Ot: Huge Rant.
 

I needed to rant. Instead of packing, I'm fuming.

We've had a roommate who has been driving all of us nuts. She doesn't buy shared things (toilet paper) she eats all of our food, she's unhygienic, doesn't wash her dishes, leaves food to rot all over the kitchen, leaves her dirty shoes and socks on the kitchen table, and makes a mess EVERYWHERE. She drives everyone in the house completely nuts. Our "manager" (our one housemate who collects rent and deals with the landlords) has to CHASE her monthly for the money for utilities, and she refuses to give more than the EXACT amount on the bill... and since the bills all come at different times, it's sometimes multiple times a month when we need utility money off of her... and the chase begins again...

SO. All of us are broke starving students, and last year this house had 5 students in it (with 6 bedrooms). The landlords' daughter was the 5th student. They decided this year to actually comply to the townhouse complex's rules, and only have 4 people renting it. But... we have an empty room that the annoying, dirty roommate is using as well. She has two rooms. She's paying for one, and she just uses the empty room to stash her stuff in it.

So, then we were approached by another student who just needs a room for 3 and a half months, and we're all thinking, "Great! She'll give us a bit of rent, we'll use that to pay off our utilities, and we're set."

Well, of course, dipsh*t roomate says she doesn't want the new roommate's money to go straight to utilities, she wants it handed to her in cash.
So we say "FINE, we'll give you your share... despite the fact that we'll just be chasing you around to get it back from you again..."
Then tonight she says, "My parents," (her parents, she says...) "Say that they want me to get half of the new girl's rent, because she's taking over half of my space." Logical arguments that she's paying for one room and getting two, where the rest of us are paying for one room and getting one had NO effect on her...
Then she says, "Well fine, then I want to trade rooms with one of you." (I'm sorry, but with the **** growing and molding in her room? Uh. No. AND I'm not moving ALL OF MY STUFF to her room for 4 months.)
And if we don't comply to these little terms laid out by her (Oh, I'm sorry, by her parents) then she says her parents will cancel all her rent checks and stop paying it. And if her rent stops being paid, she's going to tell the landlords about the extra roommate.

I've never understood why murder is illegal. She's totally dampening my packing evening. I can't even think about my flight tomorrow and seeing my baby, because I feel sick to my stomach with anger.

wow that really sucks! did she sign a lease for a certain number of months? maybe you guys should just kick her out, and find a completely new roommate. Or, if you cant, make her take out the stuff from that extra room. Or make her pay extra. She is , afterall, getting two rooms for the price of one!
That sounds so completely unfair. :(

Ok first....ewww about the roommate. She has absolutely no legal right to cancel the rent checks and if she did you could take her to court. I think what would be best for all of you is to tell her to that she has to start paying for that extra room or move all her crap into her one room that she pays for. If she doesn't like those terms she can move out and you can rent the room out to someone who actually has respect for other people and will clean up their messes. It is not your job to be her mother or to have to chase her around for money. If anyone is breaking the terms of the lease it is her. I wouldn't bow down to her immature actions. Her parents are equally nuts if they believe half the crap that is coming out their mouth. Sorry for sounding so negative but these ppl are crazy. Just remember you're beautiful, hygienic:) and going to see your boyfriend tomorrow so cheer up and don't let this girl bring you down!

Damn. I feel better about my roomies now. :hug:

Put up a sign looking for a new roommate, and give that stupid girl her 30 day eviction notice.

I'm proud that all of you have kept to yourselves so well, I would have started leaving decoy snacks spikes with laxatives or habanero powder and shoulder checking her really hard every time we walked near each other.

Anytime anyone has a bad day or she does something annoying just start cussing her out. She'll move on her own, or she'll get intimidated and start picking up her ****.

oh man, i would have kicked her *** or kicked her out a loooooooooong time ago. ive had my share of **** room mates, for sure. and sometimes they just need a phone thrown at their head. (just based on personal experiences)

money isnt always power. keep that in mind. there will always be someone else who will want that room if she doesn't.

That is absolutely ridiculous behavior on the part of your roommate. I love that whole my parents thing, I have had that used on me by a couple of roommates. Exactly how is it that her parents have so much to say about your living situation if she is not complaining to them and who knows what their actual opinions is.

First thing that came to mind was you should just kick the living $h!t out of her. She's a real jerk to act like that!! I'm so sorry you have to deal with somebody that idiotic! :hug: Tomorrow will be a much brighter day for you!

I agree with Brandy, this girl needs to be sent packing!! Maybe you and your other roommates can speak to the landlord together and explain the situation. If he hears how she is, he might evict her. If you have the power to kick her out yourself then do it!!

My friends roommate was extremely disgusting as well. I spent a lot of time there so it was basically like my indirect roommate as well. She used to leave her mountain dew bottles everywhere half full and just pick them up randomly and drink them. She was also left food, dirty clothes.. the usual disgusting person habits. One night we went out, got wasted and decided to dump all the mountain dew out and pee in them. For some reason after that her grotesque behavior was more hilarious than irritating.

nah i think i win for all time worst room mate. one time i came home at 11am, no less, found him passed out, naked, on the couch, porn playing on the tv, in the living room, feet propped up on the coffee table. sitting upright, penis in hand, beer in the other, empty beer bottles surrounding him.

needless to say, it was an awkward moment. and i regret not having taken a photo of it.

the funny part is i was late for work after having my own adventurous evening elsewhere. so i had to get ready for work, and eat my breakfast cereal real fast, and quiet, and then sneak back out. i was too embarassed to wake him. although i should have.

A picture would have been great but you did a fantastic job on the visual explanation...lol:)

i know i really really really regret not having taken a photo. i should have sat next to him and took the pic with him, me big smile, him still asleep.

Hahaha that would have been hilarious!

Gross!! i bet her room has roaches!!

I would kick her ACE out. You should all like gang up on her and kick her out or something. Thats would I would do, but then again I'm a beetch. :D
I don't know much else to say because I don't have roomies, mostly because people annoy me. Or you should all sit down with her and tell her exactly how you feel. Best of luck! :hug: NOW GO PACK WOMAN!.

Marching orders are due.

* Advertise for a new housemate immediately

* Give her whatever notice you feel it takes to find a new housemate (I would personally give somewhere between 4 - 8 weeks) IN WRITING

* Move her stuff OUT if she stops paying rent - and move the stuff out of the second room she is occupying regardless (you are technically making extra from the "extra" person...use this if necessary to make her shortfall in the short term)

* Be pro-active and TELL the landlord you have an extra person for a couple of months only - this will take away her leverage over you (having been a property manager we appreciate being told these things much more than having a tenant be sneaky about it anyway...as do Landlords)

* Let her complain to her parents. If she wants to play adult and live out of home let her make her own mistakes. Her parents are nothing to do with you or the living arrangement.

She sounds like an arrogant and lazy little so and so who is used to having mum and dad clean her messes (obviously if she lives like a pig :P) and is taking clear advantage of your good natures.

I have been a Property Manager for several years and was the "Manager" of my own sharehouse situation. I have had to deal with my fair share of intolerable housemates.

The last one left owing money ...

... so I sold his furniture to make good.

I don't bluff

hmm that sucks, nothing worse than nasty people. Well maybe those who are nasty and dumb enough not to notice! I would put it out of your mind for now... you have a big trip ahead of you- don't let it get you down too much!! Ohhh and have a safe flight!!

This is why I HATE having roommates. People can get so nasty mean when it comes to living situations. And yes I agree, she CAN'T cancel her checks. She is TRIPPIN if she thinks she can. And I can't believe she is so rude to suggest that in the first place!! I would say make HER pay the extra rent since she has two rooms!

Important question - are you on separate leases? If you are sharing a lease - then what legal stance do you have to kick her our? IF you're on separate lease- then let her fall behind of payments, and she'll get herself kicked out.

It's easy to say "i'll kick her out" but doing it is a really hard thing to do. I say - move her stuff into ONE of her rooms one day, clean up the other room - and let the other person move in. Tell your landlord that you're having an extra person stay for 3 months - say it's a friend visiting from a different state who is trying to get a job there.

If your landlord says - no can do, no extra person - then ask for his/her advice about what to do.


Also, scour your lease- there may be something in there about shared spaces, one person not paying, having guests.... etc. etc. See if you can find any loop holes.

I have also had ****ty roommates, I've learned to put up a wall - deflect what they have to throw at me, and let them wallow in their own problems. I don't have time to let that crap get me down.

If she's messy - put all her crap in her room, repeatedly - including dirty dishes. That's what I've always done with messy roommate, they usually don't say anything cuz they know they're slobs.

Also do the math for her - calculate out how much you are all paying total, and divide it by 6 rooms. Add two of those rooms together - and let her know that if she wants to keep using that 2nd room - she has to start paying for it, present her with a price. Ultimately - that would make your rent cheaper! woo hoo! In which case - if she wants half the girls rent THEN after having to pay a different rent for 2 rooms, say ok - since it'll just be normal rent... Does that make sense?

How old is she? Let us know what happens!

LOL garstar about putting the dirty dishes in the roommate's room...I never thought of that but that is a GREAT idea!

Lol, done it. She baked a cake (no icing) and left it on the counter for three days. I put it in her room on the floor.
It sat there for five weeks. *makes a face* She didn't even move it, just stepped around it.
Another time, I cleaned the kitchen, and all her dirty dishes filled a full-sized garbage bag. I left it in front of her door, and she moved it a foot the left, and walked around it for a week and a half until our other housemate had her boyfriend coming over and was embarrassed, so she opened her door and stuck the bag in her room.
It stayed there for another two weeks.

And Gar, she's 19 I think. Maybe 20? A few years younger than the rest of us.

I LOVE YOU ALL FOR YOUR SUPPORT AND ADVICE!!!

I've calmed down, lol. My sister in law came home from work, and we sat down, talked about it privately, cracked jokes about the ridiculousness of the situation, then sobered up and got her to come down and have a "house meeting."
We talked it through and my sister in law is going to call her parents and talk to them. It seems genuinely like her parents have an issue (tho they only would if she spun it so that the story was somehow totally warped! What issue could they possibly have?? We're ALL paying $400 a month for one room, she has two (P.S., she doesn't HAVE anything in the other room. We've been living here 8 months, with 4 left on the lease. There's three paintbrushes, a box with some old curtains in it, and a picture frame in the empty room.) (Thus why it's the empty room.) and they're saying she should pay less or get more money if we rent out the empty room that she never uses??

So anyhow, my sister in law is our house "manager" so she's gonna call the difficult housemate's father and talk to him herself. Which... I think is FAR beyond her realm of duty... deal with your own parents. Why even bring them into it in the first place??

If it somehow is an END OF THE WORLD situation to her parents still (Again. ???????), my sister I.L. who lives in the basement is gonna move up here, switch rooms to placate them, because she doesn't care where her **** is, and we'd all be happier with the trade-up anyhow, lol. I'd love to have her upstairs instead of in the basement, far far away. 'Cept when my brother's over. In which case, I want a sock on the door and 2 hours advance warning to get out of the house if they start going at it...

Again. I love you all. This was just soooo stressful. And on top of that, I talked to my mom tonight, the ol' "Good bye, have fun on your trip" chat, and she told me that my cat is making the house furry, and she wants me to take it... which.. I technically can't do, cos difficult roommate's boyfriend is allergic to cats... and I may be moving to Ireland in April, and transporting animals to other countries? Near impossible.
So if I can't take it, and if she can't control the cat's fur getting into her office (she runs an acupuncture business with a treatment room in the front half of our house), she's going to give my kitty away. :(

Tonight has just SUCKED.

Tomorrow's a brand new day tho. And tomorrow by... well, 2 am, so I guess kinda more like Saturday, haha... I get to see my boy. Silver lining in the ****fest!

at least you know you're so gonna get laid.

LOL leighish...


JELBB: Tell your mom to get the cat shaved!!!! I know sounds stupid, but a lot of people do it when they start becoming allergic to cats. The groomer will just shave all the hair off except for the not-so hairy parts like the head hair, paw hair, and part of the tail...and depending what kind of cat it is, it usually ends up looking really cute. One of my friends had a brown tabby and did this and it looked REALLY cute, like a lion cuz it had a mane and lil socks and a lil fur ball at the end of its tail

That sounds like the worst and most unreasonable housemate EVER. I can be a slob too at times, but I keep my crap in my own room. And if people say something is annoying them, I clean it, no big deal.

I'm glad you found some kind of a resolution against her. And it should be possible to find a good home for a cat somewhere between now and april... right? Don't you have any family that could accomodate another cat, or a friend maybe?

:hug:

The image of someone walking around a cake on their floor because they're too lazy to clean it up... wow. What a freak, lol. Try to relax the best you can and have fun on your trip!

If the cat situation can't be worked out, at least try to find a friend (someone at school?) or relative who will take it, so you can visit, or have them send pictures and stuff if you move to Ireland. :)

I'd tie her to a chair and dump all that nasty food that she's left out on her and make her sit in it for a while...

i don't have any idea for you, just want to say that sorry you have such freaky roommate.

EWWWWWWWW, walking around her cake for 5 weeks just because she's lazy to clean it? disgusting. I can be messy sometimes but i keep my stuff in my room. Arg. can't believe there's such a person exist.

I usually don't post, but I've had issues with insane, completely irrational, dirty, mean-spirited room mates before. I hate it that one insane room mate can dictate the climate of the house, attitude wise. It makes everyone miserable.

When I had issues with a crazy room mate, we contacted our landlord so he could obtain a ten day notice to quit. Basically once you serve her with those papers, if you can cite particular issues, she has to leave. Money is a huge one. If she isn't paying her share, or is late...that right there is a perfect reason she'd have to leave. I'd say contact your landlord, and see if the quit notice is an option.

Jelbb - good luck with the crazy! That is SOOO why i live ALONE! Don't care how broke i am :) Bring the cat through France with a kitty passport. Then take the train over to Britain. No one will ever know ;) Although I dont think ireland has quarantine issues. Only Britain and Japan. Sorry, random knowledge for working for the military overseas....

wow, I feel for you, I really do. I own my house and my sister every once in a while squats there when she's between places. she's a slob x 1000. I've taken her dirty laundry off my livingroom floor and tossed it outside on the lawn before. And, the good thing about owning, I just kick her arse out when I get sick of her.