#200 - All Things Pass
 

Hey People-

The good times, the bad times... they pass.
The proud times, the mad times... they pass.
The hard times, the sad times... they too shall pass.

How are you doing?

Well... my sister was at the Mayo Clinic last week. :S Lots of tests and she has to go back this week. They're still not sure exactly what's wrong with her. (We've been told Lupus, but have been given reasons to think otherwise.) So, if you're the praying type, please say an extra prayer or two for my oldest big sissah Robyn. :) Thanks.
Then I saw my dear mother last weekend.... eeeeek. Let's just say she lives 20 miles out in the boonies w/ no water or electricity and she wants to put solar panels on her TRAILER home.... it's um, interesting. (I'm not anything near close with her for those of you who don't know, I just *want* her, but can't have her.)
And, my best friend who got a bf in March and subsequently quit talking to me then as well has officially told me that she has no desire to ever be friends with me again after "everything I've done to her" WHAT NERVE! Grrrr. Her loss.
School has been stressful too. This is embarrasing but I've been having a really hard time in Driver's Ed.!!! (How crazy is that?) I cannot stand the teacher. I've never driven anything either, so I'm getting really nervous about starting that. Crazy.
Also... I've been sick for two weeks. I just cannot shake it! It sucks and it is strange... sore throat, tired, nasal problems, stomach, the whole 9. And it's not that I've been *SICK* for two weeks, it's like, I haven't been 100% capacity in 2 weeks. Ya know?
But, I'm tired of being depressed over it all. Life is just too short.

This too shall pass....

Aprylcadabra, Have you seen a doctor to make sure that nothing more is wrong? Especialy if you're eating less, you may need to be sure that you're taking a muti-vitamin. You've got to be sure you're taking care of yourself because we all need you healthy!! I'm sorry that you're having a tough time in school with Driver's Ed, but I bet that once you actually start it, it won't be as bad as you were afraid it would be.

I did find a house for us that will take all 5 kids and my great big dog. We start moving this weekend, but then we'll finish on Tuesday and Wednesday when DH is home from the road. The kids are really big helps with starting to move.

My DD and I were talking about my weight loss yesterday and I said that I had taken back off the pounds that I put on during my recent binge of stress eating and that I was back to losing "virgin pounds". She looked at me and said, "Mom, after having 6 kids, I don't think any part of you is virgin!". Teenagers!! (Sorry, Apryl, not you.)

How's everyone else doing this weekend?

apryl.. go see the doctor, 2 weeks is too long with that bug. honest!!!!

and mothergoose... not sure whether to laugh or cry over your post!

as for me.. the thread title really got me.. it's so true, and one of the things that have gotten me through my life. well, at least after i LEARNED it. [see apryl?? one more thing that you've learned at a young age that took me DECADES to figure out!! are you SURE you're not an old bat like me????]

ended up at the ER last night for mom [thank goodness it wasn't ME this time!!!]. she had a large open scrape on the back of her leg and the entire ankle was swollen and red. i'd called her PCP from work to make an appt to see him on monday, but when i got home from work i realized that she needed help before then.

so... there she sat, fussing and fuming as only an 81 year old former nurse with alzheimers could do [to those of us who know all this about her, it was entertaining - to everyone else it was probably a royal pain!]

and then, the doc was really nice to her and gave us all kinds of bandage supplies [which he wasn't really supposed to do, but he said that mom looked like barbara bush!].

and since i hadn'g actually eaten all day [what a mess that was!!! physical therapy, a prtein shake, an egg, and then the power went out at work so i couldn't nuke my leftover steak and didn't want to eat it cold, so i had a little cottage cheese and that was about it!!!! thank goodness i had a little cheese that i ate on the way home!]... oh. i got lost in that rant.

here we go again.. we went to panera's for something to eat.. and i ate about 6 bites, all too fast, so i had to stop. i brought the rest of the1/2 sandwich home and finished it, much more slowly.

so, today, it's a meeting with a friend who i hope will become a business partner in an exciting new venture [and i can't say any more than that on a public forum!].

and more of the same.

at least my knee is getting better. and life DOES go on. and everything WILL pass.

love to all

April i am sorry the people who are supposed to be there for you are not but we are!

Mothergoose I am so happy you found a place to take the doggie! We have a poodle and i would also move if i had to get rid of him. I am proud of you for fighting your way off that binge because it is kinda like an alcoholic taking a drink...just one sometimes can send your strenght spiraling but you didnt let that happen!

Jiffy i am glad everything went well with your mom and i am glad it wasnt you or your doggie in trouble this time. Do you still carry your inhaler? And do we need to start in on you about your protein?????LOL

Apryl, I can see you writing a book one day about all the angst you faced in your teenage years and yet came through it all to become a wildly successful adult (I want an autographed first edition please). ;)

Great to hear that you've found a new roost for all your geese mthr - that must be a load off your mind. And good for you for losing those pesky stress pounds so quickly - you've done me proud. As for your daughter's comment, admit it, it cracked you up (I know it did me) :D

Hope all goes well on the business front jiffy - sounds like an interesting (albiet secretive) venture. What I love about your posts is how no matter the unheaval going on in your life, you always seem upbeat and manage to keep a humorous tone. That kind of mindset just has to be half of the battle and I'm going to keep that in mind when I'm down in the dumps about those things that go on around me that I have no control over - thanks! :)

Apryl:

My friend has had the same kind of 'bug' like symptoms for the last few weeks. But lately she's been really tired (I don't know your case that well), but health services says that sometimes people have trouble adjusting to the season changing. I don't know how true that is, but thought I'd offer it as a suggestion. And they are now trying to get her adjusted back to the new season by making sure her body knows when it's day and night. (Some weird light therapy).

I don't know how much this helps, but I've found in general that when the weather/season changes a lot of people get sick for a week or two. I hope you pull through quickly, and feel up to 100% soon.

i had a pretty horriffic night last night. i can't really type it all up for your here, too long, but here's the link to my journal:

http://gonzostar.diaryland.com/entry1018.html

basically, the short story is, i witnessed the aftermath of an accident and saw a girl die. don't worry, i'm ok, but a little shaken up, even now.

i'll read more and post more tomorrow.

Omg Holly, that is so horrible. i can only imagine how traumatized you must be. :( Thank God you and your friends weren't injured.

Hey Holly, bless your heart. That is very very awful. I'm so sorry you had to witness that.

Holly, I'm so sorry...I can only imagine how terrible it must have been.

When I was a senior in high school, my mother and her boyfriend were almost killed by a drunk driver. They were on a motorcycle at the beach and came around a curve and smacked head-on into this drunk ******* who was on the wrong side of the road. My mom's boyfriend was thrown through the guy's windshield, and my mom was thrown about 150 feet. Had she not been wearing a helmet, she wouldn't be here today. My mom was in the hospital for three months and in a wheelchair for another six months and will never walk right again - but at least she will walk.

Just a thought...you should consider sharing your story with high school students right before Prom season. If you contact your local chapter of M.A.D.D., they will point you in the right direction. It might be theraputic for you, and you will save some lives.

Big hugs...

Holly, what a horrible experience!!! It's really making me think --- that I need to cherish the lives of those around me and not take anything for granted.

Holly, So sorry that you had to suffer through that, but I'm thankful that you're okay.

Good luck on your move, MG! Hope all goes well and your family settles in quckly and effortlessly.

Thanks so much Anagram!! We started this weekend and we'll be working on it this week. Moving has got to be on my top ten list of things that I hate to do, but I'm thankful we found a good place to move to, so I can't complain. DH will be home on Tuesday and Wednesday, so we'll be doing a big portion of the move then.

I am definitely making time to work out all week though. The boxes can sit while I exercise!! I don't want another lapse like I had last week, so the YMCA comes before all else!

so yesterday's grand pedometer total was....

18,125!

that's BY FAR the biggest number i've ever seen on it. all i did was walk around marine world all day, and go salsa dancing at night. heh. but i certainly felt like i got my exercise in. i was majorly tired at night.

MotherGoose, I'm so glad you found a great new home!

Hope everyone's having a good week.

We are just getting so antsy and anxious about Elijah coming home. Just waiting for that phone to ring. . .They'll call us (we hope very soon!) to let us know that Elijah has his passport and Visa. Then, it will be 2-3 weeks before we TRAVEL TO KOREA! Forgive me if I keep saying the same thing over and over again in my posts. . . I can't remember what I've said before.

My eating has been pretty much on track. There's a guideline in my program about sitting at the table to eat, and turning off the TV that I'm not very good at following. I'm not sure why that's so hard. . .

Went shopping yesterday with my sis and I find I'm a solid size 18. I was kind of disappointed, but there were many times I was in that same fitting room that I was squeezing into 20s. I'm so ready for the scales to move again though! DOWN! Let me clarify! They should move DOWN!

Hi there!

Holly - Wow, that's some evening. I'm sorry that it happened. I feel that human life is so precious and it can be taken away so fast. It's a tragedy. Also, consider taking some CPR classes. It only takes a day to get certified and they're really cheap. I get certified every year and carry my "no bodily fluid exchange" mask in my purse (it's the size of tampon). My mom was a nurse, can you tell?

I had a bit of an exciting weekend myself...

The day after the Cute Boyfriend's 30th birthday party, we went to the beach with his friend visiting from Kentucky. It was getting close to sunset but he wanted to swim before he went back home. The Cute Boyfriend and I like to swim out past the wave breaks and float on the swells (pretty far out). We got out there and I told the friend to keep an eye on our position in relation to the beach so we wouldn't stray too far. I guess I should have been more specific because he kept and eye on how far out into the ocean we were and not if we were drifting any direction.

It's a long story... we get caught in a rip tide and a cross current. Not really that bad! In fact, when we FIRST got into the water, I told them how to get out of a rip tide if we got in one. Apparently, no one listened to me.

So, a rip tide pushes you out into the ocean and it useless to fight against it. Instead, you let it push you out, then you swim parallel to the beach until you're out of the rip tide and then you can swim to shore. It's a little unnerving but not a big deal. The cross current was a bigger problem because if you got too close to the beach, it might push you into the rocks. Not so good.

I realized that we're in a rip tide and I tell the boys to swim out and parallel. I'm a strong swimmer, so I'm not worried. However, the boys start to panic and swim in. Which starts to panic me since if they get to far in they'll go into the rocks. They think they're making headway, and start shouting at me to come in. They have no idea that they're too near the rocks. So, I have to stop and think:

*Do I swim in and try to direct the boys in the right direction, possibly getting me in danger too? *
or
*Do I go the route of self-preservation and hope that a lifeguard spots them?*

I rationalized that a life guard saving three people is worse than a life guard saving two people and I shout at the boys to swim my directions and then, go on swimming. I finally get far enough that I can start coming into shore. I see a lifeguard heading into the water and I point her in the direction of the boys. She tell me "good swim," and helps out the boys.

The cute boyfriend is visably shook up and they spend the rest of the night recounting the "mortality awareness" exercise they participated in.

I wasn't upset that evening, but I was this morning. When I recounted it in my head, I realized that I have a much stronger self-preservation instinct than perhaps I felt like I had. It made me feel bad that I "gave up" on him. I mean, I logically know that it was a smart decision but emotionally I'm blown away by the idea.

As a postscript, I was pretty mad that his friend said the reason I did so well was because I had fat to float on. Idiot.

well, iw as a lifeguard. i haven't been certified for over two years now, but i do remember most of my training. but i NEED one of those masks, i would carry it everywhere.

the main problem with administering rescue breathing to this particular girl was her position. she was sideways in a ditch, legs over head, almost in a fetal position. because of possible spinal injury, i knew i couldn't move her. but rescue breathing couldn't have been administered in that position, either. 911 reaffirmed not to move her.

anyways, yeah. i'm condiering getting re-certified, just in case.

It's called a Rescue Breather:
http://www.cpr-savers.com/Industrial...rkeychain.html

Conveniently, on a keychain!

Holly, the best thing to do is not second guess yourself. Same with you, Jessica.

Jessica,

We took CPR classes two weeks ago. It was a condition of the adoption. Oh man, I'm so glad we did that. It just reinforced to me that you never know what might happen and we'd better be prepared. We need to get CPR masks now. The Red Cross makes a little keychain kit too - theirs includes gloves which I think is important. I haven't figured out how to buy them online. Maybe I need to call our Red Cross office again.

Anyway, thanks for reminding me that we haven't bought our masks and key chains yet! It's really important.

Am I the only one here who wants to beat this guy's a$$?

what harrowing experiences!!!!

holly.. take care of yoursefl..

and jessica... you had the sense to swim parallel to the riptide... and they were stupid. what's his excuse for being such an idiot?? must be his testosterone!!!

SPF - Awwww.... thanks, could you? I could use my fat to sit on him while you worked him over. We'd be like the fat chick mafia. Kicking the butts of rude, evil people everywhere.

Jiffypop - I think that's exactly what it was. Testosterone. I mean, why in the world my boyfriend followed the man that hadn't done anything but wade in the ocean instead of the girl who swims in it all the time, I have no idea.

On the weightloss front, I gained 5 pounds this weekend from the birthday party. Must have been all the martinis. Still depressing though.

Don't let it get you down, Jessica. Chances are some of it is water weight. I'm always up a few pounds on my morning weigh-in if I've had even one drink the night before. I try to weigh-in on days after no-alcohol nights, for just that reason.

Hi Everyone! Just wanted to check in real quick before we disconnect the computer. Five kids make for a lot of JUNK to move and all my 4 year old can say, "When will my Nintendo be hooked up!". I pack one box, and my boys unpack it to see what's in it. It's no wonder I have gray hair!! DH is home and got most of the big and heavy stuff, but it's all the little stuff that's making me nuts.

Didn't have time to work out today, but my body is sore and exhausted. I figured all this work would show a loss on the scale this morning, but no. Maybe tomorrow. I'm staying on track though and not letting this throw me off.

Talk to you soon when we get the computer back up.

Hey Mthrgoos - by the time you read this you'll be all settled in your new home (okay, settled but with a few dozen boxes left to unpack no doubt :)). I'm so glad everything worked out and you found a nice new place and got to keep the dog. On top of that, I bet those sore muscles from packing and lifting will result in a nice loss in a day or two even though you couldn't keep to your regular exercise routine! Aint life sweet? :D

Hi all!! How are ya?? I am doing pretty good! TGIF!!! I am a wee bit sore (not too much) from working out yesterday, but it was good.

I am going to cave in on Tuesday and tell my nutritionist that I want to weigh in. I really need to know how I am doing on a weekly basis. And since I made her scale the one I follow, I need to do it there. A month is just too long to wait!!!

Things at home are good. Jacob is sleeping overnight in underwear and he zipped up his own Jacket on Monday. There are no signs of a baby left in my house. Just Big boy stuff. I need to get to 250 lbs before the whole baby thing wears off!! ;)

I had a really bad food day yesterday, but am right back on track. It's interesting how she has me keeping track. I track carbs. I am on a 1600-1800 cal plan. 50% carbs. That means daily i can have 225 carbs. All I have to track is carbs & Fiber (must have 20-30 grams a day to lower cholseteral). But it just makes me nervous. I can see myslef sitting down with a hunk of Ham, Hunk of Cheese and 1/2 dozen eggs and thinking it doesn't count. I don't know if I trust myself that much yet. So I have been counting calories too. I stop at 1600-1800 cals or 225 carbs, whichever comes 1st.

Aprylcadabra - I sure hope everything turns out Ok for your older sis. I am kinda surprised that your friend still hasn’t come around. I thought the boyfriend would be a fluke and she’d come crawling back. I’m thinking maybe your better off. I also wanted to tell you how proud I am off you. You have been doing so great this month!! Keep it up!!! J Are you feeling any better??

mthrgoos68 – Yaaaa on the house! I am so glad that everything worked out! And that you are back on track!! I knew you’d hold strong. You have been soooo determined.

Jiffypop – Sorry to hear about your mom and the hospital. Of course it sounds like you took the usual Jiff attitude!! You amaze me!

Gonzostar – Wow, I can’t even believe that happened. Things like that scare me to death. It really does make you realize that life can be over in a mere moment and that you had better be making the most of it. Glad your doing OK.

AngiKL – How exciting, it’s almost time!!! You just keep feeding us those details! Don’t ever think you’ve already said it. I have the memory of a butterfly, so it helps me to have an update!! ;) And next time you are disappointed with an 18, think of me who is still stuck at 26/28 pants (not to mention 30/32 shirts). Be grateful for how far you have come.

Goddess Jessica – That is so scary! My mom & brother got carried out once and there my dad and I were standing on shore, unable to help at all because we couldn’t swim. It was terrible. Thank goodness for lifeguards!!! I am so glad you are safe!! And if I ever get caught, now I know! And as for the friends comment can I join the fat chick mafia??

SAPF – Have you heard from your friend yet?

Everyone loves a fair. . .
 

Here I am at the Oklahoma State Fair, contemplating my healthiest option. . .

HAHAHAHAHAHA, Angi, I love the pic.

Sandi, yeah we had it out last week, you can read all about it here:

http://www.3fatchicks.com/journals/c.../3553_0_1_0_M/

Just got back from a birthday party. Tired. :)

Angi, that's a riot! Whoever came up with the idea of deep fried candy bars, oreos and twinkies has to be a sadist! I remember hearing about deep fried Mars and Snickers bars from a friend in Scotland but never thought the craze would make it over the ocean. It's one of those things that sounds rather disgusting, but I'd love to try it (just once...well, a bite anyway). Talk about a train wreck. It's probably worse for you than the Quebec "national" dish of Poutine (french fries smothered with cheese curds and hot gravy - sounds horrible but is to die for).

SAPF - glad you worked things out with your friend and won't be losing a valuable friendship over his insensitive b/f. :)

Angi - You cracked me up.

Sandi - I am feeling MUCH better, I must say. Yeah, my friend is sucky and I think I'm better off completely alone than with a 1000 friends like her. I'm glad we "broke up" because now I have more time to be with ALL of my friends, not just one. :)
My sister got some tests back from the Mayo and she has Lupus and acid reflux disease. Lovely. Well, they've got her on new meds and they seem to have a "plan of attack" so, things look kind of hopeful. It was just heart-wrenching to see a 27 year old who has a hard time walking and cries because of the pain. It's a BIG part of why I've decided to take care of my body NOW, not in 30 years..... you only have ONE, ya know?

Hey, I went to a concert tonight at the college (Northland College, it's an environmental liberal arts college here in town, it's funny that there's one in a town of rednecks, I know!:lol::lol: ) Anywhoo, I'm way into cultural things out there in this big world and this women's jazz group called "Straight Ahead" was made of 5 African-American ladies and they were AWESOME. I mean, AWESOME. They did Areatha, Bessie, Etta, the whole gang! It was great. The best part is, they were *real* women, if ya catch my drift... and they were all SO confident. It really gave my self esteem a boost. Yay.

Can ya'll believe it's almost OCTOBER????? :O :O

We just heard:
Elijah has his passport! So, probably a couple of weeks until we get the "travel call." Hoooorayyyy!

Wonderful, wonderful news Angi - how exciting for you!!

Angi!!! That's great!! Woooo Hoooo!!!

I'm so excited for you Angi!!!

Congratulations Angi!!!!!! :D :D :D :D :D

Oh, Angi--that's so exciting!

yay angi!!

Angi,

That's fantastic!

Hugs,
Sherry