have her upstairs instead of in the basement, far far away. 'Cept when my brother's over. In which case, I want a sock on the door and 2 hours advance warning to get out of the house if they start going at it...

Again. I love you all. This was just soooo stressful. And on top of that, I talked to my mom tonight, the ol' "Good bye, have fun on your trip" chat, and she told me that my cat is making the house furry, and she wants me to take it... which.. I technically can't do, cos difficult roommate's boyfriend is allergic to cats... and I may be moving to Ireland in April, and transporting animals to other countries? Near impossible.
So if I can't take it, and if she can't control the cat's fur getting into her office (she runs an acupuncture business with a treatment room in the front half of our house), she's going to give my kitty away. :(

Tonight has just SUCKED.

Tomorrow's a brand new day tho. And tomorrow by... well, 2 am, so I guess kinda more like Saturday, haha... I get to see my boy. Silver lining in the ****fest!

at least you know you're so gonna get laid.

LOL leighish...


JELBB: Tell your mom to get the cat shaved!!!! I know sounds stupid, but a lot of people do it when they start becoming allergic to cats. The groomer will just shave all the hair off except for the not-so hairy parts like the head hair, paw hair, and part of the tail...and depending what kind of cat it is, it usually ends up looking really cute. One of my friends had a brown tabby and did this and it looked REALLY cute, like a lion cuz it had a mane and lil socks and a lil fur ball at the end of its tail

That sounds like the worst and most unreasonable housemate EVER. I can be a slob too at times, but I keep my crap in my own room. And if people say something is annoying them, I clean it, no big deal.

I'm glad you found some kind of a resolution against her. And it should be possible to find a good home for a cat somewhere between now and april... right? Don't you have any family that could accomodate another cat, or a friend maybe?

:hug:

The image of someone walking around a cake on their floor because they're too lazy to clean it up... wow. What a freak, lol. Try to relax the best you can and have fun on your trip!

If the cat situation can't be worked out, at least try to find a friend (someone at school?) or relative who will take it, so you can visit, or have them send pictures and stuff if you move to Ireland. :)

I'd tie her to a chair and dump all that nasty food that she's left out on her and make her sit in it for a while...

i don't have any idea for you, just want to say that sorry you have such freaky roommate.

EWWWWWWWW, walking around her cake for 5 weeks just because she's lazy to clean it? disgusting. I can be messy sometimes but i keep my stuff in my room. Arg. can't believe there's such a person exist.

I usually don't post, but I've had issues with insane, completely irrational, dirty, mean-spirited room mates before. I hate it that one insane room mate can dictate the climate of the house, attitude wise. It makes everyone miserable.

When I had issues with a crazy room mate, we contacted our landlord so he could obtain a ten day notice to quit. Basically once you serve her with those papers, if you can cite particular issues, she has to leave. Money is a huge one. If she isn't paying her share, or is late...that right there is a perfect reason she'd have to leave. I'd say contact your landlord, and see if the quit notice is an option.

Jelbb - good luck with the crazy! That is SOOO why i live ALONE! Don't care how broke i am :) Bring the cat through France with a kitty passport. Then take the train over to Britain. No one will ever know ;) Although I dont think ireland has quarantine issues. Only Britain and Japan. Sorry, random knowledge for working for the military overseas....