I guess she doesn't appeal much to her real friends either then

ok, that speaks VOLUMES there! The fact that her own friends and family didn't throw her one.... I'd give her Dale Carnegie's book, How to win friends and influence people. Problem solved! lol

As a lot of people have stated, a baby shower is a personal thing. It is not a party for people who do not like or know the mom-to-be to attend. I think it is tacky that your office is making you attend and making it feel as though you should bring a gift. Personally I would probably suck it up and get a gift, but b*tch the whole time...I know not the best way to go about life. If you really don't want to get a gift I would just give a card, but if choose to get a gift I would rock the dollar store. I was there today and I noticed they had TONS of baby stuff. Either decision is up to you and I'm sorry you have to attend a shower for a women who is rude....uggg!

I wish we had a dollar store here...but with inflation it would be the $20 store...lmao!

my co worker, who notoriously skips every staff meeting said "see, just another reason not to go to staff meetings."

I'm thinking, and this is soooo tacky, of going to the free clothing exchange and getting her hand me downs...lol...is that rude? cause I want it to be rude.

yeah, if you HAVE to get her something, i would go for a pack of onesies (they are pretty neat) in neutral colors (greens, yellows). they are relatively cheap at Target.

Hahaha yes that is rude and I love it! :dizzy:

If no one is signing names to gifts (I think I read the post correctly) it really does open up all sorts of possibilities, doesn't it? Baaaahhahahhahahahaa

Pretend you ordered her something online and it didn't show up in time for the party, and oh darn what a shame. That damn postal service, can't trust them with anything. ;)

The people saying to bring something small for the sake of your job are probably right. But if you didn't bring one and someone said something, you could say "I don't get it, but she really doesn't like me and I thought she'd hate to get something from me." But perhaps best to go buy a 5$ rattle and be done with it.

if there are other people who agree with you and don't want to buy her a gift, you should all agree on that. That way, you won't be the only one who didn't bring a gift. You shouldnt have to spend money on someone who you aren't friends with

Or you could buy her a condom. What are they like 75 cents in a vending machine in the bathroom? I guess its too late for that.

While the office should not have put you in this position, no matter what kind of person she is, you take a gift. It does not need to be big or expensive. It can be as simple as a package of onesies or a few pairs of cute baby socks...but the right thing to do is to participate in a small way. She may be a pain in the rear, but the shower is for her new baby -- not yet ruined by his or her mother. And even if that weren't true, the moral high road, as well as the classy thing, is to overlook her rudeness and bring a gift. Killing with kindness has its merits...congratulate her at the party and smile a lot. :)

Wow... that is just really tacky and in bad taste of your office. Ultimately this is your decision, but rude people are were I draw the line. Especially someone who has talked about me to our boss... she's not getting **** from me that's for sure!! However, I understand you not bringing something, even if it is cheap, may look like you hate her, especially if everyone else did- so I am going to vote for the Dollar Store idea.

I like the idea of calling in sick, I like any reason for a sick day and it DOES make you somewhat sick, right? ;)

You could go by the public health department and get her a bunch of free brochures about how to raise a healthy child free from drug addiction, behavioral problems, etc.

How about this? Bring blank sheets of paper to the wrapping party and have everyone write their best parenting advice. Staple it together and write something like "Our best advice" on the front, and that's your gift.