...Ouch...
 

I have two hours inbetween my English class on Wednesdays, and my Italian class. It's confusing to the mind to have to focus on two separate languages in the same morning, but somehow I manage it three times a week.

Usually, some friends of mine from Italian class come and find me where I sit every day, chilling, and finishing Italian homework that I should've done the night before.

Today, one of them came up behind me and saw me browsing the forums. She's a little nosy, and she started quizzing me on what the **** I was doing. So I figured, "Why not, my interest in losing weight isn't really a secret--" so I went on a brief tangent about the forums, and how they help to keep me motivated, and showed her some of the extreme before-after pics of people on the forums. She kinda blinked and shrugged, and turned away from me, nodding, "Oh, cool."

She's thin, and probably has never had a weight issue in her life. She went on a short ramble about how she could never watch what she eats because she loves food too much. I glanced at her flat stomach and rolled my eyes inside my mind, but just kind of nodded in assent.

In a moment of idiocy, I pulled up a picture that I'd posted when I was 173 or 176 lbs from last Christmas... at my highest weight. I didn't really preclude it with anything but like, "I posted this last Christmas--" and she looked at it, and blinked again and said, "You look about the same."

And in my moment of dejection, I blurted, "I look like that?" and she answered, "Well, I don't see any drastic difference."

It was like being punched in the stomach and slapped in the face at the same time. Tears just kinda welled up in my eyes, and I had no idea what to do except say, "Okay." and lean forward away from her so I didn't have to face her.

*sigh* Today is just an exaggeratedly emotional day for me for no reason.

Oh girl, you look gorgeous! Don't let a skinny minnie get you down. YOU should feel GREAT about YOUR progress...look how far you've come! And hey, she's not the one with a hott Irish boy. :)

Plus some girls are catty like that sometimes...they get jealous of someone's achievements and make snide little remarks to bring that person down. Don't let her get to you...you're doing just fine! :)




(And is it wrong to say that her metabolism will slow down one day, and karma will bite her in the butt? hehehe)

Jelbb,

Don't let it get you down. I can definitely see a difference in your face from the before and after. This woman doesn't seem the type that pays attention to details or even takes the time to think before she speaks. You don't look the same and I'm sure you don't feel the same either! Buck up an don't dwell on it. :hug:

Edit: It's Courtney - I had just the same thought, but felt it would be bad to mention it. hehe

Jelbb - They are so right some girls who are naturally skinny are just so catty for no reason. Skinny B*tches I call them lol. I know quite a few. Don't let them bring you down. They don't know one bit about how hard some of us have to work in order to be where we want to be...

OH girl I feel your pain! Don't let that insensitive little SNIT upset you...YOU and everyone else on here knows how fabulous you've done and how hard you've worked to get where you are today! I recently seen a father of one of the children I take care of( I work in a preschool ) and he commented on my weight loss and asked if I was purposely losing weight and if I was ok.......as if I were ILL...I felt like saying "JEEZ god forbid if someone who was fat actually look normal looking without having to be sick to get there" ARGHHHHHHHHHHHH. Some people just don't ever understand and don't think of what they say before think..she could have simply said."Yes I can tell its still you but wow look at your face" Pure ignorance!

Pff. I agree with Courtney. People are usually jealous of others accomplishes and just want to ruin their day. You CAN see a difference. And keep up the good work!

Oh meant to ask..how do you add a link to your thread like you did to your picture page?

Ok, you look great!!! Dont let her bother you with that crap. :hug:

BUT... she did say drastic difference. To someone who has always been skinny, she probably doesn't see a drastic difference. Some people don't get it.

I think you look great though! Your doing an awesome job!

Thank you EVERYONE. I really appreciate what everyone's said. To be honest, my face is still kinda round, I don't flash around pics of myself that I think I look overly chubby in... but I really thought that the earlier pic was a lot worse than I am now, and she really made me doubt that.

I've been having such a stupidly rough day. My eyes welling up over every little thing and I have NO idea why.

My prof asked me a question in Italian class, and I didn't know the answer. She kept trying to LEAD me to the answer, dragging out my agonizing ignorance in front of the class for a good 60 seconds. The second she turned her attention away, I just wanted to bawl, I felt so stupid.

Then Irish boy said that no, he wouldn't be home to talk to me tonight before my night class because he's going out drinking with friends. He sent me this txt in Italian class, and my eyes welled up. I am the epitome of LAME today. I'd skip my night class for my own mental health, but our prof literally YELLS at you the next class when you skip, so I'm too petrified to...

What a day, what a day. Why am I so weepy??

People like this crack me up. Maybe it's the eveil wench in me, but I really think there is a special place in **** for people who say this to others who are trying to lose weight.

My friend has an expression she busts out in moments like this.

"Jen, don't let the b*tches in life get you down."

It's not profound or anything, but it works for me. I'm sorry you don't get to talk to your honey, though :(

That was a really insensitive thing to say for her. Even if she saw no difference it was unneccessarily unkind to say it in such a way. From the foregoing conversation she could have figured that it was important to you. I know this is a friend of yours, but I don't have a good word for people who act like this.

I just checked the pics and I really do see a difference. Your facial features have become more pronounced, and I guess that it has become more easy to read your face. You're really pretty by the way :). Guys don't like skinny biatches anyway.

It's hard having a tough day and being unable to comfort yourself by having a nice piece of chocolate. My day wasn't very nice too, so I feel for you :( but I have vented to a few people and feel better now. I hope this thread helps you a bit, you go girl!

You look totally different my dear! I can't believe that someone would say something like that....

I've definately been on the weeping train lately. A client will look at me wrong by bf won't call to say good night or while the other day I was getting off a plane for my 4 city in 3 days and started tearing up in the terminal. Then I started bawling in my rental car. (Really really not a good idea while driving on the 401, not exactly sure where you're headed.)

Sometimes you just need a good cry, especially when people are such jerks!

What a rotten day, you poor thing! You know what, though? You were beautiful in the old photo, and are only MORE so now. Maybe that's what your classmate INTENDED to say! That you still look like your lovely self, only it is easier to see now that you can see the lines of your cheekbones better. That's what I think, anyway :)!

Shanny--- You were on the 401?? You were near me!!!

Thanks Circebee. :)

...yeah. Today when Irish Boy txted me, "No, after football we're going out for drinks. :Px" I just felt numb. We haven't talked since Saturday and it's Wednesday. I felt a wave of sadness, then kinda.. nothing after I pulled myself together. I txted him back "K." in my disappointment.

Three hours later, I get the txt, "What, I'm not aloud to have a social life?" (Really, aloud. Irish boy can't spell, thank god he's working at a firm to become an accountant.)

I txted him back that I didn't mean it meanly, I was just disappointed, and that I was having a bad day. And he hasn't txted me back.

...it made me cry. Lol, jesus. That's it, I'm skipping my night class. :(

Yup, I was on the 401. Heading from the airport to Whitby. It constantly amazes me how freakin busy that highway is! I know we've had this conversation more than once, but which school are you at again? I went to Western.

Definately skip your night class, and just veg out in front of the tv. That's what always works for me.

Lol, god I wish. If I skip my night class, I have to study for the midterm I have first thing tomorrow morning. And then I work from 3:30 to 9:30. (My work took three hours away from tomorrow's shift, but asked me to work 3 hours on my weekend off... ugh.) And then I have to study for my midterm on Friday. And now I work on Saturday.

Honestly, I'll be swinging from the rafters before this week is over, god what a crapfest, lol.

And ohhh yeahhhh, you DID go to Western, I forgot that you lived in London. And I go to GUELPH. :) For now. Almost done.
And yeah, driving the 401 is ridiculous. You shoulda done it on Thanksgiving weekend. Or did you? Man, it was packed. :(

I landed in T.O. on late this past Thursday night and head back to the airport on the Friday afternoon of the long weekend. Traffic was definately worse heading out of T.O.

I think I may be heading to guelph at the end of the month. I just can't seem to stay away from ontario for too long... I haveta admit it was so pretty when I was out there last week, the trees were beautiful. All the leaves are gone here in Calgary and the grass is pretty much brown. It's kinda yucky out here right now... No snow yet though (thank-god I'm not ready to put away my pretty shoes just yet!)

Oh wow, you're gonna be in Guelph? That's insane. What's with all the long-distance visits, anyhow? And yeah, the bright orange, yellow and red trees right now... they ARE insanely beautiful. Really nice temperatures right now too. Cool and breezy. Sweater weather, yay. :D

Hey, at least in Calgary you get those gorgeous chinooks ever so often...

The chinooks are awesome, but give me wicked migraines!

I travel out to ontario for work. My company has a branch office in Richmond hill so I'm out that way usually every 4 to 6 weeks to complete client trainings. So I'm on the road, a freakin lot! Plus we just added offices in Victoria, Vancouver, and Saskatoon. So I'm gonna be rakin' up the frequant flyer miles! Hopefully, I'll have enough to go somewhere warm soon!

What do you do?? How old are you?

God, I feel so useless, my degree is going to get me nowhere. My only option at the moment is to either stay in Ontario and be unemployed post-graduation, or live in Ireland and be unemployed post-graduation.

And by unemployed, I mean working at like a bar or a retail job... that's the equivalent of unemployed in my head. Not a big girl job. :(

I'm a corporate trainer and I'll be 25 in a few days. I graduated in 2005. I definately hear ya on the being sudo job thing. I did that for almost a year after I graduated. Wasn't exactly sure what I could do with a sociology degree. So I waitressed/bartended, I enjoyed it, but I didn't need to go to school to pour beer!

I was lucky in that I kinda fell into this job. My dad played in a charity golf turnament with the president of the company I now work for. They started chatting and about 6 weeks later I started here. A degree will get you further than you think. As my boss said when he hired me. "Having a degree shows that your smart, that you can usually string two inteligent sentances together, that you're able to learn and can stick with something for several years." But it can definately be hard to figure out what you are qualified for. I would just post resumes on sites like monster, and workopolis. What sinched (sp?) my job was my volunteer work. It gave me some experience, and made me look good too.

If I had to be unemployed anywhere, Ireland wouldn't be too bad of a place! If your looking to work in Ireland, check out SWAP (Students working abroad program) Canada www.swap.ca they help you get vias and accomidations and some contacts. I have a couple of friends who did this while travelling through australia.

i think what she said was rubbish, tell her to go eat a pie or something

:lol:

Shanny:
Actually, SWAP is what I did in the summer of 2007, that's how I met my boyfriend in Ireland, lol. If we stay together long enough, I might move there next summer... which would require doing SWAP one last time so I had my work visa.

Ghost:
Lmao. Thanks darling. I might do that in the future. I think I was too stunned to say anything other than "...ok..." Need to grow a pair and unleash next time. :D

my sister and i always say that when someone stick thin is complaining about their weight :D not to their face of course (depending on how annoying they are :D) those kinds of comments always catch us off guard, dont worry about it :dizzy:

Oi, even worse than thin people *****ing?

My future sister in law lives with me, and she has a guy friend over all the time who she works with to watch "So You Think You Can Dance-Canada" and this guy... spends the whole freaking show critiquing the appearances of the women on the show. It. Drives. Me. MENTAL.

Last night, he was calling the one girl "ugly as ****" and I furrowed my eyebrows at him and said, "Neil, don't be a douchebag."

And he was like, "What?? I'm not a douchebag..." and the topic was changed by someone else in the room. But periodically, he would turn, look at me with a baby pout face and go, "I'm not a douchebag... :(" until I finally SNAPPED.

"Neil, you just said that THAT girl has fat thighs. HER THIGHS? Are about HALF the size of mine."
"Well, I didn't mean it in a bad way..."
"You used the expression THUNDER THIGHS!"
"...."
"So, you come into my house, and talk about how someone thinner than me is FAT? You're sitting in a room with three girls, no one wants to hear you critique the thin, gorgeous dancers on TV as disgusting."
"...."

He hasn't talked to me since. :D

Perfect. Just perfect response to him.

I think some people really do go through life being so ridiculously inappropriate, rude or mean, and never get called on it. That doesn't do anyone a favor, not even the rude person.

you are awesome for responding to him... people are so RUDE and so completely oblivious about it.

I'm sorry, but your "friend" is a B. It's obvious to anyone with eyes of your progress. *grumbles*

I feel for you....really.

~Utterly Absurd~

Not that I wish weight problems on anyone. However, I think that if everyone at some point in their life struggles with their weight than *maybe* people and especially women would not be so hard on themselves and each other about how we look.

Ehh. She's defo a "friend" and not actually a FRIEND who I would keep around in my life. She's one of those people I only associate with because we have a class together, and it's convenient to have other people around to study with.

She won't be a friend after my final exam, lol.

Bee20nine
I agree.
Ever heard of the documentary "Fat Like Me"? they took an average sized girl and put her in a fat suit, sent her into a highschool to see how differently she was treated... Crazy.

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/AmericanFa...2778249&page=1

It spun off some made-for-TV movie, too.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MqYP0UT6EJo

It's mental.

People like that just want you to give up . Take it as motivation to finish your amazing journey and rub it in her face!!